armyofone:
■ It shouldn't but being the first born in Africa setting can be draining emotionally, psychological and financially ( time is coming that they start asking her for money...)

OP's story is nowhere near the norm even in Nigeria abeg!

Learn how to delegate work to your younger one. Learn a trade/skill now - ensure you get out of the house on the 8th of January. Except you are preparing to be a professional house wife but then you still need professionals culinary and grooming skills.

LotaTee:
Are you African? Being first daughter means that from an early age, as soon as you can walk and talk, you start contributing to the household by running errands and doing chores. That in itself isn't a bad thing but it's quite common to see the male siblings treated preferentially(little to no errands/chores) and if they're older, double wahala. You know the whole respect your elder shit. So from an early age, getting punished for things your siblings don't even do can be damaging to the psyche. Then the child grows into a traumatized adult with self esteem issues and low confidence. Because the only love/attention she received growing up was directly proportional to how useful/helpful she was. And you tell this kind of person who obviously needs some form of psychotherapy that her current situation is a culmination of her choices. Yeah, she definitely chose to be born and to be treated like a slave. Even if you didn't have this kind of experience growing up, would it have killed you to be empathetic?

Don't waste too much time on that robot

Telltruth123:
I faced the same challenges being the first child and daughter at the same time followed by 4 boys and my mum would not allow them to work, I was the only person that use to do the house chores.
I would go to her shop before going to school in the morning to work and also return to shop in the evening to work.

My mum would be shouting on me that I will go out and get married, she does not want me to put her to shame. I see shege, if small water pure on the floor while fetching water she would beat me and lock me out till 12 midnight, sometimes she scattered my school bag and clothes on the street.

I thank God for my life, I am married now.

and you are sure she's your biological mother??

duduade:


and you are sure she's your biological mother??

When I was in secondary school, I almost commit suicide and I pressurized my daddy to show me my real mum but he said she is my mother I even saw the picture when I was still a kid with her.

She is still treat me differently till now, I just made up my mind some few months ago that I don't have a mother.

She has not spoken to me for the past 4 months now.

Ay04z:
So. U mean ur younger ones don't do anything if dey re around ... I don't believe this write up jare.....

you don't have to believe it. It's her story and that's what matters.

The "first daughter" that name na work full am.
Very useless modafuckin title.

princemillla:
Pele My dear.

The only issue I see here is ur inability to further on ur education. But others, my dear I can only said congratulations. What you are going thru now is a training which will surely be useful to you much later wen you start ur own family.

In our society, first born are saddled with loads of responsibilities but at the detriment of your self growth. Han Han I don't want it




By the way av sent you email. Try reply

Well said..

Richking2023:
I understand your burdens. First, why have they refused to send you to school? Can't they fix you somewhere to learn a skill? However, I won't advise you to leave the house now, although you didn't state your gender. As a girl, do it for this season your glorification is coming. As a boy if you're above 18yrs, get out and work for yourself

The topic says being a firstborn daughter and you’re asking for gender, so you mean boys can also be daughters? What are you smoking?

Telltruth123:
I faced the same challenges being the first child and daughter at the same time followed by 4 boys and my mum would not allow them to work, I was the only person that use to do the house chores.
I would go to her shop before going to school in the morning to work and also return to shop in the evening to work.

My mum would be shouting on me that I will go out and get married, she does not want me to put her to shame. I see shege, if small water pure on the floor while fetching water she would beat me and lock me out till 12 midnight, sometimes she scattered my school bag and clothes on the street.

I thank God for my life, I am married now.

As a married person, does any of what she did to you make sense?

Unmarried people with dependents suffer the most in life.

DrAda:
Strange... Adas are the ones who give orders and others follow.

I am not the firstborn. I have older siblings but I am the first female child so I can't give orders to my seniors. My younger ones are treated as last born babies of the house so I can't do much there. Some people misunderstood my use of first daughter to mean I was a firstborn but I'm not.

OFunke24:



I am not the firstborn. I have older siblings but I am the first female child so I can't give orders to my seniors. My younger ones are treated as last born babies of the house so I can't do much there. Some people misunderstood my use of first daughter to mean I was a firstborn but I'm not.

No wonder.

Just know that they will never stop to consider you a human being. Be selfish. Start off with doing little things for yourself, then graduate to doing things majorly for yourself. They will drain you and then later mock you if you continue as you are. They're conditioning you for failure, and you must break free, otherwise you will become a spectator to their wonderful lives while yours will give you pain and anguish.

You deserve to be treated fairly, humanely.

OFunke24:
■ I am not the firstborn. I have older siblings but I am the first female child so I can't give orders to my seniors. My younger ones are treated as last born babies of the house so I can't do much there. Some people misunderstood my use of first daughter to mean I was a firstborn but I'm not.

You are not even the firstborn, just the first daughter, yet you carry all of them for head because of what naw? Na wa oo!

OFunke24:



I am not the firstborn. I have older siblings but I am the first female child so I can't give orders to my seniors. My younger ones are treated as last born babies of the house so I can't do much there. Some people misunderstood my use of first daughter to mean I was a firstborn but I'm not.

I understand now. Truly sorry for your predicament