To you what you're doing is right so you can never see any wrong in what you're doing.

Have you tried looking into all she raised about your character? No. Because you feel you're Mr perfect.

Have you tried to listen and obey her for once to see if she would reduce her controlling attitude?

What man would leave his pregnant wife and go out to take pepper soup and one bullet to the point it now becomes a habit? And you say it's only one bullet. Is one bullet not enough to make you reek of alcohol? No woman wants a man smelling of alcohol every day to come near her. you too check it.. if it's once in a while fine, but everyday? Nah . She's pregnant and any emergency can arise while you're away. Who would rush her to the hospital? Try and see things from her own angle and you'll understand her reason for complaining.


She loves you that is why she likes you to be around her always. A woman who doesn't love you will not care whether you died or lived. So complaining about your constant absence simply shows she misses you and you giving her a cold shoulder makes it look like you don't care or miss her enough to want to be with her. why then did you marry her if you know you're not going to be keeping her company?

If we listen to her own side of the story now, it will be a case of married but lonely. Keep her company and see her change to loving wife.

Jewessgratitud3:
To you what you're doing is right so you can never see any wrong in what you're doing.

Have you tried looking into all she raised about your character? No. Because you feel you're Mr perfect.

Have you tried to listen and obey her for once to see if she would reduce her controlling attitude?

What man would leave his pregnant wife and go out to take pepper soup and one bullet to the point it now becomes a habit? And you say it's only one bullet. Is one bullet not enough to make you reek of alcohol? No woman wants a man smelling of alcohol every day to come near her. you too check it.. if it's once in a while fine, but everyday? Nah . She's pregnant and any emergency can arise while you're away. Who would rush her to the hospital? Try and see things from her own angle and you'll understand her reason for complaining.


She loves you that is why she likes you to be around her always. A woman who doesn't love you will not care whether you died or lived. So complaining about your constant absence simply shows she misses you and you giving her a cold shoulder makes it look like you don't care or miss her enough to want to be with her. why then did you marry her if you know you're not going to be keeping her company?

If we listen to her own side of the story now, it will be a case of married but lonely. Keep her company and see her change to loving wife.

Women radarada

You ladies should understand that you can control your son not your husband
Junior, time to sleep.
No football today
Off your game
No going out today

You sef check am

Jewessgratitud3:
To you what you're doing is right so you can never see any wrong in what you're doing.

Have you tried looking into all she raised about your character? No. Because you feel you're Mr perfect.

Have you tried to listen and obey her for once to see if she would reduce her controlling attitude?

What man would leave his pregnant wife and go out to take pepper soup and one bullet to the point it now becomes a habit? And you say it's only one bullet. Is one bullet not enough to make you reek of alcohol? No woman wants a man smelling of alcohol every day to come near her. you too check it.. if it's once in a while fine, but everyday? Nah . She's pregnant and any emergency can arise while you're away. Who would rush her to the hospital? Try and see things from her own angle and you'll understand her reason for complaining.


She loves you that is why she likes you to be around her always. A woman who doesn't love you will not care whether you died or lived. So complaining about your constant absence simply shows she misses you and you giving her a cold shoulder makes it look like you don't care or miss her enough to want to be with her. why then did you marry her if you know you're not going to be keeping her company?

If we listen to her own side of the story now, it will be a case of married but lonely. Keep her company and see her change to loving wife.

Did you even read what I wrote ? I stay home from Monday to Saturday, I don’t go anywhere cus I work from home . I only go out on Sundays just to relax and watch football , mind you she has her sister with her in the house so she’s not alone . So the only time on Sunday that I go out I can’t ? When you marry turn ur own husband to boy boy

funkmrflexx:
My marriage is 2 years old now , me and my wife didn’t date very long before we got married (like 3 months) this was because I’m a man who believes in having my family early and there’s nothing more important to me than my family.

My wife is heavily pregnant and almost ready to put to bed anytime soon. The issue now is that my wife has become very controlling, I saw these signs early in our marriage but Ignored them because I want our marriage to work, The biggest turn off for me is a controlling woman .

My wife comes from a broken home , the father left she was was little , I don’t really know why the dad left her mom and till date the reason why her dad left is a very flimsy excuse ( said the mom was buying properties without his consent ) , so right now the children hate the father. I have advised my wife severally to reach out to the father and ask what really happened that made him leave his family because I feel there’s something else to it , but she refused because the mom has taken the children to her side .

