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sheeda995:
I am writing this because of a post I saw on Frontpage where a woman said she married as a virgin and she lived chaste but unfortunately she is not enjoying her marriage

If anyone reads the comments,you will see how the men were bashing the lady and saying virginity means nothing. This same males would be the one to comment on other posts that only virgins should be married, they will say "young, virgin" etc
This contradiction shows that a woman should never listen to what a man wants or what the society wants, it should be what do I want and what do I need to succeed in life

Being a virgin or being chaste or a good girl will not result in anything other than you not contracting STDs.

Women should also know that marrying young is a ticket to suffering if you are from a struggling family. Don't marry until you are well educated,and with the ability to fend for yourself, that should be the yardstick and not age.

I have learned that life is a game, success is a game you have to play to win,it doesn't mean you should be bad but you must be wise.

All the girls that seems unserious would be more successful than you if you are living a holy life and you are segregating yourself andclaiming some girls are bad. You need to mingle with everyone,good or bad,learn from them, remember to be wise and NEVER LISTEN TO THE SOCIETY

If you want to be a millionaire, you need to have variety of friends to learn from including prostitutes.
You need to look your best all the time, you need to have CLASS, buy yourself a CAR at a young age,wear hills, play games with those men disturbing you, don't yield but don't thrash them either.
If you have a class, low class will not even ask you out, be friendly with everyone.

Never insult anyone,have as many casual friends as possible but never let them in your privacy. Do not bring them home or tell them your secrets(both men and women), learn to smile, never argue or fight with anyone.
When you are in a conversation and it's getting hot, smile and agree with the other person even if they don't make any sense.

Dating and Marriage

Never show a man you can take care of responsibilities, or you are hardworking. Show men you are lazy and spoilt, don't ever do housechores unless they ask/beg you. Spoil yourself always with gifts,cars,clothes.

Remember if you decide to do all chores in the house in Marriage,you will become poor why the man will grow because to make money you need time. Time to plan, time to do your business, if you waste all that time cleaning and cooking, while he uses his own time to think of strategies to make money, thesame him will say he's hustling for money while you don't bring in income to the family. Learn to share house chores with the man or make him hire a cook,nanny,maids.
This is possible if you have shown him from the beginning that you are lazy, you can even fake sickness when you do many chores.
All men can wash dishes, sweep and cook. The best cook in the world is a male.

If you are a young girl,learn to tell men that you are attracted to men that can cook. This is what I did personally, mine is true though as I love men that can cook and all through my life till now, men usually offer to cook for me, including those we never dated, just my friends. When they cook nice foods, praise them and say you hv never tasted foods as good as this,appreciate their hardwork.

Im not saying be a parasite as I also help people in return, I am rich enough to borrow people money,drive them during emergencies, be emotionally supportive as I am a therapist.

If you can utilize these advice, you will make it in life and have good happy home and everyone would like you, those that hate you out of envy won't be able to harm you
I wish I could mentor girls but too busy but hopefully,one day I will have that time

You've spoken as a child of Grace who has no idea it's simoly God's grace that's been keeping her.

Take away God from this equation and every thing you typed here is the reason some girls have destroyed their lives when they fell into wrong hands.

No one formula works for everyone in this life which is why only the Creator of each person knows how to chart them through the course He has prepared for them in life.

Put God first and let him lead you through life.
This applies to both gender.

PS: The thread you referenced just like you is simply a child of Grace who unfortunately does not have a personal relationship with God either.
I've been there and most of our generation fall under this category of children of Grace because our parents were the ones who served God and we inherited the Grace of God through them. Just like Jacob in the bible.
We start truly living when we have our own personal encounter with God.

One say childbirth and pregnancy na wetin she dey bring come table, I tell am say no be my table you go bring that one come. Even goats and pigs get pregnant too.

Na so war start. For my mind, I laugh my wicked laugh. Because for this spot wey I stand for the matter, even hurricane no fit move me

InvertedHammer:
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The beauty of online quasi-counsellors and therapists is that they think human behaviour is pure science.
They think it is like mathematics whereby 2 apples + 3 apples will always equal to 5 apples.

They discount the uniqueness of humans.
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That equally applies as far as much of the advice people get from parents, pastors, etc. Aka society.

