emmeyen:




See just leave those people condemning the girl. Who no go, no know. She must have even agreed to stay there and after observing the family, the girl changed her mind. Some inlaws can be so entitled and demanding which will take a toll on their marriage. No power to write epistles abeb. All I see is a lot of men who are really not grown up and think being a man is all about having a male sex organ. The way I hate hearing a man talk about "my father's house". Who no get papa house? It's the mentality that makes them kill their siblings because of family inheritance.... Let the guy just leave first and see life outside. Haba. That guy will not move out of that house after the wedding, he will give another excuse. The girl has watched the guy and knows his mentality and reasoning and she decided to just stand her ground.
This country is too hard to add family baggage to it. Make everybody rest abeg.

ozo13:

Guyman like me started my own conditions immediately I realized I wasn't interested anymore .i knew she will not accept the condition which was the bait I used.na so I tell them if they won't accept the condition I don't think am interested anymore and they tot it was a joke till like 5/6month when they didn't hear from me , i started hearing come and do whatever you want and take her.I felt bad for her parents though because it was already late and my mind wasn't there again.I no dey like person wey dey always think without them one can not move on and I don't like drama Queens.If a lady really like his guy, she will be ready to sacrifice alot for the guyman.

AbuTwins:

I think it is not sane for you to say thrash is coming out of my mouth! It shows the type of home training you received. That needs rectification! You not agreeing with my position does not mean it is thrash!

Lmao... Talking about home training, How old are you if I may ask because it seems you are older than everyone here I assume

Yes, Allah commands us to live honorable with our wife. After the father expressly says he has given her to me as wife and i accept that in front of witnesses then we become married! It doesn't need much fanfare, renting of halls and the likes! Those are extras!

and the Almighty didn't ask any man without a good source of income to welcome in wife instead they were asked to have patience (I stand to be corrected)

It depends on her. I can only advice her convincingly to marry a promising hardworking and religious man! If the man asks for two months and i see sincerity in him i can even support him!

You are saying you will advice your daughter to run away from disaster but u are here condemning someone's sister and daughter for running away.... That 2 month is just to cajole her as it might be difficult for her to pull out after marriage and if she do, she automatically becomes a divorcee irrespective

That small gal I was talking about later married a 60+ after the Islamic waiting period reason why her parents made that decision is still a mystery


This is what breeds fornication and children born out of wedlock!
Your standards are raised to the roof while the economy is biting hard, even to feed three time daily is hard! Gone are those days when our mum did suffer with their husbands! What type of houses did they live in then?

Not everyone fornicates... The guy is an upright person Islamically and he understands d Deen

Even Biblically which you may classify as olden days, you'll see men marrying wives and living with an extended family! It's your choice!

Marriage should be based on virtue and righteousness! And as there wolves pretending like sheep among men so also we have them among women! Young women tend to exhibit that youthful exuberance and the men who marries such will have to be extra patient with her! A man is responsible for clothing, sheltering and feeding his wife whether she works or not!

exactly the Reason why I support the lady... She knows the guy more and am sure she knows he isn't capable of wifing her


She could have been patient for two month! If she doesn't trust the guy's prospect/future then she has no reason to marry him in the first place!

Yoruba adage says Irin ajo osun mesan kin ba ni lojiji (Sorry my Yoruba might be bad) But No be today he don dey plan wedding nao to dey expect 2 month

emmeyen:




See just leave those people condemning the girl. Who no go, no know. She must have even agreed to stay there and after observing the family, the girl changed her mind. Some inlaws can be so entitled and demanding which will take a toll on their marriage. No power to write epistles abeb. All I see is a lot of men who are really not grown up and think being a man is all about having a male sex organ. The way I hate hearing a man talk about "my father's house". Who no get papa house? It's the mentality that makes them kill their siblings because of family inheritance.... Let the guy just leave first and see life outside. Haba. That guy will not move out of that house after the wedding, he will give another excuse. The girl has watched the guy and knows his mentality and reasoning and she decided to just stand her ground.
This country is too hard to add family baggage to it. Make everybody rest abeg.

gift2xl:
He should thank his God, that woman can never make a home.

And to most parents you guys are raising rubbish as women, I mean dependent women. Parents raise your children to be independent. Anyways u can't give what u don't have.

dangotesmummy:
exactly.

