Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / New
Stats: 3,134,800 members, 7,748,791 topics. Date: Monday, 26 February 2024 at 02:26 PM

My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us - Family - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us (88783 Views)

My Husband Doesn’t Love Me / My Husband doesn’t give me sexual satisfaction because he uses condom / My Husband Doesn’t Satisfy Me Sexually, Our Kids Not His – Wife (2) (3) (4)

(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) ... (59) (Reply) (Go Down)

My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 1:27pm On Mar 12, 2020
I had 2 children. When I got married, my husband had none and accepted them like his own children.

Before marriage, we had discussed about the children living with us after marriage but that couldn’t be possible anymore because we were having financial problem so we couldn’t afford to move to a bigger apartment. We were staying in a room self contain with my daughter while my son was staying with my elder brother and his wife.

Now three years after we had moved to a bigger house still my husband doesn’t want my son to come and live with us. At the moment my son is going through hard times. My sister in law has been maltreating him to an extent that he has been stealing, he was caught and beaten like an animal. My brother said he doesn’t want him in his house again. He wants me to come and collect him.

I pleaded with my husband for me to bring him with us but he said no, he should stay there because he doesn't want him to damage our children. I’m angry at him I stopped talking to him and I don’t know where my son will go because I have no mother no father it’s only my elder brother and kid sister even my sister who is married doesn’t want him. I’m pained and in tears seeing my only son suffering while I’m still alive and I’m helpless to protect him.

98 Likes 10 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Davash222(m): 1:30pm On Mar 12, 2020
Your siblings that are your relatives don't want the boy but you want your husband that is not your relative to accept the boy
You should learn to attend to your responsibilities and mistakes. Don't drag your mistakes to that innocent man. He has done more than enough for you.

Marrying a Nigerian girl with two children(not even one) is not what every man can do. That man deserves peace and respect from you.

891 Likes 93 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Shifi1: 1:33pm On Mar 12, 2020
take him to his father na

560 Likes 20 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 1:46pm On Mar 12, 2020
Davash222:
Your siblings that are your relatives doesn't want the boy but you want your husband that is not your relative to accept the boy
You should learn to attend to your responsibilities and mistakes. Don't drag your mistakes to that innocent man. He has done more than enough for you.

Marrying a Nigerian girl with two children(not even one) is not what every man can do. That man deserves peace and respect from you.
I foot 70% of the bills , I pay my daughter school fee including my first child with my husband I pay half of her school fee ,all my son need is a place to stay, my husband won’t be the one paying his school fee

202 Likes 11 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 1:46pm On Mar 12, 2020
Shifi1:
take him to his father na
He is not in Nigeria

20 Likes 4 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by olagbemi118(m): 1:47pm On Mar 12, 2020
That boy has a father that should be responsible for him na.

208 Likes 3 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by movement2020: 1:49pm On Mar 12, 2020
How old is your son?

How old is your daughter?

How many kids do you have for your new husband?

Where is the father of the other kids?

Are you still in touch? If NO, what about his siblings? Are they much around?

Have you improved financially to accommodate your son?

81 Likes 3 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Richy4(m): 1:54pm On Mar 12, 2020
I don't really understand this story.. Ok let me get the picture correct

------You got married 3 year ago right?
---- You got 2 kids from your previous marriage/ Relationship; one is living with U while the other was living with your relatives.

---- You don't have any kid for your present husband right?

----So which Kids was he afraid of your son corrupting or According to you "damaging" ?

43 Likes 2 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Davash222(m): 1:57pm On Mar 12, 2020
Vyvyanvyvy:

I foot 70% of the bills , I pay my daughter school fee including my first child with my husband I pay half of her school fee ,all my son need is a place to stay, my husband won’t be the one paying his school fee
I do this, I do that... abeg make we hear word.
Take the boy to his dad!

375 Likes 27 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by janvier27(m): 1:59pm On Mar 12, 2020
Your son is not a thief. He's a small child who found himself in an unfortunate situation, and he'll surely get over it. He needs love and attention. It's difficult not to place blames. I think you should have allowed those kids to get older before marriage. Your elder brother has failed you. So also your husband. Keep appealing to your husband or take a break off to live with your kids and show them love so that they can grow properly. Marriage is not all about keeping a woman at home and raising biological children from her.