This is very dangerous. The decay seen in this generation must have brought up this disaster recipe, which you've put up here. This shouldn't have been pushed to front page.

Any girl who wishes to end her life in regret should just heed this advice. I looked at the successful women in the world today and concluded that, had they toed this path, they'd have ended up as preys to the bad guys in tuehr generation.

You don't need to hubbub with famous guys or girls before you could become successful in life.

Follow the process in utmost fear of God and you'd never end up regretting. I wish the likes of okonjo-iweala, Madam Oby, Adeyemo Alakija, etc had followed this dangerous recipe in their generation. You don't need to tell anyone where they'd have ended today.

Above all, I could see that, the fear of God was missing in your post and that's where you missed it all. No wonder this generation is so rotten.

sheeda995:
I am writing this because of a post I saw on Frontpage where a woman said she married as a virgin and she lived chaste but unfortunately she is not enjoying her marriage

If anyone reads the comments,you will see how the men were bashing the lady and saying virginity means nothing. This same males would be the one to comment on other posts that only virgins should be married, they will say "young, virgin" etc
This contradiction shows that a woman should never listen to what a man wants or what the society wants, it should be what do I want and what do I need to succeed in life

Being a virgin or being chaste or a good girl will not result in anything other than you not contracting STDs.

Women should also know that marrying young is a ticket to suffering if you are from a struggling family. Don't marry until you are well educated,and with the ability to fend for yourself, that should be the yardstick and not age.

I have learned that life is a game, success is a game you have to play to win,it doesn't mean you should be bad but you must be wise.

All the girls that seems unserious would be more successful than you if you are living a holy life and you are segregating yourself andclaiming some girls are bad. You need to mingle with everyone,good or bad,learn from them, remember to be wise and NEVER LISTEN TO THE SOCIETY

If you want to be a millionaire, you need to have variety of friends to learn from including prostitutes.
You need to look your best all the time, you need to have CLASS, buy yourself a CAR at a young age,wear hills, play games with those men disturbing you, don't yield but don't thrash them either.
If you have a class, low class will not even ask you out, be friendly with everyone.

Never insult anyone,have as many casual friends as possible but never let them in your privacy. Do not bring them home or tell them your secrets(both men and women), learn to smile, never argue or fight with anyone.
When you are in a conversation and it's getting hot, smile and agree with the other person even if they don't make any sense.

Dating and Marriage

Never show a man you can take care of responsibilities, or you are hardworking. Show men you are lazy and spoilt, don't ever do housechores unless they ask/beg you. Spoil yourself always with gifts,cars,clothes.

Remember if you decide to do all chores in the house in Marriage,you will become poor why the man will grow because to make money you need time. Time to plan, time to do your business, if you waste all that time cleaning and cooking, while he uses his own time to think of strategies to make money, thesame him will say he's hustling for money while you don't bring in income to the family. Learn to share house chores with the man or make him hire a cook,nanny,maids.
This is possible if you have shown him from the beginning that you are lazy, you can even fake sickness when you do many chores.
All men can wash dishes, sweep and cook. The best cook in the world is a male.

If you are a young girl,learn to tell men that you are attracted to men that can cook. This is what I did personally, mine is true though as I love men that can cook and all through my life till now, men usually offer to cook for me, including those we never dated, just my friends. When they cook nice foods, praise them and say you hv never tasted foods as good as this,appreciate their hardwork.

Im not saying be a parasite as I also help people in return, I am rich enough to borrow people money,drive them during emergencies, be emotionally supportive as I am a therapist.

If you can utilize these advice, you will make it in life and have good happy home and everyone would like you, those that hate you out of envy won't be able to harm you
I wish I could mentor girls but too busy but hopefully,one day I will have that time

You started well but ended up talking thrash.
Anyone that follows your advice will end up hitting the bottom.
Your advice on dating and marriage is the worst I have ever heard. You are giving deception and lies as a way of dating? Very pathetic.
Anyway no serious minded man will tag along with a lady that takes those your dating and marriage advice.
Smacks of something coming from a lazy and entitled fellow.