Even the epistle wey I write sef na because I get time.too many baby men in adult male body.from their utterances you go know them.no wonder na women dey quick age for African marriage.na the wife go dey resemble the husband elder sister because as inlaws dey carry their own garbage put for the woman head,the man too dey carry him own put for the woman head.tufuaaakwa.narcisstic men go make you die 10 times before you actually die


Tuehhh

Solofresh2:
How much are you contributing to the marriage and house rent
I love my privacy yen yen yen

adanny01:


No, she is simply not good enough. A daughter in-law that could keep peace with her in-laws is a dream wife to any man.

Do you know how it feels when I see my wife, mother and sisters gisting and laughing? I will be proud of my wife, not my mother or sisters. I am proud of her ability to become a daughter to people that are not her biological relations.

This girl will never be able to keep peace that's why she did all that.

ItisWell22:


And that’s on period. 🎯

Just that guys enjoy chasing women who don’t love them, then come to complain all women are terrible.

When a woman loves you, life gets far easier.

This is not in connection with the topic, but relationships in general.

emmeyen:


Ndi "if you love me, you will accept me the way I am". "I just need someone that will understand me". "Nobody is perfect". Make everybody just rest. Understanding fiancee say she no do again

1Sharon:


What home? The home of her husband's parents?

And the man that wants to marry into his parents home is not rubbish? You lot have truly lost it

Callosobruchus:
Kai!When will some men discover when a woman doesn't have an iota of feeling for them no matter how glaring it is?This dude is either one of those small boys who want to get married inorder for them to give the society an impression of them being a full grown man or just an outright simp.

optm:
Never be with a person who thinks they are doing you a favour in agreeing to be in a relationship with you. The guy would do better in being without her. That type wants to do life through you and not with you. God is trying to save him from a disaster, he had better started thanking God for his deliverance and let her be.

2mch:
If you know you are the lazy type please don’t marry an ambitious woman. Find a leech and lazy woman so both of you can kill yourselves with poverty in family house. No sane woman should agree to live in family house except they are living there alone.

You want to marry somebody daughter and make her a slave to your mother. You are crazy guy. Wait until you can afford room and parlor before you marry.

dangotesmummy:
it is not about love.love alone doesn't sustain a marriage.if at your adult life you don't know this,I am sure you're still one of the people believing Lai Mohamed

Anyway the guy is simply not ready.its not a question of him being a simp.hes not ready to be married financially and mentally, period! It's just like a girl saying she's ready to get married but she's not ready to have sex because I don't understand how a man will claim to be a man and still want to be living under the shadows of his parents aka parents house.make he kuku dey collect monthly allowance aka pocket money from his wife's father then as he no get sense

ChizzyBuna:


You mentioned Wealthy billionaire daughters which are 2% of the Average Nigerian women population.

Continue dwelling in your delusions and Grand Stupidity.

I really pity your wife for marrying a man like you with toddler reasonings. More power to her.

Fools like you think everything is rich/ poor
Even the rich chop breakfast too
They even get divorced more , so I don't even understand why you are bragging with rich billionaire daughters.
Just shows how dumb you sound

When you are done hallucinating then you come back to reality.

I'm talking about Average Nigerian urgent 2k survival babes which make up 70% to 90% of Nigerian women.

You are busy talking about the 2% wealthy billionaire daughters
Learn to comprehend and assimilate on a deeper level. I'm talking about majority not the privileged minority

dangotesmummy:
no be small lost o

Like he go dey bring out preek when him know say him papa and mama dey house say he wan fvck him wife


Tufiaaa

ChizzyBuna:


You mentioned Wealthy billionaire daughters which are 2% of the Average Nigerian women population.

Continue dwelling in your delusions and Grand Stupidity.

I really pity your wife for marrying a man like you with toddler reasonings. More power to her.

Fools like you think everything is rich/ poor
Even the rich chop breakfast too
They even get divorced more , so I don't even understand why you are bragging with rich billionaire daughters.
Just shows how dumb you sound

When you are done hallucinating then you come back to reality.

I'm talking about Average Nigerian urgent 2k survival babes which make up 70% to 90% of Nigerian women.

