But why do most women always make the life of men difficult?


Only a few enjoy the women in their lives be it directly or indirectly.

Bro,I was once in your shoes but I couldn't stay. Just like you, I finished secondary school in 2016 and went to serve an uncle in Lagos. It took me 2 weeks to know that I was living in hell because I was going through a lot. I washed, cleaned, cooked and did virtually everything. I had no money, like nothing.

I would use my lunch money to buy airtime to call my people home. I got tired of everything and decided to leave. Omo that was how I left Lagos and went back to my father's house. Did different menial jobs to survive, even worked at a factory. Omo story plenty but thank God for growth. God will help you and get you back on your feet.

That little thing he gave to you is a seed. Use it well. Don’t eat it. That’s the miracle behind it. I’m certain he would pray for you also.

Na poverty brain your oga wife get. Make sure you no marry someone like her. I know how painful it is to be inhumanely treated.Despite your experience and after deep reflection,you still have a place in your heart to be thankful.

Your positive spirit is going to take you far

weblord1900:
So 7+years ago I made this post seeking advice on a journey I was to embark on.
.
First of all pardon my English,
I'm here again to share my experience over the years of my apprenticeship and also the process. I know it's not all part of this country practice this system. It's more prevellent in the east.
For me there has been up and down and mostly down. This is something you can never understand until you personally experience it.. It will reshape your entire life especially your mind whether you like it or not.

I left my village by June to meet my Oga in the city. I spent 6months as testing. Like the first 6months were not counted as part of the agreement. I was even lucky because some spend 1year as testing. So I started in 2017 after agreement. This type of agreement just involve your oga coming to meet your parents with few eyewitnesses.. No lawyer or paper to sign. Just verbal agreement ,No fixed price .. They'll only discuss on how long you will work for him or her( the oga or madam).

When I started my Oga is still single so I was doing most of the works in the house including cooking .. We were living very happy .. I was eating very well .if you look at me then the evidence is there 😀 Sometimes my oga will come back with full fried chicken oh oh.. Only me and him .. Things where just smooth ..
Fast forward to 2019 my oga decided to my settle down.. I think I use like 4years senior my oga wife. At the first few months his wife was very angelic,calm and gentle. She serve us tea every morning..
Omo how she take change I don't know 🙆🏾‍♂️ I no offend anybody .. I'm very calm in nature .. My oga follow change too. Nobody day send me again ..

During 2020 covid 19 my eyes saw my ears .. I know things was hard then but mine was hard pro max. From 2018 I started suffering from chronic tonsillitis. I was taking drugs up and down including self medication .. I started noticing change from the way I speak because I don't know if it's the drug or the sickness that's affecting me .. I had no one to tell. By 2021 I gathered courage and told my oga 😪.. He carry me go meet aboki people make he carry scissors chop the two damaged tonsils in my throat .. Them just day price am 3k 5k I day one side day shed tears 😭 . I called someone and told him about everything. He told my oga to take me to a good hospital. The story long sha but at the end I went under tonsillectomy surgery .. I'm now fine

By 2023 which is supposed to be my last year my oga carry another problem come.. The way he was treating me caused problems between some of his brother and sister including some of his friends because they don't like the way he was treating me. They were all encouraging and giving me advice to persevere because I'm almost through its just a temptation.
I was settled this February with wetin my mouth not fit talk after serving for 7year chai😭 🤦. You can't even rent a shop with here with the amount I received. I haven't talked about buying the goods in this period every price has sky rocketed. I thank my family and friends it's all good.

Life is a journey ..I still have more opportunities ahead of me. I have seen more than 20 other people that have come to serve but didn't finish. Most of them doesn't last for 2years but I persist because I'm determined for success. With this energy nothing can stop me.

Let me tell you some key points in this system.
1. They don't tell you how much you'll receive at the end. Just be ready to take what you see.
2. It will greatly affect your mental health positively or negatively depending on how you are being treated.
3. There will be alot of temptations and peer pressure if you're not careful you'll be dismissed.
4. If at the end your oga decides not to settle you ,that's all for you. He cannot be procecuted by any law since there is no signed agreement.
5. You'll be blamed for some wrong things you didn't do.
6. There are some common thing you won't be allowed to do.. Like voting during election or going to the football field to play with your friends. You can only be at home or shop.
7. For example if you agreed to work for 5years you might see yourself still working for him after 7years with no settlement. I have seen lot of them.

