obaidan:

"That's Igbo custom and it must be respected ..
You can't be staying with someone's child without doing the right thing and you expect them to just be giving birth like pig.
The worst thing is that they are prophet and prophetess"

i responded to the words above, how are u able to bring child support into this.
the poster insinuated that because a man gets her someone's daughter pregnant without paying her bride price, his right as a father of the kids they have together can be taken away from him because of igbo custom......and I said NO it is not possible. So me i do not get what you are up to with these whole America, child support, 21st century.

But it is possible.

Once she relocates to igboland, that is all.
Otilor.

Your yoruba custom has no sway there. You have no rights to the children there, unless she pities you.
Even the police there will not support you.

If you want to marry, know the culture and do the right thing.
But if you don't like the culture, stay away.

Jennyclay:
The prophetess must have gone through hell for the past 23 years in the hands of her husband reason she has to end that deadly marriage reason she even had to take her kids along.

Nigerian men will beat their wife to coma.
Nigerian men will rape their wife and they would gladly tell you there’s nothing like rape in marriage. Very sick and disgusting men .

Nigerian men won’t even provide and take good care of their wife and children.

Take a look at the case of that gospel singer, Osinachi. Assuming she left that monster of a husband, she would have been alive till now.

schizo na bad tin.

I advise that you seek psych help ASAP

Kay25:
Wetin d yoruba man find go marry those children of fraud na him bring calamity to himself ..jaree

i tire. Why marry omo ajeokutamamomi?

Me no just to fvck and dump their oloshos I dey do here oo

nedekid:

So you want your eg your sister or daughter to get "married" without her bride price being paid? Not be married in the proper way? To stay with a man for 23 years and have kids yet dowry is not paid?
You call the culture of proper marraige rite being done and having consequences if it is not done properly "Usless"?
I am married to an ilaje princess from ondo. A kings daughter and I had to do the right thing to be properly married, white wedding and court wedding was not as important to them as the traditional marriage rites.
I see so many young ladies here in Lagos that will get pregnant, stay with one egbon, saying it is her husband, after 8 months the lady is back in her parents house, next thing is to start runs. Is that the culture you appreciate?

Oga shut the hike up
Do you know if the man has make move to meet the woman family ?
Do you know if she has gotten preg before he sees the marriage list ?
Do you know if the woman calm the mans mind down that they should go live together that what the family demanded is damn high that they will do nothing?
Not supporting the man but the woman here is not saint and also f***k the so called cultural practices

Lemme tell you a little story
One of my big brother impregnate an Igbo lady years ago while in sch, so the agreement is that if the nigga finish university the dowry will be paid
Lol and behold in few month the lady parents move the lady to village or so
Up till this moment we were unable to figure out where the lady and the child his now
Mind you, it’s over 10years

Till this present moment we are still searching for the lady
We need the product of affairs

I will suggest in a strong term that a DNA test should be carried out on the children to determine whether these children actually belong to the former husband.

milann:
is there a way one can bypass tradition and do just court wedding?

I doubt it, except you wish to marry without her parents' approval, which I will never advise.

Once there is understanding on the part of both parents and families, the traditional process can be made moderate, and the groom shielded from so many expenses.

With good understanding, the traditional process can even be done quietly inside the bride's father's house with just one or two witnesses.

Court wedding is definitely non-negotiable, especially for documentation purposes.

nairayouthcom:


Oga shut the hike up
Do you know if the man has make move to meet the woman family ?
Do you know if she has gotten preg before he sees the marriage list ?
Do you know if the woman calm the mans mind down that they should go live together that what the family demanded is damn high that they will do nothing?
Not supporting the man but the woman here is not saint and also f***k the so called cultural practices

Lemme tell you a little story
One of my big brother impregnate an Igbo lady years ago while in sch, so the agreement is that if the nigga finish university the dowry will be paid
Lol and behold in few month the lady parents move the lady to village or so
Up till this moment we were unable to figure out where the lady and the child his now
Mind you, it’s over 10years

Till this present moment we are still searching for the lady
We need the product of affairs

Since you are uncouth, you don't deserve a response.

CSTRR:
That is the traditions and customs of a people.
And as long as it is not harmful to anybody, the Judge has not right to call it names.

