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Pepperdemisback:
And you think that's all what it takes?

What does it take?
Wannabe aristocrat

38yrs old Nigerian woman married a 30yrs old Nigerian man and it's a problem. 24yrs old Nigerian marries a 64yrs old Caucasian woman and it's fine.
When I tell people that Nigerian men are useless hypocrites, they think I'm exaggerating.
Tueeh

casualobserver:
This exactly why commoners and aristocrats do not marry. Your mindset is different, what is acceptable behaviour is different. Aristocrats are not loud, they control their behaviour, commoners have the mindset of I can do what I want, so you will end up disgracing the family.

You keep having to explain to a commoner what is not acceptable behaviour, dressing what is private what is public. Someone with pedigree knows because it has been programmed into them from the upbringing.

Note: being an aristocrat or having pedigree has nothing to do with money. Commoners do not understand this. There are rich commoners and struggling aristocrats. Under normal circumstances a rich commoner will still not be accepted.

Your last paragraph did the magic and that's what I'm talking about: the behavior
Thanks bro

Bliss4Lyfe:
See him happily dressed like a Calabar boy.

It is normal to dress in the traditional attire of the bride, nothing attached. There's no joy in getting married, and you are the only alien there. No family, no friends!

Pepperdemisback:
It is visible in the wedding pictures where she wore something on chest and waist. That's the reason he gave to his family.

That's not a great reason, he already impregnated a lady in England, so that's the second child unplanned. What type of human is that?

stuffs2002:
She don old na...
Would you be happy if it were your brother getting married to an old woman with that much mileage.
An actress who had lived a reckless life sef

Stop being very wicked

How did you know she lived a reckless life?
Saint Clown.

BodyCount:


They won't reject her if she was young and chaste.
The family have a right to reject what they're not part of nor support.

MOST +28 GIRLS ARE VERY DESPERATE AND WILL DO ANYTHING TO HOOKUP WITH A SUCCESSFUL MAN OR A SUCCESSFUL FAMILY.

After living a reckless and WAYWARD life in their prime (17-26), they'll now be looking for a God-fearing and man to settle down with, IN EXCHANGE FOR A PUBLIC TOILET HOLE...

YẸYẸ

Dear innocent man.

She's not even 28 but 38.

Awon 33+ geng!

nenergy:
Can't be my family. They just want me to bring someone, even if its Mia Khalifa

Correct family

SmallmebigGod:
The post was a response to another post talking of him loosing his "inheritance" . If he really have one why will be denied based on marriage. Of course being a son doesnt entitled him to any inheritance but if he has one portioned to him it can not be lost because of marriage

Since he is an adult that can take decisions for himself without his family's consent, then he should be able to make his money.

folake4u:
Abi oh.

The things wey concern me for this life nor reach 5 and this one nor join at all.

Old money and new money people. All of them go dey alright.

Kelechi009:
That's not a great reason, he already impregnated a lady in England, so that's the second child unplanned. What type of human is that?

This should be the main reason then.

Unfortunately the law is on the side of the intended couple. Money no be everything. He's old enough to make his decisions. Go them she's coming for their heritage as put in the publication. All these rich people Sha 😂

Tallesty1:
If your adult son decides to get married without informing you then you have every right to tell the world that you were not part of it. You just can't marry into old money fam without the families meeting.

I feel for the lady sha, getting pregnant out of wedlock will lead to a one problem or the other no matter how you handle it.

Not being aware is one thing ,giving authorization is another..
He's an adult and the worst that can happen is to disown him..

Evening newspaper don lap untop hot suya


E be things.

ONNYX:
You are very correct here. But if you have a child and have bonded with him enough and are willing to protect him as much as you can then you will understand that parents do not have anything against any particular girl or boy introduced into the family.

I think this is the bone of contention…how many parents bother to bond with and understand their kids?

The way you are approaching it is from a nice angle but just know that majority of African parents are not as enlightened as you. They merely see their relationship with their child as a means of control and subjugation rather than an expression of love.

If we even look closely it seems that this guy is even lashing out after a lifetime of being misunderstood!

Age is nothing but a number

With love they will win the family

Only time is the greatest healer

dominique:
So na dem get Aboyade Cole Street. Make dem rest jare. They're in no position to make decisions for their ADULT son

Dominique na wa for you o. I no fit believe say na you dey talk like this. How can they own a street in VI of all places? So na Ozumba Mbadiwe family get Ozumba Mbadiwe street? Na Adeola Odeku family own Adeola Odeku Street? Which kain reasoning be this?

folake4u:
Future date question: Does your family have letterhead paper?