I'm going to be 28 next month. I have seen and experience more, this is all I can say for now. I can't say i am at loss or profit here because I cherish the experience I gained over the year although I didn't get the finance which made to start the journey at the beginning. If I had money I would have just learn the business for less than a year and start my own but such is life. Some of my classmates are doing well while others never see food chop. Some of the females are married with 2 to 3 children. Mine isn't the worst tho. This life no balance.
I just hope this government make things easy for everybody. E come reach my turn to hustle everywhere come red 🔴😂 ..

I thank Se.un for Nairaland o.. Na here I day come read everything including the cruise, bash and banter. SE.UN abeg check if my story na front page material 😁

You refused Oga’s wife’s coded sexual advances and you turned an enemy.

Your old Oga go marry 19year old girl wey come the harass 23year old boy from 2019 till 2024 .


Just make sure you find a way to bang that 24 year old girl. it shouldn’t pass this year for you to off her pant.

if you want to be more brutal to your oga. give him and his wife a present to take care of then come back when the child is very grown to claim it.

People normally have to pay for me to advice them, you should be very grateful i am giving you this wisdom for free.

Honestly, I don't know how this is as bad as you claim.
You knew you were going to serve a master from the beginning. Only a naive person would think it would be rosy living under the roof of a non family member , especially when the person marries.

But the main thing is that you learned a particular business under him and it can help you for the rest of your life. Not only this, he housed you and fed you for 7 years, probably clothed you and took care of your occasional medical expenses as well.

Some people who live with their parents don't find things easy at all. Then at the end of the day he still gave you a certain amount of money, an amount you are even afraid to tell us here. If you had gone to school for 7 years or less, do you think anyone would feed you for free? True, you worked for him but even at school there's serious stress accompanied with hunger and lack most often. And you will still pay through your nose, for a certificate you might not use at the end of the day.

Thank God for what you have and focus. Families should ensure that their children serving in other people's homes are safe. Papers should be signed and they should have unrestricted access to their children. At least for the safety of such young people.

The "Nwaboi" apprrentice system in the East needs serious reformation. Gone are the day that potential millionaires were made from that system. My father was a product of that system and he enjoyed great deal of success after the civil war - He also trained dozens of "Nwaboi" that lived with us and later excelled in their chosen field. My mom made sure that house chores were evenly divided between us, the children and the "umuboi".

Once I returned back from boarding school, I would be the one to fetch water and fill up the tank, wash my father's car and do other household chores, just to relieve them of extra stress when they returned back to the house from market. My parents never discriminated and made sure that they were all treated well. One of the "nwaboi" from Enugu state dropped his own father's name and adopted our own surname out of respect and love for my father and following the bitter experience his family endured in their native village in Enugu state. After his settlement, fortune smiled at him and he relocated all his siblings from their village in Enugu to Anambra and bought a land in my own village. Today, he is a proud member of my own village as an unofficial adopted son of soil.

Lots of young boys passed through unimaginable abuse in the hands of Oga's madam. As someone rightly pointed, most Igbo men seems weak when it comes to disciplining their wives for misbehaving. Some will see their wives maltreating their house girl or boy and will turn a blind eye. I lived through the peak period of the "nwaboi" apprentice system in the 80s and 90s and saw the many advantages and disadvantages. One of the main advantage was changing a whole family destiny based on the fact that one of their sons have been settled and he is doing very well in Onitsha or Lagos. Before you say jack, he has demolished his old father's mud house and erected a mansion, sponsored his younger siblings to school and started business for his sisters.

May God help those who are passing through this system and are under the worst form of oppression from either their Oga or madam.

Sirmwill:
How will you be on the same spot for 7 years?

