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God day Nlders, This post is not to bash ANYONE nor to stand as an authority but to air my honest point of view about the falling of our once GREAT AND WELL MANNERED CONTINENT. Before my post let me air my observations here: 1. Most members here prefer watching BBN, Tik tok etc from morning till night but can't read an educative post for just 15 minutes, What a generation! 2. I noticed that Nairaland is becoming boring lately and most of the mature and Neutral minded members are no longer active. The reason is not far fetched. Most of the active members now are mostly below 30yrs, i knew this because of the kind of comments and topics that are seen on a daily basis on NL. 3. As a result of Age and low experience; it is expected that some members could wake up and post a lot of premature comments and not to talk of the constant bashing of few of the extremely intelligent posts and comments, KUDOS TO THOSE MEMBERS; U guys are the ONLY reason why i find here very accommodating, because i can't imagine my daily life without this platform. "imagine a 20yr old boy coming here ystrday to seek for advice about being arrested by his 19yr old girlfriend's family" because he harbored and took her in as a wife!, VERY FUNNY but not as funny as the advise MOST COMMENTERS were dishing out. For christ sake, how can advise such a boy to sue the family and seek for damages?. instead of taking him to vigilante to be trashed again and to think the boy has parents to tell him what he did was wrong but they didn't still baffles me. Imagine 20 and 19 year old kids that ought to be in school, trade or one skill are practising what ought to come to them Naturally. ---Back to my post--- As God is our universal Landlord, so Parents are our Earthly Landlord. This goes a long way to prove that whatever u become on earth has a lot to do with your parents/upbringing. Today, the Nigeria society is sinking and very few people are working to restore sanity to the system, very pathetic!. Gone are the days when parens moulded/bred a lot of great men and women but from what we see today, GREATNESS MAY BE VERY FAR FROM THIS GENERATION. I laugh when people argue with me that this our generation will smell 90s to 100yrs unlike our Parents/grand parents. Now, lets highlight Most areas Parents are failing woefully today; 1. The area of dressing--- Shit!, menhn, how most people dress these days is very absurd. Mostly the girls, no bra, exposing boobs and bleached body up and down, i wonder the men that marry these ones. gone are those days when parents burn their daughters provocative clothes. MY DAD AND MOM DID THAT TO MY 2 SISTERS. 2. The area of punishing for offence---- You hardly see parents that punish their children for misbehaving. Gone are those days we had laws like No bath no food, No staying out above 6:30pm, No sleeping above 6am etc.. in my neighbourhood; teenagers even girls stay out till 12 midnight, imaging the parents breeding these children. 3. The area of dishing out good advice--- Failure to do this MUST result to bad friends doing it for you and we all know the result. 4. The area of teaching their children, mostly on the area of preservation, honestly, contentment and dignity--- This has resulted badly to the mess we are in today. some of which are; --------Fraud (yahoo yahoo)---- Nobody is perfect and we have all stolen or cheated one way or the other but that is not a justification to indulge in duping people for your greedy interest. Parents are the major contributors to this. i have seen 50s of parents buying phones for their children to dupe people, very shameful. I have seen a lot sending their under 20 kids to Ghana. little did they know that they are wasting their kids and generation's life. House, cars, luxurious life are all good but the end is what matters in everything. LOVE UR NEIGHBOR AS URSEF, and we will have little problems on Earth. i have asked a lot of parents this question: HOW WOULD U FEEL IF SOMEONE DUPE U OF UR BIZNESS MONEY?, None of them could give me any reasonable answer. The rate our boys and girls are dying, running mad and losing their destiny because of mere vanity is something that needs urgent attention. Nowaday,s no matter how decent you look; the ladies CAN NEVER look your side if u are not a Gboy, their loss though. Good guys, please know your worth and raise your standards and avoid all these "chop remain" They will add nothing but sorrow to your life. If you know the type of drugs and nasty Bleep they give to these generation girls, you will dodge them. Someone was proud telling me that he once hung a girl upside down, Bleep her anus and came in her mouth!... i believe theses are the type that a man will use all his life struggle to wife. MEN WEN GET EAR, MAKE UNA HEAR. --Today, we complain about bad leadership little did we know that parents failed to raise their children properly in order for them to shun all sorts of violence during elections, LAST LAST: The problem of common man na common man, not POLITICIANS. Finally, with the parents we have now, this generation is heading to disaster. You will see a lot of girls carrying expensive Iphones, hair and clothes with empty brains and zero ambition aside Tik tok ete... I know a guy with just 3.5m car, if you see the way he USELESS'S GIRLS you will know that THERE ARE NO LONGER WIVES BUT SLUTS. ALL THANKS TO THIS GENERATION'S PARENTS.

please modify with punctuatations. this is hard to read.

