Wow! Wow! WOW!
This is the 99th time this week I've said that "Fear Women, you cannot fully understand a woman!

dangotesmummy:
they're both immature.i repeat

A man that is not mature is one who is still living off his father.its not a question of compromise.of course compromise is a necessity in marriage but there's a thin line between compromise and making foolish decisions and the man not having a home of his own is CLEARLY NOT READY TO BE MARRIED and his priority should not be marriage.it should be self development and financial autonomy.in the same way any girl whose mind is not made up and she's still indecisive about the man she wants to get married to is immature.

That thing you're calling compromise is what will destroy their marriage eventually because of inlaw Intrusion.moreover it is a man who doesn't respect himself or love his family and privacy that will be saying his wife should live in a family house.everybody will now be chooking mouth in his matter.both the one wey get sense and the one wey no get sense.above all it's indecent.

The human brain is so complex,what's very right in your opinion is very wrong in others'.I don't see your opinion as wrong and you shouldn't see mine as wrong as well.There are people out there that'd support your opinion, and there're people out there that would support mine;or both of our opinions perhaps.A human behavior is so complex.

poshestmina:
A very valid reason ,I wouldn't date or marry a man that still lives with his parents ,regardless the living condition.

I love ,LOVE my privacy and space a lot ,some days you wake up and just want to be alone and want your thoughts coordinated.

You automatically become the family's Chef ,Advicer, emergency Gele tier ,Nanny to everyone and having someone else make decisions for you and hubby.

Even if it's a face me public compound ,let's contribute and rent . I no need see finish !

You are the only one that has spoken well and reality about the issue.
The rest men are just spilling out rubbish in terms of the girl shouldn't have cancelled it ..

Although I don't know maybe because u are a female but ideally a man that want to marry should be financially ready and should at least own or have a private apartment.

So to me what she did was obviously right 👍

Am a man and I understand what kind of story the lady will tell later base on mistake of getting married to such man because she go see fire from family 🤔
It's well sha

Omoluabi16:
Exactly @ the bolded. It should never have dragged on for too far. Red flags everywhere by both of them.who threatens to call off a wedding over 15k. Quote an indecisive woman. Then the man promising to move out after marriage is just deception.

Lol

Exactly

He says they'll move out after 2 months.

But 2 months would likely end up being 5 years, with two naked-about toddlers 😅

Callosobruchus:
The human brain is so complex,what's very right in your opinion is very wrong in others'.I don't see your opinion as wrong and you shouldn't see mine as wrong as well.There are people out there that'd support your opinion, and there're people out there that would support mine;or both of our opinions perhaps.A human behavior is so complex.

hmnn

optm:
I do not have the whole picture of things and why he decided to have gone about it this way. I am just particular about her making demands and not contributing in anyways. That spells one who would be a liability rather than an asset to the man in marriage.

both the man is immature in his way and the girl is immature.both are both toxic to each other and Will eventually serve each other breakfast.the red flags and cracks are clearly showing so it's better for both to find their way and focus on self development rather than marriage

The guy needs to work on self development and career or financial development while the girl needs to work on character development individually.

We already have enough adults both men and women wey no get character and home training getting married inside poverty and giving birth to dysfunctional children.make them no add to the statistics.having a big penis doesn't make you eligible for marriage and having big breasts doesn't make you qualified to be married either.

You go see grown man in his 40s still sagging trousers like a teenager while his wife is having personality disorder and both of them are living off retired and old couples in their homes because the man has refused to grow up and have self respect except to be playing bet every morning.enough of the emotional decisions jare

The only problem here is that she should have cancelled the wedding earlier, cuz cancelling it after the invitation cards were out has caused the man a big embarrassment.

He said they will live in his patients house for just 2 months, but the bride is wiser and knows that the 2months he mentioned would have turned to 40yrs, so that she will turn to a maid for the aunties, uncle's brothers and sisters, plus the parents in-laws. Some ladies will be comfortable to turn to a maid for their husbands family, he should go search for such ladies.

dangotesmummy:
both the man is immature in his way and the girl is immature.both are both toxic to each other and Will eventually serve each other breakfast.the red flags and cracks are clearly showing so it's better for both to find their way and focus on self development rather than marriage

The guy needs to work on self development and career or financial development while the girl needs to work on character development individually.

We already have enough adults both men and women wey no get character and home training getting married inside poverty and giving birth to dysfunctional children.make them no add to the statistics.having a big penis doesn't make you eligible for marriage and having big breasts doesn't make you qualified to be married either.

You go see grown man in his 40s still sagging trousers like a teenager while his wife is having personality disorder and both of them are living off retired and old couples in their homes because the man has refused to grow up and have self respect except to be playing bet every morning.enough of the emotional decisions jare

both the man and the woman needs to work on their financial development. Every adult should do that irrespective of gender.

optm:
both the man and the woman needs to work on their financial development. Every adult should do that irrespective of gender.

exactly my point.you get it now

ngwababe:


The best relationship is the one kept from afar. Your father's house isn't your house, it's your mother's house. Go rent a house and keep your wife to avoid see finish.

4 months before I got married, I rented a house, but we stayed in my parents house for 3 months after. We would go to our house, spend the entire day but go back to my parents house to sleep. The day we declared we were not sleeping there again, my wife cried more than the day she left her parents house. My mum also cried. It was funny to me, I laughed at my mum especially. I appreciated the fact that they got along well.

When a girl behaves like in the story, it can be concluded that she will be a problem.

She is not ready for the marriage.
She does not love the guy.
She has seen another guy that she's into
She does not have any excuse.
She is totally and completely fed up.

Thank God for your life bro.. if you had succeeded in getting married to her, your life would have been HELL on earth. Situations like this lead men to their early grave. This lady would have sent you to your early grave. She is not your wife. Your wife is coming. Just try and recover if not all at least 80% spent.

optm:
It's ok to not want to marry a guy yet in his father's house, but my question is , what is the lady doing to help the situation? just giving the guy conditions without contributing anything. Even her wedding gown, she couldn't afford to make up for the part payment . The guy is struggling and going for someone that would put more burden rather than help him but God is trying to save him from such unwise decision.

My brother, it's a pity that ladies have such negative mindset that whenever they are married or are in any relationship with a man that the man must take full responsibility of all their problems.
The most pathetic situation is that some of them are working and are earning good salary but they can't contribute anything in a relationship bcuz of erroneous believe that it's man that should take care of their responsibilities.
It's so badddddd!