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Jazmine10:
Why is infidelity among both sexes on the rise in Nigeria and what can be done to mitigate it?

talented321:
I just dey play.
But normally i will not like to cheat on a woman i love so dearly, but not that i don't i have the right but, my woman also has blood flowing in her vein and has feelings.

The reason for numerous cheating is because people are too moved with what they see, especially some men and women.

Jazmine10:
Why is infidelity among both sexes on the rise in Nigeria and what can be done to mitigate it?

Jazmine10:
Why is infidelity among both sexes on the rise in Nigeria and what can be done to mitigate it?

our society, Women are currently more powerful than men. The roles are reversing in a very negative way. Men have started taking advantage of working women and allowing them or letting the women take care of them financially. It can be argued that Men need Women and Women do not need Men. As a woman becomes the “bread winner” they will have more options. In nature, the animals that are monogamous are majorly the males. Typically Males are more rational, logical, and possess less emotional sense.

In younger groups Ages 20–35 it has been statistically found Women typically make more money than men do in this age group. Also Woman have a much higher chance of obtaining a carrier vs a male with the same qualifications. Ultimately this is resulting in more women working and less men. However, that isn’t the case.

Men and women are working at an almost equal rate currently.

If I was to ask women who would rather stay home with the kids? the majority of the women would say themselves. If this were to happen and the truth would be practiced with actions. There would be a plethora of jobs for men to double up on and get paid better for. Thus resulting in being able to take care of their families better. Which would be proving to the female mate they are worthy, there is no need to look for something better.

I think that male infidelity has stayed pretty consistent for the past 100 years, with a slight rise. Where woman have gone from nearly no infidelities to almost as much as the men, in the past 100 years.

In nature and in the past for Humans. The Males were needed to provide security for their life partners. Mainly with physical protection of the domicile. Males protect the females and females protect the kids. Society has taken away the only real modern function of the male in homes by allowing women to be the bread winner. So no financial security? why are they here. I have the police to protect me, what do I need him for? lets find someone who can at least make me happy.

Women can afford the potential consequences of an affair, with higher incomes and more job prospects. They are more economically independent, and may meet a better mate.

It truly is not my intention to offend anyone. However, to bring this to a point quickly. If 70% of Women would stop working. Men would make more. They would be able to provide for a house hold. They would be needed in the eyes of their spouse. There would be less infidelity.

Technically it is women’s fault.

If that last statement offends you then allow 70% of men to stop working and take care of the home and family, while the women make all the money. Unheard of, I know. And I was the one being the sexist, right? not the feminists?

WoroSeeWoro:
THIS IS BECause many of our women of today have lost their cultural value and most of our young men dont know anything

Jazmine10:
Why is infidelity among both sexes on the rise in Nigeria and what can be done to mitigate it?

Jazmine10:
you have a point there; why drop the bulk of the blame on women when we live in a patriachial society? Men have been the ones known to disrespect the sanctity of marriage and most African men would be quick to remind women that they are entittled to numerous women? So you were saying?

I know someone who has been married for more than a decade. During a family wedding I found her glued to her phone. “It’s my husband” she informed everyone. Even though no one asked.

On the day of the wedding, we were having our dinner hurriedly. The wedding ceremonies were about to commence. It was past midnight. Just then, she got a call from someone. She answered. Then she asked me to cover for her while she went out of the premises to meet some friend.

“Call them in!” I said.

“Not possible” she muttered and ran out.

She was gone for nearly half an hour! Her mother asked me of her whereabouts. I fibbed a bit, torn between responsibility and promise. Then I went out to look for her. I found her at the end of the lane with a guy… in a compromising condition!

They broke off when they saw me. He zoomed off and she nonchalantly started walking towards the venue. “What on earth was that?” I asked.

“Not your business. But since you saw me I’ll come clean. He’s someone I know and like.”

Her cool demeanour and response was so shocking! What about her husband, children and family?

My question was answered with a steely gaze. This was followed with “He has affairs too. I have checked his phone and discovered that he gets messages from his colleagues too. If he can, so can I. That’s equality. Now keep your mouth shut. Or else the repercussions will be your responsibility.”

I don’t know what had me tongue tied. The bizarre logic and mockery of a sacred relationship or the implied threat of self harm. Her behaviour was based only on doubts and conjecture, but that made no difference to her stance.

I did learn something that day. Infidelity has many reasons.

-Failure to treat relationships with the -Reverence and dedication they deserve.
-Lack of communication.
-Lack of commitment.
-Taking each other for granted.
-Refusal to address the situation.
-Refusal to look at the reasons (if any) for the situation.
-A warped understanding of equality. (Seriously?!!)
-Lastly… believing in the logic which says “if he/she can, so can I.”

Marriage is a sacred bond. A bond that is based on love and all it’s manifestations… trust, commitment, mutual respect, unshakeable faith, devotion, compatibility, willingness to address incompatible areas by trying to find common ground and above all, accepting each other as they are. It means fixing things or aspects of life that are broken. It doesn’t mean finding substitutes

Jazmine10:
Why is infidelity among both sexes on the rise in Nigeria and what can be done to mitigate it?

talented321:
Puss360, are u saying if i am ur husband today and i cheat u will also cheat? What do u have to gain by competing with me ur husband? Pls

Jazmine10:
Why is infidelity among both sexes on the rise in Nigeria and what can be done to mitigate it?

Puss360:
Hey!!! Who are the women cheating with?? Married Men and single matured guys that loves married women...
Infact wedding ring doesn't mean anything to Nigerian Men...

tete7000:
Godlessness

HonestJOE:
The reason is simple. Women (most) have learnt the balling game men have been playing.. And now.., no one is left behind.

In this match Men vs Women, who is winning? It's a draw for now. But by the trajectory of things now, I bet Women Team will win at Full Time.

Puss360:
Lol.. nothing.. I won't cheat, but if I see opportunity I will open leg.... Coz I see no reason why a man will cheat on his wife and get annoyed if she cheats also... Don't give out what you can't collect...las las we go divorce..

Jazmine10:
Why is infidelity among both sexes on the rise in Nigeria and what can be done to mitigate it?

Jazmine10:
Why is infidelity among both sexes on the rise in Nigeria and what can be done to mitigate it?

FuckSilly:
Bullshît
Did you think of different cultures?
Is polygamy a sin?

Who usually have the higher bodycount before marriage on an average?

HOW MANY OF YOU LADIES STILL KEEP YOUR VIRTUES - VAGINITY TILL MARRIAGE THESE DAYS?