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Allwell96:
I and my wife are married for 15years now and we are enjoying it everyday. We simply listen and believe the word of God and it's working for us. If u do that and pray together, you'll not regret. That's why you have to take time to get a God fearing lady, you too have to be God fearing, everything will be alright.

Am so happy to hearing from you, thanks sir

lordnkem000:
Thank you so much sir, you are so wonderful. You don't know how much I've learned from your generous comment. God bless you

Amen. God bless you too.

You just have useless friends...marriage is a good thing if you're ready to be deciplined and marry right.

lordnkem000:
I have been observing my married friends, colleagues & even neighbors around and I noticed deep down their marriages were all lacking discipline, they cheat on each other, lie, they pretend and most of them are so miserable.

Funny thing is two of my friends are not even up to 3yrs in marriage and they are so tired. Yesterday I met an old classmate of mine and he told me the girl I saw him with wasn't his wife, just for knacks, that he's been married for 1yr and 9months but he's tired of his marriage. It made me scared because here i am thinking of finding a wife and people in it are wanting out.

So I'm asking, what could be the problem with staying married these days?

People who have been married for 10+ years what is your secret? I'm curious to learn a thing or two

When it comes to marriage seek the face of God, he knows what's best for you.

And I hope you're also preparing for the marriage too cos it entails alot.

Afrobasic:
I've said this before and I will say it again.

Na MUMU dey marry.

My friend go and sleep.

Afrobasic:
You still dey ask? No be you create topic?

Don't you see how bad modern marriages/women are? I will rather be single for life and enjoy my wealth alone, than to carry one liability in the name of love.

Instead of talking trash go seek the face of God for a life partner.

achimendy:
When it comes to marriage seek the face of God, he knows what's best for you.

And I hope you're also preparing for the marriage too cos it entails alot.

I really want to but I'm so afraid because of what I see. It's so disheartening

achimendy:
Instead of talking trash go seek the face of God for a life partner.

E say seek God 🤣

Na man like you dey raise another person pikin unknowingly.

Una too mumu and refuse to accept reality.

lordnkem000:
I really want to but I'm so afraid because of what I see. It's so disheartening

When God is involve you don't need to fear anything. You need to labour on the part of prayer, talk to your pastor or spiritual guidance to help you pray over it.

I was like you too b4 until i pondered on the word of God, and I've decided that I'll get married if God gives me a virtues woman that fear him.

Afrobasic:
E say seek God 🤣

Na man like you dey raise another person pikin unknowingly.

Una too mumu and refuse to accept reality.

That reality is what's deceiving you. The person that brainwashed you has really tried.


You better open your eyes b4 it's too late.

achimendy:
That reality is what's deceiving you. The person that brainwashed you has really tried.


You better open your eyes b4 it's too late.

The emboldened is all I need to know about your state of mind.

Have a good day bro.

achimendy:
When God is involve you don't need to fear anything. You need to labour on the part of prayer, talk to your pastor or spiritual guidance to help you pray over it.

I was like you too b4 until i pondered on the word of God, and I've decided that I'll get married if God gives me a virtues woman that fear him.

Okay thanks
Though i think it's difficult finding that virtuous woman in this current economy

lordnkem000:
Okay thanks
Though i think it's difficult finding that virtuous woman in this current economy

Truly It's difficult but also possible. Just be positive on this issue, seek God's help and don't forget to use your brain too.

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying to people in your blindness! God washed His hands off marriage and declared that it is not of His Kingdom but of the world of men. How can the same God be the one who outfits you in your marriage when in the same circle you belong marriages experience pretty much the same troubles and breaks as the marriages of those who don't subscribe to your particular delusion? Is God a liar or something to you?

Kindly read, digest and understand what was written.
Thanks

saintmm:
Kindly read, digest and understand what was written.
Thanks

I did and not only did you lie against the God of Israel who made clear that your marriages are not of His Kingdom, you also are mistaken about the reason for your supposed success in marriage. We are talking here of a God who pronounced His blessings/permission on those who would live as Eunuchs, along with women who have no children or are unable to bear children. Where you folks get the idea that God is for your marriages is from the lying mouths of your mogs and pastors.

Afrobasic:
The emboldened is all I need to know about your state of mind.

Have a good day bro.

That's exactly what you should be working on (your state of mind). You've been seriously influenced or brainwashed either by your friends, social media, parents or any other negative elements around you.

