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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Rubyjade: 1:47pm On Aug 27, 2023
Chigozie321:

I'm better off financially here but my main reason is apart from my flexible salaried job, I have some side hustle that I can't effectively supervise if I am not in the country. They are physical businesses and I am still growing them.
Fair enough, go there for vacation but if you have opportunity to move finally don't look back.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by emekajacobogbon(m): 1:50pm On Aug 27, 2023
To whom it may concern
God cannot do what you can do for yourself.
2) You cannot buy God's mind. E.g sowing seeds to challenge God
3) check your place in God, there are levels in God.
4) Don't be deceived by the way and manner these pastors present God to us. Money does not move God.
5) God has his own timing which is best for you
6) Your soul is the most important thing to God and Satan. God can give you all things in due time but Satan can give you sharply and kill you before God's time
7) There are some specific people who are special to God from birth. Don't compare yourself to them even if they are your junior in the house or at school.
Respect them and be blessed, curse them and be cursed.
cool There is "man know man" in spirituality, a bitter truth and a bitter pill to swallow.
9) Not all pastor's prayers can be heard on your behalf. Not all pastors should have their hands laid on your head.
10) Dear, just know that there is God and He is a Good man for that matter.

In all, have it in mind that with or without our approval, He reigns supreme. Whether He gives you food, house or clothes or not. He is still God.
When shedrac, Meshach and Abednego were threatened to be burnt to death in the raging furnace,
What did they say?
What were they thinking?
What actually happened to them?
What happened to the king's?
What did the king do ?
Submit your assignment by this time on Sunday next week.
Just for fun

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by LyfeJennings(m): 1:51pm On Aug 27, 2023
Well for me once U leave
I cut U off
Na my solid guy own pain me pass
We was really cool and I just see say the guy disappear without telling me
E pain me o
I just delete am on all social media platforms and we move

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by CaptainFM1: 1:53pm On Aug 27, 2023
The opposite is what I'm experiencing here. Virtually all my friends have Japa to various part of the world. I don't feel lonely because of the community system we embraced here in Nigeria. Instead all my friends overseas are feeling lonely and bored. They will engage me on long WhatsApp group video call almost everyday. And somehow, I'm getting tired of these their calls. Nigeria bad, Nigeria bad, there's always that home feeling Nigeria offers that they can't get over there.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Chetas81(m): 1:54pm On Aug 27, 2023
THE NIGERIAN CITIZEN FORGOT THAT, AMERICAN WAS NOT CREATE, BECAUSE OF THOSE OF YOU WHO DON'T HAVE ANY GOOD IMPACT OVER YOUR MOTHERLAND, CAN HAVE ANY GOOD CONTRIBUTION, TO FOREIGN LAND

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by samsegs(m): 1:56pm On Aug 27, 2023
So u feel its all about Japa....i've got a sen bro that just japa,,this dude was making 450k/month where he works here in 9ja,,bro is now regretting y he even japa sef,,....japa is for those struggling in 9ja,,not those that ve made it here in 9ja

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Cutehector(m): 1:59pm On Aug 27, 2023
samsegs:
So u feel its all about Japa....i've got a sen bro that just japa,,this dude was making 450k/month where he works here in 9ja,,bro is now regretting y he even japa sef,,....japa is for those struggling in 9ja,,not those that ve made it here in 9ja
lmao.. People forget to tell themselves the truth. No skills nothing and they want to japa.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by phemmyfour: 2:01pm On Aug 27, 2023
Chigozie321:
I'm sure everyone here has a friend or relative that has JAPA in the last two years.

My siblings have all migrated. I'm the only one remaining in Naija. I do not intend to leave the country for some personal reasons at least for now.

At times I feel lonely and unhappy seeing that most of my loved ones have dispersed all over the world. No more going to weddings, house warming, naming, etc. together cry

Where I work, my closest work pals have all migrated. Even most of my church co-workers and neighbours sef don commot.

As an individual/family, how has it affected you? And how are you rebuilding your local network?

How are you making new quality relationships in the workplace, home, place of worship, etc.?
It's really affected my office romance. The moment she left, I lost interest going to work. No point staying behind after closing hour

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by yewit37486: 2:02pm On Aug 27, 2023
Rubyjade:
Which message? Sweetie! My colleague went 8 months ago, she's far better than me here. She said, "she can confidently save 500,000 naira after every other expenses".

Erona my course mate, that came out with a 3rd class, his building his second house.

Iya fati's husband that has been there for over 6 years has finished building his hotel business, a house and planning on bringing Iya fati to the state, their son left last year.

