₦airaland Forum

frozen70:
Is your family aware of this trauma or you are keeping it away from them

You don't have to give yourself more tension than the one on ground

Just be calm, you have a daughter and they already know

Just move on if you can, time will sort all these tension out

phidipe:
Yes

phidipe:
This is difficult to do i have tried it sir is difficult what can i do

frozen70:
You are not a man yet

Dey play

Every thing you told us here is 💯 pure lies

phidipe:
i swear on my mother grave everything i have discussed here truth, this is coming from a bleeding heart why could i coined out all these what do i need to gain if it to deceive this is what is paining me seriously if in your capacity you have help to heal my bleeding and troubled souls

Kobojunkie:
You weren't married to her. You admit she was previously married before you met her. You are not certain the child is even yours, to begin with, but you go around telling potential suitors that you have a child — I don't understand why you do that to yourself. I guess I am trying to understand why you want this child so badly when you have no evidence that it is yours.

phidipe:
■ From the first woman I have a baby boy with she was previously married before I met her and had a baby girl she left me when things were bad, though we never married each other.
■When I met other ladies I told them I have an issue before but they turn me down.
■That was why I kept from this lady I got married to legitimately

Kobojunkie:
1. So she had the baby before she left you or she left you and then had the baby, and you only found out about it on Facebook?

2. So, you are currently married right now but your wife does not know of this baby that you had with your ex-girlfriend?

phidipe:
She had a baby before we met

Kobojunkie:
Your ex-girlfriend had a baby before you met? And she had another baby for you?

phidipe:
Yes

Kobojunkie:
And you are sure this second baby she had belongs to you?

phidipe:
100 percent

4ward4:
The church uses the Canon Law, and let me tell you something interesting. The Church will dissolve your Union to your wife Based on Canon Law. Why because their was a Deceit before marriage.
So also will the Country marriage law do, you are even lucky she didn't file for damages ,since all act was on Deceit.She for empty your pocket.
Young man ,accept the very fact that your marriage is over and seek for redress in co parenting.
Take two or more parties to your Ex-wife inlaws and agree willingly to a amount you will ne contributing for the child upkeep.
Since the marriage is logically dissolved on Deceit , it is in the place of your wife to decide if she would love to continue in future.
Time heals all wound , give them time but contribute your quota. Don't send anyone to plead on your behalf anymore .

Kobojunkie:
OK. Finally, understand where you are coming from. Litigator is the moniker of one of the legal assets we have here on the forum. Maybe he can better help you explain if what you are asking for is even possible in Nigeria.

litigator:
They always want free legal services and a lawyer that will spend his/her money for them like some sort of Santa. If he is ready, I am just a WhatsApp message away.

4ward4:
The church uses the Canon Law, and let me tell you something interesting. The Church will dissolve your Union to your wife Based on Canon Law. Why because their was a Deceit before marriage.
So also will the Country marriage law do, you are even lucky she didn't file for damages ,since all act was on Deceit.She for empty your pocket.
Young man ,accept the very fact that your marriage is over and seek for redress in co parenting.
Take two or more parties to your Ex-wife inlaws and agree willingly to a amount you will ne contributing for the child upkeep.
Since the marriage is logically dissolved on Deceit , it is in the place of your wife to decide if she would love to continue in future.
Time heals all wound , give them time but contribute your quota. Don't send anyone to plead on your behalf anymore .

phidipe:
i m ready now

phidipe:
The marriage was consummated at Ikoyi registry Lagos, there is no need to seek for divorce? i just need to know because i can stay alone like this.

phidipe:
Please I need the service of Lawyer in this Forum I got married legally both church and Registry at Ikoyi Registry Lagos. An issue happened till today I have not seen my child nor know the name of the child. Please help a brother in pain I need your assistance I don't know what to do because I'm helpless
Thanks in anticipation of your mature advices

4ward4:
Leave that to her. Time might heal her she she might still want you, unless you want to take up another wife. Then you can go ahead for a final divorce. if not just do what I have advised at first.

ahnie:
Gather here if after all of op's explanation you nor still understand wetin e dey try talk.


He has succeeded in getting me more corn-fused than I was before.

Kobojunkie:
Your ex-girlfriend had a baby before you met? And she had another baby for you?

phidipe:
Thank you very much you are God sent your advice restore my peace of mind God bless you in all endeavors
Happy Sunday

4ward4:
Same to you. Shits happens and we can't keep blaming ourselves.
If she ever brings a divorce paper, don't push it too far. Grant it to her.

phidipe:
Alright, though presently she has not thought of that, or may be that is what she thinking about now, Anyhow she want it i m ready to dance to her tunes, sir how about the baby what can i do to initiate co-parenting please i still need help on that. if you don't mind if i can put a call across

4ward4:
You will be excessively charged, since I'm Roaming. Not withstanding I will be always here to kill boredom.
If you die today, life will still go on for the baby you are so bothered about.
Glad you are alive so give time some time.Go to their house with an elder from your Side, preferably your dad and mum as this is a serious issues . Apologize to her entire family on your knees for your Deceit and let your Elder do the remaining talking about the co parenting and how you would like to voluntarily contribute to the child upkeep. You did a big mistake by sending third parties to go help beg at the instance, when they found out it was a case of Deceit, they grew hatred for you.
Your wife will on her accord come back to you one day, but how soon is what we can say . Keep apologizing, sending gifts and be of good cheer.

phidipe:
You are so amazing you, God will continue to equip you with deep knowledge, you are good counselor and you are always on point. My Name is
Engr. Olaoluwa Adeniyi Alexander
Msc. Computer Engineering
Modakeke, Osun State

ferhyntorlah:
You really tried grasping his story.

Beremx:
Having a child before marriage isn't a valid reason for your lawfully wedded wife to leave her marriage. You must have done something wrong for her and her family to do whatever they did. You're not saying the truth