The breeds are much on this space,I call them YSSG's.

Op not all parents are the fault why some of their kids turned out useless,some parents are still strict till date and them nor dey take nonsense.

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Wetin be this

MSN1:
God day Nlders, This post is not to bash ANYONE nor to stand as an authority but to air my honest point of view about the falling of our once GREAT AND WELL MANNERED CONTINENT. Before my post let me air my observations here: 1. Most members here prefer watching BBN, Tik tok etc from morning till night but can't read an educative post for just 15 minutes, What a generation! 2. I noticed that Nairaland is becoming boring lately and most of the mature and Neutral minded members are no longer active. The reason is not far fetched. Most of the active members now are mostly below 30yrs, i knew this because of the kind of comments and topics that are seen on a daily basis on NL..

I disagree with your #2. You assume they are mostly below 30 years of age because you judge them based on your expectations rather than their actual ages.

From the comments so far, i will simply state that; I NEVER said All parents ANYWHERE, I used most and majority has ALWAYS been d basis of assumptions
I never stood as a judge but am only doing what any NEUTRAL human would do
Finally, the fact that some parents are strict and still have children going astray doesn't change the fact that ALL our behaviour from birth to death depends on
more than 90% of parental upbringing.
There are a lot of illicit things i can NEVER do 2day because whenever i want to; i always hear my father's warnings.

I am having a pack attack trying to read your article.

A Failed And Rotten Society.

Hmmmmmmmm


What a nice write up you've gotten up there! ...I can feel the pain of creating this thread.

I pray God intervenes in this generation..things are really happening of truth.

According to the popular phrase during Buhari era....*change begins with me*

How are you sensitizing the people around you? Despite the ill-state of things...we still have responsible parents and individuals just fewere than they are decades ago.



This is a generation of " if you can't beat them ...you join them".

"If you don't risk anything...you risk more"

How are we training our kids and the kids of our relatives?

Train a child in a way he should go......many mothers are slay mamas today....nobody wants to be black...no one wants to manage and these kids learn through observation...imitation and practice


If you train yours..and I train mine and the next neighbor train his ....this problems wouldn't have gotten to this stage.


But .."I don't care" attitude of our fellow Nigerians and their hypocritical ways of life bring us here.





I wonder what we'd be saying come 2030!


May God heal our land.

God bless you for this dear. i just wish more people could think like you.
Just imagine this evening; i was @ a family's friend's house, this lady's daughter that just wrote jamb (no work/skill yet oo) ordered a 10k palm slippers from facebook, if u see the way the mother was praising her, "uhmm, my daughter, the palm is fine. "hope you go dash me", instead of asking her where she got the money. Imagine a parent directly selling her daughter because of material things. I always warn this lady about how she spoils her kids but she never listens but this people are quick to blame the government, little did they know that the monsters they breed has so many impact in the society ...
once again; Thanks for seeing the light with me.

Newborn27:
Hmmmmmmmm


What a nice write up you've gotten up there! ...I can feel the pain of creating this thread.

I pray God intervenes in this generation..things are really happening of truth.

According to the popular phrase during Buhari era....*change begins with me*

How are you sensitizing the people around you? Despite the ill-state of things...we still have responsible parents and individuals just fewere than they are decades ago.



This is a generation of " if you can't beat them ...you join them".

"If you don't risk anything...you risk more"

How are we training our kids and the kids of our relatives?

Train a child in a way he should go......many mothers are slay mamas today....nobody wants to be black...no one wants to manage and these kids learn through observation...imitation and practice


If you train yours..and I train mine and the next neighbor train his ....this problems wouldn't have gotten to this stage.


But .."I don't care" attitude of our fellow Nigerians and their hypocritical ways of life bring us here.





I wonder what we'd be saying come 2030!


May God heal our land.

MSN1:
God bless you for this dear. i just wish more people could think like you.
Just imagine this evening; i was @ a family's friend's house, this lady's daughter that just wrote jamb (no work/skill yet oo) ordered a 10k palm slippers from facebook, if u see the way the mother was praising her, "uhmm, my daughter, the palm is fine. "hope you go dash me", instead of asking her where she got the money. Imagine a parent directly selling her daughter because of material things. I always warn this lady about how she spoils her kids but she never listens but this people are quick to blame the government, little did they know that the monsters they breed has so many impact in the society ...
once again; Thanks for seeing the light with me.