My HR just got her IP same with my operations manager.

The examples cited above, who don achieve pass, the siblings & family members are doing better that him here in Nigeria. I used to think Nigeria would be better but now I have had sense by force.

For anyone who wants to fulfil his/her destiny, life is not a competition, neither is it a rat race. We all came into this world at different times, will leave at different times, and will be judged as INDIVIDUALS. Make a decision for YOURSELF and not because others are doing it.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Anfieldboss: 2:02pm On Aug 27, 2023
Rubyjade:
Why?

Largely the western culture and the effect it might have on my children. I cringe when I see and read on how they are practically trying to shove the whole LGBTQ nonsense down the throats of innocent children.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Anfieldboss: 2:04pm On Aug 27, 2023
Reinaldo:


Don't settle for less and have regrets later

I'm not giving up on the pursuance of success, just looking at exploring other opportunities.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by sammyonal: 2:07pm On Aug 27, 2023
Chigozie321:
I'm sure everyone here has a friend or relative that has JAPA in the last two years.

My siblings have all migrated. I'm the only one remaining in Naija. I do not intend to leave the country for some personal reasons at least for now.

At times I feel lonely and unhappy seeing that most of my loved ones have dispersed all over the world. No more going to weddings, house warming, naming, etc. together cry

Where I work, my closest work pals have all migrated. Even most of my church co-workers and neighbours sef don commot.

As an individual/family, how has it affected you? And how are you rebuilding your local network?

How are you making new quality relationships in the workplace, home, place of worship, etc.?
oga stay behind and look after the house nobody is forcing u biko and stop lamenting, it's Ur choice of staying back adiós

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by franchasofficia: 2:07pm On Aug 27, 2023
Princewill1:
No country is a paradise.

Hardship is everywhere!

it's only dvmb people that doesn't know this.
Consolation of an average Ronu miscreant after voting and supporting an Ebola virus cheesy



US and most developed countries are structured to make it easier for their citizens to succeed. They structured their country to reward hardwork and legitimacy unlike Nigeria designed to make Nigerians fail and to favor criminals and tribal-religious bigots

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Againstallodds: 2:09pm On Aug 27, 2023
FalseProphet1:
I have so many members in the abroad. And I'm very happy because they pay their tithes and offerings in dollars and Euros.

I see more of my members going to the abroad, I see myself becoming very rich.

This I have seen.
so you are earning in dollars now ? In that case you do not need to japa
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by sammyonal: 2:11pm On Aug 27, 2023
maak400:
There's no hope for Nigeria to get better, the future is very bleak. Life is too short to live in a shithole country like Naija where you can be kidnapped and killed despite paying ransom in millions. If things eventually get better, trust me a lot of people will return home, but right now, leave if you have the money. There's nothing wrong with having citizenship of a developed nation.
preach preacher.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by franchasofficia: 2:11pm On Aug 27, 2023
emekajacobogbon:
To whom it may concern
God cannot do what you can do for yourself.
2) You cannot buy God's mind. E.g sowing seeds to challenge God
3) check your place in God, there are levels in God.
4) Don't be deceived by the way and manner these pastors present God to us. Money does not move God.
5) God has his own timing which is best for you
6) Your soul is the most important thing to God and Satan. God can give you all things in due time but Satan can give you sharply and kill you before God's time
7) There are some specific people who are special to God from birth. Don't compare yourself to them even if they are your junior in the house or at school.
Respect them and be blessed, curse them and be cursed.
cool There is "man know man" in spirituality, a bitter truth and a bitter pill to swallow.
9) Not all pastor's prayers can be heard on your behalf. Not all pastors should have their hands laid on your head.
10) Dear, just know that there is God and He is a Good man for that matter.

In all, have it in mind that with or without our approval, He reigns supreme. Whether He gives you food, house or clothes or not. He is still God.
When shedrac, Meshach and Abednego were threatened to be burnt to death in the raging furnace,
What did they say?
What were they thinking?
What actually happened to them?
What happened to the king's?
What did the king do ?
Submit your assignment by this time on Sunday next week.
Just for fun
Interesting piece cool
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by sammyonal: 2:13pm On Aug 27, 2023
Nicols:
The little hope I had for this country which made me return back after 2 attempts vanished on May 29th. Good luck to those who still believe in this entity. I know I can survive anywhere but my children sure deserves better and I wouldn't like them to go through what I passed through to be where I am today. I'll keep ya'll in my prayers.
hahahaha, me no dey look back oooooo😂😂😂😂😍😍

