I started dating this girl and up until recently she left me and she didn't even do it maturely, she had been giving me unnecessary attitude for days so thought it was normal and I asked her to come out and she said she can't come out because she doesn't feel like and cut the call, called her about two times and I just read the situation and left her alone for good.

I've been doing good for the past two months because I completely cut her out of my life and started my self improvement journey all over again after the relationship drained all my energy from focusing on myself.

Now this Sunday I found myself thinking about her and I went ahead to unblock her and check what's she's up to and the feelings are coming back as guilt heavily on me like I was the one that bleeped up.

I always used to scold this girl alot almost everytime we had an issue but it's not because I liked it it's because anytime I tried to talk normally to her to solve an issue she'll keep gaslighting me like I don't know what I'm saying, giving exclamations like hmm, nawa oo and all that when I'm speaking so it always made me angry that all the things she did it me we never got to talk about it we'll but it was always about her and how I made her angry.

She just sits there and doesn't make an effort to talk when it comes to solving issues, she'll just be silent and sometimes she'll look at me and just throw her face away and it pissed me off that's why I always shouted for her like why in the hell are you acting this way.

She only responded to when I scold her or treat her like a child that's when she behaves normal that I no longer even talked normally to her when we have issues all I do is go there scold her and bounce out then we keep malice for some days until she calls or I call.

I was fustrated in the relationship honestly but I started the scolding when we first started dating that everything I did always made her angry, every day she'll vex for everything and I'll be apologizing like everything about me is wrong so I got pissed went to meet her and shouted for her since then misbehavior started.

so I'm confused and filled with guilt that was I the one to broke my relationship because honestly as a person I don't even know myself anymore after the relationship that's why I'm trying to work on myself again.

People around there think I'm an abusive partner now, at that time when I scold her she'll always tell our mutual friends and there was time she even recorded me scolding her. Honestly I'm filled with so much regret because all I wanted was peace and logical reasoning then all these

Now after the relationship anytime something I'm not expecting happens my heart's starts beating so fast it's uncomfortable (it think it's anxiety) it developed when this girl started giving me attitude my silly self started panicking. After two months of dating this girl everything changed after our first argument I don't even know, everytime she met me she was frowning from start to end of relationship, she's always rushing home, always has something on her mind, doesn't want to discuss serious issues

I'm not an emotional guy but the way I got attached to this girl I don't understand. Guys pls help me with advise I need it

DamianDd:
I started dating this girl and up until recently she left me and she didn't even do it maturely, she had been giving me unnecessary attitude for days so thought it was normal and I asked her to come out and she said she can't come out because she doesn't feel like and cut the call, called her about two times and I just read the situation and left her alone for good.

I've been doing good for the past two months because I completely cut her out of my life and started my self improvement journey all over again after the relationship drained all my energy from focusing on myself.

Now this Sunday I found myself thinking about her and I went ahead to unblock her and check what's she's up to and the feelings are coming back as guilt heavily on me like I was the one that bleeped up.

I always used to scold this girl alot almost everytime we had an issue but it's not because I liked it it's because anytime I tried to talk normally to her to solve an issue she'll keep gaslighting me like I don't know what I'm saying, giving exclamations like hmm, nawa oo and all that when I'm speaking so it always made me angry that all the things she did it me we never got to talk about it we'll but it was always about her and how I made her angry.

She just sits there and doesn't make an effort to talk when it comes to solving issues, she'll just be silent and sometimes she'll look at me and just throw her face away and it pissed me off that's why I always shouted for her like why in the hell are you acting this way.

She only responded to when I scold her or treat her like a child that's when she behaves normal that I no longer even talked normally to her when we have issues all I do is go there scold her and bounce out then we keep malice for some days until she calls or I call.

I was fustrated in the relationship honestly but I started the scolding when we first started dating that everything I did always made her angry, every day she'll vex for everything and I'll be apologizing like everything about me is wrong so I got pissed went to meet her and shouted for her since then misbehavior started.

so I'm confused and filled with guilt that was I the one to broke my relationship because honestly as a person I don't even know myself anymore after the relationship that's why I'm trying to work on myself again.

People around there think I'm an abusive partner now, at that time when I scold her she'll always tell our mutual friends and there was time she even recorded me scolding her. Honestly I'm filled with so much regret because all I wanted was peace and logical reasoning then all these

Now after the relationship anytime something I'm not expecting happens my heart's starts beating so fast it's uncomfortable (it think it's anxiety) it developed when this girl started giving me attitude my silly self started panicking. After two months of dating this girl everything changed after our first argument I don't even know, everytime she met me she was frowning from start to end of relationship, she's always rushing home, always has something on her mind, doesn't want to discuss serious issues

I'm not an emotional guy but the way I got attached to this girl I don't understand. Guys pls help me with advise I need it

You need to TALK MORE....

don't bottle up how you feel

hope you have friends you can be OPEN to, or are you an INTROVERT?

Anyway, YOU DID WELL BY LETTING HER GO.

But

The wisdom you lack is by doing relationships the right way and the right time.


from your post, it is clear that YOU ARE NOT REALLY MATURE ENOUGH TO HANDLE WOMEN.... you have alot to learn.

It is also clear that THE LADY NEVER LOVED YOU, she only loved how you loved her.

NOW, start studying on relationships... LEARN PROPERLY so you can HEAL properly

STOP HOPING SHE CALLS, OR TEXTS OR APOLOGIZES.... she won't.

Stop waiting to be SAVED.... no one is coming to your rescue.

Start BUILDING YOUR FINANCES UNAPPOLOGETICALLY

Go to the GYM, it will take your mind off the lady.


Focus on your GROWTH.... get back in the game of life and keep winning.
You are a KING.... you shouldn't be feeling this way, REPLACE HER WITH PRODUCTIVE ACTIVITIES, not with another woman.

yrhuhfy113:


You need to TALK MORE....

don't bottle up how you feel

hope you have friends you can be OPEN to, or are you an INTROVERT?

Anyway, YOU DID WELL BY LETTING HER GO.

But

The wisdom you lack is by doing relationships the right way and the right time.


from your post, it is clear that YOU ARE NOT REALLY MATURE ENOUGH TO HANDLE WOMEN.... you have alot to learn.

It is also clear that THE LADY NEVER LOVED YOU, she only loved how you loved her.

NOW, start studying on relationships... LEARN PROPERLY so you can HEAL properly

STOP HOPING SHE CALLS, OR TEXTS OR APOLOGIZES.... she won't.

Stop waiting to be SAVED.... no one is coming to your rescue.

Start BUILDING YOUR FINANCES UNAPPOLOGETICALLY

Go to the GYM, it will take your mind off the lady.


Focus on your GROWTH.... get back in the game of life and keep winning.
You are a KING.... you shouldn't be feeling this way, REPLACE HER WITH PRODUCTIVE ACTIVITIES, not with another woman.

Honestly I don't have friends, the ones I have I just recently found out they don't value me that much so I cut them off. Thanks I'm trying my best work on myself

yrhuhfy113:


You need to TALK MORE....

don't bottle up how you feel

hope you have friends you can be OPEN to, or are you an INTROVERT?

Anyway, YOU DID WELL BY LETTING HER GO.

But

The wisdom you lack is by doing relationships the right way and the right time.


from your post, it is clear that YOU ARE NOT REALLY MATURE ENOUGH TO HANDLE WOMEN.... you have alot to learn.

It is also clear that THE LADY NEVER LOVED YOU, she only loved how you loved her.

NOW, start studying on relationships... LEARN PROPERLY so you can HEAL properly

STOP HOPING SHE CALLS, OR TEXTS OR APOLOGIZES.... she won't.

Stop waiting to be SAVED.... no one is coming to your rescue.

Start BUILDING YOUR FINANCES UNAPPOLOGETICALLY

Go to the GYM, it will take your mind off the lady.


Focus on your GROWTH.... get back in the game of life and keep winning.
You are a KING.... you shouldn't be feeling this way, REPLACE HER WITH PRODUCTIVE ACTIVITIES, not with another woman.

And yes I'm an introvert