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Plz I need your advice folks.
I'm newly married. Before I married,I got a government teaching job in the east. My husband stays in Lagos but I stay in one of the states in the east. We got married in January this year and since then it's been difficult for us because of the distance. My husband is doing a good job in Lagos. I'm just afraid of relocating and staying idle at home,coupled with the fear of losing a government job that is pensionable. My friends and colleagues advised me to continue with my work and visit him during the holidays but some advised against such. I'm in a tight spot right now and don't want to take a decision I will end up regretting tomorrow. Please,your opinions are needed. Thanks.

I work in govt too...have u check the life and style of people in that office to know if what u are saying is true?
Government job doesn't guarantee a secure future except multiple stealing that goes in there.

I tell u for free...if ur salary isn't upto 150k minimum pls,go and join ur husband.

I have worked for 9years going to 10 and my pension has been terribly depleted,dwarfed and devalued and I have only found solace in my side income and about to quit the so called govt work.

It is easy to say that such jobs are pensionable but they don't guarantee the future...as most govt workers now owe online loan more than any group of people in Nigeria currently.

Finally,join ur husband and start a business in Lagos as soon as possible.

This is my opinion and not a final conclusion...maka indi uta.

Good luck to u.

homelybabe:
Plz I need your advice folks.
I'm newly married. Before I married,I got a government teaching job in the east. My husband stays in Lagos but I stay in one of the states in the east. We got married in January this year and since then it's been difficult for us because of the distance. My husband is doing a good job in Lagos. I'm just afraid of relocating and staying idle at home,coupled with the fear of losing a government job that is pensionable. My friends and colleagues advised me to continue with my work and visit him during the holidays but some advised against such. I'm in a tight spot right now and don't want to take a decision I will end up regretting tomorrow. Please,your opinions are needed. Thanks.

Nice2023:
I work in govt too...have u check the life and style of people in that office to know if what u are saying is true?
Government job doesn't guarantee a secure future except multiple stealing that goes in there.

I tell u for free...if ur salary isn't upto 150k minimum pls,go and join ur husband.

I have worked for 9years going to 10 and my pension has been terribly depleted,dwarfed and devalued and I have only found solace in my side income and about to quit the so called govt work.

It is easy to say that say that such jobs are pensionable but they don't guarantee the future...as most govt workers now owe online loan more than any group of people in Nigeria currently.

Finally,join ur husband and start a business in Lagos as soon as possible.

This is my opinion and not a final conclusion...maka indi uta.

Good luck to u.

Thanks a lot for the advice. The money isn't up to 70k. I'm still in level 8

homelybabe:
Thanks a lot for the advice. The money isn't up to 70k. I'm still in level 8

I am in level 10 waiting for my 12 soon...but i can vividly tell u,that govt job is a no no for me.

By next year I am leaving.

Madam relocate and join your husband in Lagos since you're newly married. You know definitely your husband will not relocate to join you. Your marriage is too young for both of you to be apart.

Go and be with your husband madam

Aunty go and join your husband abeg...

No Nigerian govt work is pensionable these days......At least I can go on and on to list people whom worked their entire life for govt only for them to retire without receiving any shishi pension....Some of them don even die self......

Nice2023:
I am in level 10 waiting for my 12 soon...but i can vividly tell u,that govt job is a no no for me.

By next year I am leaving.

Allow her to reach your level before advising her to quit.

Government job is a no no for you but you don reach level 10, waiting for 12.

You and him should've discussed something like this before the marriage but living apart as newlyweds should not be an option. You're newly married, so you and your spouse should be living together as husband and wife. This is your honeymoon stage that you should be enjoying together.

You can start applying for jobs in Lagos where he is, then move there once you find, or move now and hope you'll find. In any case, you should be together and you should have your own means of income, as you don't want to rely only on your husband's money. Having your own money as a woman is power.

Government workers and the fear of losing their pension. By the time you're retiring from that work, your pension will be worth next to nothing (assuming the Naira continues to fall in the manner we have seen in the last 10-20 years). There are many reasons why you may want to stay, but that pension is completely off the list.

Zonefree:
Allow her to reach your level before advising her to quit.

Government job is a no no for you but you don reach level 10, waiting for 12.

If u are sensible enough u will know that she asked for an advice and I gave one based on what she demanded for and I added a caveat that says: my opinion and not a conclusion.

Grow up and pray for more sense so that u don't grow into a fool at old age.

homelybabe:
Thanks a lot for the advice. The money isn't up to 70k. I'm still in level 8

U are most welcome.

homelybabe:
Plz I need your advice folks.
I'm newly married. Before I married,I got a government teaching job in the east. My husband stays in Lagos but I stay in one of the states in the east. We got married in January this year and since then it's been difficult for us because of the distance. My husband is doing a good job in Lagos. I'm just afraid of relocating and staying idle at home,coupled with the fear of losing a government job that is pensionable. My friends and colleagues advised me to continue with my work and visit him during the holidays but some advised against such. I'm in a tight spot right now and don't want to take a decision I will end up regretting tomorrow. Please,your opinions are needed. Thanks.

before you relocate get a job in lagos, if not there would be problems. Use this time to apply and secure a job in lagos your husbands job not withstanding.

homelybabe:
Thanks a lot for the advice. The money isn't up to 70k. I'm still in level 8

find a way and transfer your service to lagos. Dont listen to anybody telling you to resign and relocate without any job waiting for you.

You are not ready for marriage madam.

jesmond3945:
find a way and transfer your service to lagos. Dont listen to anybody telling you to resign and relocate without any job waiting for you.

