Please how best can one handle a household enemy ?

Household enemy that feeds you? it's hard to deal with because ignoring her/him will land you into ebi mpa wa! but if they are just haters that can't get at you in any way possible (meaning you can do without them and still buy and sell your market, if they aren't providing roof over you, or capable of cutting your business contacts or causing any form of negative effect on your wellbeing etc) then don't bother yourself with much worries. all you have to do is slid the curtain (Seize further communication or contact). Problem solved.

it's that simple, you see?

Warning! Don't engage in a battle without weighing your options, firstly be patient and don't start immediately, work out what you may stand to lose, or need from them, find an alternative, then boom enter ring!!

RushManni:
Please how best can one handle a household enemy ?

A4alpha:
Household enemy that feeds you? it's hard to deal with because ignoring her/him will land you into ebi mpa wa! but if they are just haters that can't get at you in any way possible (meaning you can do without them and still buy and sell your market, if they aren't providing roof over you, or capable of cutting your business contacts or causing any form of negative effect on your wellbeing etc) then don't bother yourself with much worries. all you have to do is slid the curtain (Seize further communication or contact). Problem solved.

it's that simple, you see?

Warning! Don't engage in a battle without weighing your options, firstly be patient and don't start immediately, work out what you may stand to lose, or need from them, find an alternative, then boom enter ring!!

I stand to lose nothing. The real story is that these people were like leech. My dad who use to sponsor them is late. And could you believe, that open arms he welcomed them with, they have overcrossed the boundary.

Imagine stuff of my dad, I'm being threatened by these people concerning it.

And these are aunties and empowering their children (who of course have their own fathers ) to be choking eyes in stuff that is mine.

I can't understand people advising me to avoid to stand for what is mine cos of the danger they feel comes from stuff as assets such as lands.

I mean this is the height of provocation. And I'm willing to go all in. I just need to do it the best way and most effective way, not also making it look like I'm fighting with whom I shouldn't be fighting with.

I'm weighing to jail every single of them .... To curtail this. And leave them there to rot.

These people are leeches and arrogantly bold ones.

More like if they feel u don't have them in mind yo help them, they resort to dragging stuff that's rightfully yours with you.

Like I can't get it.... I can't be pushed to do stuff by another. Especially as this economy is.

Have to put an end to this rubbish before it tarnishes my confidence as a man. Period.

RushManni:


I stand to lose nothing. The real story is that these people were like leech. My dad who use to sponsor them is late. And could you believe, that open arms he welcomed them with, they have overcrossed the boundary.

Imagine stuff of my dad, I'm being threatened by these people concerning it.

And these are aunties and empowering their children (who of course have their own fathers ) to be choking eyes in stuff that is mine.

I can't understand people advising me to avoid to stand for what is mine cos of the danger they feel comes from stuff as assets such as lands.

I mean this is the height of provocation. And I'm willing to go all in. I just need to do it the best way and most effective way, not also making it look like I'm fighting with whom I should be fighting with.

I'm weighing to jail every single of them .... To curtail this. And leave them there to rot.

These people are leeches and arrogantly bold ones.

More like if they feel u don't have them in mind yo help them, they resort to dragging stuff that's rightfully yours with you.

Like I can't get it.... I can't be pushed to do stuff by another. Especially as this economy is.

Have to put an end to this rubbish before it tarnishes my confidence as a man. Period.

You might not agree with my opinion but lemme say this as an advanced citizen.
This is one of the rules of life that I learnt in a very painful way.

"There is always someone out there who will do anything to take what belongs to you. It is your responsibility whether or not to allow it "
People will always want to have what belongs to you. You are the one that must not allow it.

If you gave people the impression that people can walk over you and go unscathed all in the name of letting the sleeping dog lie. Believe me, you will be a push over in life and nobody will fight your cause.

I grew up amongst people that will never take what doesn't belong to them. But they are ready to protect what belongs to them with their blood such that if you tried to take what belongs to them, your blood will go into the ground.

The only question I have for you is. Are you ready to be a monster? Are you ready to be more wicked and evil?