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Myer:
■ You've spoken as a child of Grace who has no idea it's simoly God's grace that's been keeping her.
Take away God from this equation and every thing you typed here is the reason some girls have destroyed their lives when they fell into wrong hands.
No one formula works for everyone in this life which is why only the Creator of each person knows how to chart them through the course He has prepared for them in life.
Put God first and let him lead you through life.
This applies to both gender.
PS: The thread you referenced just like you is simply a child of Grace who unfortunately does not gave a personal relationship with God either.
I've been there and most of our generation fall under this category of children of Grace because our parents were the ones who served God and we inherited the Grace of God through them. Just like Jacob in the bible.
We start truly living when we have our own personal encounter with God.

God has absolutely nothing to do with these inane claims which are mere opinions and nothing more.

BloodyDoe:
To succed as a woman you need to be shrewd, you need to understand that the world has never been fair to women and it will never be fair to us. Nobody's failure friend, as a woman make sure you're success driven, make your marriage work, make your business work, raise responsible children, take tough decision and if a man breaks your heart, ruin him or better still kill him. POISON IS A WOMAN WEAPON.

In the same way that when a business is failed you need to cut it off, so also, a woman should cut off from a failed marriage. Not sit tight and allow it destroy her.

Newborn27:
Don't forget to add that... things that worked for you might not work for others.

Following the above might cause more damage on many relationships.

It's easier said than done...we have many forming feminist on Nairaland yet living large offline with their boyfriends and sugar daddies.

Do what you feel is best for you and never live life according to another person's script cos you ain't same person...


My 2cent.

You got it very right. Now I believe that reasonable girls still exist.
Not that thrash coming from the OP.

Awesome piece. I am impressed.

sheeda995:
I am writing this because of a post I saw on Frontpage where a woman said she married as a virgin and she lived chaste but unfortunately she is not enjoying her marriage

If anyone reads the comments,you will see how the men were bashing the lady and saying virginity means nothing. This same males would be the one to comment on other posts that only virgins should be married, they will say "young, virgin" etc
This contradiction shows that a woman should never listen to what a man wants or what the society wants, it should be what do I want and what do I need to succeed in life

Being a virgin or being chaste or a good girl will not result in anything other than you not contracting STDs.

Women should also know that marrying young is a ticket to suffering if you are from a struggling family. Don't marry until you are well educated,and with the ability to fend for yourself, that should be the yardstick and not age.

I have learned that life is a game, success is a game you have to play to win,it doesn't mean you should be bad but you must be wise.

All the girls that seems unserious would be more successful than you if you are living a holy life and you are segregating yourself andclaiming some girls are bad. You need to mingle with everyone,good or bad,learn from them, remember to be wise and NEVER LISTEN TO THE SOCIETY

If you want to be a millionaire, you need to have variety of friends to learn from including prostitutes.
You need to look your best all the time, you need to have CLASS, buy yourself a CAR at a young age,wear hills, play games with those men disturbing you, don't yield but don't thrash them either.
If you have a class, low class will not even ask you out, be friendly with everyone.

Never insult anyone,have as many casual friends as possible but never let them in your privacy. Do not bring them home or tell them your secrets(both men and women), learn to smile, never argue or fight with anyone.
When you are in a conversation and it's getting hot, smile and agree with the other person even if they don't make any sense.

Dating and Marriage

Never show a man you can take care of responsibilities, or you are hardworking. Show men you are lazy and spoilt, don't ever do housechores unless they ask/beg you. Spoil yourself always with gifts,cars,clothes.

Remember if you decide to do all chores in the house in Marriage,you will become poor why the man will grow because to make money you need time. Time to plan, time to do your business, if you waste all that time cleaning and cooking, while he uses his own time to think of strategies to make money, thesame him will say he's hustling for money while you don't bring in income to the family. Learn to share house chores with the man or make him hire a cook,nanny,maids.
This is possible if you have shown him from the beginning that you are lazy, you can even fake sickness when you do many chores.
All men can wash dishes, sweep and cook. The best cook in the world is a male.

If you are a young girl,learn to tell men that you are attracted to men that can cook. This is what I did personally, mine is true though as I love men that can cook and all through my life till now, men usually offer to cook for me, including those we never dated, just my friends. When they cook nice foods, praise them and say you hv never tasted foods as good as this,appreciate their hardwork.

Im not saying be a parasite as I also help people in return, I am rich enough to borrow people money,drive them during emergencies, be emotionally supportive as I am a therapist.