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by sammyonal: 2:15pm On Aug 27, 2023
YeyeGbami:
One man mopol from day one.
nah so I talk and nah the thing wey dem dey call me be that but when opportunity came around nobody tell me before I carry my Kaya commot. Nigeria don do me shege, I dey observe from far.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by motionarena: 2:17pm On Aug 27, 2023
samsegs:
So u feel its all about Japa....i've got a sen bro that just japa,,this dude was making 450k/month where he works here in 9ja,,bro is now regretting y he even japa sef,,....japa is for those struggling in 9ja,,not those that ve made it here in 9ja

Stop capping lies maybe your friend japa go Malta

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by sammyonal: 2:23pm On Aug 27, 2023
Rubyjade:
Which message? Sweetie! My colleague went 8 months ago, she's far better than me here. She said, "she can confidently save 500,000 naira after every other expenses".

Erona my course mate, that came out with a 3rd class, his building his second house.

Iya fati's husband that has been there for over 6 years has finished building his hotel business, a house and planning on bringing Iya fati to the state, their son left last year.

My HR just got her IP same with my operations manager.

The examples cited above, who don achieve pass, the siblings & family members are doing better that him here in Nigeria. I used to think Nigeria would be better but now I have had sense by force.
u can always run a business in Nigeria u know. U will everly break even.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by inkon: 2:24pm On Aug 27, 2023
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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by sammyonal: 2:24pm On Aug 27, 2023
Princewill1:
No country is a paradise.

Hardship is everywhere!

it's only dvmb people that doesn't know this.
hardship compare to Nigeria u know Wetin u dey talk so!

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by samsegs(m): 2:31pm On Aug 27, 2023
motionarena:


Stop capping lies maybe your friend japa go Malta
UK,,manchester to be precised...and this person is a blood to me so he won't lie to me...

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Interactive34: 2:31pm On Aug 27, 2023
samsegs:
So u feel its all about Japa....i've got a sen bro that just japa,,this dude was making 450k/month where he works here in 9ja,,bro is now regretting y he even japa sef,,.... japa is for those struggling in 9ja,,not those that ve made it here in 9ja

Apt.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Rubyjade: 2:33pm On Aug 27, 2023
wink
Anfieldboss:


Largely the western culture and the effect it might have on my children. I cringe when I see and read on how they are practically trying to shove the whole LGBTQ nonsense down the throats of innocent children.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by clockwisereport: 2:34pm On Aug 27, 2023
For me, Out of sight, out of mind. Simple

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Rubyjade: 2:34pm On Aug 27, 2023
sammyonal:
u can always run a business in Nigeria u know. U will everly break even.
Yes but you will contend with regulatory agencies
FIRS
LIRS
Local Government
"Owo da and crew"

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Rubyjade: 2:35pm On Aug 27, 2023
yewit37486:


For anyone who wants to fulfil his/her destiny, life is not a competition, neither is it a rat race. We all came into this world at different times, will leave at different times, and will be judged as INDIVIDUALS. Make a decision for YOURSELF and not because others are doing it.
True, remain in Nigeria and fulfill your destiny.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Interactive34: 2:36pm On Aug 27, 2023
sammyonal:
nah so I talk and nah the thing wey dem dey call me be that but when opportunity came around nobody tell me before I carry my Kaya commot. Nigeria don do me shege, I dey observe from far.

This is the point. Some just want to do it without any plans or opportunity
Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by firearcher: 2:39pm On Aug 27, 2023
Find your purpose in life and you will find out that it is also tied to a location or more.

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by Rubyjade: 2:39pm On Aug 27, 2023
CaptainFM1:
The opposite is what I'm experiencing here. Virtually all my friends have Japa to various part of the world. I don't feel lonely because of the community system we embraced here in Nigeria. Instead all my friends overseas are feeling lonely and bored. They will engage me on long WhatsApp group video call almost everyday. And somehow, I'm getting tired of these their calls. Nigeria bad, Nigeria bad, there's always that home feeling Nigeria offers that they can't get over there.
Go to BIGO and see Nigerian abroad on live broadcast for hours

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Re: Japa: Impact On Friendships & Family by jieta: 2:40pm On Aug 27, 2023
LyfeJennings:
Well for me once U leave
I cut U off
Na my solid guy own pain me pass
We was really cool and I just see say the guy disappear without telling me
E pain me o
I just delete am on all social media platforms and we move
So bad of him, I don't know why some people are like that.

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