Good morning nairaland ladies and gentlemen.i will go straight to the point.why do people always assume that every lady who sets boundaries and does everything possible to avoid insults, disrespectful snide comments, shades,minds her buisness and keeps her friends minimal but sticks to her job,why are such ladies seen as arrogant, proud, someone people should not move close to. some people Will even assume they know you so much as to give you unsolicited advice you didn't ask for, deliberately incite or bring drama or provocation directly to your doorstep to see how you will react and when you show your displeasure you're automatically labelled rude.

So my question is,is it that you shouldn't have boundaries at work,allow people to come to your office and gist endlessly and not have time to face what you are paid for, allow senior colleagues to Bully or intimidate you before you're considered accommodating, friendly and calm?

elonmuskbaby:
Good morning nairaland ladies and gentlemen.i will go straight to the point.why do people always assume that every lady who sets boundaries and does everything possible to avoid insults, disrespectful snide comments, shades,minds her buisness and keeps her friends minimal but sticks to her job,why are such ladies seen as arrogant, proud, someone people should not move close to. some people Will even assume they know you so much as to give you unsolicited advice you didn't ask for, deliberately incite or bring drama or provocation directly to your doorstep to see how you will react and when you show your displeasure you're automatically labelled rude.

So my question is,is it that you shouldn't have boundaries at work,allow people to come to your office and gist endlessly and not have time to face what you are paid for, allow senior colleagues to Bully or intimidate you before you're considered accommodating, friendly and calm?

deal with your problems young lady

Powerbando:



deal with your problems young lady

I only asked a question OGA,I didn't tell you I had any problem.it will have been ok to Waka pass.nobody forced you to comment.thank you young man

Na people wey dey lazy na Dem dey get time to gist in their workplace....even as a man,you no even suppose get time to gist while you are still in your workplace.

Get the job done first, after which you can go outside and gist

Most nowadays bitches are flirtatious on nature-i hate such when I employ you can either be in my company to work without compromise or get the Bleep off

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elonmuskbaby:
I only asked a question OGA,I didn't tell you I had any problem.it will have been ok to Waka pass.nobody forced you to comment.thank you young man

Lol ....u dey disguise....see who said she does everything to avoid comments, shades or insults... ...
U wey dey serve as e dey hot ...u na "every must collect" kinda of person..

There's a thin line btw being strict and being wicked....

There's is a thin line having boundaries and and being proud, full of yourself and disrespectful.....

There's also a thin line btw being formal and rude ..

.. No dey cross lines come dey say pple dey assume........Forget what anyone is saying or assuming about u...just be urself good or bad, werey or nice... ..don't confuse the thunder that may want to fire you.

This happens to both men and ladies alike. When you're strong-willed and self respecting, they claim you're arrogant. But why should you care? As long as it doesn't affect your income or how the people that truly matter in your life and work perceive you, then one shouldn't really bother.
Only a ripe fruit attracts stones.

advanceDNA:


Lol ....u dey disguise....see who said she does everything to avoid comments, shades or insults... ...
U wey dey serve as e dey hot ...u na "every must collect" kinda of person..

There's a thin line btw being strict and being wicked....

There's is a thin line having boundaries and and being proud, full of yourself and disrespectful.....

There's also a thin line btw being formal and rude ..

.. No dey cross lines come dey say pple dey assume........Forget what anyone is saying or assuming about u...just be urself good or bad, werey or nice... ..don't confuse the thunder that may want to fire you.

lol.i knew I will see your type here.i just didn't know it Will be this quick.i guess you're one of the kinds of people in such categories.anyway rest.theres no need to troll because you won't get the reaction you're expecting from me.

Moreover you gave a lousy advice.you said I should deal with my problems.oya,let me send my account details then so you can help me in "fixing some of my problems" you have to walk your talk.isshh

thesicilian:
This happens to both men and ladies alike. When you're strong-willed and self respecting, they claim you're arrogant. But why should you care? As long as it doesn't affect your income or how the people that truly matter in your life and work perceive you, then one shouldn't really bother.
Only a ripe fruit attracts stones.

thanks my brother/sister

elonmuskbaby:
Good morning nairaland ladies and gentlemen.i will go straight to the point.why do people always assume that every lady who sets boundaries and does everything possible to avoid insults, disrespectful snide comments, shades,minds her buisness and keeps her friends minimal but sticks to her job,why are such ladies seen as arrogant, proud, someone people should not move close to. some people Will even assume they know you so much as to give you unsolicited advice you didn't ask for, deliberately incite or bring drama or provocation directly to your doorstep to see how you will react and when you show your displeasure you're automatically labelled rude.

So my question is,is it that you shouldn't have boundaries at work,allow people to come to your office and gist endlessly and not have time to face what you are paid for, allow senior colleagues to Bully or intimidate you before you're considered accommodating, friendly and calm?

I love ladies like these. They misunderstand you. It's no fault of theirs.

elonmuskbaby:
thanks my brother/sister

I like people like you. If we had them in large numbers, the world would have been a better place

K33fK0zaRt:
I like people like you. If we had them in large numbers, the world would have been a better place

thanks my brother

K33fK0zaRt:
I love ladies like these. They misunderstand you. It's no fault of theirs.

thanks my brother

Set boundaries? No one send you for office oo, if them look for you, dem no find... replacement sharp Sharp. So all these you set boundaries and you are arrogant.. it's just for surface shaniganis.. nobody de send you at all. Just do your job, collect your money and go home.

elonmuskbaby:
Good morning nairaland ladies and gentlemen.i will go straight to the point.why do people always assume that every lady who sets boundaries and does everything possible to avoid insults, disrespectful snide comments, shades,minds her buisness and keeps her friends minimal but sticks to her job,why are such ladies seen as arrogant, proud, someone people should not move close to. some people Will even assume they know you so much as to give you unsolicited advice you didn't ask for, deliberately incite or bring drama or provocation directly to your doorstep to see how you will react and when you show your displeasure you're automatically labelled rude.