I'll suggest you go for counselling for your own good.

lordnkem000:
Are you sure? Because even our pastors and reverends suffer this same issues, are you saying they don't seek God's face or what? Pls we need physical intercession

I strongly believe it works because I've seen it works.
Also, it is not about religious title or position, it's a personal choice matter. The principles are there, the process is there. It's only a choice of knowledge and obedience on the part of the players.

Kobojunkie:
I did and not only did you lie against the God of Israel who made clear that your marriages are not of His Kingdom, you also are mistaken about the reason for your supposed success in marriage. We are talking here of a God who pronounced His blessings/permission on those who would live as Eunuchs, along with women who have no children or are unable to bear children. Where you folks get the idea that God is for your marriages is from the lying mouths of your mogs and pastors.

You are entitled to your opinion as much as I'm entitled to mine.
It's my personal principle never to insult or curse anyone in the course of my discussion with anyone as I don't impose my life principles on anyone. I simply state my stand on an issue when asked and move on as no one has the right to tell me how to live and I believe I don't have that over others as well. Because I believed education ought to make anyone more objective, even as that it's my opinion. So face front and get off my mention as I will no longer dignify you with response

saintmm:
■ You are entitled to your opinion as much as I'm entitled to mine. It's my personal principle never to insult or curse anyone in the course of my discussion with anyone as I don't impose my life principles on anyone. I simply state my stand on an issue when asked and move on as no one has the right to tell me how to live and I believe I don't have that over others as well. Because I believed education ought to make anyone more objective, even as that it's my opinion. So face front and get off my mention as I will no longer dignify you with response

If your belief in God is based on your opinion and not what God said then clearly, what you worship are gods made of your understanding and absolutely nothing of the Truth of Jesus Christ and the God of Israel. And this is all the more reason why you should not go around mentioning the name of God whose Truth you care nothing for.

achimendy:
Truly It's difficult but also possible. Just be positive on this issue, seek God's help and don't forget to use your brain too.

Thanks

Fryx:
I get you. I use to say it that I am not married yet though.

However, I have always been entangled with women. Both nice ones, snd strict ones. In fact, even the ones that guys struggle to woo, they usually develop soft spot for me. I think they mistook me for an easy man to control.

But, regardless, I do take charge once we get closer. But by then, they would have been too taken by their feelings to keep up putting on their guard and high standards.

Apart from the feelings. What works best is “know what you are doing as a man”. Have a clear vision for yourself and any woman in your life (friend or lover) and they will naturally submit to you.

Just be a leader. They will follow. They are meant to follow.

But being a leader also means you have great responsibility. They look up to you and emulate you. It’s dangerous to betray a woman or take them for granted. Even if you want to hurt them, take their permission and make it seem sweet. They love sweet pain.

Just make any pain you are causing them a sweet pain. They wont know when they will start agreeing to you. Also, make every decision you made look like they are the one making the decision. It gives them a sense of belonging.


And it’s true that replacing a woman is not always easy. Marriage is like a covenant plus if you love her, it became harder.

I think, the most important thing is focusing energy on developing mental strength. With a good mental strength, you can take any hard decision.

A girl once use her diabolical power to tie me down (she is an ogbanje). But once I discovered it’s not normal. I made it my next step to break free.

Do you know how I succeed? I found a girl that’s also spiritual. Ever since I met my new girl, every influence the former one had on me stopped. And I saw what transpired in a dream.

My new girl is more respectful. More reasonable and not as bitter as my previous one. Although, the both of them are still close to me.

I don’t hate my old girl. But, I don’t have control over her because of what she did to me. I won’t mind whatever she does if she is reasonable. But she is far from being reasonable. I have that control now, having broken free.

.... Two Women tied you down ....

Kobojunkie:
You are still contradicting yourself. You wifed her therefore you found a good thing. That is what you keep saying even as you continue to insist there are wrong marriages.

*you only wife her if she's a 'good thing'. Logically, it follows that if you don't come across any you consider 'good', don't force it. Adam was created in God's image (to look like the Creator), Eve was created as an afterthought. The Bible says God made man perfect but man seeks many inventions for himself.

Bobbynobobby:
∆ *you only wife her if she's a 'good thing'. Logically, it follows that if you don't come across any you consider 'good', don't force it. Adam was created in God's image (to look like the Creator), Eve was created as an afterthought. The Bible says God made man perfect but man seeks many inventions for himself.

You are still trying to weave a contradiction into a valid statement. Look, the say is,"He who finds a wife finds a good thing," meaning as long as you find a wife -- irrespective of her character -- you have found for yourself a good thing. It is that simple.

You chose to bring a passage written for a different people in Scripture into this. So why are you working overtime to twist what is written to get it to say something else?