It takes a monster to beat a monster, and you need a more evil person to beat an evil person.

How far are you willing to go to protect what is rightfully yours?
Can you be a devil if need be?

RushManni:


I stand to lose nothing. The real story is that these people were like leech. My dad who use to sponsor them is late. And could you believe, that open arms he welcomed them with, they have overcrossed the boundary.

Imagine stuff of my dad, I'm being threatened by these people concerning it.

And these are aunties and empowering their children (who of course have their own fathers ) to be choking eyes in stuff that is mine.

I can't understand people advising me to avoid to stand for what is mine cos of the danger they feel comes from stuff as assets such as lands.

I mean this is the height of provocation. And I'm willing to go all in. I just need to do it the best way and most effective way, not also making it look like I'm fighting with whom I should be fighting with.

I'm weighing to jail every single of them .... To curtail this. And leave them there to rot.

These people are leeches and arrogantly bold ones.

More like if they feel u don't have them in mind yo help them, they resort to dragging stuff that's rightfully yours with you.

Like I can't get it.... I can't be pushed to do stuff by another. Especially as this economy is.

Have to put an end to this rubbish before it tarnishes my confidence as a man. Period.

If it is possible, sell those lands they know of and use the proceeds to buy lands in other choice areas that they can't trace to you or drag with you.

I see no case from what you have said, just find ways to make them understand that the party is over, and the chief celebrant is gone home. You have to reset their mind to the new reality, make them to understand that power has changed hands, and the new authority can no longer sustain the status quo, this is a kinda massage you deliver respectfully with body language as you know that they are somehow stranded, invite and engage them in meeting if possible get a lawyer or some respected individual(s) to help you.

Dialogue with them making your stance known and well understood then from there gradually escalate and possibly deliver warning and threats then watch and gauge their reactions and actions.

I'm of the opinion that you go from cold to HOT if need be.

RushManni:


I stand to lose nothing. The real story is that these people were like leech. My dad who use to sponsor them is late. And could you believe, that open arms he welcomed them with, they have overcrossed the boundary.

Imagine stuff of my dad, I'm being threatened by these people concerning it.

And these are aunties and empowering their children (who of course have their own fathers ) to be choking eyes in stuff that is mine.

I can't understand people advising me to avoid to stand for what is mine cos of the danger they feel comes from stuff as assets such as lands.

I mean this is the height of provocation. And I'm willing to go all in. I just need to do it the best way and most effective way, not also making it look like I'm fighting with whom I should be fighting with.

I'm weighing to jail every single of them .... To curtail this. And leave them there to rot.

These people are leeches and arrogantly bold ones.

More like if they feel u don't have them in mind yo help them, they resort to dragging stuff that's rightfully yours with you.

Like I can't get it.... I can't be pushed to do stuff by another. Especially as this economy is.

Have to put an end to this rubbish before it tarnishes my confidence as a man. Period.

FRANCISTOWN:


You might not agree with my opinion but lemme say this as an advanced citizen.
This is one of the rules of life that I learnt in a very painful way.

"There is always someone out there who will do anything to take what belongs to you. It is your responsibility whether or not to allow it "
People will always want to have what belongs to you. You are the one that must not allow it.

If you gave people the impression that people can walk over you and go unscathed all in the name of letting the sleeping dog lie. Believe me, you will be a push over in life and nobody will fight your cause.

I grew up amongst people that will never take what doesn't belong to them. But they are ready to protect what belongs to them with their blood such that if you tried to take what belongs to them, your blood will go into the ground.

The only question I have for you is. Are you ready to be a monster? Are you ready to be more wicked and evil?

It takes a monster to beat a monster, and you need a more evil person to beat an evil person.

How far are you willing to go to protect what is rightfully yours?
Can you be a devil if need be?

Men these are deep questions. But for this course, I am.

Cos I'm concerned about the fate of my descendants.

I have to be the monster now

Stevenbright:


If it is possible, sell those lands they know of and use the proceeds to buy lands in other choice areas that they can't trace to you or drag with you.

