Rubyjade:
Behind every successful man there is a woman
[b]Behind every UNsuccessful man there are two women [/b]but
But behind every successful woman there is a progressive man it either her father, brother or husband

Exmilitant:
I wouldn't feel bad learning about my dad's other family.

i am not emotionally attached to anyone or anything.
i was born that way.

onumadu:


Product of black man's hypocrisy.
Go through this website, and all you hear is sanctimonious crap about monogamy.
Go behind and dig a little, and you see the truth.

Billionaire2:


What can I say? … it’s a helpless situation.
I’m not encouraging having a secret family shah, just wish things were different.

eepeepook:
Let’s pause talking about waist beads for once.

This is a topic which affects many Nigerians. Funny enough, I’ve never seen it posted here. I know very well some members have experienced it.

How will you cope with discovering your father had a secret family? I can imagine the rage and betrayal I’ll go through from such revelation. Many learned of it after the death of their fathers. Some accept the new family while few reject them completely.

What will you do? Has it happened to you? Do you know anyone who’s faced the situation?

pocohantas:


Most times it gets to this. I know someone else whose father had another family. His parents separated and the mum was long gone before she heard she had a co-wife all along. The mum went on to marry a rich polygamous man and had 3 kids for that one. His father had 4 from the other woman. He is alone in the middle.

He is currently training the first son of his father's other woman, though he told me they don't talk. Just send money and the guy replies with thank you. The matter dey always confuse the guy o. All these ones running mouth na because them never experience am.

JeffreyJunior:
If only you know how a brother dey hungry me now eeh.

I wish the old man's prick had scored away match-es, we would've gladly welcomed them with open arms by now.

My mum would be the first to welcome them because this her son here no dey hear word.

A second son would've given her grandkids at 20yrs old.

Persephone1:
Just imagine the burden on the guy but he is the one that wants to carry it sha o. He is not obligated in any form to carry the burden of another person's lifestyle. He is only responsible to his father, mother and siblings. Others should be freewill abeg.

My Granddad married 3 wives, my mom's mother was 2nd she didn't know he had other family before she married him (long distance relationship) she wanted to leave but her father convinced her not to, but las las they separated. Grandpa was thoughtful enough to leave a property that were shared among his children equally. And the children decided some part of the property for emergency. The last time the third wife's son got married it was this emergency money that was given to her. No body puts load on the other. That does not mean mom does not get once in a while billing but it is never choking.

If today I find out that I have secret step siblings, yes dad's betrayal on mom will hurt but at the end it's not my business and I definitely won't be responsible for them. Was i there when they were doing the thing? 🤷

Kobojunkie:
Interesting questions!

How many in fact accept the new family and are themselves accepted by the new family?

abobote:
Yes, I will. As a man I understand it is

This secret family is very easy to start, if you don't zip up as a married man.

Even as a married man, I remembered how one Ghanian side chek is begging me to have a child for me

eepeepook:
Let’s pause talking about waist beads for once.

This is a topic which affects many Nigerians. Funny enough, I’ve never seen it posted here. I know very well some members have experienced it.

How will you cope with discovering your father had a secret family? I can imagine the rage and betrayal I’ll go through from such revelation. Many learned of it after the death of their fathers. Some accept the new family while few reject them completely.

What will you do? Has it happened to you? Do you know anyone who’s faced the situation?

eepeepook:
Let’s pause talking about waist beads for once.

This is a topic which affects many Nigerians. Funny enough, I’ve never seen it posted here. I know very well some members have experienced it.

How will you cope with discovering your father had a secret family? I can imagine the rage and betrayal I’ll go through from such revelation. Many learned of it after the death of their fathers. Some accept the new family while few reject them completely.

What will you do? Has it happened to you? Do you know anyone who’s faced the situation?

pocohantas:


Na this thing I type for diary yesterday. No be today man and woman matter start. My own grandpa had two wives with a sidechick. It was when the sidechick kids grew, they brought her home for us. My grandma was the second. He is dead now and all the kids have dispersed. It is not all about the temporary pleasure of knacking two or more women.

Same here. None of my business. I will accept them, but to say we would be some kinda best friendds? Yea right!!!

Lol those people lived life anyhow ooo, 😂 I believe most times they try to guide us it is out of experience of the consequences of the lifestyle they lived. My grandad's first wife according to story I was told was what we will call a polyandrist. That woman just dey go and come , dey born pikin everywhere . The age gap between her children long pass river Nile, she go born, leave, come again born, leave. Funniest thing whenever she leave it wasn't for her father's house but another husband. I think she had two self aside Grandpa . With her on and off, she gave birth to 5 children with Granny Very crazy lifestyle. Anytime mom gets to that side of her family story I always laugh my ass out. It's the audacity for me, it's my best part😂😂😂😂 Strong feminist woman😂😂😂😂😂 No doubt that woman really lived life.

The problem with this generation is too much chochocho, most men can't afford polygamy, most women won't accept polygamy because there is no benefit in it for them. A man and woman can't be sharing bills then the man will want another wife.

eepeepook:
Let’s pause talking about waist beads for once.

This is a topic which affects many Nigerians. Funny enough, I’ve never seen it posted here. I know very well some members have experienced it.

How will you cope with discovering your father had a secret family? I can imagine the rage and betrayal I’ll go through from such revelation. Many learned of it after the death of their fathers. Some accept the new family while few reject them completely.

What will you do? Has it happened to you? Do you know anyone who’s faced the situation?

Persephone1:
Lol those people lived life anyhow ooo, 😂 I believe most times they try to guide us it is out of experience of the consequences of the lifestyle they lived. My grandad's first wife according to story I was told was what we will call a polyandrist. That woman just dey go and come , dey born pikin everywhere . The age gap between her children long pass river Nile, she go born, leave, come again born, leave. Funniest thing whenever she leave it wasn't for her father's house but another husband. I think she had two self aside Grandpa . With her on and off, she gave birth to 5 children with Granny Very crazy lifestyle. Anytime mom gets to that side of her family story I always laugh my ass out. It's the audacity for me, it's my best part😂😂😂😂 Strong feminist woman😂😂😂😂😂 No doubt that woman really lived life.

The problem with this generation is too much chochocho, most men can't afford polygamy, most women won't accept polygamy because there is no benefit in it for them. A man and woman can't be sharing bills then the man will want another wife.

onumadu:
I get particularly angry about such things because one of my uncles did exactly the same.
He had his "only wife" with which he had 5 children (one male and four females).
But while at it, he had another "secret family" with another woman who knew his open/real family, and they had 8 children together.
When he died, the secret family couldn't even attend his funeral!
What type of hypocrisy is that?

madridguy:
Funny reasoning.

Teleprompter:
Most people here are commenting with indifference and it’s a reflection of how they view marriage and family.
A United and close knit family that hold each other accountable would certainly feel much betrayal. There are many reasons why one’s father would have a secret family but how come nobody here said they would ask why it happened? If the father’s reasons are somewhat justified then that’s one thing...
But to just assume that it’s their fathers choice and they would accept the secret family is another. What if the secret woman is a promiscuous gold digger? And the children also fee no remorse on behalf of their mother?
What if the secret family was treated much better than your own family? Morally and financially? Would you just accept all and everyone like nothing unusual has happened?