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N20,000 Tradermoni Tears Adamawa Couple Apart As Husband Drags Wife To Court / Man Changes His Surname To His Mother’s Name / My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. (2) (3) (4)

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Focus001: 7:57am On Aug 13, 2023
Waffarianman:




That's before not now, try it with some persons then you'll see head rolling on the ground.

The fact that you are able to impregnant a woman does not mean you are a father. As stated in the case, the woman alleged that he is not responsible. He need to do the needful, if he want to own the children.

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Waffarianman(m): 8:02am On Aug 13, 2023
Focus001:


The fact that you are able to impregnant a woman does not mean you are a father. As stated in the case, the woman alleged that he is not responsible. He need to do the needful, if he want to own the children.

I know you're an Igbo man but that doesn't change what's in the man mind, it happened here in delta to my friend her wife and her parents try to claim their kids and we claimed, collect all of them kids from her parents and nothing happens till today she and her parents lost the battle. For the past years she's has been begging to come back she can't see the kids again... If that's their tradition, ours is not like that

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by histemple: 8:05am On Aug 13, 2023
Mindlog:
From the report they were never married as bride price was never paid. just cohabiting.

In many igbo communities, children of such relationship belong to the woman's family and should she get married to another man, those children will remain with her family of birth while in some igbo communities, the man who eventually pays her bride price becomes the father of those children and bears his name.......ask questions before opting to be a baby daddy.

The traditions and culture of a tribe cannot override the laws of Nigeria.

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by greggng: 8:09am On Aug 13, 2023
codemaniacs:


So what is the surname of children born in baby factories?

If your story is true then your case is very different. Your ex wanted to travel out of the country with your children and she needs consent document or a document showing that the court has given her custody of the children since you are not dead that the children are her children.

Infact your story sounds fake and concocted because all she needed from you is an approval document stating that the she is the mother of the children and you are allowing her to travel with the children.

and if Nigeria or the Yoruba states in Nigeria had sense and were very conscious of their traditional laws then the only thing they would have needed is a from you or your family member... If you were dead she would have had to bring a document and evidence proving your death.

Again your story is suspicious because Ekweremadu was able to travel outside the country with another person's child without his parents consent.


It baffles me how you people sit down in the comfort of your home to assume things that are not right . I am not the type that would like to come to a forum like this to drop this kind of sensitive info knowing fully well the implication. I even dropped this info cos my ex died last year ...she died while having birth to a baby for her new husband . I was told they induced the labour ...is jefocal terms. May her soul rest in peace... if she is still alive I won't come here to drop this info cos is kinda sensitive . For some of you still doubting...This case is documented at festac passport office...I have no reason to come and lie here ..Everything I stated is 100 percent true . If you don't believe my story is your business not my business.. check my profile ...I have a name to.protect ...I don't concoct story to entertain people ...some of my ex people are reading this now ...my moniker has remained unchanged for more than 10years I have been a member here ...I only posted this to support what the op said ...his story has some similarity like mine .

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Dreament(m): 8:14am On Aug 13, 2023
Entprys:

Then they are naturally b@stards
the same useless culture could have also educate her girl child not to open leg for someone she is not married to. And who does that we be sacrifice to amadioha.
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by OlujobaSamuel: 8:16am On Aug 13, 2023
MrDoGood:


Your tradition is different from the constitution governing a state.

Except the man don't want issues and choose to let his kids go away

Leave am ooo, it's just like the tradition of woman can not inherit, the court has ruled against it that it has no place in our society.
No court will rule in favor of such custom, if such kids should grow up, where will he lay claim to? Which traditional title can he hold? What political post can he aspire for?
Will the wife or new husband constituency allow him or her to represent them?
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by IamAsiri: 8:17am On Aug 13, 2023
codemaniacs:










So what is the surname of children born in baby factories?

What's your point exactly?

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by nedekid: 8:18am On Aug 13, 2023
IconicR:
So tribe is still a major factor in Nigeria marriages? It's sad.
This has nothing to do with tribe. For all you know that woman was probably born and breed in that town and might be Igbo only by name.
The issue might be that her bride price was not paid. I understand in some cultures you cannot claim children from a woman you have not paid the bride price ie dowry. The kids bears the ladies father's name or who eventually pays her dowry.
How can a man keep a woman for 24 years, with 4 grown children and not marry her?

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by ufotunang: 8:18am On Aug 13, 2023
jeromestarks:
You see why I say fvck any girl you want but when it comes to marriage, find a virgin woman and marry. Only her can guarantee you a happy home you can return to after work.

Never marry a woman you did not disvirgin, she will never forget her ex. She will fvck him whenever he's in town and you will train his children thinking they're yours.

A woman who has been fvcked and mounted by many men is a curse to her children: born and unborn.

She has been fvcking the Igbo man since. He actually owns the children.
... is there any virgin woman around nowadays?
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Dreament(m): 8:18am On Aug 13, 2023
Focus001:


The fact that you are able to impregnant a woman does not mean you are a father. As stated in the case, the woman alleged that he is not responsible. He need to do the needful, if he want to own the children.
after one child she didn't know he was not responsible. She was still there to have more with him. The most useless person is the man that take custody of four children in this 21 century.

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Mindlog: 8:26am On Aug 13, 2023
StJasper:


Whenever a person from another tribe falls victim of your so called culture, you always celebrate and eulogize your culture but whenever its other people's culture, then you will start wailing.

How can someone from "another tribe fall victim" if he had properly married the woman? Do you think it is applicable to only non-igbo men? When you research you will find out that there are many igbo men over the decades who had no paternal custody of their biological children because they did not marry the mothers of their children. In igbo land, bride price is what traditionally makes a man an in-law not being a baby daddy.

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by biafranrealson: 8:26am On Aug 13, 2023
The yoruba man is highly irresponsible for the fact that he never paid any dowry.
In igbo culture concubine does not carry child.
Maybe he is the ogogoro drinking type, lazy without means of livelihood and has seen an igbo woman to parasite on .
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Mindlog: 8:29am On Aug 13, 2023
Dreament:
after one child she didn't know he was not responsible. She was still there to have more with him. The most useless person is the man that take custody of four children in this 21 century.

Many men who have issues with procreating, traditionally become fathers through this means and his kindred would accept the child/children, the wife is coming with into the marriage.
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Mindlog: 8:35am On Aug 13, 2023
histemple:


The traditions and culture of a tribe cannot override the laws of Nigeria.

Marry a woman properly or agree to pay her to be a surrogate mother, so you don't bother yourself with marriage.
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Noaim: 8:37am On Aug 13, 2023
Smartguyboy:


The man have no right over the children because you pregnant someone and you the you are automatically owner of the kids without doing the right thing?

Someone should advise the man to go and pay her bride price if he want his kids back that tradition the lady will have no right to stop him.

Unless the lady refuse to let him pay the bride price then he can do whatever he want.

But come to think of it how can a man marry another man wife with 4 kids ?


You must be an idiot to think that money (bride price) is more relevant to biological DNA.

Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by macjurek(m): 8:37am On Aug 13, 2023
That woman is the typical Igbo person orientation and cultural inclined with tribe addicts.

It is usually of the Igbo,so much bastard knowing their father's but are denied the father surname due to their cultural beliefs.

If a man married a woman with four children and allowed their names to be changed to his,the same cultural inclined tribe addicts.

The Children are actually not educated,or educated illiterate,with common sense of timid and locals.

If this is true,the new man(husband) show be questions and corrected because the DNA of the children are not his and the woman in question needs psychological therapy.

Thanks
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Mindlog: 8:43am On Aug 13, 2023
Waffarianman:




That's before not now, try it with some persons then you'll see head rolling on the ground.

You are better off having children with women you are married to or you paid to be surrogate mothers for your children, no go dey do babby daddy with ladies from certain communities, ask first. Davido know how far!
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Sirbruno3000(m): 8:49am On Aug 13, 2023
Sure na. Especially among the ibos.
IconicR:
So tribe is still a major factor in Nigeria marriages? It's sad.
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Waffarianman(m): 8:51am On Aug 13, 2023
Mindlog:


You are better off having children with women you are married to or you paid to be surrogate mothers for your children, no go dey do babby daddy with ladies from certain communities, ask first. Davido know how far!


Ok I hear

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Sirbruno3000(m): 8:51am On Aug 13, 2023
If the foundation is faulty what can the righteous do?
izonborn098:
The new husband mumu'
The wife na another mumu'
The children are also glueless and fool'
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by nwanyiugbo122(f): 9:15am On Aug 13, 2023
Mindlog:
From the report they were never married as bride price was never paid. just cohabiting.

In many igbo communities, children of such relationship belong to the woman's family and should she get married to another man, those children will remain with her family of birth while in some igbo communities, the man who eventually pays her bride price becomes the father of those children and bears his name.......ask questions before opting to be a baby daddy.
100% correct. That's how it goes in Igbo land.

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by tctrills: 9:22am On Aug 13, 2023
talented321:
Some women IQ is very low' and the new husband is another unserious man' he can't tell his glueless wife that such thing can not happen.
And the children i don't know how to describe them.
This nonsense will not even attempt to happen in my tribe' who pride price epp' for my children i have fed for more than 20years.
In igbo land it is not accepted but in yoruba land it is accept' how do we do about that? who will now obey who?'
Some people just dey play for this country''
I disagree with you. The kids are old enough to decide for themselves. If their father had no positive impact in their lives then why keep his name.