Thanks

Klass99:


One question, are these people your father's blood relatives? As in, are they his siblings or cousins?

Two are my paternal aunties.

The others are cousins (children of aunties). These one aren't talking but the aunties are trying to be the ones dragging stuff to use for these cousins benefits. Cousins that have their own father's from other places.

My dad took care of them as his but as it is, th y forgot they're not his children perhaps and have their own father's ...

And this must stop...... I feel so full of rage ..... This is utter rubbish

A4alpha:
I see no case from what you have said, just find ways to make them understand that the party is over, and the chief celebrant is gone home. You have to reset their mind to the new reality, make them to understand that power has changed hands, and the new authority can no longer sustain the status quo, this is a kinda massage you deliver respectfully with body language as you know that they are somehow stranded, invite and engage them in meeting if possible get a lawyer or some respected individual(s) to help you.

Dialogue with them making your stance known and well understood then from there gradually escalate and possibly deliver warning and threats then watch and gauge their reactions and actions.

I'm of the opinion that you go from cold to HOT if need be.

Thanks. I've been cold. Trying to "let peace reign" but it has gotten to this.

My concern tho is my safety. I don't know how far they may go.

Perhaps I have to have village clique incase there is need for urgency. But I don't know

RushManni:


Men these are deep questions. But frbtjis course I am.

Cos I'm concerned about the fate of my descendants.

I have to be the monster now

This is a public forum. I can't say some really deep things. But lemme just point your attention to some things that you already knew.
First of all, when the world is in a state of quagmire, the first thing to find is safety.

The only language violent people understand is violence. The kingdom of heaven suffereth violence and only the violent take their portion by force.

Let's say You are I and in a war. You show up with a cutlass and I show up with a gun. Tell me why I should settle?
But if I showed up with a gun and you show up with a gun too. Then we may consider settling.
Let's say I show up with a gun and you show up with a RPG and some Hydrogen explosives, there'll be no settlements. It's a straight surrender.

Don't underestimate your enemies. Don't think, they can't do this or they can't go that far.
Recognize your weakness and the strength of your own enemies.

I don't know what you guys are in loggerheads over. But if it's a landed property. I know about it like the back of my hand.

From the look of things. They are more than you. Your fight starts from:

1. Is any proof of ownership of any of the properties we are talking about? If none, get one ASAP.

2. If there is. Are you in possession of it?

3. Whose name is on the document? Your father's only or joint names?

Someone advised you to sell the properties and buy some other where they don't know.

That's a good idea but you need to be very calculative. Jesus said to Judas, “What you are about to do, do quickly."
Any right decision becomes useless when it is delayed.
You see, in Africa. The mother's family doesn't always like the father's family like that, especially when the father's family are not really nice to the mother.
In situations like this. An ally is someone whom you share the same enemies. When you are outnumbered, the best thing to do is to call for back up. In this case, your mother's family could be your backup.

Lemme not bore you with long talk. Let's know what kind of property it is, so we can offer relevant advice. Both legally, physically and streetically.

It would be very foolish of you to lose your life and your properties. By the way, where is your mum and your other siblings in all of this?
Do y'all have the same stance?

What are your fears as in worst case scenario what do you think they can do to you or the said property?
Age and financial is important here, how old r you.

And those involved are they your mate or your seniors age wise?

RushManni:



Thanks. I've been cold. Trying to "pet peace reign" but it has gotten to this.

My concern tho is my safety. I don't know how far theu may go.

Perhaps I have to have village clique incase there is need for urgency. But I don't know

FRANCISTOWN:


This is a public forum. I can't say some really deep things. But lemme just point your attention to some things that you already knew.
First of all, when the world is in a state of quagmire, the first thing to find is safety.

The only language violent people understand is violence. The kingdom of heaven suffereth violence and only the violent take their portion by force.

Let's say You are I and in a war. You show up with a cutlass and I show up with a gun. Tell me why I should settle?
But if I showed up with a gun and you show up with a gun too. Then we may consider settling.
Let's say I show up with a gun and you show up with a RPG and some Hydrogen explosives, there'll be no settlements. It's a straight surrender.