Thanks but my State doesn't do Inter-State transfer

homelybabe:
Plz I need your advice folks.
I'm newly married. Before I married,I got a government teaching job in the east. My husband stays in Lagos but I stay in one of the states in the east. We got married in January this year and since then it's been difficult for us because of the distance. My husband is doing a good job in Lagos. I'm just afraid of relocating and staying idle at home,coupled with the fear of losing a government job that is pensionable. My friends and colleagues advised me to continue with my work and visit him during the holidays but some advised against such. I'm in a tight spot right now and don't want to take a decision I will end up regretting tomorrow. Please,your opinions are needed. Thanks.

My pastor use to say something, he will say, don't prepare for wrestling in the wrestling ring, you will be defeated.

This question you asked, does it mean that you just got that job after your wedding or before your wedding? Because this supposed to be one of the point of discussions with an agreed solution. You know it is a risk to keep distance in marriage. Check out the scripture on even couples embarking on fasting

Zonefree:
Allow her to reach your level before advising her to quit.

Government job is a no no for you but you don reach level 10, waiting for 12.

Don't mind him, after he has used government job and money to build up himself, he's now advising somebody to leave...

So that she can go and be a burding to the husband, they think Lagos is easy like that, nah when the woman enter, the husband go know say feeding pass feeding

homelybabe:
Plz I need your advice folks.
I'm newly married. Before I married,I got a government teaching job in the east. My husband stays in Lagos but I stay in one of the states in the east. We got married in January this year and since then it's been difficult for us because of the distance. My husband is doing a good job in Lagos. I'm just afraid of relocating and staying idle at home,coupled with the fear of losing a government job that is pensionable. My friends and colleagues advised me to continue with my work and visit him during the holidays but some advised against such. I'm in a tight spot right now and don't want to take a decision I will end up regretting tomorrow. Please,your opinions are needed. Thanks.

can't you be transfered to Lagos?

Dont bother to resign, you can do inter state transfer but you will lose one level. Make more enquiry on this

Ajione:
Dont bother to resign, you can do inter state transfer but you will lose one level. Make more enquiry on this

It could be a state government job.

homelybabe:
Thanks but my State doesn't do Inter-State transfer

well try and get a job especially govt job in lagos to avoid see finish. Anything that would take you from the house would make your huaband happy. If your hubby set up biz for you, he always be on your matter. So salary employment is okay.

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Zonefree:
Allow her to reach your level before advising her to quit.

Government job is a no no for you but you don reach level 10, waiting for 12.

Government job, it's entitlement and level apart, it is in no way ideal for married couple to live apart. Even ordinary romantic friendship suffers as a result of long distance relationship. Aunt quickly relocate to live with your hubby.

Today, no govt job is pensionable. U shud know better. If it is job security u want then u are not ready for the challenge being a young lady. My advice is resign and join Ur husband. Dust Ur CV and start applying now. Better u both fight on the same front than two fronts. Govt job nowadays are next to nothing because the salary is just too small. Unless u are on grade level 12 and above, it's best you join Ur husband

Relocate

Nice2023:
I work in govt too...have u check the life and style of people in that office to know if what u are saying is true?
Government job doesn't guarantee a secure future except multiple stealing that goes in there.

I tell u for free...if ur salary isn't upto 150k minimum pls,go and join ur husband.

I have worked for 9years going to 10 and my pension has been terribly depleted,dwarfed and devalued and I have only found solace in my side income and about to quit the so called govt work.

It is easy to say that say that such jobs are pensionable but they don't guarantee the future...as most govt workers now owe online loan more than any group of people in Nigeria currently.

Finally,join ur husband and start a business in Lagos as soon as possible.

This is my opinion and not a final conclusion...maka indi uta.

Good luck to u.

I guess some ragtags must have bullied you to stop posting.
I do enjoy reading your threads,just so you know.

homelybabe:
Plz I need your advice folks.
I'm newly married. Before I married,I got a government teaching job in the east. My husband stays in Lagos but I stay in one of the states in the east. We got married in January this year and since then it's been difficult for us because of the distance. My husband is doing a good job in Lagos. I'm just afraid of relocating and staying idle at home,coupled with the fear of losing a government job that is pensionable. My friends and colleagues advised me to continue with my work and visit him during the holidays but some advised against such. I'm in a tight spot right now and don't want to take a decision I will end up regretting tomorrow. Please,your opinions are needed. Thanks.

Relocate. But before you do, start applying for jobs in Lagos. 70k jobs are in Lagos. If you don't relocate, you guys would be running two households in Tinubu's economy. Can your <70k pay your rent in the SE without his support? Can it pay your transportation to go visit him without rigorous savings and provision? Or would that expense be on him? How often would these visits be?

If the option of redeployment is there, then you can explore that. If not, please relocate. You are still young and the world is yours to conquer.

Xosh:
I guess some ragtags must have bullied you to stop posting.
I do enjoy reading your threads,just so you know.

Who are the "Rag-tags"?

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Proserpina:
Go and meet your husband


I won't type more than that

Na her sister in-law be this.
Nothing you fit tell me.

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Proserpina:
No nah.... Tell me what's she doing in the east?

Eh eh eh

*Claps hands
Newly wed
How will they have babies?

You are right. They need to be together as newly weds. A job of less than 70k is not worth staying apart. If na 70k job she like, she fit find one supermarket for area in Lag amd work as manager. It is more challenging and mentally stimulating than govt job . I never knew there are young people there sef.