^^^


Now this is funny.

folake4u:
I don't want problem ohhh. For real.

Same here, I dont know anything on Dakore's marriage but this discourse was on Twitter earlier today.

I kuku tire for all these Old v. New money people sef. Money is money!

Na Wofai you dey call new money? 🤔

Proserpina:

Beeni oh.

Wotowotoman:
Na Wofai you dey call new money? 🤔

I never called her new money. I'm saying the discourse of "Old Money v. New Money" is tiring.

Kelechi009:
Hmm this is new & private info, I wonder where and how you knew this

Abi you be her friend offline?

No be from my mouth you will hear the color of a married woman's underwear.

RealTrump:
@tallesty1

I assure you that family can readily allow their son marry an unemployed girl. Men don't carry money for head the way women do. After all, even if she has money, not like she will give the guy shishi...so why bother?

The girl is doing well for herself, so it's not a poor girl, rich girl thing.

The only scenario I see is that d boy's father has probably payed private investigators to run a thorough check on the girl.

Does her earnings correspond with her asset? Did she pay for those designers bags out of pocket or was it a gift?

This huge transfer into her account, where did it come from? Where does she lodge when she travels? In whose name is the hotel booked? Did she stay in a $100 per night hotel or a $700 per night room abroad?

Trust me, these info is quite easy to target for those big men.

Add this to the age gap, n the fact d boy doesn't look street smart, then u can understand why d family sense some manipulation.

I wouldn't date u if your family doesn't accept me let alone marry.

The amount of young feminist who would have listened to this girl's preaching about how u can do it all without a man, but 40 starts knocking, desperation enter.

That is very possible but I don't like to base conclusion on assumptions.

The father complained of the girls age and also the fact that the two families never met, this is may or may not be entirely true.

For instance, it could be an extension of the beef between his father and mom, they are divorced.
They Mom is okay with the union, she was there, it is the father's people that are missing, you get?

I am not sure what the actual case is but it is less likely the girl's fault.

folake4u:
For real oh.

If not for their letterhead paper, who know the family before outside Lagos Island and environs?

Mtchewww.

Never heard of him oo, it is the lady we know.

dominique:
So na dem get Aboyade Cole Street. Make dem rest jare. They're in no position to make decisions for their ADULT son

You people watch too much movies you are damaged. Movies will keep deceiving because na this kind thing dem dey like teach una. Until he lost all he has and is now sick and can't do well and the wife take off... that is when same u people will talk about how his family are not supposed to abandon him abi?.

Tallesty1:
Never heard of him oo, it is the lady we know.

My thoughts exactly.

folake4u:
I never called her new money. I'm saying the discourse of "Old Money v. New Money" is tiring.

This issue has got nothing to do with old money vs new money.

Let the 38 years old pretty woman breathe!

She has waited enough for a suitor all her life!

She's smart enough to ping a guy from reputable family with pregnant and she must not gree for anyone 🙄 !

SmallmebigGod:
The post was a response to another post talking of him loosing his "inheritance" . If he really have one why will be denied based on marriage. Of course being a son doesnt entitled him to any inheritance but if he has one portioned to him it can not be lost because of marriage

Inheritance is not automatic, it is based on what they have in the will.

The father can review the will based on the fact that his son went against his wish and it is very legal which can't be challenged

Angelfrost:
Yes!

Did the brand die because of Lola or because of the greed of Jude, the elder brother?!!

Paul that married whom the family accepted, how far did it go?!! Is he still happily married??!

Just asking.

And how do you know it wasn't Lola who engineered the crisis between Peter and Jude? You dey there wen e happen? 😛

Agunesinjaweola:
Let the 38 years old pretty woman breathe!

She has waited enough for a suitor all her life!

She's smart enough to ping a guy from reputable family with pregnant and she must not gree for anyone 🙄 !

😅🤣

SmallmebigGod:
The post was a response to another post talking of him loosing his "inheritance" . If he really have one why will be denied based on marriage. Of course being a son doesnt entitled him to any inheritance but if he has one portioned to him it can not be lost because of marriage

You can lose your inheritance if you are disowned.