Now in our own marriage she wants to be in control, she doesn’t want me to go out , even when I tell her where I’m going she isn’t satisfied.

So recently I started going out on Sundays because throughout the week I’m usually at home and these days I’m usually stressed out , so I like to go out and relax on my own .
there's a spot I usually go to watch football matches every Sunday, I told her I was going yesterday to watch match and she told me I’ve turned it into an habit to be going out everyday , I asked her can’t I go out ? And her reply was “ What’s the wrong with you ? Why would you answer me like that” I became angry and told her that anytime I want to leave the house she always has a problem with it even before she became pregnant. Most times she always wants to go with me. We have quarreled severally about it , she don’t want me to go out , she wants me to be home on time , she always call me to know where I am or what I’m doing even when I’m in a business meeting. She recently told me she regrets marrying me and I still try to wonder what I did for her to say that. She said I come home reeking of alcohol every time I go out , calling me a drunkard . When I go out I only drink pepper soup and 1 black bullet. People outside who hear her will think I usually come home staggering drunk


And another attitude of hers is that she’s ready to leave the marriage at anytime, she doesn’t care
Any little things she will say “ I will just leave this marriage “. When me as a man I don’t even see leaving the marriage as an option.

She want to control my every move , when I want to do something and I tell her about it , she wants me to do it her own way and I’ve told her severally that it won’t be possible for me to do everything she says .
She also believes we are both equal and anything I do she also can do. Mind you I haven’t had sex with another woman in 2 years so it’s not a case of cheating.

I don’t know if it’s the family she grew up in where a woman is the head and now she wants to bring it into our marriage and also treat me like her elder brother who they even dictate the kind of girl he follows .


So I’m just trying to make things work out for the sake of our marriage and our baby but if she doesn’t change then I’m done.

I don’t know if I should speak to her mom about it or just lock up

You are not a man but a 🐒. Let her go

Jewessgratitud3:
To you what you're doing is right so you can never see any wrong in what you're doing.

Have you tried looking into all she raised about your character? No. Because you feel you're Mr perfect.

Have you tried to listen and obey her for once to see if she would reduce her controlling attitude?

What man would leave his pregnant wife and go out to take pepper soup and one bullet to the point it now becomes a habit? And you say it's only one bullet. Is one bullet not enough to make you reek of alcohol? No woman wants a man smelling of alcohol every day to come near her. you too check it.. if it's once in a while fine, but everyday? Nah . She's pregnant and any emergency can arise while you're away. Who would rush her to the hospital? Try and see things from her own angle and you'll understand her reason for complaining.


She loves you that is why she likes you to be around her always. A woman who doesn't love you will not care whether you died or lived. So complaining about your constant absence simply shows she misses you and you giving her a cold shoulder makes it look like you don't care or miss her enough to want to be with her. why then did you marry her if you know you're not going to be keeping her company?

If we listen to her own side of the story now, it will be a case of married but lonely. Keep her company and see her change to loving wife.

Thrash❌❌❌❌

funkmrflexx:
My marriage is 2 years old now , me and my wife didn’t date very long before we got married (like 3 months) this was because I’m a man who believes in having my family early and there’s nothing more important to me than my family.

My wife is heavily pregnant and almost ready to put to bed anytime soon. The issue now is that my wife has become very controlling, I saw these signs early in our marriage but Ignored them because I want our marriage to work, The biggest turn off for me is a controlling woman .

My wife comes from a broken home , the father left she was was little , I don’t really know why the dad left her mom and till date the reason why her dad left is a very flimsy excuse ( said the mom was buying properties without his consent ) , so right now the children hate the father. I have advised my wife severally to reach out to the father and ask what really happened that made him leave his family because I feel there’s something else to it , but she refused because the mom has taken the children to her side .

Now in our own marriage she wants to be in control, she doesn’t want me to go out , even when I tell her where I’m going she isn’t satisfied.

