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Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by socialmediaman: 12:58pm On Mar 20, 2023 |
From David Belle on Twitter: Men would literally rather drive at 150mph on country roads in a tax haven than go to therapy 1 Like
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Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by socialmediaman: 12:59pm On Mar 20, 2023 |
For some context. Here is ChatGPT's explanation: This statement is a humorous and exaggerated way of pointing out that some men might prefer engaging in risky or seemingly exciting activities, like driving at high speeds on country roads, instead of seeking professional help for their mental health through therapy. The mention of a "tax haven" implies that they might prioritize personal financial gain over addressing their emotional well-being. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by ZIMDRILL(m): 1:26pm On Mar 20, 2023 |
socialmediaman: do you undertstand what it means yourself ? 1 Like |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by socialmediaman: 1:29pm On Mar 20, 2023 |
ZIMDRILL: Yes I do. I updated the post with some context |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Treassured: 5:29pm On Mar 20, 2023 |
Absolute Truth. Most People lives to Satisfy the Society rather than Satisfying their Inner Peace. Herd Mentality. 8 Likes |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Klass99(f): 8:59am On Mar 21, 2023 |
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Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by odinson1(m): 9:59am On Mar 21, 2023 |
Klass99: Lol you people And your buzzwords. What if i told you that Men perceive talking and therapy as a waste of time? They'd rather do something that makes them happy like hunting, fishing,racing, mountain climbing etc to heal from past trauma or whatever the case may be. There is nothing Toxic about that. The problem is anything that is Traditionally masculine and Unfeminine,is deemed as Toxic masculinity. The feminine open up about their feelings,the masculine Do The opposite. Men and women are opposites a lot of the times |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Klass99(f): 10:21am On Mar 21, 2023 |
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Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by odinson1(m): 10:44am On Mar 21, 2023 |
Klass99: Of course they would,they subscribe to your ideology. There is nothing like toxic masculinity,it is just simply Masculinity. 1 Like |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Klass99(f): 10:57am On Mar 21, 2023 |
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Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by odinson1(m): 11:01am On Mar 21, 2023 |
Klass99: It was toxic behavior but not necessarily Toxic masculinity. It had nothing to do with him being masculine. It was just toxic human behavior. Women have done worse to people like the Scenario you gave. Igbo women maltreat their maids all over in The East. There are reports of women sexually abusing young boys also and various other things women do, but It doesn't make Femininity toxic,does it? I argued with you because you were incorrect,not because you're a woman. Don't throw gender cards into this please 1 Like |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Klass99(f): 11:08am On Mar 21, 2023 |
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Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by odinson1(m): 11:12am On Mar 21, 2023 |
Klass99: Didn't you see my example about the igbo women maltreating their maids? Or isn't that Toxic Femininity too? The double standards is making me smile |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Klass99(f): 11:14am On Mar 21, 2023 |
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Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by odinson1(m): 11:18am On Mar 21, 2023 |
Klass99: You obviously quoted the whole post so of course you saw it but chose to Ignore it because you had no rebuttal probably? If Men and women are capable of Exhibiting the same Toxic traits, doesn't it mean that it might just be Toxic human behavior and not necessarily Toxic masculinity or Toxic Femininity? Think about it for a second |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Nobody: 11:21am On Mar 21, 2023 |
Many men are unable to engage with their emotions to be unable to express them, much less trust a therapist with them. Some are embracing it more but the general close-mindedness towards it still exist. 1 Like |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Klass99(f): 11:21am On Mar 21, 2023 |
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Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by socialmediaman: 2:54pm On Mar 22, 2023 |
Klass99: Well, while it is a lot of generalization IMO, many of us men are guilty of avoiding therapy or just seeing it as pointless or unhelpful especially if it didn't work for you in the past, or maybe due to some cultural perceptions. I think the reference to "tax haven" was to indicate that the men are "rich" or "privileged" and can afford therapy, but they still won't go for it. Your use of the phrase "toxic masculinity" is accurate by its definition to describe what the lack of psychological help could degenerate to. 1 Like |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Klass99(f): 5:42pm On Mar 22, 2023 |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by cococandy(f): 5:46pm On Mar 22, 2023 |
And then some call it not being emotional meanwhile anger, rage, frustration etc are all emotions Klass99: 1 Like |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Klass99(f): 5:52pm On Mar 22, 2023 |
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Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Nobody: 6:26pm On Mar 22, 2023 |