If you can utilize these advice, you will make it in life and have good happy home and everyone would like you, those that hate you out of envy won't be able to harm you
I wish I could mentor girls but too busy but hopefully,one day I will have that time

This is a QUICK recipe for any girl to remain single for life♂️

Why do you think most actresses are single? It's a quick preview of most actresses and feminists lives you know 😂😂😂

Show a man you're lazy and spoilt?? Seriously I'm stunned omo see this mentality 😳..

Madam I don't need a prophet to tell me that you're married to an unsuccessful SIMP if at all you're married. And i don't think you have met reasonable men at all to have this mindset.

Let me tell you, most MEN marry for stability now unlike before we are marring for love!!!!

Like osimenh said, if you're not bringing anything just pack and be going abeg🙄

I pity any lady that will take this crap shaaa, she will die single⚠️⚠️

Kobojunkie:
In the same way that when a business is failed you need to cut it off, so also, a woman should cut off from a failed marriage. Not sit tight and allow it destroy her.

I understand your point mam, but not all of us are made of daisies and petals.

Kobojunkie:
God has absolutely nothing to do with these inane claims which are mere opinions and nothing more.

It's in your best interest let's maintain the way we have been avoiding each other.
You have nothing to gain from me, just as I have found I have nothing worth gaining from you.

I exhort you in the name of whatever God you serve.

sheeda995:
I am writing this because of a post I saw on Frontpage where a woman said she married as a virgin and she lived chaste but unfortunately she is not enjoying her marriage

If anyone reads the comments,you will see how the men were bashing the lady and saying virginity means nothing. This same males would be the one to comment on other posts that only virgins should be married, they will say "young, virgin" etc
This contradiction shows that a woman should never listen to what a man wants or what the society wants, it should be what do I want and what do I need to succeed in life

Being a virgin or being chaste or a good girl will not result in anything other than you not contracting STDs.

Women should also know that marrying young is a ticket to suffering if you are from a struggling family. Don't marry until you are well educated,and with the ability to fend for yourself, that should be the yardstick and not age.

I have learned that life is a game, success is a game you have to play to win,it doesn't mean you should be bad but you must be wise.

All the girls that seems unserious would be more successful than you if you are living a holy life and you are segregating yourself andclaiming some girls are bad. You need to mingle with everyone,good or bad,learn from them, remember to be wise and NEVER LISTEN TO THE SOCIETY

If you want to be a millionaire, you need to have variety of friends to learn from including prostitutes.
You need to look your best all the time, you need to have CLASS, buy yourself a CAR at a young age,wear hills, play games with those men disturbing you, don't yield but don't thrash them either.
If you have a class, low class will not even ask you out, be friendly with everyone.

Never insult anyone,have as many casual friends as possible but never let them in your privacy. Do not bring them home or tell them your secrets(both men and women), learn to smile, never argue or fight with anyone.
When you are in a conversation and it's getting hot, smile and agree with the other person even if they don't make any sense.

Dating and Marriage

Never show a man you can take care of responsibilities, or you are hardworking. Show men you are lazy and spoilt, don't ever do housechores unless they ask/beg you. Spoil yourself always with gifts,cars,clothes.

Remember if you decide to do all chores in the house in Marriage,you will become poor why the man will grow because to make money you need time. Time to plan, time to do your business, if you waste all that time cleaning and cooking, while he uses his own time to think of strategies to make money, thesame him will say he's hustling for money while you don't bring in income to the family. Learn to share house chores with the man or make him hire a cook,nanny,maids.
This is possible if you have shown him from the beginning that you are lazy, you can even fake sickness when you do many chores.
All men can wash dishes, sweep and cook. The best cook in the world is a male.

If you are a young girl,learn to tell men that you are attracted to men that can cook. This is what I did personally, mine is true though as I love men that can cook and all through my life till now, men usually offer to cook for me, including those we never dated, just my friends. When they cook nice foods, praise them and say you hv never tasted foods as good as this,appreciate their hardwork.

Im not saying be a parasite as I also help people in return, I am rich enough to borrow people money,drive them during emergencies, be emotionally supportive as I am a therapist.