So recently I started going out on Sundays because throughout the week I’m usually at home and these days I’m usually stressed out , so I like to go out and relax on my own .
there's a spot I usually go to watch football matches every Sunday, I told her I was going yesterday to watch match and she told me I’ve turned it into an habit to be going out everyday , I asked her can’t I go out ? And her reply was “ What’s the wrong with you ? Why would you answer me like that” I became angry and told her that anytime I want to leave the house she always has a problem with it even before she became pregnant. Most times she always wants to go with me. We have quarreled severally about it , she don’t want me to go out , she wants me to be home on time , she always call me to know where I am or what I’m doing even when I’m in a business meeting. She recently told me she regrets marrying me and I still try to wonder what I did for her to say that. She said I come home reeking of alcohol every time I go out , calling me a drunkard . When I go out I only drink pepper soup and 1 black bullet. People outside who hear her will think I usually come home staggering drunk


And another attitude of hers is that she’s ready to leave the marriage at anytime, she doesn’t care
Any little things she will say “ I will just leave this marriage “. When me as a man I don’t even see leaving the marriage as an option.

She want to control my every move , when I want to do something and I tell her about it , she wants me to do it her own way and I’ve told her severally that it won’t be possible for me to do everything she says .
She also believes we are both equal and anything I do she also can do. Mind you I haven’t had sex with another woman in 2 years so it’s not a case of cheating.

I don’t know if it’s the family she grew up in where a woman is the head and now she wants to bring it into our marriage and also treat me like her elder brother who they even dictate the kind of girl he follows .


So I’m just trying to make things work out for the sake of our marriage and our baby but if she doesn’t change then I’m done.

I don’t know if I should speak to her mom about it or just lock up

I do not have any single blame for her. You are the problem. You he-goats will see a dysfunctional family without a father, where men are disrespected and insulted, a divorcee yet your stupid dicks wonts allow you have sense! You saw this signs but because of your stupid dicks that you can't control, you went and put yourself in problem!

The only good thing is that it's not too late. Put your foot down and dare her to leave. Be a man for once. Else you will be cowered into a chichidodo!

funkmrflexx:



Did you even read what I wrote ? I stay home from Monday to Saturday, I don’t go anywhere cus I work from home . I only go out on Sundays just to relax and watch football , mind you she has her sister with her in the house so she’s not alone . So the only time on Sunday that I go out I can’t ? When you marry turn ur own husband to boy boy

Na The thing wey dey finish you be that. All I see here is you feeling victimized and being defensive over nothing therefore refusing to see what you're doing to others. if you see her seeking your attention and care as being controlled and pushed around like a house boy then it's you who has a problem.

You claim to be home every day but those period you can't give her the attention she needs because youll be focused on work; mind you she sees and understands that too. Then the only time you're free that she can get your attention you chose such days to go marry your bottle and pepper soup. Have you thought of this?

By the way you never mentioned in your original op that her sister was staying with you guys until I raised the issue of emergency. Can you see that you're just being unecessarily defensive? This alone says a lot about you. You go talk whether na her sister marry her. Check yourself and adjust.

November24:


Thrash❌❌❌❌

Like your trash that ties wrapper at home and had you running down here to complain which is not even anything compared to what the ops wife is going through.

Anguldi:


Women radarada

You ladies should understand that you can control your son not your husband
Junior, time to sleep.
No football today
Off your game
No going out today


You sef check am

Were you there? How did you know that was how the ops wife put the words to him? Because he came here to paint her bad and made himself look like a saint you now coming up with all this.


I won't believe all the op said in totality until I've listened to both sides. Men can form innocent when narrating your marital issues.

Abegi

Some of you this men are not smart, humans always want to threaten you with what you are afraid to lose. Build your emotions to the point that you want the marriage to succeed but you don't also care if she leaves. If she discover it,. She will mellow by force. If you don't do this, she will constantly manipulate you with the fear of losing her.

funkmrflexx:



Did you even read what I wrote ? I stay home from Monday to Saturday, I don’t go anywhere cus I work from home . I only go out on Sundays just to relax and watch football , mind you she has her sister with her in the house so she’s not alone . So the only time on Sunday that I go out I can’t ? When you marry turn ur own husband to boy boy

🤣🤣🤣🤣 This guy no go kee person with laugh. So you know say u be boy boy🤣🤣

funkmrflexx:
My marriage is 2 years old now , me and my wife didn’t date very long before we got married (like 3 months) this was because I’m a man who believes in having my family early and there’s nothing more important to me than my family.

My wife is heavily pregnant and almost ready to put to bed anytime soon. The issue now is that my wife has become very controlling, I saw these signs early in our marriage but Ignored them because I want our marriage to work, The biggest turn off for me is a controlling woman .

