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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by ogene144(m): 12:49pm On Feb 12, 2023

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

My brother divorce her or let her go u Wil see better person don't be suffering and smilling

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Mtncardseller(m): 12:50pm On Feb 12, 2023

If u don't let her go, go and Lock her spiritually

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Nobody: 12:50pm On Feb 12, 2023

I feel you, women and lying are 5 and 6 that was how someone ended a relationship on the false allegation of harassment. It is better to let her go and have your peace, if she wants to go, because if you die of high BP she would still go and meet her fantasy sweetheart. Just try all your best to get her back, if she refuse close the chapter.

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by jaxxy(m): 12:50pm On Feb 12, 2023

jimmychang:
How the Bleep do you come up with this bullshit.This one of the most stupid write up I have read.The wife is gone her heart is with another.If you like give her the world her heart is no longer in the marriage.

Win his wife back Seriously?

ur wife is gone to where? and how? How does ur wife heart go to another when u live under same roof abs see her every day? or is it a distant marriage?

Now look if ur wife's heart goes to another under ur roof then it either of 2 things.

1. u married a hore or a stupid woman or ingrate.

2. U are not a man. in this case u failed in the basics of relationship or took her for granted and focused on smtnelse or got distracted.

women are easy to handle if u know how to. How do u marry a woman and not know how to win her back when u want her even if u bleeped up.

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Isabi4lov: 12:51pm On Feb 12, 2023

You won't tell us the real truth , one sided stories many at times do fill with lies.

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by brutal1(m): 12:52pm On Feb 12, 2023

As difficult as this is for you, if you know you didnt do anything to deserve this then start preparing for life without her in it, if she wants to leave pls let her initiate it and let her go but let your children be in the know for future sake. You can't force her to stay. I hope you have the best rapport with your children
they are all that matter. It is clear she is cheating and hiding it that's where she's threatening divorce. That's the new trend now. If you have checked yoursef well and you are sure you didnt do anything bad..pls let her be...build your world around yourself and your kids. You will be fine. She wrote a love letter not addressed to you. Your mental health is important, make u no go die like fowl...if you die, she will move on so fast....she wants to leave let her leave. I repeat, build your world around yourself, your kids and your siblings. These are the ones that will never leave you.

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by blacksam01: 12:52pm On Feb 12, 2023

i fear women a lot....their live is not real or steady....

onyeka showed me shege!

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by leisuretym: 12:53pm On Feb 12, 2023

lomprico:
Lol, you are still not getting the point. Your wife mind have left you since, what you are seeing now is the last stages before she tells you Goodbye.

The only way out is to go get a side chick and don't hide it. If she gets jealous about it, you have Hope but if she does not care, it's over!

I know you truly love her but you just have to accept the reality and let her go! Sorry.

Whatever you do, don't let your kids go through ant psychological torture.

Don’t get a side chick yet, that will be a bad move, get more busy and create happiness within, get a maid to free yourself from doing things that make you look weak , there are many things you can do to keep you happy

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by kingreign(m): 12:53pm On Feb 12, 2023

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage was peaceful and built on solid love. Just late last year did I started seeing something different.
There's no cause for that.

Marriage isn’t not meant to be built solely on love or beauty or fantasies and they lived happily ever after fairytale stories. This is your mistake 1.

Men ought to be in charge at all times, be daring and caring, be unpredictable and mysterious with an air of bravery some stints of dictatorship and these are lacking in you. This is your mistake 2.

At this point, involving your friends will only bring insults mockery and all sort of degradation to you within your circle of friends. Involve her family and yours, tell them your mind and if they’re not ready to call her to order, wield the big stick stick.