Magistrate Segun should tell his people to stick to yoruba women or do the right thing when marrying igbo women./

Na everything dis people dey use show bigotry, even court case too.

no what you should say is that igbos should stay in igboland and stop coming here.. Abi you don ever see any Yoruba wey dey go east go find wife/husband?

Stay in igboland and we won't be seeing you monkeys again

kenex4ever:
The way these people insult what they dont know is funny.

The woman played a fast one on the man and not the custom.

In Igboland, if you don't pay bride price then the child automatically belongs to the woman's father and not any other man. If the new man is interested in taking care of the children in a case where the real father abandoned them, then they are his by adoption.

But the man in question bleeped up, how can u not marry ur wife and you call yourself a prophet.

@bolded - Who made such rule, who made it so without considering the rights of the baby daddy?

CSTRR:

But it is possible.
Once she relocates to igboland, that is all.
Otilor.
Your yoruba custom has no sway there. You have no rights to the children there, unless she pities you.
If you want to marry, know the culture and do the right thing.
But if you don't like the culture, stay away.

Get this right: yoruba custom o, igbo custom o, hausa custom o, edo custom o, the laws of Nigeria go carpet all of them. i no dey do tribal battle.
is igboland not a part of Nigeria again, even in igboland the laws of Nigeria is supreme. I get what you are trying to say, but let me tell you, you cannot hide someone's child inside Nigeria from him. If he is ready to fish u out, na weytin simple pass be that.......highest dem go begin attack each other spiritually but nothing like Otilor my brother, pikin wey say e mama no go rest, im sef no go sleep

Mcreloaded:


You are right to say she is having kids like dogs.
Ur way says dowry before you can claim to be a father.
What of the man's way.
It's her business to find love and marry when her dowry is paid instead of giving birth like dogs as you rightly said.

Tell her to go to a higher court like the supreme court to challenge the decision of the judge that said her igbo tradition is a barbaric one.

Because your igbo women fuuk anything and e erything in sight they end up selling the infant thats why you have more of baby factories because your evil and barbaric tradition allows it.

If you think or believe the judge is wrong g in labeling such as evil and barbaric then you should advice her to go to a supreme court to challenge the decision of the lower court.

Like it or not it is evil to take children and give another man on the ground that dowry was not paid.
Only stupid men from your part will claim another man's children on the grounds that dowry was not paid.

Where I come from I am very certain that our men will never take another man's children and give the children our name because dowry was not paid by the other man.
Who does that.
Some men stupid for this life sha to want to claim another man children.

Una .e. no go go born their own.
Na so the toootoo sweet

igbankwu nwanyi is a well respected tradition.
The man should go and pay bride price !! Nobody is dragging his wife and children with him.

The judge will call it whatever name he Wants because it’s not an English tradition.

The woman’s who’s changing the name of the children is just wasting her time , if truly biologically the children belong to the so called husband

CSTRR:

It's not your business.
It's not yours to understand.

We also don't understand why Yoruba people put sacrifices on the roads, but it's not our business.

Why is that difficult to understand?

If any change had to be made, it should come from the men of that culture.

Sleeping with one ada or Nneka in Lagos does not give you the rights into a culture that's not yours.

If you don't like it, marry from your side.

Na talk you talk like this bah
Culture, culture culture
On of the reason why Africa is still underdeveloped

obaidan:

Get this right: yoruba custom o, igbo custom o, hausa custom o, edo custom o, the laws of Nigeria go carpet all of them. i no dey do tribal battle.
is igboland not a part of Nigeria again, even in igboland the laws of Nigeria is supreme. I get what you are trying to say, but let me tell you, you cannot hide someone's child inside Nigeria from him. If he is ready to fish u out, na weytin simple pass be that.......highest dem go begin attack each other spiritually but nothing like Otilor my brother, pikin wey say e mama no go rest, im sef no go sleep

Then take it to the supreme court.

That magistrate level no go work.

Jennyclay e b like say u no well at all.

Jennyclay:
The prophetess must have gone through hell for the past 23 years in the hands of her husband reason she has to end that deadly marriage reason she even had to take her kids along.

Nigerian men will beat their wife to coma.
Nigerian men will rape their wife and they would gladly tell you there’s nothing like rape in marriage. Very sick and disgusting men .