So my question is,is it that you shouldn't have boundaries at work,allow people to come to your office and gist endlessly and not have time to face what you are paid for, allow senior colleagues to Bully or intimidate you before you're considered accommodating, friendly and calm?

they are gaslighting you. People have insecurities and i will always want to project their insecurity on you.

Reading as a R£MOT€ WORK€R...


Wittyness.

You sef dey bear "elonmuskbaby" and you want make men no feel somehow towards you..
To a sane man, na this kind lady you suppose date e get why except you are insecured..

elonmuskbaby:
Good morning nairaland ladies and gentlemen.i will go straight to the point.why do people always assume that every lady who sets boundaries and does everything possible to avoid insults, disrespectful snide comments, shades,minds her buisness and keeps her friends minimal but sticks to her job,why are such ladies seen as arrogant, proud, someone people should not move close to. some people Will even assume they know you so much as to give you unsolicited advice you didn't ask for, deliberately incite or bring drama or provocation directly to your doorstep to see how you will react and when you show your displeasure you're automatically labelled rude.

So my question is,is it that you shouldn't have boundaries at work,allow people to come to your office and gist endlessly and not have time to face what you are paid for, allow senior colleagues to Bully or intimidate you before you're considered accommodating, friendly and calm?

Woman matter again. Una no dey tire?

Ok

Ok

I'm good at it. I set boundaries and let them know if they try to cross it I won't take it. I don't care whether they see me as rude or not.

The best way I've been able to maintain that is by using a very deep British accent and keeping a straight face when I'm relating with anyone. That way the conversation is short and they are back to their businesses because they can't keep up. Some will not even come close and I like it that way. While some have created enemity with me, still I no send. I don't want over familiarity.

I don't care what anyone thinks about me as long as you're not feeding me, buzz off for all I care.

In a workplace, you're expected to have a healthy working relationship and be approachable however depending on how you relate from day one, people will treat you based on your personality.

You cannot be jovial sometimes and be overly serious at other times. It's confusing.

If you're unnecessarily serious all the time, you should work from home!

Humans know how to differentiate a disciplined lady from a rude and arrogant lady.

If many people say you're rude and arrogant,
you're definitely rude and arrogant!

elonmuskbaby:
Good morning nairaland ladies and gentlemen.i will go straight to the point.why do people always assume that every lady who sets boundaries and does everything possible to avoid insults, disrespectful snide comments, shades,minds her buisness and keeps her friends minimal but sticks to her job,why are such ladies seen as arrogant, proud, someone people should not move close to. some people Will even assume they know you so much as to give you unsolicited advice you didn't ask for, deliberately incite or bring drama or provocation directly to your doorstep to see how you will react and when you show your displeasure you're automatically labelled rude.

So my question is,is it that you shouldn't have boundaries at work,allow people to come to your office and gist endlessly and not have time to face what you are paid for, allow senior colleagues to Bully or intimidate you before you're considered accommodating, friendly and calm?

I hope if a guy sets boundaries too it won’t be termed as pride.

elonmuskbaby:
Good morning nairaland ladies and gentlemen.i will go straight to the point.why do people always assume that every lady who sets boundaries and does everything possible to avoid insults, disrespectful snide comments, shades,minds her buisness and keeps her friends minimal but sticks to her job,why are such ladies seen as arrogant, proud, someone people should not move close to. some people Will even assume they know you so much as to give you unsolicited advice you didn't ask for, deliberately incite or bring drama or provocation directly to your doorstep to see how you will react and when you show your displeasure you're automatically labelled rude.

So my question is,is it that you shouldn't have boundaries at work,allow people to come to your office and gist endlessly and not have time to face what you are paid for, allow senior colleagues to Bully or intimidate you before you're considered accommodating, friendly and calm?

I may not have the right answer to your case but when everyone around you seems to be having problem, check very well, there is high tendency you are the one with problem and not the people around you.

Sister maybe the lady in question is Proud but Her perspective of Herself is incorrect, as such She feels oppressed.

You become too toxic for the corporate environment; buy building walls around yourself, they might gang up against you and get you fired.

Learn how to balance social and corporate life while in the office...

Just read Law 18 of 48 Laws of Power then you will know you're actually at risk.

Na small pikin still dey do you.

Unfortunately, it's the ladies themselves that spread this narrative around. Most men would certainly respect such boundaries..... afterall, she's not the only lady worth bonding with, so it won't be a big deal.


Talking from experience.......

Madam if you can set a boundaries as you said what do you want the owner of the company where you're working to set, please remember that pride goes before destruction. Somebody was on the seat where you're setting boundaries before very soon you will leave it for another person but remember that after leaving the place what would people say about you. Be kind to everybody and don't allow ego to run your carrier.

work place isn't a social club for making friends but to get a job done individually and collectively.

U are only seen as arrogant if u don't handle basic interactions in the office well. I'm not talking of over familiar interactions that may or may not lead to the insults u are trying to avoid.

u can mind ur business and be humble.