My wife comes from a broken home , the father left she was was little , I don’t really know why the dad left her mom and till date the reason why her dad left is a very flimsy excuse ( said the mom was buying properties without his consent ) , so right now the children hate the father. I have advised my wife severally to reach out to the father and ask what really happened that made him leave his family because I feel there’s something else to it , but she refused because the mom has taken the children to her side .

Now in our own marriage she wants to be in control, she doesn’t want me to go out , even when I tell her where I’m going she isn’t satisfied.

So recently I started going out on Sundays because throughout the week I’m usually at home and these days I’m usually stressed out , so I like to go out and relax on my own .
there's a spot I usually go to watch football matches every Sunday, I told her I was going yesterday to watch match and she told me I’ve turned it into an habit to be going out everyday , I asked her can’t I go out ? And her reply was “ What’s the wrong with you ? Why would you answer me like that” I became angry and told her that anytime I want to leave the house she always has a problem with it even before she became pregnant. Most times she always wants to go with me. We have quarreled severally about it , she don’t want me to go out , she wants me to be home on time , she always call me to know where I am or what I’m doing even when I’m in a business meeting. She recently told me she regrets marrying me and I still try to wonder what I did for her to say that. She said I come home reeking of alcohol every time I go out , calling me a drunkard . When I go out I only drink pepper soup and 1 black bullet. People outside who hear her will think I usually come home staggering drunk


And another attitude of hers is that she’s ready to leave the marriage at anytime, she doesn’t care
Any little things she will say “ I will just leave this marriage “. When me as a man I don’t even see leaving the marriage as an option.

She want to control my every move , when I want to do something and I tell her about it , she wants me to do it her own way and I’ve told her severally that it won’t be possible for me to do everything she says .
She also believes we are both equal and anything I do she also can do. Mind you I haven’t had sex with another woman in 2 years so it’s not a case of cheating.

I don’t know if it’s the family she grew up in where a woman is the head and now she wants to bring it into our marriage and also treat me like her elder brother who they even dictate the kind of girl he follows .


So I’m just trying to make things work out for the sake of our marriage and our baby but if she doesn’t change then I’m done.

I don’t know if I should speak to her mom about it or just lock up

She has insecurities and that's what is triggering her attitude.... Women raised by single mothers are usually worse my brother⚠️

But you can still make your marriage work my brother, just be patient and assuring her on a steady.

Things have gone really wrong in our society.. some women back then couldn't question their husbands or speak whenever they were talking..
There was one crazy man back then that was always buying bundle of pakere (cane) home to reset his wife's brain whenever she misbehaves.. they behave like toddlers attimes and require strong hands to tame them.

@OP No gree for that your wife o.. else she'll turn you to 'siddon there' husband. May such never be your portion.

Aaaaarghmed:
She is openly telling you she wants to leave the marriage..lol..big Bleep up.how did you allow it reach this level.As a woman,you cant even tell me this,because I go fess let u know say I dont care if you stay or not and besides ,I am not a marry marry type person.see don see u finish

take this to the bank...both men and women never change from their ways wen they are single...if u study the patmer and sh isnt satisfactory, just date and leave....dont think things will later change

funkmrflexx:
My marriage is 2 years old now , me and my wife didn’t date very long before we got married (like 3 months) this was because I’m a man who believes in having my family early and there’s nothing more important to me than my family.

My wife is heavily pregnant and almost ready to put to bed anytime soon. The issue now is that my wife has become very controlling, I saw these signs early in our marriage but Ignored them because I want our marriage to work, The biggest turn off for me is a controlling woman .

My wife comes from a broken home , the father left she was was little , I don’t really know why the dad left her mom and till date the reason why her dad left is a very flimsy excuse ( said the mom was buying properties without his consent ) , so right now the children hate the father. I have advised my wife severally to reach out to the father and ask what really happened that made him leave his family because I feel there’s something else to it , but she refused because the mom has taken the children to her side .

Now in our own marriage she wants to be in control, she doesn’t want me to go out , even when I tell her where I’m going she isn’t satisfied.

So recently I started going out on Sundays because throughout the week I’m usually at home and these days I’m usually stressed out , so I like to go out and relax on my own .
there's a spot I usually go to watch football matches every Sunday, I told her I was going yesterday to watch match and she told me I’ve turned it into an habit to be going out everyday , I asked her can’t I go out ? And her reply was “ What’s the wrong with you ? Why would you answer me like that” I became angry and told her that anytime I want to leave the house she always has a problem with it even before she became pregnant. Most times she always wants to go with me. We have quarreled severally about it , she don’t want me to go out , she wants me to be home on time , she always call me to know where I am or what I’m doing even when I’m in a business meeting. She recently told me she regrets marrying me and I still try to wonder what I did for her to say that. She said I come home reeking of alcohol every time I go out , calling me a drunkard . When I go out I only drink pepper soup and 1 black bullet. People outside who hear her will think I usually come home staggering drunk


And another attitude of hers is that she’s ready to leave the marriage at anytime, she doesn’t care
Any little things she will say “ I will just leave this marriage “. When me as a man I don’t even see leaving the marriage as an option.

She want to control my every move , when I want to do something and I tell her about it , she wants me to do it her own way and I’ve told her severally that it won’t be possible for me to do everything she says .
She also believes we are both equal and anything I do she also can do. Mind you I haven’t had sex with another woman in 2 years so it’s not a case of cheating.

I don’t know if it’s the family she grew up in where a woman is the head and now she wants to bring it into our marriage and also treat me like her elder brother who they even dictate the kind of girl he follows .


So I’m just trying to make things work out for the sake of our marriage and our baby but if she doesn’t change then I’m done.

I don’t know if I should speak to her mom about it or just lock up

U really fvcked up marrying into that family. U done enter serious one chance. She has not even started with u. It's all in their bloodline. I wish u well GOOD MAN

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Sonfethopia:
I feel your pain OP. When people say women raised by single mothers are controlling many won't believe.

I once had a child with one. They ran away with my child, thinking I'll come n kneel down to them.i didn't look back since 2020 till date.

I ghosted them.

Went through this. Ghosting is the only answer i had to give.. Anything they like they do with the child. Lord knows i tried. Life must go on regardless

MidasTouch15:
How do u people in marriages or relationships survive because everyday on this platform , it's one story or another

Majority of us are doing fine. We have issues we settle it and move on. This couple problem is just that they rush into marriage. There is pressure and they don't know how to cope. They need someone that is mature and trustworthy to guide them appropriately.

Rexymania:
Well I'm also married, so let say something: in the area of going out, I do not think she's wrong bcus ladies like it when their man is with them, comes home early and help in chores. So maybe you should change some of the things you do. That's my opinion tho'

For someone who stays indoors from monday to Saturday and only goes out not too far on Sundays solo relaxing his brain. Something is wrong with u sir.

Chai!!!
I have experience some1 pass thru exactly what you are passing thru now before
Girls trained by only a woman when the father is still alive is a capital NO

Nawa this is serious

funkmrflexx:
My marriage is 2 years old now , me and my wife didn’t date very long before we got married (like 3 months) this was because I’m a man who believes in having my family early and there’s nothing more important to me than my family.

My wife is heavily pregnant and almost ready to put to bed anytime soon. The issue now is that my wife has become very controlling, I saw these signs early in our marriage but Ignored them because I want our marriage to work, The biggest turn off for me is a controlling woman .

My wife comes from a broken home , the father left she was was little , I don’t really know why the dad left her mom and till date the reason why her dad left is a very flimsy excuse ( said the mom was buying properties without his consent ) , so right now the children hate the father. I have advised my wife severally to reach out to the father and ask what really happened that made him leave his family because I feel there’s something else to it , but she refused because the mom has taken the children to her side .

Now in our own marriage she wants to be in control, she doesn’t want me to go out , even when I tell her where I’m going she isn’t satisfied.

So recently I started going out on Sundays because throughout the week I’m usually at home and these days I’m usually stressed out , so I like to go out and relax on my own .
there's a spot I usually go to watch football matches every Sunday, I told her I was going yesterday to watch match and she told me I’ve turned it into an habit to be going out everyday , I asked her can’t I go out ? And her reply was “ What’s the wrong with you ? Why would you answer me like that” I became angry and told her that anytime I want to leave the house she always has a problem with it even before she became pregnant. Most times she always wants to go with me. We have quarreled severally about it , she don’t want me to go out , she wants me to be home on time , she always call me to know where I am or what I’m doing even when I’m in a business meeting. She recently told me she regrets marrying me and I still try to wonder what I did for her to say that. She said I come home reeking of alcohol every time I go out , calling me a drunkard . When I go out I only drink pepper soup and 1 black bullet. People outside who hear her will think I usually come home staggering drunk


And another attitude of hers is that she’s ready to leave the marriage at anytime, she doesn’t care
Any little things she will say “ I will just leave this marriage “. When me as a man I don’t even see leaving the marriage as an option.

