₦airaland Forum

BlueRayDick:
So if a man leaves a will with his lawyer transferring all his assets to his wife and female children what will the uncles do ?

They will not respect the wishes of their late brother ?

Realmrsean:
why do you guys overbeat these standards our forefathers have set giving these girls mouths to talk thrash?

The primary ambition of a Nigerian/African lady should be to find a husband.. when she finds one, she goes there and Inherit what her husband has and builds family from there..

Will she eat at her husband's place and also eat at her father's place?

Traditionally a woman shouldn't even meant to have a share on his father's property unless maybe by will..

If the man has sons, let the sons handle them.. if they perish, they perish

Realmrsean:
it's first time I'm hearing females Inherit properties of their parents oo

Maybe life doesn't revolve around me after all

Omo eeh, in Igbo land, especially when it comes to properties especially land, don't take those uncles for granted, those guys can do and undo.. more especially if you re unfortunate to have the wicked ones..

That's why a male child is almost a priority in my tribe, infact if you re a woman and you have not born a male child, your kinsmen will start from there to dey chance you for a start, then If you downplay the pressure, when you die without giving birth to a male child, na there you kill everything kpatakpata, in some cases, those unlces and kinsmen will chase your woman and her female child out.... But if you happen to stand your ground, you will be receiving different missiles from both immediate and nuclear families even extended uncles..

My tribe no dey mercy for people wey no born male..

Currently I'm handling a disputed land we shared of my dead uncle who didn't marry,

We called the elders to settle disputes for us, Dem no even allow my mom come dia come talk, unless if she is invited, normally she gave 15 yards, then when she is invited, she comes forward, and after talking, she takes back seat at her 15 yard position..

It's me that's taking the position as a man in the family because I had to travel 🧳 home for the dispute..

My tribe no dey regard women at all.. Dem dey see women as vessel..

akwesenana:
Can a wife inherit property from her late husband in your culture?

izzou:
[color=royalblue]My dad willed everything to my mum while he was still alive.

Infact, e put both their names on every valuable property he had

When he died, nobody had the guts to show up for any sharing formula. And luckily for us, some of what he had saw us through life in those challenging times.

A man should always be wary of where he is coming from. If you know you have ravenous wolves as relatives, use your head[/color]

raumdeuter:
I think for Yorubas its mostly by age

you are mid 20s, who will invite you for family meeting where your 50, 60yr old aunties and uncle dey?.
Even if na 1 week you take senior am, Than 1 week na your advantage for life

At mid 20s the only time they will call you is Seankafor, Help us open the gate for Daddy Tunde, or bring water for Mommy Bose

Realmrsean:
without giving birth to a male child?

That is impossible unless your uncle's are God sent.. infact it's 97% impossible

If you don't have a child at all, you will be sent packing the minute your husband died

My dad's last born sister married in ngwa abia state, she married almost at 40 years so she was barren we warned her to adopt, but been a church fanatic, she thought miracle could happen.. instead life happened and her husband died, they chased her away and she is currently in my father's house now doing menial jobs and house chores for handouts..

Octopusssy:
This kind of mentality has no place in the 21st century. This is disgraceful

raumdeuter:
This is sad sha. While her husband was alive, they suppose don tighten the documents

raumdeuter:
Where issues usually arise are in polygamous settings where the man has multiple wives
Without a will.
In most cases, the children of the first marriage will use that opportunity to settle beef vs the younger women who deprive their mother marital joy

So its common that the children from first marriage will corner every choice property and only give remnant to the younger wife kids

Technically in Christian setting, Only the first wife is recognized by law. So the younger wives, better hustle make the man put things in your name before he dies otherwise na sorry be your name

Some of the very young wives might even have to start nacking the older kids who have access to the properties to secure their future

E.g like a rich man dies his first set of kids are around 50yrs but his youngest wife is 30s with younger kids. We have had instances where the young wife miht have to use her feminine appeals on the children of the eldest

I can imagine Ned Nwoko has kids older than Regina, If Ned dies today, How Regina wan survive or get access to some of Neds properties without a will or without warming the bed of the older sons

Realmrsean:
so women even dey follow participate for elders general meeting in your tribe

Realmrsean:
so women even dey follow participate for elders general meeting in your tribe

BlueRayDick:
The bold was the case of Kola, MKO Abiola’s son. Alaye was privileged to have already been an adult before their father’s demise .

