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A very important question I'd like to ask the group. I need help in identifying some of my flaws

1) Since I was young I've never found the ability to trust a woman, any girl I date i just don't believe that she can instantly just love me just on a matter of days.

2) I don't believe in love, it's not because of heartbreak it's just because I've always just believed it some how

3) I find it hard to tell a girl I love you

4) I don't know how to love another person as much as I love myself and my family rather I'd say I don't have the ability to trust and give all my to another person

5) I don't trust people and if I eventually do and they break that trust it can't be replaced and then I begin to withdraw from them slowly cutting them out of my life

6) Girls usually like me alot that if I walk into a room of three girls atleast one or two would be attracted to me but I hardly notice and even if I do I don't take it seriously

7) Girls tend to respect me alot, some go tithe extent of greeting me and when I walk in their actions and reactions change from how a normal behaves

8 If I date a girl and eventually she does something that breaks my trust like starts texting or calling her ex my attitude towards her suddenly changes and I lose all respect for her but it only shows when I angry and always treat her badly. But if in the case she didn't break my trust I don't even get angry at anything she does and I respect her alot

I need answers because I'm on the journey of knowing more about myself after my past relationship, I'm I a narcissist? I had instances that make me think I am because the few I've dated I hardly show them deep love just normal affection that's all

u no go ever marry mr, ur not born to love.....chikena

libertyfather:
u no go ever marry mr, ur not born to love.....chikena

I recently found out I don't plan on getting married, I don't see the benefits of it

anyway its good cause nothing dey marriage

DamianDd:
I recently found out I don't plan on getting married, I don't see the benefits of it

DamianDd:
A very important question I'd like to ask the group. I need help in identifying some of my flaws
1) Since I was young I've never found the ability to trust a woman, any girl I date i just don't believe that she can instantly just love me just on a matter of days.
2) I don't believe in love, it's not because of heartbreak it's just because I've always just believed it some how
3) I find it hard to tell a girl I love you
4) I don't know how to love another person as much as I love myself and my family rather I'd say I don't have the ability to trust and give all my to another person
5) I don't trust people and if I eventually do and they break that trust it can't be replaced and then I begin to withdraw from them slowly cutting them out of my life
6) Girls usually like me alot that if I walk into a room of three girls atleast one or two would be attracted to me but I hardly notice and even if I do I don't take it seriously
7) Girls tend to respect me alot, some go tithe extent of greeting me and when I walk in their actions and reactions change from how a normal behaves
8 If I date a girl and eventually she does something that breaks my trust like starts texting or calling her ex my attitude towards her suddenly changes and I lose all respect for her but it only shows when I angry and always treat her badly. But if in the case she didn't break my trust I don't even get angry at anything she does and I respect her alot
I need answers because I'm on the journey of knowing more about myself after my past relationship, I'm I a narcissist? I had instances that make me think I am because the few I've dated I hardly show them deep love just normal affection that's all

Op, from #1 through #8, all you are literally telling us is that you are plagued with fears and anxieties, probably a result of trauma from your childhood years. What you need is to first get help for those problems before you even approach anyone for intimate relationship. Find a good mental health therapist and go from there. Women are not replacements for mental health professionals.

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Kobojunkie:
Op, from #1 through #8, all you are literally telling us is that you are plagued with fears and anxieties, probably a result of trauma from your childhood years. What you need is to first get help for those problems before you even approach anyone for intimate relationship. Find a good mental health therapist and go from there. Women are not replacements for mental health professionals.