She want to control my every move , when I want to do something and I tell her about it , she wants me to do it her own way and I’ve told her severally that it won’t be possible for me to do everything she says .
She also believes we are both equal and anything I do she also can do. Mind you I haven’t had sex with another woman in 2 years so it’s not a case of cheating.

I don’t know if it’s the family she grew up in where a woman is the head and now she wants to bring it into our marriage and also treat me like her elder brother who they even dictate the kind of girl he follows .


So I’m just trying to make things work out for the sake of our marriage and our baby but if she doesn’t change then I’m done.

I don’t know if I should speak to her mom about it or just lock up

Your problem is your problem.

No gree for her, this is 2024

funkmrflexx:
My marriage is 2 years old now , me and my wife didn’t date very long before we got married (like 3 months) this was because I’m a man who believes in having my family early and there’s nothing more important to me than my family.

My wife is heavily pregnant and almost ready to put to bed anytime soon. The issue now is that my wife has become very controlling, I saw these signs early in our marriage but Ignored them because I want our marriage to work, The biggest turn off for me is a controlling woman .

My wife comes from a broken home , the father left she was was little , I don’t really know why the dad left her mom and till date the reason why her dad left is a very flimsy excuse ( said the mom was buying properties without his consent ) , so right now the children hate the father. I have advised my wife severally to reach out to the father and ask what really happened that made him leave his family because I feel there’s something else to it , but she refused because the mom has taken the children to her side .

Now in our own marriage she wants to be in control, she doesn’t want me to go out , even when I tell her where I’m going she isn’t satisfied.

So recently I started going out on Sundays because throughout the week I’m usually at home and these days I’m usually stressed out , so I like to go out and relax on my own .
there's a spot I usually go to watch football matches every Sunday, I told her I was going yesterday to watch match and she told me I’ve turned it into an habit to be going out everyday , I asked her can’t I go out ? And her reply was “ What’s the wrong with you ? Why would you answer me like that” I became angry and told her that anytime I want to leave the house she always has a problem with it even before she became pregnant. Most times she always wants to go with me. We have quarreled severally about it , she don’t want me to go out , she wants me to be home on time , she always call me to know where I am or what I’m doing even when I’m in a business meeting. She recently told me she regrets marrying me and I still try to wonder what I did for her to say that. She said I come home reeking of alcohol every time I go out , calling me a drunkard . When I go out I only drink pepper soup and 1 black bullet. People outside who hear her will think I usually come home staggering drunk


And another attitude of hers is that she’s ready to leave the marriage at anytime, she doesn’t care
Any little things she will say “ I will just leave this marriage “. When me as a man I don’t even see leaving the marriage as an option.

She want to control my every move , when I want to do something and I tell her about it , she wants me to do it her own way and I’ve told her severally that it won’t be possible for me to do everything she says .
She also believes we are both equal and anything I do she also can do. Mind you I haven’t had sex with another woman in 2 years so it’s not a case of cheating.

I don’t know if it’s the family she grew up in where a woman is the head and now she wants to bring it into our marriage and also treat me like her elder brother who they even dictate the kind of girl he follows .


So I’m just trying to make things work out for the sake of our marriage and our baby but if she doesn’t change then I’m done.

I don’t know if I should speak to her mom about it or just lock up

Old boy, hold your wife tight she doing all the monitoring so that she will not lose you to another woman.

Stay for your house and watch anything together will her, even if she don't like football try to let her like it.

Also see things in her own view.

She might not want what happened to her father happen to you

You are newly married.

With time you will realize that you are wrong.

Jewessgratitud3:


Na The thing wey dey finish you be that. All I see here is you feeling victimized and being defensive over nothing therefore refusing to see what you're doing to others. if you see her seeking your attention and care as being controlled and pushed around like a house boy then it's you who has a problem.

You claim to be home every day but those period you can't give her the attention she needs because youll be focused on work; mind you she sees and understands that too. Then the only time you're free that she can get your attention you chose such days to go marry your bottle and pepper soup. Have you thought of this?