Don't underestimate your enemies. Don't think, they can't do this or they can't go that far.
Recognize your weakness and the strength of your own enemies.

I don't know what you guys are in loggerheads over. But if it's a landed property. I know about it like the back of my hand.

From the look of things. They are more than you. Your fight starts from:

1. Is any proof of ownership of any of the properties we are talking about? If none, get one ASAP.

2. If there is. Are you in possession of it?

3. Whose name is on the document? Your father's only or joint names?

Someone advised you to sell the properties and buy some other where they don't know.

That's a good idea but you need to be very calculative. Jesus said to Judas, “What you are about to do, do quickly."
Any right decision becomes useless when it is delayed.
You see, in Africa. The mother's family doesn't always like the father's family like that, especially when the father's family are not really nice to the mother.
In situations like this. An ally is someone whom you share the same enemies. When you are outnumbered, the best thing to do is to call for back up. In this case, your mother's family could be your backup.

Lemme not bore you with long talk. Let's know what kind of property it is, so we can offer relevant advice. Both legally, physically and streetically.

It would be very foolish of you to lose your life and your properties. By the way, where is your mum and your other siblings in all of this?
Do y'all have the same stance?

Bro, thanks.

My siblings are mainly girls. Looks like I'm the only one that can stick out head (their stance of course aligns with mine).

My brother is an indomie generation boy. Still young.

I got the documents. Lands

A4alpha:
What are your fears as in worst case scenario what do you think they can do to you or the said property?
Age and financial is important here, how old r you.

And those involved are they your mate or your seniors age wise?

They're older than me. I'm in my early 30s

However, it's more about a few (my paternal aunts ) trying to be the face while these ones (cousins ) are just standing by.(Perhaps cos they know they aren't from there since their dad's are from another places)

This is so bad that, imagine people I never quarelled with but when for example we host an occasion, they can't come to you like if they want drinks or food or something, but would rather send that my aunty who would come to bring it for them

Like we are enemies with them.

The whole situation is messy. You don't know if you're fighting the physical war or fighting a probably wrong perception created about you even though u did nothing

But I give no Bleep

Sell the lands they know about a d buy another.

Take them to station, let them go and write statement.

Klass99:


I highlighted in bold the parts of your text which intrigue me. It is intriguing because some time ago a guy created a thread to say women (wives in particular) are the cause of problems between a man and his family of parents and siblings.

You answered my question and I can't how see how your father's wife (i.e. your mother) is the cause of this wahala. Rather It is your father's siblings with their long throat and entiltlement to his properties that are the problem.

Sorry I don't have any suggestions on how you can deal with this but I am glad you called them what they are - leeches.

Hmmmmm

LOL. I see no problem here bro! They simply don't get along fine with you hence the reason why they sent their mother instead, it would have been a different ball game should they had bypassed you and fetch things by themselves, trust me, if those guys get along fine with you, they would have come to you instead. They still respect you and they tried to avoid conflict or disrespecting you by using someone they believe have an upper hand more than themselves. They still respect boundaries and they respect you also.

One thing you should understand is everyone must not be your friend, every body must not love you and you must not be friends with everybody, so I see no issue here. If you want, you can still turn around the situation by trying to warm up to them win them over since you are distance relatives, you never can tell but they maybe your backbone and trusted allies you can rely on someday. Besides they pose no threat nor in anyway qualified to contend your inheritance with you.

If I were you, I will simply establish a good relationship with them.

RushManni:


They're older than me. I'm in my early 30s

However, it's more about a few (my paternal aunts ) trying to be the face while these ones (cousins ) are just standing by.(Perhaps cos they know they aren't from there since their dad's are from another places)

This is so bad that, imagine people I never quarelled with but when for example we host an occasion, they can't come to you like if they want drinks or food or something, but would rather send that my aunty who would come to bring it for them

Like we are enemies with them.

The whole situation is messy. You don't know if you're fighting the physical war or fighting a probably wrong perception created about you even though u did nothing

But I give no Bleep