₦airaland Forum

TrainPark:
I now live with the two kids. It is tough but my job is nice and allows me to go to office only 2 times a week.

My peace is worth the stress of living as a single father.

I can only imagine the amount of hard work you are putting in and sacrifices you are making. You have my utmost respect.

May those kids repay you back ten fold by being upstanding citizens in their adulthood.

Kobojunkie:
This a man that supposedly moved abroad in 1990 and should have known better abeg!

one can be there all his life and still stick to a particular school of thought and way of life.

Kobojunkie:
This is nothing about an agreement but a man who simply refused to adapt to the laws in his new environment even after so long.

this is what a discussion for an agreement would've revealed to his partner

AdemolaA2:
You just read my mind sir . Wonder why black high school students fight their teachers and get hailed by their peers when doing so. Wonders why black kids turn out gay against their parents consent and the government condone these nonsense .. Lord have mercy!!!

The bolded is so funny so a black person have to take permission before they can be straight or gay....lol,go wash your brain with soap

1stGenAmerican:
Partners should also agree that they won’t lie and blame each other for things that can send them to jail like this man tried doing to his wife. He told police that she was lying to them and he would’ve been fine if she would’ve gone to jail.

I'm neither defending the man nor saying he's innocent.

it's obvious both partners aren't on par

obama99:
That woman is a devil with no modicum of sense in her. Ok now , eh is proud that her husband is in court and jail and she even testified against him. Ok
Awon Omo baba elewon
Children of prisoner father.
Or children of ex convict.

If that the kind of name they wish for their father , I wish them well

she didn't wish for such events to happen either

godofuck231:
nigeria is one of the best places to live in the world , I swear

partially

richmond500:
between Nigerians and the UK, which people do u think have zero respect for adults?

Oga you clearly have no idea. Why do you think teaching in high school has become less attractive to their own citizens that they have to declare an emergency and rely on recruitment of foreign teachers? I schooled there so i know, no be everything una go turn am argument.

cococandy:
Clearly the hospital reported the man not the wife.
All healthcare workers are mandatory reporters. If you suspect abuse you’re required to report it.
The bruises on him required them to report it.

Unless you’re saying the mom shouldn’t have taken the boy to the hospital. What if he’d died? Then y’all would have still blamed her for not taking care of her kid.

All the man had to do (if he’s so bent on physically punishing the kid) was to do it in a non violent way and not cause him bruises and injuries.

Died of flogging how? 😂😂😂

obama99:
That woman is a devil with no modicum of sense in her. Ok now , eh is proud that her husband is in court and jail and she even testified against him. Ok
Awon Omo baba elewon
Children of prisoner father.
Or children of ex convict.

If that the kind of name they wish for their father , I wish them well

What are you saying? The woman did the right thing, if she had lied and the other siblings said the truth the court would think she is also abusing the kids like the husband and might also be arrested or the children will be taken away from her straight to Child protective services.

MrBrownJay1:
today flogging a child is considered abuse, even though majority of us are great human beings today because of these same "abuse"... so make sure that you A) have kids with a woman who follow your school of thought and B) live in a country where flogging is allowed-

no wonder kids in the UK (and all over the world) are now out of control!

Any argument that countries where flogging is the norm (e.g., Nigeria) is producing better human beings than countries where it's not (e.g., UK, USA) is simply not based on facts.

Almost everyone in Nigeria wants to japa whichever way but do not for a second stop to think and study the country they are going into. What is condoned in a country like Nigeria or continent like Africa is frowned upon in developed countries. You need to unlearn a lot of things before moving with your family abroad else your marriage/family will be ruined.

Kobojunkie:
It is equally written in Scripture that God uses a rod of punishment on His people, does this mean a literal cane is employed by God here - Psalm 23:4 & Micah 6:9 & Micah 7:14? You can correct a child without wire abeg!

Na literal cane ooo... Infact that cane pain pass .. ask king David. Or you go read 2 samuel 24

techbroX:
What's your problem? Why the nasty comment about your forefathers?

It's not nasty. It's a well known fact. Are you saying beating people is nasty? Then why are we still propagating it?

Now you see why some Americans didn't want to let go of slavery.

Kobojunkie:
No be wetin police dey do Nigerians every day be that?

They learnt it from their parents

Spare the rod, spoil the child doesn't mean he must use iron rod.

Simple stick cane is enough. And don't flog the child till he starts bleeding or injure him. The whole idea is to administer minimum pain.

Never discipline when in deep anger. Allow temper to cool down, else you might use anger to wound or kill the child.

Both parents should agree in the discipline or punishment. Not one parent reporting the child to the other parent

MrBrownJay1:
today flogging a child is considered abuse, even though majority of us are great human beings today because of these same "abuse"... so make sure that you A) have kids with a woman who follow your school of thought and B) live in a country where flogging is allowed-

no wonder kids in the UK (and all over the world) are now out of control!

Absolutely,
So many spoilt kids roaming the streets. Government see them as cash cow in disability sector. The more they insist on no flogging of kids, the boom they experience on children with so many social vices and the more cut they get from national budget through NDIS.
The best place yo raise your kid is in Africa.

TUANKU:
Oga you clearly have no idea. Why do you think teaching in high school has become less attractive to their own citizens that they have to declare an emergency and rely on recruitment of foreign teachers? I schooled there so i know, no be everything una go turn am argument.

everybody is schooling in UK just to win an argument.
If it's an argument that involved Abuja, you will tell us you school in Abuja.
If it involves Borno, u will be schooling in Borno.