By the way you never mentioned in your original op that her sister was staying with you guys until I raised the issue of emergency. Can you see that you're just being unecessarily defensive? This alone says a lot about you. You go talk whether na her sister marry her. Check yourself and adjust.

He is wrong and no one is telling him the truth.

funkmrflexx:
My marriage is 2 years old now , me and my wife didn’t date very long before we got married (like 3 months) this was because I’m a man who believes in having my family early and there’s nothing more important to me than my family.

My wife is heavily pregnant and almost ready to put to bed anytime soon. The issue now is that my wife has become very controlling, I saw these signs early in our marriage but Ignored them because I want our marriage to work, The biggest turn off for me is a controlling woman .

My wife comes from a broken home , the father left she was was little , I don’t really know why the dad left her mom and till date the reason why her dad left is a very flimsy excuse ( said the mom was buying properties without his consent ) , so right now the children hate the father. I have advised my wife severally to reach out to the father and ask what really happened that made him leave his family because I feel there’s something else to it , but she refused because the mom has taken the children to her side .

Now in our own marriage she wants to be in control, she doesn’t want me to go out , even when I tell her where I’m going she isn’t satisfied.

So recently I started going out on Sundays because throughout the week I’m usually at home and these days I’m usually stressed out , so I like to go out and relax on my own .
there's a spot I usually go to watch football matches every Sunday, I told her I was going yesterday to watch match and she told me I’ve turned it into an habit to be going out everyday , I asked her can’t I go out ? And her reply was “ What’s the wrong with you ? Why would you answer me like that” I became angry and told her that anytime I want to leave the house she always has a problem with it even before she became pregnant. Most times she always wants to go with me. We have quarreled severally about it , she don’t want me to go out , she wants me to be home on time , she always call me to know where I am or what I’m doing even when I’m in a business meeting. She recently told me she regrets marrying me and I still try to wonder what I did for her to say that. She said I come home reeking of alcohol every time I go out , calling me a drunkard . When I go out I only drink pepper soup and 1 black bullet. People outside who hear her will think I usually come home staggering drunk


And another attitude of hers is that she’s ready to leave the marriage at anytime, she doesn’t care
Any little things she will say “ I will just leave this marriage “. When me as a man I don’t even see leaving the marriage as an option.

She want to control my every move , when I want to do something and I tell her about it , she wants me to do it her own way and I’ve told her severally that it won’t be possible for me to do everything she says .
She also believes we are both equal and anything I do she also can do. Mind you I haven’t had sex with another woman in 2 years so it’s not a case of cheating.

I don’t know if it’s the family she grew up in where a woman is the head and now she wants to bring it into our marriage and also treat me like her elder brother who they even dictate the kind of girl he follows .


So I’m just trying to make things work out for the sake of our marriage and our baby but if she doesn’t change then I’m done.

I don’t know if I should speak to her mom about it or just lock up

She did not start today so just go back to the way you were behaving before you changed...lol

funkmrflexx:
My marriage is 2 years old now , me and my wife didn’t date very long before we got married (like 3 months) this was because I’m a man who believes in having my family early and there’s nothing more important to me than my family.

My wife is heavily pregnant and almost ready to put to bed anytime soon. The issue now is that my wife has become very controlling, I saw these signs early in our marriage but Ignored them because I want our marriage to work, The biggest turn off for me is a controlling woman .

My wife comes from a broken home , the father left she was was little , I don’t really know why the dad left her mom and till date the reason why her dad left is a very flimsy excuse ( said the mom was buying properties without his consent ) , so right now the children hate the father. I have advised my wife severally to reach out to the father and ask what really happened that made him leave his family because I feel there’s something else to it , but she refused because the mom has taken the children to her side .

Now in our own marriage she wants to be in control, she doesn’t want me to go out , even when I tell her where I’m going she isn’t satisfied.

So recently I started going out on Sundays because throughout the week I’m usually at home and these days I’m usually stressed out , so I like to go out and relax on my own .
there's a spot I usually go to watch football matches every Sunday, I told her I was going yesterday to watch match and she told me I’ve turned it into an habit to be going out everyday , I asked her can’t I go out ? And her reply was “ What’s the wrong with you ? Why would you answer me like that” I became angry and told her that anytime I want to leave the house she always has a problem with it even before she became pregnant. Most times she always wants to go with me. We have quarreled severally about it , she don’t want me to go out , she wants me to be home on time , she always call me to know where I am or what I’m doing even when I’m in a business meeting. She recently told me she regrets marrying me and I still try to wonder what I did for her to say that. She said I come home reeking of alcohol every time I go out , calling me a drunkard . When I go out I only drink pepper soup and 1 black bullet. People outside who hear her will think I usually come home staggering drunk


And another attitude of hers is that she’s ready to leave the marriage at anytime, she doesn’t care
Any little things she will say “ I will just leave this marriage “. When me as a man I don’t even see leaving the marriage as an option.