I feel honoured for the mention Sir.



The rate at which this generation is rotten...I wonder what grannies would look like in the next couple of decades.



They easily tag you as being holier than thou and local if you can't emulate their waywardness.


See them everywhere glorifying prostitution and yahoo....pikin dey use iphone when her parents are striving to feed.... they'd blame government for the poor upbringing of their kids... stylishly cheer their boys on to do yahoo.... when it backfire ... They'd be shedding crocodile tears.



Forgetting that....we always reap whatever we sow.

Newborn27:
I feel honoured for the mention Sir.



The rate at which this generation is rotten...I wonder what grannies would look like in the next couple of decades.



They easily tag you as being holier than thou and local if you can't emulate their waywardness.


See them everywhere glorifying prostitution and yahoo....pikin dey use iphone when her parents are striving to feed.... they'd blame government for the poor upbringing of their kids... stylishly cheer their boys on to do yahoo.... when it backfire ... They'd be shedding crocodile tears.



Forgetting that....we always reap whatever we sow.

government too failed Nigerians. Their parents also failed them. There are lots of graduate jobless. It takes only God's grace for such persons not to indulge in cyber fraud. Parents support their children into fraud since they couldn't get job after school. It is not easy. I only blame those small small boys in secondary school and university doing cyber fraud. Those ones are thieves. But you see graduates jobless for years or doing work that hardly take him home at the end of the month, i wouldn't blame them o. What have i offer them that warrant me to blame them? I don't judge people easily.

I understand you perfectly bro. but one thing i must tell you is that; There is no excuse for crime and i am not coming here to pose as a saint; we have All erred one way or the other but One thing i know for sure is that; This generation parents are grooming disaster, look around you and you will find answers.Truth be told; this generation is heading to failure! i know a lot of under 18yrs old girls that has slept with my bosses in offices and senior colleagues, funny enough; its a local village and majority of the parents are 100% aware of their children's madness.
I have said it countless times, this generation are very lucky with the advent of latest technology. If i were to be in my 20's and active times; i would have been rolling in millions because i know how hard and manual i worked to get to where i am today.
Buhari was 100% right when he said the youths are lazy. If i tell you the amount of money flying on air (Technology) now, you would cry for those bringing down their fellow humans just to rise selfishly.

UnfairLife7:
government too failed Nigerians. Their parents also failed them. There are lots of graduate jobless. It takes only God's grace for such persons not to indulge in cyber fraud. Parents support their children into fraud since they couldn't get job after school. It is not easy. I only blame those small small boys in secondary school and university doing cyber fraud. Those ones are thieves. But you see graduates jobless for years or doing work that hardly take him home at the end of the month, i wouldn't blame them o. What have i offer them that warrant me to blame them? I don't judge people easily.

Well said...
i always tell people. Nature is fair, just that humans forget that; whatever your input is determines your output... We are suffering aggressively from a lot of previous sins. Only few would know this.

Newborn27:
I feel honoured for the mention Sir.



The rate at which this generation is rotten...I wonder what grannies would look like in the next couple of decades.



They easily tag you as being holier than thou and local if you can't emulate their waywardness.


See them everywhere glorifying prostitution and yahoo....pikin dey use iphone when her parents are striving to feed.... they'd blame government for the poor upbringing of their kids... stylishly cheer their boys on to do yahoo.... when it backfire ... They'd be shedding crocodile tears.



Forgetting that....we always reap whatever we sow.

MSN1:
I understand you perfectly bro. but one thing i must tell you is that; There is no excuse for crime and i am not coming here to pose as a saint; we have All erred one way or the other but One thing i know for sure is that; This generation parents are grooming disaster, look around you and you will find answers.Truth be told; this generation is heading to failure! i know a lot of under 18yrs old girls that has slept with my bosses in offices and senior colleagues, funny enough; its a local village and majority of the parents are 100% aware of their children's madness.
I have said it countless times, this generation are very lucky with the advent of latest technology. If i were to be in my 20's and active times; i would have been rolling in millions because i know how hard and manual i worked to get to where i am today.
Buhari was 100% right when he said the youths are lazy. If i tell you the amount of money flying on air (Technology) now, you would cry for those bringing down their fellow humans just to rise selfishly.