Nigerian men won’t even provide and take good care of their wife and children.

Take a look at the case of that gospel singer, Osinachi. Assuming she left that monster of a husband, she would have been alive till now.

Angelfrost:

I doubt it, except you wish to marry without her parents' approval, which I will never advise.
Once there is understanding on the part of both parents and families, the traditional process can be made moderate, and the groom shielded from so many expenses.
With good understanding, the traditional process can even be done quietly inside the bride's father's house with just one or two witnesses.
Court wedding is definitely non-negotiable, especially for documentation purposes.

put it properly, court wedding is non-negotiable because that is what confirms marriage. every other thing is just ceremonial, tradition o, custom o, church o, mosque o, shrine o

shortgun:
Oga Yoruba judge what you don't know is above you
....we love our culture.
Imagine an igbo judge said this about Yoruba culture, education indeed doesn't stop some people from being senseless.

In Igbo culture if you don't pay the bride price of a girl any child she births belong to have father and her community...this is done to ensure that the child has rights, a place in the community and not treated as an outcast. Custody is immediately given to the man whenever he shows interest.

The wisdom of our forefathers is beyond whatever nonsense you will learn from the white man's books

Was it also wisdom when your forefathers made human sacrifices and killed twins?

Was the girl kidnapped and/or raped?

You can keep your daughter in your house but the man has rights to their kids

Instead of breaking homes and making the poor children artificially fatherless, your culture should have focused more on training your daughters to not spread their legs for anyone who hasn't paid their bride price.

It is called bride price not child price!!!

nedekid:

So you want your eg your sister or daughter to get "married" without her bride price being paid? Not be married in the proper way? To stay with a man for 23 years and have kids yet dowry is not paid?
You call the culture of proper marriage rite being done and having consequences if it is not done properly "Useless"?
I am married to an ilaje princess from ondo. A kings daughter and I had to do the right thing to be properly married, white wedding and court wedding was not as important to them as the traditional marriage rites.
I see so many young ladies here in Lagos that will get pregnant, stay with one egbon, saying it is her husband, after 8 months the lady is back in her parents house, next thing is to start runs. Is that the culture you appreciate?

How does 'not paying a bride price' invalidates a legal/ church marriage?

How does 'paying a bride price' make a marriage a proper one?

Mcreloaded:


Where I am igbo o girls are the cheapest and easiest to fuuk.
Eleven me when I say the women are evil to the extent that their men don't want to marry them.

Na igbo women full street

leave that one..

Igbo girls wey full hotels for here for olosho work

obaidan:


put it properly, court wedding is non-negotiable because that is what confirms marriage. every other thing is just ceremonial, tradition o, custom o, church o, mosque o, shrine o

Yeah... You are right.

Still, traditional wedding over the others, as that confirms you have gotten the approval from her family... Most courts will ask you this.

ForestHill:
Logically, could this be the reason Igbo women stays married more than 90% of all the tribes combined?

U dey whine

nedekid:

Since you are uncouth, you don't deserve a response.

Defend that culture till tomorrow
Una fathers and mothers, uncles and aunt way Dey village waiting for that Ada to bring husband come house so that they will eat f***ed up

Imagine they still put cigarettes that they will smoke for Dowry (list)

izzou:
I agree with the judge.

But what kind of man marries a woman for 23 years, without settling with the family?

23 years, and you could not pay bride price?

Is the woman a bag of rice that must be paid for?

nairayouthcom:


Na talk you talk like this bah
Culture, culture culture
On of the reason why Africa is still underdeveloped

That culture is even progressive.
It removes women from the whims of a useless man and protects the children.

What future does a man that can not afford to pay brideprice for years offer the children after seperation?
He is only going to act as a stumbling block for another potential father.

If you don't want to lose fatherhood, pay the brideprice.
It's as simple as that, or atleast make her happy so that she doesn't leave you.

You have hundreds of terrible culture in your ethnic group that you should focus on.

CSTRR:

Then take it to the supreme court.

That magistrate level no go work.

the man has a judgement already in his favour, it's now up to the woman to go challenge that ruling at a higher court. Right now he has custody of his kids(shared i believe), i am sure the woman won't even deny him that except she's ready to face contempt of court consequences again. see the best solution in these kind of cases is just for the 2 parties to do a co-parenting arrangement in peace, if u wan fight, u will get bruised

Ttipsy:
igbankwu nwanyi is a well respected tradition.
The man should go and pay bride price !! Nobody is dragging his wife and children with him.