You know the man MKO likes women really well was just marrying having them at his beck and call being one of the richest in the land. Kola dealt with some of those young wives, they saw shege . Some of them had to go back to their professional career before baba married them in order for them to see their children out of schools

BlueRayDick:


There are male and Female elders na

BlueRayDick:
Omo! Thank God for dad’s wisdom. I usually think it’s just nollywood over-bloating the whole thing, didn’t know those things still happen now.

BlueRayDick:
Omo! Thank God for dad’s wisdom. I usually think it’s just nollywood over-bloating the whole thing, didn’t know those things still happen now.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]It happens in South Eastern Nigeria.

I usually laugh when i see people on NL suggest that a man should will his properties to his kids, no matter how little they are.

If to say my papa try am, dem go don bully my mama throwaway inside gutter [/color]

Emaprince:
It happens. But then it also depends on the kind of uncles you have. The wicked and greedy ones will want to chance the woman since she has no male child.

These days though.. things are getting softer. It's no longer a rigid tradition like it used to be.

Realmrsean:
in my tribe, when the elders wants to talk, it's either the male elders have a meeting or the female elders have a meeting on their own

Nothing like mixture, men and women elders sitting on one table and discussing..

The males here don't rate women at all

Emaprince:
Unless those uncles are wicked and greedy.

All they had to do was protect and train you guys with what your dad left behind. Then hand over everything when you are all grown.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]It happens in South Eastern Nigeria.

I usually laugh when i see people on NL suggest that a man should will his properties to his kids, no matter how little they are.

If to say my papa try am, dem go don bully my mama throwaway inside gutter [/color]

Emaprince:
It happens. But then it also depends on the kind of uncles you have. The wicked and greedy ones will want to chance the woman since she has no male child.

These days though.. things are getting softer. It's no longer a rigid tradition like it used to be.

raumdeuter:
If you are monogamous, Say 1 man 1 wife 4 kids, the property automatically goes to the wife and when she dies the kids automatically share

Most property issues is with polygamous family, monogamous are usually straightforward

izzou:
[color=royalblue]Not really about a male child.

If the child were still young, they would compel her to marry one of his brothers, so that the wealth would remain in the family[/color]

Emaprince:
It happens. But then it also depends on the kind of uncles you have. The wicked and greedy ones will want to chance the woman since she has no male child.

These days though.. things are getting softer. It's no longer a rigid tradition like it used to be.

airmark:
This means nothing.

You claimed that you never saw anyone that praised Obi before, and later criticizing him. Reno did, so rest.

Emaprince:
Marry one of their brothers? I only hear about this..never witnessed it all my life.

It still dey happen? I thought it was in the past like killing of twins.

BlueRayDick:
Na wa o.

E come be like say na only football dey unite Nigerians. Small evacuation wey dem supposed run sharperly and let the world continue moving , dem still use tribalism dey run am again ? 🤦‍♂️

Funny enough , I know the easiest explanation that will come from Abike’s crew. They may likely claim the evacuation is being done in batches and that the guy is raising false alarm cos he and others are scheduled for batch B.

raumdeuter:
So what is the incentive of the wife to contribute to her marital home to build assets when after her husband dies, One uncle will show face

Do women get encouraged to buy properties in their own name and not in husbands name?

Theflint1:
I'm not really opposed to the inheritance of landed properties especially, and critical assets in general to male children, it's a good way to keep wealth within a family line.

What the Igbo culture/other cultures where the patriarchal distribution of properties is the norm is to find a way to have the interest of women protected in property distribution, maybe certain percentages get allotted to female children. Personally, I no really owe my children properties like that, wife and grandkids maybe, or as the spirit leads.

Male cousins, uncles, brothers and the likes coming to drag properties in families that aren't their nuclear families is just strange.

chrisooblog:
To be fair to Abike as much as na she dey put mouth it's really NEMA and the Nigerian Embassy in Sudan under the purview of the foreign affairs minister that are running the show so should actually be answering these questions.