yes i know most average Nigerians generally are corrupt minded persons. My point is why would those bosses of yours be sleeping with young girls when possibly they are married? Why would they sleep with female job applicants before they give them jobs? I didn't see you blame government in your comments. Lol, one thing you should know is that you are not more Nigerian than anyone calling out government. You're not more Nigerian than anyone telling government their failure. Tell your government to reduce costs of governance. Tell your government to provide jobs for those young guys coming out of school yearly. Tell your government to change and amend the constitution. Tell your government to make political offices unattractive. We want those that'd serve only not those corrupt entity. Tell your government to provide saner environment. Tell your government to give us power please. We're not asking too much. You can't put the whole blame on parents and these children. These children had siblings who graduated from school but still jobless or underemployed. They aren't blind. Have you ever imagine why do we have much more cyber fraudsters amongst our youths and prostitution this time of the day compare to 2-3 decades back? There's hunger in the land. An isle hand is the devil workshop. How many family can feed now in Nigeria? How many family can afford paying those high tuition fees in our tertiary institutions? How many family can afford federal government college now?

You see those small small boys and girls doing Yahoo and prostitution, i blame them completely not government. They are greedy. They are too obsessed with quick money at their young age. Most of those guys are not even ready to work. Give them 100k job, they'd reject it. They're used to quick and fast money.


Government has so much to do, parents/guidian has a whole lots to do.

If you read my post carefully, you would have seen where i mentioned govt. bro., whether you agree or not, most govt. decisions are geared towards their selfish interests, these people know that Nigerians are foolish and so they root for the shortest means of governance (Getting very few and using force on the populace) how do u expect a good business man (politician) to provide amenities for the populace when he/she could easily buy the interest of few thugs that would disrupt the process in order for them to achieve their aims? Look around you and would see the govt has fulfilled their promises (Ironically though) don't you see bikes, keke etc being distributed after elections? My caretaker have one from the previous election--- bro. these people have sold our future, and funny enough; They are fellow commoners that their children will still come online to complain in the nearest future. These people were brought up poorly, go out during elections and see your fellow commoners causing havoc and selling us to politicians cheaply, who would gladly buy (Everyone will) I grew up meeting a lot of politicians meeting my Dad, promising him everything to join politics, but he always didn't comply and i grew up to follow same step because my parents brought me up with the mentality that; Money is not Everything unlike MOST parents these days...
Bro. Politicians are not our problem, the people are. If we are are ready to move forward; then we MUST work on our mentality and Politicians don't have any other option than to dance to our tune. Parental upbringing and positive mindset is the ONLY way to achieve this .
For the aspects of Adults sleeping with kids; Bro. Not everyone out there is good, we have a lot of heartless people that don't think twice provided its not their child, A good parental upbring would go a long way to reduce this issue of Sleeping with under age.
If you see how teenagers sleep with anything for money these days ( Most of their parents are aware) then you would know why we have a lot of Baby mamas, mature singles and unreasonable dirvoce these days. Parents are lagging a lot bros.

UnfairLife7:
yes i know most average Nigerians generally are corrupt minded persons. My point is why would those bosses of yours be sleeping with young girls when possibly they are married? Why would they sleep with female job applicants before they give them jobs? I didn't see you blame government in your comments. Lol, one thing you should know is that you are not more Nigerian than anyone calling out government. You're not more Nigerian than anyone telling government their failure. Tell your government to reduce costs of governance. Tell your government to provide jobs for those young guys coming out of school yearly. Tell your government to change and amend the constitution. Tell your government to make political offices unattractive. We want those that'd serve only not those corrupt entity. Tell your government to provide saner environment. Tell your government to give us power please. We're not asking too much. You can't put the whole blame on parents and these children. These children had siblings who graduated from school but still jobless or underemployed. They aren't blind. Have you ever imagine why do we have much more cyber fraudsters amongst our youths and prostitution this time of the day compare to 2-3 decades back? There's hunger in the land. An isle hand is the devil workshop. How many family can feed now in Nigeria? How many family can afford paying those high tuition fees in our tertiary institutions? How many family can afford federal government college now?

You see those small small boys and girls doing Yahoo and prostitution, i blame them completely not government. They are greedy. They are too obsessed with quick money at their young age. Most of those guys are not even ready to work. Give them 100k job, they'd reject it. They're used to quick and fast money.


Government has so much to do, parents/guidian has a whole lots to do.