If you can utilize these advice, you will make it in life and have good happy home and everyone would like you, those that hate you out of envy won't be able to harm you
I wish I could mentor girls but too busy but hopefully,one day I will have that time

Looked like you were making sense till you said women should share housechores and cooking with successful men.
I'm certain you've never met a successful man.

Myer:
■ It's in your best interest let's maintain the way we have been avoiding each other.
You have nothing to gain from me, just as I have found I have nothing worth gaining from you.
I exhort you in the name of whatever God you serve.

Get away... deluded liar going around jsing the mentions of the name of God to sell what are deluded opinions.

BloodyDoe:
I understand your point mam, but not all of us are made of daisies and petals.

What has daisies and petals to do with choosing to hold on to that which is toxic for any and all?

PoliteActivist:
He's a man. Didn't see where this guy exposed him?

LoL....I don't fake things ...I've been on Nairaland over a decade...I'm a lady ... nothing to expose.

Jeferious:
One say childbirth and pregnancy na wetin she dey bring come table, I tell am say no be my table you go bring that one come. Even goats and pigs get pregnant too.

Na so war start. For my mind, I laugh my wicked laugh. Because for this spot wey I stand for the matter, even hurricane no fit move me

Waka!🤣🤣
Do am if e easy.

Did you really gather and consult resourceful materials for this piece?

Foolish thread for foolish ash people, the lord will deliver una. I dey envy men wey dey marry second hand ladies. I'm yet to see a sensible second hand lady

BloodyDoe:
To succed as a woman you need to be shrewd, you need to understand that the world has never been fair to women and it will never be fair to us. Nobody's failure friend, as a woman make sure you're success driven, make your marriage work, make your business work, raise responsible children, take tough decision and if a man breaks your heart, ruin him or better still kill him. POISON IS A WOMAN WEAPON.

Frustrated evening newspapers used to stupor and dumped by many useless men are showing up with their vile anger derived from many years of foolishness.

See them all mentioning God.
Na now most of una go remember God. 🙄

Blake755:
In all you do don't forget to bring something to the table

Last last we still use this table for firewood

Newborn27:
LoL....I don't fake things ...I've been on Nairaland over a decade...I'm a lady ... nothing to expose.

DP or we donbilivit

Kobojunkie:
What has daisies and petals to do with choosing to hold on to that which is toxic for any and all?

Different strokes for different folks, i am insufferably toxic even to my own closest pals and i am success driven, it's normal that i only attract my kinds. No woman needs to stay in a toxic relationship if she's not toxic or made of violence, every woman deserve the best. Goodluck expecting the best on a platter of gold.

juman:
Many men are lazy.
You will see men in late thirties/early forties that stopped working forever.

Something tells me there is a mental aspect to the problem.

sonnie10:
No one size fits all. Everyone needs to go with the legitimate strategy that favors them. What works for one might not be suitable for another. Just do what is best for and your situation.
Take for instance, Regina Daniel found success through marriage.
Ngozie Iwuala is successful through education and professional career.
Madam Alakija through business
Doziena through political appointment
Emily of Emzor pharm through entrepreneurship

There is no one way to success. The key is to do just something. Get involved !

You forgot to add the once that found success via oloshoism...!!

PoliteActivist:
DP or we donbilivit

No probs if you're doubting me then.

What if I upload a fake dp?
My previous post should give you a hint.


If you still not believe... good luck on your unbelieve Sir.

BloodyDoe:
■ Different strokes for different folks, i am insufferably toxic even to my own closest pals and i am success driven, it's normal that i only attract my kinds. No woman needs to stay in a toxic relationship if she's not toxic or made of violence, every woman deserve the best. Goodluck expecting the best on a platter of gold.

Different strokes for different folks is no excuse for anyone, man or woman, to choose to remain in a toxic situation.

And no one said anything about getting the best on a platter of gold. Anyways, something tells me you are not being serious.

prophetfire:
Frustrated evening newspapers used to stupor and dumped by many useless men are showing up with their vile anger derived from many years of foolishness.

LOL... Fvck off man.

Newborn27:
No probs if you're doubting me then.

What if I upload a fake dp?
My previous post should give you a hint.


If you still not believe... good luck on your unbelieve Sir.

We can tell a fake DP sooner or later. Nairaland is big