Really 🥺 pls how old are you😞 as if u didn't read his story smh 🚶🚶🚶

weblord1900:
So 7+years ago I made this post seeking advice on a journey I was to embark on.
.
First of all pardon my English,
I'm here again to share my experience over the years of my apprenticeship and also the process. I know it's not all part of this country practice this system. It's more prevellent in the east.
For me there has been up and down and mostly down. This is something you can never understand until you personally experience it.. It will reshape your entire life especially your mind whether you like it or not.

I left my village by June to meet my Oga in the city. I spent 6months as testing. Like the first 6months were not counted as part of the agreement. I was even lucky because some spend 1year as testing. So I started in 2017 after agreement. This type of agreement just involve your oga coming to meet your parents with few eyewitnesses.. No lawyer or paper to sign. Just verbal agreement ,No fixed price .. They'll only discuss on how long you will work for him or her( the oga or madam).

When I started my Oga is still single so I was doing most of the works in the house including cooking .. We were living very happy .. I was eating very well .if you look at me then the evidence is there 😀 Sometimes my oga will come back with full fried chicken oh oh.. Only me and him .. Things where just smooth ..
Fast forward to 2019 my oga decided to my settle down.. I think I use like 4years senior my oga wife. At the first few months his wife was very angelic,calm and gentle. She serve us tea every morning..
Omo how she take change I don't know 🙆🏾‍♂️ I no offend anybody .. I'm very calm in nature .. My oga follow change too. Nobody day send me again ..

During 2020 covid 19 my eyes saw my ears .. I know things was hard then but mine was hard pro max. From 2018 I started suffering from chronic tonsillitis. I was taking drugs up and down including self medication .. I started noticing change from the way I speak because I don't know if it's the drug or the sickness that's affecting me .. I had no one to tell. By 2021 I gathered courage and told my oga 😪.. He carry me go meet aboki people make he carry scissors chop the two damaged tonsils in my throat .. Them just day price am 3k 5k I day one side day shed tears 😭 . I called someone and told him about everything. He told my oga to take me to a good hospital. The story long sha but at the end I went under tonsillectomy surgery .. I'm now fine

By 2023 which is supposed to be my last year my oga carry another problem come.. The way he was treating me caused problems between some of his brother and sister including some of his friends because they don't like the way he was treating me. They were all encouraging and giving me advice to persevere because I'm almost through its just a temptation.
I was settled this February with wetin my mouth not fit talk after serving for 7year chai😭 🤦. You can't even rent a shop with here with the amount I received. I haven't talked about buying the goods in this period every price has sky rocketed. I thank my family and friends it's all good.

Life is a journey ..I still have more opportunities ahead of me. I have seen more than 20 other people that have come to serve but didn't finish. Most of them doesn't last for 2years but I persist because I'm determined for success. With this energy nothing can stop me.

Let me tell you some key points in this system.
1. They don't tell you how much you'll receive at the end. Just be ready to take what you see.
2. It will greatly affect your mental health positively or negatively depending on how you are being treated.
3. There will be alot of temptations and peer pressure if you're not careful you'll be dismissed.
4. If at the end your oga decides not to settle you ,that's all for you. He cannot be procecuted by any law since there is no signed agreement.
5. You'll be blamed for some wrong things you didn't do.
6. There are some common thing you won't be allowed to do.. Like voting during election or going to the football field to play with your friends. You can only be at home or shop.
7. For example if you agreed to work for 5years you might see yourself still working for him after 7years with no settlement. I have seen lot of them.

I'm going to be 28 next month. I have seen and experience more, this is all I can say for now. I can't say i am at loss or profit here because I cherish the experience I gained over the year although I didn't get the finance which made to start the journey at the beginning. If I had money I would have just learn the business for less than a year and start my own but such is life. Some of my classmates are doing well while others never see food chop. Some of the females are married with 2 to 3 children. Mine isn't the worst tho. This life no balance.
I just hope this government make things easy for everybody. E come reach my turn to hustle everywhere come red 🔴😂 ..