You are busy talking about the 2% wealthy billionaire daughters
Learn to comprehend and assimilate on a deeper level. I'm talking about majority not the privileged minority

ChizzyBuna:


You mentioned Wealthy billionaire daughters which are 2% of the Average Nigerian women population.

Continue dwelling in your delusions and Grand Stupidity.

I really pity your wife for marrying a man like you with toddler reasonings. More power to her.

Fools like you think everything is rich/ poor
Even the rich chop breakfast too
They even get divorced more , so I don't even understand why you are bragging with rich billionaire daughters.
Just shows how dumb you sound

When you are done hallucinating then you come back to reality.

I'm talking about Average Nigerian urgent 2k survival babes which make up 70% to 90% of Nigerian women.

You are busy talking about the 2% wealthy billionaire daughters
Learn to comprehend and assimilate on a deeper level. I'm talking about majority not the privileged minority

1Sharon:


Abi o.

How do you feel comfortable having sex with your wife knowing your parents are just in the next room?

Some people have mind

ChizzyBuna:


You mentioned Wealthy billionaire daughters which are 2% of the Average Nigerian women population.

Continue dwelling in your delusions and Grand Stupidity.

I really pity your wife for marrying a man like you with toddler reasonings. More power to her.

Fools like you think everything is rich/ poor
Even the rich chop breakfast too
They even get divorced more , so I don't even understand why you are bragging with rich billionaire daughters.
Just shows how dumb you sound

When you are done hallucinating then you come back to reality.

I'm talking about Average Nigerian urgent 2k survival babes which make up 70% to 90% of Nigerian women.

You are busy talking about the 2% wealthy billionaire daughters
Learn to comprehend and assimilate on a deeper level. I'm talking about majority not the privileged minority

Callosobruchus:
I didn't use the word "love" in my comment,long and short of the whole story is that there can never be a successful marriage without commitment from both parties and that includes affection for eachother.A successful marriage and no feelings for eachother are totally mutually exclusive.In this case the girl is unwilling to come to compromise with the dude.Do you think a girl who's willing to become a wife to the one she's willing to would act like how she's acting?

2mch:
If you know you are the lazy type please don’t marry an ambitious woman. Find a leech and lazy woman so both of you can kill yourselves with poverty in family house. No sane woman should agree to live in family house except they are living there alone.

You want to marry somebody daughter and make her a slave to your mother. You are crazy guy. Wait until you can afford room and parlor before you marry.

PrimadonnaO:


LMAO

It's the "two yeye people" for me 🤣🤣🤣🤣


The man's an optimist.

The lady's a late decision maker.

She was simply going with the flow, even though she was having growing concerns about her to-be's ability to provide.

I sense that her family were also not excited at the prospect of the union. That's why they kept shifting introduction dates.

They finally got into her head, and she made up her mind not to marry the man in his current financial state.

Ishilove:

Very true indeed. I feel the bride was pressured into the union that's why she has been canceling at the slightest provocation. Her heart is obviously not in the marriage. Where[b] I fault her is allowing the man spend the little resources he has to pay her bride price [/b] rather than standing her ground and waiting for him to be financially buoyant enough to meet her standard.

poshestmina:
A very valid reason ,I wouldn't date or marry a man that still lives with his parents ,regardless the living condition.

I love ,LOVE my privacy and space a lot ,some days you wake up and just want to be alone and want your thoughts coordinated.

You automatically become the family's Chef ,Advicer, emergency Gele tier ,Nanny to everyone and having someone else make decisions for you and hubby.

Even if it's a face me public compound ,let's contribute and rent . I no need see finish !

dangotesmummy:
lol any woman that agrees to live with a man's family after wedding is a compound fool and her education is a complete waste.

How can a man claim hes a man and he is still dependent on his parents at his adult age.even young boys as young as 21,22 move out of their father's house as soon as they start a business or get a job.ho abroad,by 18 or less you're out of your parents house.but an adult man wants to get married and live with his parents.tufiaaaa.una no dey get shame talk some kain things outside?

If you cannot survive alone without your parents whether they're alive or dead it means you're not mature enough not to talk of mature to get married.e remain make una dey ask for pocket money from your retired father.na una type go dey fight una mama say she no cook food for you


#Spits in disgust# tufiakwa once again