MSN1:
If you read my post carefully, you would have seen where i mentioned govt. bro., whether you agree or not, most govt. decisions are geared towards their selfish interests, these people know that Nigerians are foolish and so they root for the shortest means of governance (Getting very few and using force on the populace) how do u expect a good business man (politician) to provide amenities for the populace when he/she could easily buy the interest of few thugs that would disrupt the process in order for them to achieve their aims? Look around you and would see the govt has fulfilled their promises (Ironically though) don't you see bikes, keke etc being distributed after elections? My caretaker have one from the previous election--- bro. these people have sold our future, and funny enough; They are fellow commoners that their children will still come online to complain in the nearest future. These people were brought up poorly, go out during elections and see your fellow commoners causing havoc and selling us to politicians cheaply, who would gladly buy (Everyone will) I grew up meeting a lot of politicians meeting my Dad, promising him everything to join politics, but he always didn't comply and i grew up to follow same step because my parents brought me up with the mentality that; Money is not Everything unlike MOST parents these days...
Bro. [b]Politicians are not our problem, the people are. [/b]If we are are ready to move forward; then we MUST work on our mentality and Politicians don't have any other option than to dance to our tune. Parental upbringing and positive mindset is the ONLY way to achieve this l

you're absolutely right at bolded. Diversity could also be a problem. Ethnicity and religion. I'm not just happy how these guys chose fraudsters to survive. They now see those not indulging in their activities as a fool. They believed once you're not from a rich home and you decided not to do Yahoo, they see those people as insane. They believed those people can never make it in life or at most very few fraction of them would make it at the end.

They claimed to be following those politicians step. Afterall most of them if not all are thieves. Parents too now encourage these guys. Parents couldn't provide for their children unlike before due to harsh economy, hence, the need to support these guys into fraudulent act inorder to support the family. Likewise their daughters going into prostitution for survival and help the family. Some of these guys are the bread winner of their family. Poverty has turned most of these parents to something else. They even fight and abuse anyone that refused to join the bandwagon. These same parents go to church on Sunday and mosque on Friday. I understand poverty could make someone eat even his/her enemy food. I understand poverty is very very bad. Nonetheless, i wouldn't support fraud just to escape poverty. Maybe something else.

MSN1:
Well said...
i always tell people. Nature is fair, just that humans forget that; whatever your input is determines your output... We are suffering aggressively from a lot of previous sins. Only few would know this.

You're spot on 💯

UnfairLife7:
yes i know most average Nigerians generally are corrupt minded persons. My point is why would those bosses of yours be sleeping with young girls when possibly they are married? Why would they sleep with female job applicants before they give them jobs? I didn't see you blame government in your comments. Lol, one thing you should know is that you are not more Nigerian than anyone calling out government. You're not more Nigerian than anyone telling government their failure. Tell your government to reduce costs of governance. Tell your government to provide jobs for those young guys coming out of school yearly. Tell your government to change and amend the constitution. Tell your government to make political offices unattractive. We want those that'd serve only not those corrupt entity. Tell your government to provide saner environment. Tell your government to give us power please. We're not asking too much. You can't put the whole blame on parents and these children. These children had siblings who graduated from school but still jobless or underemployed. They aren't blind. Have you ever imagine why do we have much more cyber fraudsters amongst our youths and prostitution this time of the day compare to 2-3 decades back? There's hunger in the land. An isle hand is the devil workshop. How many family can feed now in Nigeria? How many family can afford paying those high tuition fees in our tertiary institutions? How many family can afford federal government college now?

You see those small small boys and girls doing Yahoo and prostitution, i blame them completely not government. They are greedy. They are too obsessed with quick money at their young age. Most of those guys are not even ready to work. Give them 100k job, they'd reject it. They're used to quick and fast money.


Government has so much to do, parents/guidian has a whole lots to do.

A quick one Sir......I agree with your input on there.


I wanna know........who is this said government we're blaming and Bosses getting intended workers laid b4 giving employment?



The answer is... they're Nigerians.... people from a particular family.

Family is the basic unit of any society.


As bad as the whole country is...we still have people that never compromise irrespective of the pressure met on them by the society...why?

Because of the training given from the natal family.

I'd dedicate *se bi o ti mo* by Brymo 4 you sir.


If everyone takes proper care of his duty which is family... we'd have a saner country and people leading us.



Change starts from me and you.

Parenting is vital but has largely failed.

I really envy some parents the way they bring up their children...

My aunt's late husband who worked in shell (Rich and comfortable) NEVER allowed All his children access to smart phone until Uni. level. Luxurious living and lavish spendings were totally out of their lifestyle and till date; All the children are so humble like their late Dad. They have houses, cars, well educated and they go abroad anyhow but you will never know when you see them. THEIR DECENCY AND HUMILITY IS TOP NOTCH.