CREATING THE PERFECT DIARY All of us will experience unpleasant events during our lives. Perhaps the breakup of a long-term relationship, the death of a loved one, getting laid off, or, on a really bad day, all three. Both common sense and many types of psychotherapy suggest that the best way forward is to share your pain with others. Those adopting this “a problem shared is a problem halved” approach believe that venting your feelings is cathartic and helps you release negative emotions and move forward. It is a nice idea and one that holds tremendous intuitive appeal. Indeed, surveys show that 90 percent of the public believes that talking to someone else about a traumatic experience will help ease their pain. But is that really the case? To investigate, Emmanuelle Zech and Bernard Rimé at the University of Louvain in Belgium carried out an important study. A group of participants was asked to select a negative experience from their past. To make the study as realistic as possible, they were asked to avoid the trivial stuff, such as missing a train or not being able to find a parking space, and instead think about “the most negative upsetting emotional event in their life, one they still thought about and still needed to talk about.” From death to divorce, and illness to abuse, the issues were serious. One group of participants was then asked to have a long chat with a supportive experimenter about the event, while a second group was invited to chat about a far more mundane topic—a typical day. After one week, and then again after two months, all the participants went back to the lab and completed various questionnaires that measured their emotional well-being. Those who had spent time talking about their traumatic event thought that the chat had been helpful. However, the questionnaire results told a very different story. In reality, the chat had had no significant impact at all. Participants thought that it was beneficial to share their negative emotional experiences, but in terms of the difference it made in how well they were coping, they might just as well have been chatting about a typical day. |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Nobody: 6:34pm On Mar 22, 2023 |
So, if talking about negative experiences to a sympathetic but untrained individual is a waste of time, what can be done to help ease the pain of the past? As we saw at the start of this section, trying to suppress negative thoughts can be just as unhelpful. Instead, one option involves “expressive writing.” In several studies, participants who have experienced a traumatic event have been encouraged to spend just a few minutes each day writing a diary-type account of their deepest thoughts and feelings about it. For example, in one study participants who had just been laid off were asked to reflect on their deepest thoughts and feelings about their job loss, including how it had affected both their personal and their professional lives. Although these types of exercises were both speedy and simple, the results revealed that participants experienced a remarkable boost in their psychological and physical well-being, including a reduction in health problems and an increase in self-esteem and happiness. The results left psychologists with something of a mystery. Why would talking about a traumatic experience have almost no effect but writing about it yield such significant benefits? From a psychological perspective, thinking and writing are very different. Thinking can often be somewhat unstructured, disorganized, and even chaotic. In contrast, writing encourages the creation of a storyline and structure that help people make sense of what has happened and work toward a solution. In short, talking can add to a sense of confusion, but writing provides a more systematic, solution-based approach. This is clearly helpful for those who have been unfortunate enough to experience real trauma in their lives, but can the same idea also be used to promote everyday happiness? Three different, but related, bodies of research suggest that that this is indeed the case. Source 59 Seconds By Richard Wiseman Visit his youtube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYc6PmHI_Y8 |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Nobody: 9:00pm On Mar 22, 2023 |
The Gratitude Attitude One of the most important writing techniques for boosting happiness revolves around the psychology of gratitude. Present an individual with a constant sound, image, or smell, and something very peculiar happens. The person slowly gets more and more used to it, and eventually it vanishes from their awareness. For example, if you walk into a room that smells of freshly baked bread, you quickly detect the rather pleasant aroma. However, stay in the room for a few minutes, and the smell will seem to disappear. In fact, the only way to reawaken it is to walk out of the room and come back in again. Exactly the same concept applies to many areas of our lives, including happiness. Everyone has something to be happy about. Perhaps they have a loving partner, good health, great kids, a satisfying job, close friends, interesting hobbies, caring parents, a roof over their heads, clean water to drink, a signed Billy Joel album, or enough food to eat. As time passes, however, they get used to what they have and, just like the smell of fresh bread, these wonderful assets vanish from their consciousness. As the old cliché goes, you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone. |
Re: Is This True About Men? Do You Agree? by Nobody: 9:02pm On Mar 22, 2023 |
Psychologists Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough wondered what would happen to people’s happiness levels if they were asked to carry out the conceptual equivalent of leaving the bread-smelling room and coming back in again. The researchers wanted to discover the effect of reminding people of the good things that were constantly present in their lives. Three groups of people were asked to spend a few moments each week writing. The first group listed five things for which they were grateful, the second noted five things that annoyed them, and the third jotted down five events that had taken place during the previous week. Everyone scribbled away, with the “gratitude” group remarking on seeing the sunset on a summer day and the generosity of their friends, the “annoyed” group listing taxes and their children arguing, and the “events” group detailing making breakfast and driving to work. The results were startling. Compared to those in either the “annoyed” or the “events” group, those expressing gratitude ended up happier, much more optimistic about the future, and physically healthier—and they even exercised more. |
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