I thank Se.un for Nairaland o.. Na here I day come read everything including the cruise, bash and banter. SE.UN abeg check if my story na front page material 😁

It is well with you my brother. The sky is your limit sir. If you know of anybody that sells either injection, tablets or any surgical equipment at idumota market I will implore you to talk to the person to stay and learn the trade for maybe four months after then, you source for your capital to start your own.
Six months after, you will comeback here and give your testimony. Naija hard no reach for where this business dey. This guys are raking in millions week in week out.

NoToPile:
Too much stories of woe trailing this apprentice system nowadays.

For a system that made many men, this is not good.

If not because no money to start business generally the best these days would have been to pay to learn the business from the oga for 6months - 1 year and then start your own.

The economy sef is also not smiling on these ogas but on the flip side agreement is agreement, your word should be your bond.

Like!

I grew up in an Igbo community and saw it make many men. A married man even did tanker boy for a rich man who went into water supply business and he started growing before we left.

I think their community elders/ traditional rulers should step in.

Nice2023:
Good luck to u and go and excel in whatever u do.

Amen for the OP.

It is well with you. You've paid your dues, the universe will align to make things work for you hopefully. Don't fret, keep believing!

OmoGomesIlorin:
Some people are terrible naturally.

God bless my Boss anywhere he is now. I worked with him for 2 years with no salary, just a small allowee 30k/m, but I endured. And that was because he was servicing a 60m Bank loan. Las las the loan repayment was complete. He vowed to make me rich and between DEC-FEB he connected me with deals that fetch me 2.xm, connects me with people who dey dash me money almost everyone week, so far the gift for don't enter 400k. To date hm dey beg me to go buy land and be careful of women.

God bless all ogas wey sabi God.

Amen

NoToPile:
Too much stories of woe trailing this apprentice system nowadays.

For a system that made many men, this is not good.

If not because no money to start business generally the best these days would have been to pay to learn the business from the oga for 6months - 1 year and then start your own.

The economy sef is also not smiling on these ogas but on the flip side agreement is agreement, your word should be your bond.

Exactly what my bro did and gave him the capital

gaby:
Your oga will come for you for help in no distant time and it could be a life/death situation.

Believe.

which kain prayer b this na, oga dey em own u com met am em no force anybody to com share from em life struggle, life na choice e pay you fine it doesnt u lock up. some oga na boy boy run dem down

That's what you see in boyboy

But the main reason for it is not because of the money you were given or will receive, most of you are getting it wrong with that mindset


I served two masters, the first no money,the second was 150k and the money was for me to collect it from the customers owing me...

The main gain in serving is to learn the business very well,master it...

Then followed by building your own customers

The way you relate or attend to the customers will either make them patronize you when you start your own or they won't patronize you... these are the main reasons why you are learning trade.... because if you depend on your master, e fit reach the period of settlement make things change badly, in these economy wey things dey high, you can't ask him to give you more than he has, let's say he has 25m to run his business and family, you don't expect him to give you 10m or more.... you have the customers whom you must have made while serving him except you sef no Sabi draw customers

Na customers wey I make while with my first boss,I brought to the second boss, and I still carried when I was doing oso ahia for Lagos


It's not about the money it's about the experience you got... if no experience, no amount fit reach you... during covid,I was doing oso ahia, the debts I no see collect, had to take goods from people's shops,supply to the customers I have, then collect money and pay then back


I learnt honesty, sincerity,truth and trustworthy

All these na wetin go determine how far you will go... na trust make people dey give me goods to go sell and I was returning their money at the appointed time, if I never sell the goods finish, what I do is that I take the remaining goods and sell at the cost price make I see money take give the people I took their goods... Above all

BE PRAYERFUL AND AVOID WOMEN TILL YOU STAND YOUR GROUND...ESPECIALLY WOMEN, IT'S BETTER TO SPEND THE MONEY ON YOURSELF THAN ON WOMEN AND AVOID FRIENDS WEY NO FIT CONTRIBUTE TO YOUR SUCCESS... MINGLE WITH PEOPLE THAT ARE MORE THAN YOU IN BUSINESS, BECAUSE THEY WILL ALWAYS TALK ABOUT HOW TO MOVE TO THE NEXT LEVEL