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by frozen70(f): 12:53pm On Feb 12, 2023

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

Well you have to calm down at this point and be ready take it very calm with her

Just keep loving her and assist her at home and where needed

She will notice the improvement in you and that may bring her mind back home

Wake the kids and prepare them for school before leaving and ask her what she is preparing for their lunch

Get things that you are not use to bringing home, hand it over to her and tell her that is for she and the kids, even is she is coming home by 10pm, hand it over to her

This valentine, ask her to pick a place she wants you guys to visit with the children and ask her what time is good for the outing

Keep doing good and loving and definitely she will have a rethink

I purposely don't want to ask you what you did to her or why the sudden change in her
There is no smoke with out fire

Women are drama queens

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Nobody: 12:53pm On Feb 12, 2023

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

...if you have a high paying job, I don't see why you should be worried...men hustle ooooo

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by maasoap(m): 12:54pm On Feb 12, 2023

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

I'm sure that some married people here would understand why you would want her to stay despite cheating on you.
What you need to do is find out who is filling her brain with love from the outside and deal with it from there. And equally show her that you truly love her, whatever it takes.
It is simping but since that's what you want, I won't blame you.

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Antell95(m): 12:55pm On Feb 12, 2023

BigBrother9ja:
Why won't it fall apart?

When you people marry for lust and looks.

When you marry a whóre that has been ran through and passed around by multiple men.

You marry a broken and damaged whóre

Girls who don't have a responsible father figure in their life

Girls with multiple exes

MOST OF THESE WHÓRES WILL EVEN TAKE REVENGE FOR WHAT OTHER MEN BEFORE YOU DID TO THEM ON YOU..

ANY GIRL WITH MORE THAN 2 BODYCOUNT IS NOT A WIFE MATERIAL.

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by FavouredNK: 12:56pm On Feb 12, 2023

fman:
U r a fooolish SIMP just like moh247

because He want to fight for his marriage to stay strong? What should he have done right Mr Marriage Counselor? I really wonder who is the bigger Simp. Mtcheeew

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by demoBaba: 12:56pm On Feb 12, 2023

Lonestar124:
My brother is not your fault nah, or is there something you are not telling us..

Pls allow her go, make sure your kids stay with you...

Seconded....

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by leisuretym: 12:57pm On Feb 12, 2023

frozen70:
Well you have to calm down at this point and be ready take it very calm with her

Just keep loving her and assist her at home and where needed

She will notice the improvement in you and that may bring her mind back home

Wake the kids and prepare them for school before leaving and ask her what she is preparing for their lunch

Get things that you are not use to bringing home, hand it over to her and tell her that is for she and the kids, even is she is coming home by 10pm, hand it over to her

This valentine, ask her to pick a place she wants you guys to visit with the children and ask her what time is good for the outing

Keep doing good and loving and definitely she will have a rethink

I purposely don't want to ask you what you did to her or why the sudden change in her
There is no smoke with out fire

Women are drama queens

Where did you buy your weed today? You changed supplier? Hmmm I’m sure they mixed this one you took today.

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by crusufixo(m): 12:57pm On Feb 12, 2023

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

Just be patient with her and keep been the loving husband ( of course with a bit of firmness ), she would come around....

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by jimmychang: 12:58pm On Feb 12, 2023

jaxxy:
ur wife is gone to where? and how? How does ur wife heart go to another when u live under same roof abs see her every day? or is it a distant marriage?

Now look if ur wife's heart goes to another under ur roof then it either of 2 things.

1. u married a hore or a stupid woman or ingrate.

2. U are not a man. in this case u failed in the basics of relationship or took her for granted and focused on smtnelse or got distracted.

women are easy to handle if u know how to. How do u marry a woman and not know how to win her back when u want her even if u bleeped up.

The problem is that you will still blame men for everything.People change as they age.We learn and re learn.Some people change for the worst and there is nothing you can do about it.You have to leave them.As a man accept that you can't solve everything even if you put in your best.

You think good husbands don't get cheated on? Some women were asked of anything was wrong with their marriage but they said nothing that their husband is the perfect husband and father.And this is someone who never had an history of cheating before.

You can never satisfy a woman.That part you talk about taking her for granted is one of the biggest simp line ever.

Always wanna blame men for everything, a woman who is 35 or 40 that is suppose to be an inspiration to other women and her daughter will start cheating and you are saying it is the man's fault. grin

No dey form God my guy,you are nothing but a man.

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by frozen70(f): 12:59pm On Feb 12, 2023

leisuretym:
Where did you buy your weed today? You changed supplier? Hmmm I’m sure they mixed this one you took today.