Abeg go sidon

Whaaaaaaat! Black blood is different from white blood o... If e no flog am, that child don finish because he no go hear word. If na lie, why during una colonising period una dey flog slaves? Even till date, why una dey quickly accuse black people for crime? And of a truth, we have even seen from here that the number of blacks in European and American prisons are higher than any other race. That child needs serious flogging otherwise, hehehehe, na future prisoner una dey bring up. Shey una be Christians, una Bible no say make una discipline una children?

dre11:
The Nigerian man, before he was jailed for three years, had told the London court that his action was a move to instil standards in his son.





https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/top-news/598578-exclusive-london-court-jails-nigerian-three-years-for-flogging-son.html


Nlfpmod

This is nonsense, license to start raising unruly sycophatic kids.

Lol 😆

Enemyofpeace:
se nkan o se o?

dre11:
The Nigerian man, before he was jailed for three years, had told the London court that his action was a move to instil standards in his son.





https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/top-news/598578-exclusive-london-court-jails-nigerian-three-years-for-flogging-son.html


Nlfpmod

thats why Oyibo children dey spoil anyhow

SavageResponse:
At least in Nigeria we don't have nutcases like non-binary, transgender, serial killers and shopping mall mass murderers!

Just dy play 😂😂😂. The level of oloshoism in my neighbour can corrupt any kid. A child of 13 or 14 is engage in olosho here. Likewise yahoo yahoo for kids of just 13 or 14 here o. There environment is not perfect but I still prefer it to ours, most of our families are raise in the United States and they are not spoilt kids, they behave nice anytime they come to Nigeria, most times it is the gene that influences a kid behaviour not environment.

TUANKU:
Oga you clearly have no idea. Why do you think teaching in high school has become less attractive to their own citizens that they have to declare an emergency and rely on recruitment of foreign teachers? I schooled there so i know, no be everything una go turn am argument.

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Parents must think of better ways to discipline and instill morals into their kids, even for those of us in Nigeria. There's no real correlation between the rod and well-rounded children who grow up to be responsible adults. Nigerians and the state of Nigeria is the only proof you should need of that.

@Story, all the father had to do was take away the computer for some days, or delete (uninstall) some of the kid's video game he's fond of playing. Nothing hurts a kid the most than denying them the chance to enjoy their hobbies.

Growing up, I'd rather chop cane than not play evening football after school. We take physical beatings to extreme levels that I personally can't advocate for it.

madridguy:
So one cannot beat him pinkin again ? Oyinbo country and their funny law

is that how u beat a kid, he almost killed the little boy

Kobojunkie:
The hospital! They are obligated to report any suspicious bruises irrespective of the explanations given to them by the suspect.

You didn't get my point. There was a text message the man sent to his wife threatening that they should not say anything to the police. How did the police, the court or the hospital know about it?

raskymonojendor:
When you are in Rome, you act like a Roman.

After reading the stories, it was his wife that even reported the man to the police.

Good luck to the woman. I witnessed a scenario in Lagos where a family sister hounded and harassed her husband for scolding the son she brought into the man's house from a previous affair. Honestly, the friends of the man did not know the boy was not his until when we went to bail him at the police station.

Long story short, marriage ended. My sister's close friend confessed to me that our sister made her greatest mistake with that singular act. The boy became a terror in his mother's abode, left school to focus on yahoo and started abusing stuffs.

He's now fully back at home with his mother amidst fighting every day. No certificate, no good friends, no morals. Some women don't even reason before embarking on certain actions.

ZIMDRILL:
i dont know which part you read but start from when she comes back after two days and take the child to the hospitail

Remember am also i know the system inlive in the UK

when the father was interviewed he denied strucking the child, but then how does he explain the bruises when he was the adult in the house

Maybe you should read it again.

cococandy:
The correction from my parents that didn’t involve violence helped. The ones that included flogging did not help.

But like the idiot you are that your parents raised , you’ve decided to twist my words to make it what I didn’t say

A part of the home training and upbringing I got from my parents is never to insult people, they taught me to be respectful and decent.

Calling me an idiot is evident of the fact that your dad's corrections never worked. This is why we advice parents never to spare the rod.

I hope your husband, that's if you ever get married, does the right training on you. He should never spare the rod like your dad did when he is training you. Because, the way you go about insulting men on Nairaland for no reason is so alarming and scary.

Sister, I love you 💖💖😘.

We are trained to bless even those that curse us and respect people no matter how different our views about life is.

We are trained to correct people with respect!

Have a blessed day ahead sis.
I love you... Kisses 💋💋😘💋😘💋
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IamMobisola:
What are you saying? The woman did the right thing, if she had lied and the other siblings said the truth the court would think she is also abusing the kids like the husband and might also be arrested or the children will be taken away from her straight to Child protective services.

Ok to the extent of showing other messages sent to her

Flog a child, don't flog a child. Who go bad go bad. Africans are so used to brutality that we justify all the unnecessary whippings we received as children. I know very well if I wasn't flogged, I would still turn out a good human being. Many beatings I received as a child were borne from ego boosts of weak men. Children are not flogged in developed nations. How come the citizens still do better than we who take joy in whipping young ones?

I swear, the two-legged beasts who visit this platform daily. SMH.

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