The judge will call it whatever name he Wants because it’s not an English tradition.

Don't call her his wife after all he has. Ot paid the dowry.
Is it not better your women wait for dowry to be paid before they start having children for a man whose tradition is different from yours.

Will it not be better for the children also if the igbo woman does not have to change father.

Be honest with ur self who suffers when a dowry is not paid, is it not the children.

Enlighten your women to stick to their kind or better still confirm the dowry is paid before they start giving birth.


Well sha everything about it o is money money money.

How much you people will make from the dowryis all that matters to you people. It's business for you people as always.

Stop the evil tradition or go to court.

Like I said before,
Are you more knowledgeable than the judge.

Enlighten your women and stop spreading evil.

I hate person's who like evil and I hate a group of people more who like evil.
Your ways are evil and barbaric as stated by the judge.

Wake up and smell the coffee as your ways make people to hate you guys.

Think deep on what we are discussing

Igbos and frauds are like 5&6. How could you transfer children to the man that's not their biological father.? Is that a fraud? Why don't you ask him to pay the bride price? In any case why do you open your dirty legs to a man that has not paid your price when you knew that it was a condition that must be fulfilled? Fraud

ForestHill:
Logically, could this be the reason Igbo women stays married more than 90% of all the tribes combined?

Logically there is no evidence to substantiate this claim that Ibo women stay married more

Where is the proof?

To make such a claim you must have facts and figures

All you have is your imagination and narcissism

That is what you want to believe

CSTRR:

That culture is even progressive.
It removes women from the whims of a useless man and protects the children.

What future does a man that can not afford to pay brideprice for years offer the children after seperation?
He is only going to act as a stumbling block for another potential father.

If you don't want to lose fatherhood, pay the brideprice.
It's as simple as that, or atleast make her happy so that she doesn't leave you.

You have hundreds of terrible culture in your ethnic group that you should focus on.

As in like I don’t understand this shit

Two grown up adult had S**x and reproduce
Then one part (woman) they cap me say the child will belong to another man if I don’t pay dowry

As in I don’t grab
Still on still that culture, una Dey cap rubbish

okoroemeka:
you are answering yourself,every tribe has its own custom and for a learned judge to call wicked and barbaric a custom that places high value on women and rejects baby mama,let all that have ears and eyes listen if you think you can be a father by just getting a woman pregnant in igboland you are wrong,those children are not yours,to everybody the two of you are just doing boyfriend and girlfriend,the first step to fatherhood is taking responsibility,if you cannot pay the brideprice of a woman you loved how can you be a father,if the judge is from Yoruba and they do anyhow that place it is there concern but In igboland we places high value on women and children,i

And the only way to demonstrate the value y'all place on women and children is to deny another man his rights... isn't it?

Emeka, are you normal at all?

Angelfrost:


Yeah... You are right.

Still, traditional wedding over the others, as that confirms you have gotten the approval from her family... Most courts will ask you this.

Are you sure about this. I doubt this is a compulsory requirement. People that didn't do traditional wedding wedding are getting married in Nigerian courts everyday. And don't get me wrong traditional wedding is cool and yes it signifies that her parents have given approval but when e set u can only fight for your rights with proof of court marriage.

.....what is it about Igbo that is humane or godly?

..... tuafaka nonsense

ASAPFERG:
leave that one..

Igbo girls wey full hotels for here for olosho work

No mind am.
Where I come from our men go collect the children and if the women do any hiw she go collect free of charge.

You born for me and you say because I no pay dowry another man go take the children and bear him name.
Na weak men dey carry another person children.

Evil igbo women and their ways.
Them full my side dey do olosho and dey fi d man way go dey foot bills.

Dowry fireeee.

Wey igbo people go say na business that's why them dey make the dowry so high them dey form say na tradition.

Their women full street.

And na so many wey dey form Ada don old for house as no husband unto say dowrymatter too high and customer no come price am.
And the worst part be say the women no get anything to offer other than toootoooo why be the cheapest commodity after cigarette