Lol, na both of us they weed am naw
You are the supplier

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Nobody: 12:59pm On Feb 12, 2023

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

The marriage is dead, better bury it than trying to revive it...

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Ckonnet: 12:59pm On Feb 12, 2023

@op why start by seeking advice from your experienced elders that could friend,family members or mutual friends that you have share with your wife.
Coming to a faceless forum with lots of urchins and demented fellows to table your matter or breakfast menu doesn't make any sense.

Looks like a case of otilo unfortunately, their top card is always making you feel like you are insecure.

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Niceguy06: 1:00pm On Feb 12, 2023

Let it fall apart nigga. Sometimes the only option you get is to watch it fall.

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Emily22(m): 1:00pm On Feb 12, 2023

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

You want to build a home you did not scatter, you will only suffer more.

When a woman's heart is elsewhere, let her go and be there for your kids.

You don't have to suffer because of "what about my kids".

If you try to build it, she will cheat over and over again and there is nothing you can do about it cuz you won't want to lose her, and she will make you suffer for it.

If she believes after 2 kids, she can secretly date anyone, bro you can also remarry.

Please don't rebuild anything that she wish to scatter

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by koyeni(m): 1:00pm On Feb 12, 2023

OlawaleBammie:
Reason she's holding u ransom...

As a man, even if u re weak or desperate never show it to Ur wife, always act like u dont care so much, act like psychos.. believe me Ur marriage will always go well, just don't maltreat or beat Ur woman, treat her right and give her what u re capable of...then add small small weyreyism to the equation and see how Ur marriage will be balanced.

Well said... if a woman decides to go and you aren't bothered...she go dy fear.... it's usually very easy to handle things like this

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by mrblessed(m): 1:01pm On Feb 12, 2023

She apparently wants to go. It will be difficult to keep her. For your best interest, consider lettting her go. She would be disappointed by the man baiting her to leave the marriage.

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by VawulenceProMax: 1:01pm On Feb 12, 2023

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

disfigure her and send her packing

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Emily22(m): 1:02pm On Feb 12, 2023

FavouredNK:
because He want to fight for his marriage to stay strong? What should he have done right Mr Marriage Counselor? I really wonder who is the bigger Simp. Mtcheeew

To fight for a problem he did not create, you are m@d

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Stevenbright(m): 1:02pm On Feb 12, 2023

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

Someone has decided to leave you and you are asking how to make her stay. You don't mean it!

It takes your being ready to make the marriage work and her equally being ready to make it work for the marriage to be successful.

Now that she has made up her mind to go, just cooperate and prepare your mind for it. Ensure it ends peacefully and move on as fast as you can and never look back. You will be fine last last!

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Funflipper: 1:02pm On Feb 12, 2023

GeorgWashinton:
Thank you sir

If she is dating someone else already, going to a marriage counselor will be a big waste of time because nothing will change. She will only become smarter in covering her tracks and you will be put on ghost mode.

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by iamme1234(m): 1:02pm On Feb 12, 2023

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

Sorry
If your wife sends you threats that she wana leave.
Tell her that the future of this kids is important
If she insisted she want leave,bros let her go in peace.
As a man you needed happiness.
Put your self togerher work ahead and make money.
In few years to come
Her actions will be filled with regret.
By so doing it will be too late.
I want u to know that there is a lovely lady out there ready to stand by you forever...
Bros wipe your tears and move on
I can tell you categorically
You will smile at last...
Shalom

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Qtrpst4: 1:03pm On Feb 12, 2023

Oga, you still don't understand, you don't need to wait until it gets on track, start now. She is cheating on you and you need to tell her that the door is open. You troubles did not start today and the reason it got to this point is that you have tolerated it for too long making excuses for her and her selfishness. Women hates weak men to their soul. The reason she is running after another man is because you have stop focussing on your self and made her your focus. Oga start now and act like a man that you are. Sit her down and tell her she is cheating and that you will throw her to the street to meet that man. Give her 2 weeks and rules she must live by else you will replace her with a younger girl. You can't get her back by begging her but by pushing her away, it's crazy but it's reverse psychology. You need to read tolo romassi's books

GeorgWashinton:
Thank you so much.

I will try this once my marriage gets on track.

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