My story might sound quite complicated but I’ll tell, early last year, I was in a kinda open relationship with my ex boyfriend and I had this other guy I liked and I was hooking up with. I have not been in the country for sometime and this guy i was hooking up with flew me into the country to see him, I spent 4/5days with him and I went home and a week later I went to see my ex. Long story short I got pregnant for the guy I’m hooking up with and I couldn’t tell my ex because i didn’t want to loose him. I asked a few friends for advice and they advised I should tell the father of the baby first which I did and he sent me some money to get pills. But on the other hand I couldn’t abort the kid without my ex finding out because we speak almost every hour and he knows where I live and can come anytime. So I just told him I was pregnant and I got pills. (It was my first pregnancy) and I didn’t know what i was going to get into when I take the pills, so he asked me to come over to his which I did. On the other hand I couldn’t tell the other guy i was going to be staying at my bf when i take the pill because he would obviously think i was lieing about the kid, i just told him i was going to be staying with my friend and her sister. I was successful with the procedure and four months later I broke up with my ex. Lo and behold this other guy i was hooking up with whom i never saw myself dating became the love of my life and in turn he loved me back and made so much sacrifices for me. Fast forward to the present he found out about what went down with the pregnancy of last year and remember i told him i was at my frnds while i was at my exs, i’m about to lose the man of my dreams because of what happened, i think he will never get to trust me again. He doesn’t even believe the child was his, and i never for one day thought that i’ll come this far with him, please fam what will you advise I should do in this situation

That is how life goes...if you lose this one again, move on ....

1. Since you were sleeping with both of them, how were you sure whose pregnancy it was?

2. What was the point in telling this hookup guy that you're now dating that you were at your ex's house when you took the abortion pills or what is with the potty mouth? You had lied to him then, so why tell him any story again? Was this guy even aware that you had a boyfriend then or did you just tell him now this as well? You can't blame him for not wanting to trust you again or doubting if the pregnancy was his to begin with.

3. When you did tell your ex you were pregnant ( "So I just told him I was pregnant and I got pills" ), with the way you told him, it seems you did not tell him the pregnancy was for someone else but made him believe it was his. Was this ex-bf also aware that you two were in an open relationship or was this a cheating situation that you're calling open relationship?


Your story get as e be. It seems you were playing both of them at the same time and it has backfired. My advice is to desist from open relationship cheating. If you're dating one guy and don't want to keep dating him, then break up with him and then date someone else. Dating and sleeping with different men is yucky and will lead to situations like this. If you know you want to continue this, then at least inform all parties from the get-go or of any important things they need to know about from the onset. Don't start changing stories later and then expect them to still trust you or see you in the same light.

Exdy nice response

Exodus15v11:
1. Since you were sleeping with both of them, how were you sure whose pregnancy it was?

2. What was the point in telling this hookup guy that you're now dating that you were at your ex's house when you took the abortion pills or what is with the potty mouth? You had lied to him then, so why tell him any story again? Was this guy even aware that you had a boyfriend then or did you just tell him now this as well? You can't blame him for not wanting to trust you again or doubting if the pregnancy was his to begin with.

3. When you did tell your ex you were pregnant ( "So I just told him I was pregnant and I got pills" ), with the way you told him, it seems you did not tell him the pregnancy was for someone else but made him believe it was his. Was this ex-bf also aware that you two were in an open relationship or was this a cheating situation that you're calling open relationship?


Your story get as e be. It seems you were playing both of them at the same time and it has backfired. You can't blame this guy for not wanting to trust you again. My advice is to desist from open relationship cheating. If you're dating one guy and don't want to keep dating him, then break up with him and then date someone else

When they were telling you to face your study, you no gree. You were busy jumping from pole to pole . Now look at you, no full stop, paragraph , nothing.

My story might sound quite complicated but I’ll tell, early last year, I was in a kinda open relationship with my ex boyfriend and I had this other guy I liked and I was hooking up with. I have not been in the country for sometime and this guy i was hooking up with flew me into the country to see him, I spent 4/5days with him and I went home and a week later I went to see my ex. Long story short I got pregnant for the guy I’m hooking up with and I couldn’t tell my ex because i didn’t want to loose him. I asked a few friends for advice and they advised I should tell the father of the baby first which I did and he sent me some money to get pills. But on the other hand I couldn’t abort the kid without my ex finding out because we speak almost every hour and he knows where I live and can come anytime. So I just told him I was pregnant and I got pills. (It was my first pregnancy) and I didn’t know what i was going to get into when I take the pills, so he asked me to come over to his which I did. On the other hand I couldn’t tell the other guy i was going to be staying at my bf when i take the pill because he would obviously think i was lieing about the kid, i just told him i was going to be staying with my friend and her sister. I was successful with the procedure and four months later I broke up with my ex. Lo and behold this other guy i was hooking up with whom i never saw myself dating became the love of my life and in turn he loved me back and made so much sacrifices for me. Fast forward to the present he found out about what went down with the pregnancy of last year and remember i told him i was at my frnds while i was at my exs, i’m about to lose the man of my dreams because of what happened, i think he will never get to trust me again. He doesn’t even believe the child was his, and i never for one day thought that i’ll come this far with him, please fam what will you advise I should do in this situation

I pray you lose the guy. Una no Dey stay one place

Fast forward to the present he found out about what went down with the pregnancy of last year and remember i told him i was at my frnds while i was at my exs, i’m about to lose the man of my dreams because of what happened, i think he will never get to trust me again. He doesn’t even believe the child was his, and i never for one day thought that i’ll come this far with him, please fam what will you advise I should do in this situation

The cat is out of the bag. You own up to what you did and accept whatever consequences come your way I guess.

OP Actions have consequences no matter how long it is delayed. This is yours, hug it tight

Apologize to him but if you see he doesn't trust you, respect yourself and leave the relationship

Do not even try to delay your leaving cos you will hurt yourself in the long run

All the best eh

akube34:
I pray you lose the guy. Una no Dey stay one place

You no normal

Don't force yourself on him please. If he doesn't trust you anymore because of what happened i guess you move on with your life. Unless he forgive and still show Interest in you then you could give the relationship a try

I hope you've learnt your lesson in all these right?

mrjojo:
When they were telling you to face your study, you no gree. You were busy jumping from pole to pole . Now look at you, no full stop, paragraph , nothing.

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My dear you are living deep in sin. Please repent.

Even if the man you are in love with marries you, your life will be bitter with time cos the only result of such sinful foundation union is recompense.

Your best bet is let go, repent and allow Jesus to be Lord of your life