WHAT I DID THEN WAS EVERYTIME I MAKE GOOD PROFIT, LIKE 10K FOR EXAMPLE, I USE 3K TO BUY TROPHY AND CATFISH PEPERSOUP,CHOP IN A BEER PARLOR ALONE AND GO HOME,THE REMAINING 7K GO ENTER BUSINESS AND MIND YOU NOT EVERYDAY OR TIME NA WHEN I FEEL SAY I DON TOO HUSTLE MAKE I CHOP LIFE SMALL,THEN I PLAN WHEN TO SPOIL MYSELF

IF KONJI HOLD ME TOO MUCH, I MASTURBATE AND I SABI HOLD MYSELF, I AVOID PROSTITUTE AND ANYTHING RELATED TO WOMEN AND SEX

EVEN HERE IN CHINA, SINCE I'VE BEEN IN CHINA, I'VE NEVER SLEPT WITH ANY WOMAN, ALL THESE ZABRAMA GIRLS WEY DEY INTO PROSTITUTION AND CHINESE WEY DEY INTO IT... 300YUAN GO SOLVE AM BUT I PREFER TO MASTURBATE AND SAVE THE 300YUAN, NA NOW WEY I GO TELL YOU SAY I FIT GET A GIRLFRIEND BECAUSE I DON REACH AM... BE WISE AND MAY GOD HELP YOU

Tallesty1:
Eight out of ten people who passed through this system have sufficient reason to hate women. I was telling someone the same thing just a couple of days ago. My senior bro went through the system, had a single boss when they started and everything was smooth. The man was full of praises, then boom! he decided to get involved with that which vexes all men.

Madam came and messed everything up. He told my brother in clear terms that he would go home with nothing, and there was no reason for that. No quarrels, no fights, no nothing. Just out of the abundance of her wickedness.

When they eventually settled with him, I, who was in secondary school at that time, had more savings than what he got. He swore that none of his siblings would go through that again.

My friend from Anambra has a similar story. He was four years into the agreement when his boss married. She made life hellish for him. It was the boss's mother who visited him briefly and then went home and told Anambra's mom to go and take her child before she kills him.

Chino, my man, was going through the same experience, but when it got to a level he couldn't take, he beat the woman, and that was it for him. The madam received a beating, but she was happy that her husband didn't settle Chino.

There is one I know in our line; he is about 15. He told me that his boss's wife only gives him fish heads, chicken legs and heads when they cook. I told his boss, and he told him to ensure he eats to his fill before going home after work.

Igbo men, many of them are very weak. Their women control them.

Who run the world?

santaclaws:


Despite the practicality of the local apprenticeship, everything he learnt for 7 years, an MBA (holder) will understand in one day based on superior knowledge. Although you said you'd pass LOL 😂

You even justified insufficient startup capital after 7 years of servitude. Bros, every labourer deserves his wage. It's his prerogative.

Of Course, he won't be able piece those knowledge together.

Truth is you should be saving Incase those oga are wicked all thanks to there wives

I can't take this ooo..
Was really touched and upset reading the story... I don't know how to go about it, without law and all... but I absolutely can't stand this, and won't let it go.

Inhumane, cheating behaviour... And I'm not a nice guy per say.

Sirmwill:
How will you be on the same spot for 7 years?

Is he literally on same spot? The skill n financial knowledge he gain means nothing? Does that mean a medical student that spent over 15years from primary to teaching hospital is on the same spot?

yewit37486:




Self proclaimed thief.

I hope you are not one of the ones that complain about government?

Na me be thief abi the oga that ripped his servant.

I said what I said.

bukatyne:


Like!

I grew up in an Igbo community and saw it make many men. A married man even did tanker boy for a rich man who went into water supply business and he started growing before we left.

I think their community elders/ traditional rulers should step in.

Possibly they should revise it or something, all these stories began gaining momentum some years back, early 2000s it was not that rampant like now, I might attribute it to the economy.

Money seems not to be flowing much like before.

May God bless OP and build his business.

DM me, I may have a way to significantly help you
If you have the connects.

This is a precious paid update, but will pull you in for free... If you are fortunate to have the contacts that is.

The story is irritating and very upsetting. Similar matters happened to a former friend (though older) then, when I was in my very early 20s then.

Oga and Boi dealings of the Igbos remain a great ancient practice that is rewarding if you view it from the right perspective. It has its two sides of manifestation or call it, it's poossible outcome, but every serious minded boi should make out something good from the system.
I talk from experience and in the nearest future, my book on comprehensive look at the system will be published. This will focus on addressing the ills of the system. I encourage anyone who wants to go into it to have a formal agreement with witnesses. It's presently being done in some areas. It protects both the oga and the boi in the dealings. One thing I find out in the system, is the unbalanced way life plays itself on human. Most good Ogas had ended up with very treacherous Bois and vice versa.
Don't cast every woman and don't generalize any experience. Some wives had been known for the only reason their husbands settled their bois. I speak from experience.
And for my brother, the poster, you are not disadvantaged here. The ball is in your court and the outcome of things will depend on how you play it. Remember some Ogas with clean source of money may settle you with next to nothing. But will bless you and give you directions and connections. Those with such advantage, if they are cool headed and diligent in business, always excell greatly.
To encourage you, today I am doing well. Yet not with any settlement, no N1 from my former boss as stolen money from him. And in the way life plays itself out sometimes, I visited him some years back in his office, just to greet him, carried with an official car. And to tell you the my experience is not just serving, but I was a Joseph in my Ogas business. I really made him and since I left him many years ago, he has not remained the same. Though I had some regrets too as a young guy, coming up in life, the experience of my service and my disappointments served as a motivating factor to whom I am today. One of my regret then, was my rejecting an offer of being sent abroad for a good business connections and dealings because I so much trusted the system then.

This apprenticeship is'nt only for Igbos Sha. Our educational system focuses only on theory getting to know the practicals, you need a master . With 2 degrees for box, I decided to go into the practical aspect of my field, ICT. I see shege from oga, I was reduced to nothing for a year, but I took it as a seed that was planted. Today I am doing well on my own. It pays only if you raise your tolerance level.

7yrs no be child's play you tried
But somehow I feel the decision you took over 7yrs ago isn't good enough
Maybe you should probably be a tailor or mechanic or other handiwork apprentice it could have been better at least 2 to 3 yrs you're on your own hustling you could have made far more than you were given.
Anyways, no long thing half bread is better than none

AuwalYusuf812:
this tactic of serving person me ah no follow.

What if the person con die

or u come die

Tallesty1:
Eight out of ten people who passed through this system have sufficient reason to hate women. I was telling someone the same thing just a couple of days ago. My senior bro went through the system, had a single boss when they started and everything was smooth. The man was full of praises, then boom! he decided to get involved with that which vexes all men.

Madam came and messed everything up. He told my brother in clear terms that he would go home with nothing, and there was no reason for that. No quarrels, no fights, no nothing. Just out of the abundance of her wickedness.

When they eventually settled with him, I, who was in secondary school at that time, had more savings than what he got. He swore that none of his siblings would go through that again.

My friend from Anambra has a similar story. He was four years into the agreement when his boss married. She made life hellish for him. It was the boss's mother who visited him briefly and then went home and told Anambra's mom to go and take her child before she kills him.

Chino, my man, was going through the same experience, but when it got to a level he couldn't take, he beat the woman, and that was it for him. The madam received a beating, but she was happy that her husband didn't settle Chino.

There is one I know in our line; he is about 15. He told me that his boss's wife only gives him fish heads, chicken legs and heads when they cook. I told his boss, and he told him to ensure he eats to his fill before going home after work.

Igbo men, many of them are very weak. Their women control them.

They'll soon come for you even though there appears to be a correlation in your story with domestic abuse rates of madams against house helps figures attributed to women of South Eastern origin.

Seeing how advanced societies here get practical, vocal, intentional and tenacious with visibly tackling systemic racism, sexism and other forms of discrimination, one often feels ashamed at how Nigerian groups would rather get defensive and lash out stupidly rather than addressing manifestations of abberant social behaviors in their midst.

Tallesty1:
Eight out of ten people who passed through this system have sufficient reason to hate women. I was telling someone the same thing just a couple of days ago. My senior bro went through the system, had a single boss when they started and everything was smooth. The man was full of praises, then boom! he decided to get involved with that which vexes all men.

Madam came and messed everything up. He told my brother in clear terms that he would go home with nothing, and there was no reason for that. No quarrels, no fights, no nothing. Just out of the abundance of her wickedness.

When they eventually settled with him, I, who was in secondary school at that time, had more savings than what he got. He swore that none of his siblings would go through that again.

My friend from Anambra has a similar story. He was four years into the agreement when his boss married. She made life hellish for him. It was the boss's mother who visited him briefly and then went home and told Anambra's mom to go and take her child before she kills him.

Chino, my man, was going through the same experience, but when it got to a level he couldn't take, he beat the woman, and that was it for him. The madam received a beating, but she was happy that her husband didn't settle Chino.

There is one I know in our line; he is about 15. He told me that his boss's wife only gives him fish heads, chicken legs and heads when they cook. I told his boss, and he told him to ensure he eats to his fill before going home after work.

Igbo men, many of them are very weak. Their women control them.

That your last statement about igbo men been weak is true.My cousin brother is staying with me,and I am the one sponsoring him even before I got married.When I got married, my wife wanted to influence me negativity against my brother.I tried talking to her but she refused.She told me to choose between she and my brother.I choose my brother and this got her angry,she started hitting me and also raining insults at me.I ignored her,but when she start insulting my parents that was when I gave her a resounding slap to reset her brain.She later left my house that day but was chased back by her father.Till today,she has been a very submissive wife.And that my cousin brother is even helping us today and the guy loves me so much because of the way I pampered him when he was staying with me.Most times,our men are the caused of the problem in their homes.How can you marry a woman you can't control?

weblord1900:
So 7+years ago I made this post seeking advice on a journey I was to embark on.
.
First of all pardon my English,
I'm here again to share my experience over the years of my apprenticeship and also the process. I know it's not all part of this country practice this system. It's more prevellent in the east.
For me there has been up and down and mostly down. This is something you can never understand until you personally experience it.. It will reshape your entire life especially your mind whether you like it or not.

I left my village by June to meet my Oga in the city. I spent 6months as testing. Like the first 6months were not counted as part of the agreement. I was even lucky because some spend 1year as testing. So I started in 2017 after agreement. This type of agreement just involve your oga coming to meet your parents with few eyewitnesses.. No lawyer or paper to sign. Just verbal agreement ,No fixed price .. They'll only discuss on how long you will work for him or her( the oga or madam).

When I started my Oga is still single so I was doing most of the works in the house including cooking .. We were living very happy .. I was eating very well .if you look at me then the evidence is there 😀 Sometimes my oga will come back with full fried chicken oh oh.. Only me and him .. Things where just smooth ..
Fast forward to 2019 my oga decided to my settle down.. I think I use like 4years senior my oga wife. At the first few months his wife was very angelic,calm and gentle. She serve us tea every morning..
Omo how she take change I don't know 🙆🏾‍♂️ I no offend anybody .. I'm very calm in nature .. My oga follow change too. Nobody day send me again ..

During 2020 covid 19 my eyes saw my ears .. I know things was hard then but mine was hard pro max. From 2018 I started suffering from chronic tonsillitis. I was taking drugs up and down including self medication .. I started noticing change from the way I speak because I don't know if it's the drug or the sickness that's affecting me .. I had no one to tell. By 2021 I gathered courage and told my oga 😪.. He carry me go meet aboki people make he carry scissors chop the two damaged tonsils in my throat .. Them just day price am 3k 5k I day one side day shed tears 😭 . I called someone and told him about everything. He told my oga to take me to a good hospital. The story long sha but at the end I went under tonsillectomy surgery .. I'm now fine

By 2023 which is supposed to be my last year my oga carry another problem come.. The way he was treating me caused problems between some of his brother and sister including some of his friends because they don't like the way he was treating me. They were all encouraging and giving me advice to persevere because I'm almost through its just a temptation.
I was settled this February with wetin my mouth not fit talk after serving for 7year chai😭 🤦. You can't even rent a shop with here with the amount I received. I haven't talked about buying the goods in this period every price has sky rocketed. I thank my family and friends it's all good.

Life is a journey ..I still have more opportunities ahead of me. I have seen more than 20 other people that have come to serve but didn't finish. Most of them doesn't last for 2years but I persist because I'm determined for success. With this energy nothing can stop me.

Let me tell you some key points in this system.
1. They don't tell you how much you'll receive at the end. Just be ready to take what you see.
2. It will greatly affect your mental health positively or negatively depending on how you are being treated.
3. There will be alot of temptations and peer pressure if you're not careful you'll be dismissed.
4. If at the end your oga decides not to settle you ,that's all for you. He cannot be procecuted by any law since there is no signed agreement.
5. You'll be blamed for some wrong things you didn't do.
6. There are some common thing you won't be allowed to do.. Like voting during election or going to the football field to play with your friends. You can only be at home or shop.
7. For example if you agreed to work for 5years you might see yourself still working for him after 7years with no settlement. I have seen lot of them.

I'm going to be 28 next month. I have seen and experience more, this is all I can say for now. I can't say i am at loss or profit here because I cherish the experience I gained over the year although I didn't get the finance which made to start the journey at the beginning. If I had money I would have just learn the business for less than a year and start my own but such is life. Some of my classmates are doing well while others never see food chop. Some of the females are married with 2 to 3 children. Mine isn't the worst tho. This life no balance.
I just hope this government make things easy for everybody. E come reach my turn to hustle everywhere come red 🔴😂 ..

I thank Se.un for Nairaland o.. Na here I day come read everything including the cruise, bash, and banter. SE.UN abeg check if my story na front page material 😁

God bless you, brother, the system is never perfect, it is a learning school for a reason. However My prayer for you today is that you will excel in your line of business, and become even greater than your boss. It is good you persevere and complete the time.

Now here is my advice, kindly take the whole capital you have been settled with to your local church and have your pastor pray with you.
Still, maintain a very respective cordial relationship with your boss and his wife
- Start small, you know the terrain better, lookup options of sharing a shop with anyone offering or even a "canter" in your line of business in the market.
- If you can now, avoid billings from home, you are just starting up and I trust your mum understands this too, however, know when to come in.
- This is the season where you will have to work off your ass, at this stage now, almost 80% of the revenue you will generate will be from referral sales "Oso Ahia", and having built that great relationship with your boss, his shop and that of his friends in the line will be open to you.
- Make sure you are honest in your dealings, if this is found, many big chaps in the lines will open up credit sales to you (Big importers in the lines giving you discounted goods on credit....... these credit goods levels will be increased as turn over increases and with time, you can start by "group pages" Hope I get it right.
- By all accounts, avoid women for now, they are never a priority, and for accommodation, you can share accommodation for now.
- By all means, please avoid sports bettings!!!! it has ended so many starts up.
- Leverage ICT, WhatsApp, and your social media pages to advertise your business.
- Get to Know God now and rely on him
- Finally, put into practice all the lessons you have learned from your boss, even those suggestions you gave he never tried, as the saying goes, it is starting a draft work that is difficult, but once the draft has been done, the rest of the work is easy, you already have your draft work, now improve on it.

Finally, share your line of business, this is a big community, and you never can tell where the big break will come from .

The system is not perfect, I lost my only brother to it in 2004, Uche may your soul continue to rest in Peace still kept thinking why the business route? when you had the option of furthering your education, even when you made fantastic results in your O'level, but it was not to be, as the allure of the big boys in business during the Christmas Village holiday overcame you.

Most stories we hear concerning the apprenticeship stuff is not always palatable, and full of regrets etc, an indication the system is not perfect and marred with irregularities. I think is high time, the so called ogas have a rethink and always do the needful.. Apprentice are human and not slaves.