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by JuanDeDios: 9:41am On Aug 13, 2023
Mindlog:


If a man's culture see no reason to pay bride price, he can't impose same on the woman who comes from where paying bride price is very fundamental and he is free not to involve bride price when his own daughter is getting married.
Which gives a woman the right to take a man's children and give them to whoever she likes. Wonderful.

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Beigalodesigns(m): 9:47am On Aug 13, 2023
talented321:
Some women IQ is very low' and the new husband is another unserious man' he can't tell his glueless wife that such thing can not happen.
And the children i don't know how to describe them.
This nonsense will not even attempt to happen in my tribe' who pride price epp' for my children i have fed for more than 20years.
In igbo land it is not accepted but in yoruba land it is accept' how do we do about that? who will now obey who?'
Some people just dey play for this country''
So you didn't see where the lady said the idiot is an irresponsible man doesn't provide or ask about welfare?
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by StJasper(m): 9:49am On Aug 13, 2023
Mindlog:


How can someone from "another tribe fall victim" if he had properly married the woman? Do you think it is applicable to only non-igbo men? When you research you will find out that there are many igbo men over the decades who had no paternal custody of their biological children because they did not marry the mothers of their children. In igbo land, bride price is what traditionally makes a man an in-law not being a baby daddy.

Thank God you said Igbo land, not in Nigeria or all over the world.

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by obynokoko: 9:50am On Aug 13, 2023
He didn't pay your bride price and you were living with him for over 20yrs,eating his food and having sex with him and bearing children for him only for you to know that he is irresponsible
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by talented321: 9:52am On Aug 13, 2023
So because life didn't favor your father' the best thing is to abandon him' are those children aware they will be fathers and mothers tomorrow'
I am not in support of the father but what the children did is not convincing.
Beigalodesigns:

So you didn't see where the lady said the idiot is an irresponsible man doesn't provide or ask about welfare?
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Elizkid: 9:52am On Aug 13, 2023
jeromestarks:
You see why I say fvck any girl you want but when it comes to marriage, find a virgin woman and marry. Only her can guarantee you a happy home you can return to after work.

Never marry a woman you did not disvirgin, she will never forget her ex. She will fvck him whenever he's in town and you will train his children thinking they're yours.

A woman who has been fvcked and mounted by many men is a curse to her children: born and unborn.

She has been fvcking the Igbo man since. He actually owns the children.

Did your father deflower your mother?

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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by talented321: 9:59am On Aug 13, 2023
I am not in support of what the father did.
So because life didn't favour ur father' and the best thing to do is to abandon him' are those children aware they will be fathers and mothers tomorrow.
I don't like their step
tctrills:

I disagree with you. The kids are old enough to decide for themselves. If their father had no positive impact in their lives then why keep his name.
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by BlissGod: 10:01am On Aug 13, 2023
Dreament:
the father maybe the worse father on Earth. But when a mum have nutured her children against their father from birth, forget it their is nothing the man Will do that will please the children. Especially when they are with their mum. Normally how can you even change your children surename to your new husband name.
You lack wisdom in speech, and incoherent in thoughts. We don’t know the whole story but don’t forget 3 out of 4kids are adults already.
They’re not stupid, they know who and the type of man the father was before enabling such decisions from the mother.
The case is lost because this man did not respect the girl’s family enough to marry her daughter after years of marriage.

He was too confident that the woman won’t leave. Imagine you having a babe and she gets pregnant and the least you should do is meet her family for proper marriage, then you forget that aspect and then have more three kids, it shows you’re disillusioned greatly.

If that woman would have died in that years of marriage, this man will see hot 🥵 real coals of fire on his scrotum.

Do the right thing so you can stand strong during times of percussion.
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by damoobaba: 10:04am On Aug 13, 2023
I just hope all our yoruba people marrying igbo girls because of cheap puzzy will learn a lesson.
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by BlissGod: 10:05am On Aug 13, 2023
Plenty grammar with absolutely zilch sense
macjurek:
That woman is the typical Igbo person orientation and cultural inclined with tribe addicts.

It is usually of the Igbo,so much bastard knowing their father's but are denied the father surname due to their cultural beliefs.

If a man married a woman with four children and allowed their names to be changed to his,the same cultural inclined tribe addicts.

The Children are actually not educated,or educated illiterate,with common sense of timid and locals.

If this is true,the new man(husband) show be questions and corrected because the DNA of the children are not his and the woman in question needs psychological therapy.

Thanks

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