She want to control my every move , when I want to do something and I tell her about it , she wants me to do it her own way and I’ve told her severally that it won’t be possible for me to do everything she says .
She also believes we are both equal and anything I do she also can do. Mind you I haven’t had sex with another woman in 2 years so it’s not a case of cheating.

I don’t know if it’s the family she grew up in where a woman is the head and now she wants to bring it into our marriage and also treat me like her elder brother who they even dictate the kind of girl he follows .


So I’m just trying to make things work out for the sake of our marriage and our baby but if she doesn’t change then I’m done.

I don’t know if I should speak to her mom about it or just lock up

First, your one and only mistake was marrying a woman from a broken home. It never ends well. Good luck because I don't know what else to say.

Rexymania:
Well I'm also married, so let say something: in the area of going out, I do not think she's wrong bcus ladies like it when their man is with them, comes home early and help in chores. So maybe you should change some of the things you do. That's my opinion tho'

For God's sake, just look to the nonsense this one is saying.

dinachi:

I do not have any single blame for her. You are the problem. You he-goats will see a dysfunctional family without a father, where men are disrespected and insulted, a divorcee yet your stupid dicks wonts allow you have sense! You saw this signs but because of your stupid dicks that you can't control, you went and put yourself in problem!

The only good thing is that it's not too late. Put your foot down and dare her to leave. Be a man for once. Else you will be cowered into a chichidodo!

Am sure his friends and family may have warned him, but trust children of nowadays, they don't listen.

Jewessgratitud3:
To you what you're doing is right so you can never see any wrong in what you're doing.

Have you tried looking into all she raised about your character? No. Because you feel you're Mr perfect.

Have you tried to listen and obey her for once to see if she would reduce her controlling attitude?

What man would leave his pregnant wife and go out to take pepper soup and one bullet to the point it now becomes a habit? And you say it's only one bullet. Is one bullet not enough to make you reek of alcohol? No woman wants a man smelling of alcohol every day to come near her. you too check it.. if it's once in a while fine, but everyday? Nah . She's pregnant and any emergency can arise while you're away. Who would rush her to the hospital? Try and see things from her own angle and you'll understand her reason for complaining.


She loves you that is why she likes you to be around her always. A woman who doesn't love you will not care whether you died or lived. So complaining about your constant absence simply shows she misses you and you giving her a cold shoulder makes it look like you don't care or miss her enough to want to be with her. why then did you marry her if you know you're not going to be keeping her company?

If we listen to her own side of the story now, it will be a case of married but lonely. Keep her company and see her change to loving wife.

The day a man sees you fit as a wife and marries you, then, you can talk.
Until then, your contributions are inconsequential.

Jewessgratitud3:
To you what you're doing is right so you can never see any wrong in what you're doing.

Have you tried looking into all she raised about your character? No. Because you feel you're Mr perfect.

Have you tried to listen and obey her for once to see if she would reduce her controlling attitude?

What man would leave his pregnant wife and go out to take pepper soup and one bullet to the point it now becomes a habit? And you say it's only one bullet. Is one bullet not enough to make you reek of alcohol? No woman wants a man smelling of alcohol every day to come near her. you too check it.. if it's once in a while fine, but everyday? Nah . She's pregnant and any emergency can arise while you're away. Who would rush her to the hospital? Try and see things from her own angle and you'll understand her reason for complaining.


She loves you that is why she likes you to be around her always. A woman who doesn't love you will not care whether you died or lived. So complaining about your constant absence simply shows she misses you and you giving her a cold shoulder makes it look like you don't care or miss her enough to want to be with her. why then did you marry her if you know you're not going to be keeping her company?

If we listen to her own side of the story now, it will be a case of married but lonely. Keep her company and see her change to loving wife.

I think this should be the way forward...... Try to be with her more often and see if such controlling will reduce.