454 Likes 17 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Oyindidi(f): 1:59pm On Mar 12, 2020
You love the mother but you no want her son in your house. Yeye husband

209 Likes 11 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Oyindidi(f): 2:00pm On Mar 12, 2020
Davash222:

I do this, I do that... abeg make we hear word.
Take the boy to his dad!
Lol, men hate independent womengrin see as e dey pain you.

Modifiedgrin
O ye Nairaland men! cheesy I like the taste of your tears, keep crying in my mentiongrin
I said what I said with my full chest grin
Donate your tears here grin the tank is here

352 Likes 18 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Richy4(m): 2:00pm On Mar 12, 2020
Your siblings that are your relatives doesn't want the boy but you want your husband that is not your relative to accept the boy
You should learn to attend to your responsibilities and mistakes. Don't drag your mistakes to that innocent man. He has done more than enough for you.

Marrying a Nigerian girl with two children(not even one) is not what every man can do. That man deserves peace and respect from you.



Haba!! U are acting as if he was doing her a favor by marrying her.. That mentality is so rustic in my opinion

359 Likes 10 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 2:01pm On Mar 12, 2020
movement2020:
How old is your son?

How old is your daughter?

How many kids do you have for your new husband?

Where is the father of the other kids?

Are you still in touch? If NO, what about his siblings? Are they much around?

Have you improved financially to accommodate your son?

He will be 12 years in August , my daughter is 6 years, I have one daughter for my husband she is 2 years and I’m pregnant with another one. Their father is not in Nigeria and I don’t have his contact or his siblings. Yes I have a grocery shop I foot 70% bills in my house

92 Likes 6 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Oyindidi(f): 2:04pm On Mar 12, 2020
Vyvyanvyvy:

He will be 12 years in August , my daughter is 6 years, I have one daughter for my husband she is 2 years and I’m pregnant with another one. Their father is not in Nigeria and I don’t have his contact or his siblings. Yes I have a grocery shop I foot 70% bills in my house
Na Alien you born with?

112 Likes 6 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 2:04pm On Mar 12, 2020
Richy4:
I don't really understand this story.. Ok let me get the picture correct

------You got married 3 year ago right?
---- You got 2 kids from your previous marriage/ Relationship; one is living with U while the other was living with your relatives.

---- You don't have any kid for your present husband right?

----So which Kids was he afraid of your son corrupting or According to you "damaging" ?

Yes I got married 3 years ago and I had 2 children from previous relationship , one with my husband and I’m pregnant with another

8 Likes

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Belafonte(m): 2:04pm On Mar 12, 2020
You do not have the contact of the father of your children, but you think the problem is your new husband. I comment my reserve Biko.

176 Likes 10 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Davash222(m): 2:04pm On Mar 12, 2020
Oyindidi:
Lol, men hate independent womengrin see as e dey pain you
How is she independent when she’s still living with a man
If she’s independent, let her divorce the man and rent a house for herself and her kids. That’s what I call independent.
She’s begging a man to accommodate her son and you’re claiming she’s independent.

321 Likes 20 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by eyefordetails: 2:05pm On Mar 12, 2020
Oyindidi:
You love the mother but you no want her son in your house. Yeye husband
Don't mind him. He feels he's done her enough favour firstly by marrying her with the kids( baggage)...

36 Likes 5 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by letskeeptalking: 2:06pm On Mar 12, 2020
Vyvyanvyvy:

He will be 12 years in August , my daughter is 6 years, I have one daughter for my husband she is 2 years and I’m pregnant with another one. Their father is not in Nigeria and I don’t have his contact or his siblings. Yes I have a grocery shop I foot 70% bills in my house

You foot 70% of bills in your house and yet you allow your husband to dictate to you what to do with your own son.

Madam, I don't think you are a serious person.

Personally I will rather be single than be with a man who will stand between me and my children. Even if I have to live in poverty. But you are financially capable, you just want to answer 'Mrs' at the expense of your child.

After bouncing him off relatives for years, you are now using your husband as an excuse to run from your duty.

Shame!

286 Likes 21 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Davash222(m): 2:06pm On Mar 12, 2020
Richy4:
Your siblings that are your relatives doesn't want the boy but you want your husband that is not your relative to accept the boy
You should learn to attend to your responsibilities and mistakes. Don't drag your mistakes to that innocent man. He has done more than enough for you.

