₦airaland Forum

One of the major reasons why many Nigerians, both young and old remain poor is because they are not family oriented, no trust among family members.

You hear things like " you still de live for your mama house?" This shows the level of disorientation in families of today.

Most parents can't wait for their kids to turn 18, they pressure them to move out, figure out life on their own. But wealth families know when kids turn 18 a new stage of their work begins, they keep them close and guide them in life's big decisions e.g Marriage, Work, Business.

Its this mindset of "you still de live for mama house?" That has ensured that many parents are poor today, why should a man venture into marriage in this 21st century without enough money and resources to raise his children and also leave something for them to start life with? The resultant effect is young people going into all manners of odd jobs like prostitution, yahoo yahoo, thuggry, etc just to make ends meet and cater for their parents. If you find yourself in such situation just know this:- YOUR PARENTS FAILED YOU!

Parents of past generations had almost zero emotional education. No guidance for how they needed to help their children self regulate, to help them through their pain, and how to meet their emotional needs.
Of course the end result is generational trauma. Thats why you find women above 25 and unmarried, at the time when they were supposed to be married(late teens, early 20's) they were busy in university chasing a degree, it will be difficult for "educated" women to live under a man. Most women now lack self awareness so they choose careers, partners, and almost all of their choices around external validation— what they think will get them approval from others.
This is the path to a life of regret and confusion.
Know thy self. A life of purpose begins with self discovery.

Boys do not learn manliness from their fathers because most boys were raised in broken homes, by single mothers, or absentee fathers.
Boys that grew up without a masculine figure in their lives turn out to be irresponsible men. An irresponsible man is one that is has doesn't know his duties as a man, you often hear of men who can't provide, wife beaters, lazy, womanizers, these men are irresposible, products of weak fathers.
“We need fathers to realize that responsibility does not end at conception. We need them to realize that what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child – it’s the courage to raise one.”- President Barack Obama

Birdbyrde440:
One of the major reasons why many Nigerians, both young and old remain poor is because they are not family oriented, no trust among family members.

You hear things like " you still de live for your mama house?" This shows the level of disorientation in families of today.

Most parents can't wait for their kids to turn 18, they pressure them to move out, figure out life on their own. But wealth families know when kids turn 18 a new stage of their work begins, they keep them close and guide them in life's big decisions e.g Marriage, Work, Business.

Its this mindset of "you still de live for mama house?" That has ensured that many parents are poor today, why should a man venture into marriage in this 21st century without enough money and resources to raise his children and also leave something for them to start life with? The resultant effect is young people going into all manners of odd jobs like prostitution, yahoo yahoo, thuggry, etc just to make ends meet and cater for their parents. If you find yourself in such situation just know this:- YOUR PARENTS FAILED YOU!

Parents of past generations had almost zero emotional education. No guidance for how they needed to help their children self regulate, to help them through their pain, and how to meet their emotional needs.
Of course the end result is generational trauma. Thats why you find women above 25 and unmarried, at the time when they were supposed to be married(late teens, early 20's) they were busy in university chasing a degree, it will be difficult for "educated" women to live under a man. Most women now lack self awareness so they choose careers, partners, and almost all of their choices around external validation— what they think will get them approval from others.
This is the path to a life of regret and confusion.
Know thy self. A life of purpose begins with self discovery.

Boys do not learn manliness from their fathers because most boys were raised in broken homes, by single mothers, or absentee fathers.
Boys that grew up without a masculine figure in their lives turn out to be irresponsible men. An irresponsible man is one that is has doesn't know his duties as a man, you often hear of men who can't provide, wife beaters, lazy, womanizers, these men are irresposible, products of weak fathers.
“We need fathers to realize that responsibility does not end at conception. We need them to realize that what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child – it’s the courage to raise one.”- President Barack Obama

this Igbo boy again

Godwin4444:
this Igbo boy again

Fire burn all i gbo yorober ,etc