| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by managingpartner(f): 9:08pm On Mar 04, 2023 |
Ijelenwanyioma:
I am gradually falling into depression and I am 5months pregnant.
I have a brother I love so much. We are just 2 and I am older than him. Honestly this boy has taken advantage of being the only son to be extremely misbehaving. With the little money I am making from my business, I have tried several times to set up a business for this boy. My daddy has sold all his land just to see this boy grow but he always end up squandering everything on drug. He has been to psychiatric hospital on 2 different occasions and I was the one that paid for every dime spent there. He has a girlfriend that is just like him, very rude, mannerless and nasty. She has unapologetically insulted everyone including my parents. My brother is 32years and has lived with me several times before getting an apartment.
So recently a prophet told my dad to get him a wife and he will never misbehave again and can also start giving birth. My brother insisted on marrying his girlfriend which everyone was against but my dad just have to do it. My poor dad spent his hard earned money on the marriage rite and paying for their apartment, the girl got pregnant. I promised to buy all the baby things they will be needing. For the past 6 months, my 75yrs old father has not been working and feeling well. I have been the one taking care of all his responsibilities both feeding and medicals. My dad will always call to report my brother wife to me that the girl is always asking him money in very rude manner. At a time, I told my dad to stop picking her calls. Last year Nov, my brother asked me for 200k which I told him I don't have because the 1m I gave him before was wasted.
So I invited my dad to lagos so I can take him to a good hospital and my brother and his wife came to visit him. After much talk, I told her to never call my dad and ask him money again because the man is no longer working and sick. She said she has not been asking my daddy money.
I asked her if she's calling my daddy a liar and she said yes my daddy is a bloody liar and I am so stupid to believe what my daddy told me. I told her to leave my house and she started screaming and abusing me. My brother stood there and also joined her abusing me telling me that if I can't accept his wife then I should forget about him. The wife refuse to go, she told me to do my worst. Thank God for neighbours that intervene before she left.
It's been 3 months I ended every relationship between me and my brother. Now my parents is calling me that I should make peace with my brother. My mother has been supporting my brother and show it clear to me that he's more important than me despite everything I am doing for her. She has been the one pushing my dad to tell me to call my brother and make peace with him. I told my father I can never do it and both me and my kids will never have anything to do with his son and his family again. I love my father so much and I have noticed he don't pick my calls again like before. Honestly I wish I have the mind to block all of them and just concentrate on my life and kids. But I can't just forget my father like that and I can never beg my junior brother too. I don't just know what to do
They are telling me he's a man and I shouldn't expect him to beg rather I should be the one to beg him
You just have to be firm with your decision. If what you wrote here is nothing but the truth, I will advice you to focus on your immediate family. Your brother is on the path of destruction and your parents are aiding and abetting him. When his rent expires, please don't renew for him, just lock up. Your kids need their mother. |
| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by Nice2023(m): 5:06am On Mar 05, 2023 |
Sorry to say this.
I can't sell my property just to waste on a child if the money is not for investment or medical.
Yes,I can't raise a child because he is the only son,therefore we should pamper him and make him lame till old age.
Your brother is irredeemable and the only thing is to avoid him until he decides to change. In addition,stop giving or lending him money,if not he would think u owe them. |
| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by mrblessed(m): 6:31am On Mar 05, 2023 |
Arrant nonsense! A useless and irresponsible man is not a man in the right sense of the word. It's not wise to call that spoilt adult in a baby's body and initiate reconciliation that would only bring you pain and sorrow. Just look for a way to connect with your parents and continue to be the good daughter you have been. You are very, very important. |
| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by Diligent1(f): 6:34am On Mar 05, 2023 |
Ijelenwanyioma:
Sir it is not like I can't make peace but begging them will bring more insult to me and they will always remind me how I begged them in the past. Those are kids I'm 6yrs older than.
Why are my parents making me feel less of human? Why are they letting me know female child is not important in igbo land? I placed them on salary and have been trying my best to see them happy. Honestly I'm heartbroken ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ Don't make mistake of apologising to your brother, your parents know you are emotional and they want to use it to their advantage. Ignore them all, with time they will be begging you, whenever they realise that you have been living your life without calling them, they will come and beg you. |
| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by Saintmary(f): 12:04pm On Mar 05, 2023 |
Ijelenwanyioma:
I am gradually falling into depression and I am 5months pregnant.
I have a brother I love so much. We are just 2 and I am older than him. Honestly this boy has taken advantage of being the only son to be extremely misbehaving. With the little money I am making from my business, I have tried several times to set up a business for this boy. My daddy has sold all his land just to see this boy grow but he always end up squandering everything on drug. He has been to psychiatric hospital on 2 different occasions and I was the one that paid for every dime spent there. He has a girlfriend that is just like him, very rude, mannerless and nasty. She has unapologetically insulted everyone including my parents. My brother is 32years and has lived with me several times before getting an apartment.
So recently a prophet told my dad to get him a wife and he will never misbehave again and can also start giving birth. My brother insisted on marrying his girlfriend which everyone was against but my dad just have to do it. My poor dad spent his hard earned money on the marriage rite and paying for their apartment, the girl got pregnant. I promised to buy all the baby things they will be needing. For the past 6 months, my 75yrs old father has not been working and feeling well. I have been the one taking care of all his responsibilities both feeding and medicals. My dad will always call to report my brother wife to me that the girl is always asking him money in very rude manner. At a time, I told my dad to stop picking her calls. Last year Nov, my brother asked me for 200k which I told him I don't have because the 1m I gave him before was wasted.
So I invited my dad to lagos so I can take him to a good hospital and my brother and his wife came to visit him. After much talk, I told her to never call my dad and ask him money again because the man is no longer working and sick. She said she has not been asking my daddy money.
I asked her if she's calling my daddy a liar and she said yes my daddy is a bloody liar and I am so stupid to believe what my daddy told me. I told her to leave my house and she started screaming and abusing me. My brother stood there and also joined her abusing me telling me that if I can't accept his wife then I should forget about him. The wife refuse to go, she told me to do my worst. Thank God for neighbours that intervene before she left.
It's been 3 months I ended every relationship between me and my brother. Now my parents is calling me that I should make peace with my brother. My mother has been supporting my brother and show it clear to me that he's more important than me despite everything I am doing for her. She has been the one pushing my dad to tell me to call my brother and make peace with him. I told my father I can never do it and both me and my kids will never have anything to do with his son and his family again. I love my father so much and I have noticed he don't pick my calls again like before. Honestly I wish I have the mind to block all of them and just concentrate on my life and kids. But I can't just forget my father like that and I can never beg my junior brother too. I don't just know what to do
They are telling me he's a man and I shouldn't expect him to beg rather I should be the one to beg him
Where is your husband in this equation? |
| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by frozen70(f): 12:11pm On Mar 05, 2023 |
Ijelenwanyioma:
I am gradually falling into depression and I am 5months pregnant.
I have a brother I love so much. We are just 2 and I am older than him. Honestly this boy has taken advantage of being the only son to be extremely misbehaving. With the little money I am making from my business, I have tried several times to set up a business for this boy. My daddy has sold all his land just to see this boy grow but he always end up squandering everything on drug. He has been to psychiatric hospital on 2 different occasions and I was the one that paid for every dime spent there. He has a girlfriend that is just like him, very rude, mannerless and nasty. She has unapologetically insulted everyone including my parents. My brother is 32years and has lived with me several times before getting an apartment.
So recently a prophet told my dad to get him a wife and he will never misbehave again and can also start giving birth. My brother insisted on marrying his girlfriend which everyone was against but my dad just have to do it. My poor dad spent his hard earned money on the marriage rite and paying for their apartment, the girl got pregnant. I promised to buy all the baby things they will be needing. For the past 6 months, my 75yrs old father has not been working and feeling well. I have been the one taking care of all his responsibilities both feeding and medicals. My dad will always call to report my brother wife to me that the girl is always asking him money in very rude manner. At a time, I told my dad to stop picking her calls. Last year Nov, my brother asked me for 200k which I told him I don't have because the 1m I gave him before was wasted.
So I invited my dad to lagos so I can take him to a good hospital and my brother and his wife came to visit him. After much talk, I told her to never call my dad and ask him money again because the man is no longer working and sick. She said she has not been asking my daddy money.
I asked her if she's calling my daddy a liar and she said yes my daddy is a bloody liar and I am so stupid to believe what my daddy told me. I told her to leave my house and she started screaming and abusing me. My brother stood there and also joined her abusing me telling me that if I can't accept his wife then I should forget about him. The wife refuse to go, she told me to do my worst. Thank God for neighbours that intervene before she left.
It's been 3 months I ended every relationship between me and my brother. Now my parents is calling me that I should make peace with my brother. My mother has been supporting my brother and show it clear to me that he's more important than me despite everything I am doing for her. She has been the one pushing my dad to tell me to call my brother and make peace with him. I told my father I can never do it and both me and my kids will never have anything to do with his son and his family again. I love my father so much and I have noticed he don't pick my calls again like before. Honestly I wish I have the mind to block all of them and just concentrate on my life and kids. But I can't just forget my father like that and I can never beg my junior brother too. I don't just know what to do
They are telling me he's a man and I shouldn't expect him to beg rather I should be the one to beg him
Na waoo I think at this stage, you have to focus on your family and your pregnancy All these people will survive without you |
| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by Justiceleague1: 1:11pm On Mar 05, 2023 |
If you love yourself,you better live your own life...
Be as far away as possible from them... |
| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by dawnomike(m): 3:10pm On Mar 25, 2023 |
Ijelenwanyioma:
Sir it is not like I can't make peace but begging them will bring more insult to me and they will always remind me how I begged them in the past. Those are kids I'm 6yrs older than.
Why are my parents making me feel less of human? Why are they letting me know female child is not important in igbo land? I placed them on salary and have been trying my best to see them happy. Honestly I'm heartbroken ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ Hello, How is the present situation between you and your family? I hope you all have resolved all issues... |
| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by Ijelenwanyioma: 12:24pm On Mar 27, 2023 |
dawnomike:
Hello, How is the present situation between you and your family?
I hope you all have resolved all issues... Oh not at all. I told them I can never beg or call him first and everyone has been minding their businesses since. I only call my dad anytime I want to send money to him and I always tell him the money is for him and my mum. Thanks for checking on me sir 2 Likes |
| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by sisisioge: 1:40pm On Mar 27, 2023 |
Ijelenwanyioma:
Oh not at all. I told them I can never beg or call him first and everyone has been minding their businesses since. I only call my dad anytime I want to send money to him and I always tell him the money is for him and my mum. Thanks for checking on me sir Well done sis, may God continue to make your life peaceful. Untold wahala will not be your lot! Meanwhile, I hope you're teaching your kids some lessons from their uncle's saga. Valuable o. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by Neverlookback: 9:08am On Mar 28, 2023 |
This is what enabling laziness results to. Entitlement mentality.
Please never ever do what these people are asking you to do. Once you do that, you have completely lost your self respect in the family, and you may never get it back.
For your own peace of mind, send your parents periodic messages (if they don't pick up your calls) and send them money when you can.
But you see your brother, don't call him and don't send him shishi. He needs to grow up. |
| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by anthonyuncle(m): 1:43am On Mar 29, 2023 |
it all began with your mum.
in order to calm your dad, call your brother(on phone) and ask about the wellbeing of himself and his family.
after that, end everything you have with him.
ensure he doesn't get close to your hubby, kids, or anyone close to you.
you are way better alone that with such a person.
rubbish |
| Re: How Do I End All The Relationship Between Myself, Parents And Only Brother by ORIAYO70(m): 1:38pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Ijelenwanyioma:
I am gradually falling into depression and I am 5months pregnant.
I have a brother I love so much. We are just 2 and I am older than him. Honestly this boy has taken advantage of being the only son to be extremely misbehaving. With the little money I am making from my business, I have tried several times to set up a business for this boy. My daddy has sold all his land just to see this boy grow but he always end up squandering everything on drug. He has been to psychiatric hospital on 2 different occasions and I was the one that paid for every dime spent there. He has a girlfriend that is just like him, very rude, mannerless and nasty. She has unapologetically insulted everyone including my parents. My brother is 32years and has lived with me several times before getting an apartment.
So recently a prophet told my dad to get him a wife and he will never misbehave again and can also start giving birth. My brother insisted on marrying his girlfriend which everyone was against but my dad just have to do it. My poor dad spent his hard earned money on the marriage rite and paying for their apartment, the girl got pregnant. I promised to buy all the baby things they will be needing. For the past 6 months, my 75yrs old father has not been working and feeling well. I have been the one taking care of all his responsibilities both feeding and medicals. My dad will always call to report my brother wife to me that the girl is always asking him money in very rude manner. At a time, I told my dad to stop picking her calls. Last year Nov, my brother asked me for 200k which I told him I don't have because the 1m I gave him before was wasted.
So I invited my dad to lagos so I can take him to a good hospital and my brother and his wife came to visit him. After much talk, I told her to never call my dad and ask him money again because the man is no longer working and sick. She said she has not been asking my daddy money.
I asked her if she's calling my daddy a liar and she said yes my daddy is a bloody liar and I am so stupid to believe what my daddy told me. I told her to leave my house and she started screaming and abusing me. My brother stood there and also joined her abusing me telling me that if I can't accept his wife then I should forget about him. The wife refuse to go, she told me to do my worst. Thank God for neighbours that intervene before she left.
It's been 3 months I ended every relationship between me and my brother. Now my parents is calling me that I should make peace with my brother. My mother has been supporting my brother and show it clear to me that he's more important than me despite everything I am doing for her. She has been the one pushing my dad to tell me to call my brother and make peace with him. I told my father I can never do it and both me and my kids will never have anything to do with his son and his family again. I love my father so much and I have noticed he don't pick my calls again like before. Honestly I wish I have the mind to block all of them and just concentrate on my life and kids. But I can't just forget my father like that and I can never beg my junior brother too. I don't just know what to do
They are telling me he's a man and I shouldn't expect him to beg rather I should be the one to beg him
My beautiful sister... Stay clearly away from that family, if ur brother foolishly decided to waste his live leave them alone.... As for your Mom, she will bear the greatest brunt when the times comes let her keep supporting that lazy n irresponsible boy... As for your father leave him too, send him token timely.. you really need space to take care of ur incoming child. |