Marrying a Nigerian girl with two children(not even one) is not what every man can do. That man deserves peace and respect from you.




Haba!! U are acting as if he was doing her a favor by marrying her.. That mentality is so rustic in my opinion
Engineer, oya come and oil the rustic mentality.

57 Likes 1 Share

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Oyindidi(f): 2:06pm On Mar 12, 2020
Davash222:

How is she independent when she’s still living with a man
If she’s independent, let her divorce the man and rent a house for herself and her kids. That’s what I call independent.
She’s a begging a man to accommodate her son and you’re claiming she’s independent.
Watin dey pain you this afternoon? She is doing well for herself, oya start crying

112 Likes 10 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 2:07pm On Mar 12, 2020
Life is always easier when u have money.
How do u think the poor man will cope with all these BS??

3 Likes 1 Share

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Belafonte(m): 2:07pm On Mar 12, 2020
janvier27:
Your son is not a thief. He's a small child who found himself in an unfortunate situation, and he'll surely get over it. He needs love and attention. It's difficult not to place blames. I think you should have allowed those kids to get older before marriage. Your elder brother has failed you. So also your husband. Keep appealing to your husband or take a break off to live with your kids and show them love so that they can grow properly. Marriage is not all about keeping a woman at home and raising biological children from her.

This is the entitlement we are talking about. How did her elder brother fail her? By refusing to house a thief? Do bear in mind that may have been the straw that broke the camel’s back.

Why doesn’t she send the boy to his father, after all, he’s alive

48 Likes 6 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Davash222(m): 2:08pm On Mar 12, 2020
Oyindidi:
Na Allien you born with?
See the kind of question you’re asking Independent woman.
Lol

65 Likes 8 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Oyindidi(f): 2:09pm On Mar 12, 2020
eyefordetails:

Don't mind him. He feels he's done her enough favour firstly by marrying her with the kids( baggage)...
Na yeye dey worry am, she tell am before marriage, him no back out

27 Likes 5 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Belafonte(m): 2:09pm On Mar 12, 2020
Oyindidi:
You love the mother but you no want her son in your house. Yeye husband

Very yeye.

13 Likes 3 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 2:10pm On Mar 12, 2020
janvier27:
Your son is not a thief. He's a small child who found himself in an unfortunate situation, and he'll surely get over it. He needs love and attention. It's difficult not to place blames. I think you should have allowed those kids to get older before marriage. Your elder brother has failed you. So also your husband. Keep appealing to your husband or take a break off to live with your kids and show them love so that they can grow properly. Marriage is not all about keeping a woman at home and raising biological children from her.
Thanks for nice advice. You are right my son has become a thief due to the way my sister in law has being treating him , depriving him from food and many bad things the boy had no other choice than to steel. Since I’m alive I want him to be with me and I will take good care of him

45 Likes 6 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Davash222(m): 2:11pm On Mar 12, 2020
Oyindidi:
Watin dey pain you this afternoon? She is doing well for herself, oya start crying
Na you and your miss independent dey pain me with una entitlement mentality.

24 Likes 2 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by DozieInc(m): 2:11pm On Mar 12, 2020
Complicated matters.
Too bad your relatives wouldn't accommodate your son, very few men would want to raise another man's child.
Quarreling or not talking to your husband won't profer solution.
Try make him see reasons, appeal to his conscience. Don't make it seem as if he is obligated to house your son.
Best wishes

39 Likes 8 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 2:13pm On Mar 12, 2020
Oyindidi:
Na Allien you born with?
He traveled to Italy and abandoned me with the children I shouldn’t waste my time waiting for him because he had move on and I’m also free to move on with my life

88 Likes 7 Shares

Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Oyindidi(f): 2:15pm On Mar 12, 2020
Davash222:

Na you and your miss independent dey pain me with una entitlement mentality.
How? The man promised to bring the boy in when they move to better place. Where your conscience dey?

47 Likes 4 Shares

(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) ... (59) (Reply)

Father Flogs Daughter For Posting Nude Videos On Instagram / Our Wedding Pictures (White And Traditional) / Pure Water Seller Arrested Over Sex With Top Businessman’s Wife

(Go Up)

Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health
religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket

Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10)

Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 47
Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland.