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Gistmedia10:
A father shared a golden rule of life with his son, advising him to avoid taking on unnecessary responsibilities in his relationship.

“Don’t make yourself a parent to your girlfriend,” he cautioned. “Don’t take responsibilities that are not yours.”

The father's wise words aim to guide his son in navigating the complexities of romantic relationships and maintaining healthy boundaries.


Was he right?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHZiTP-OmeQ

Truer words have never been spoken.

SyrusdeHansome:
The man advised his son abt acting as a father to his girlfrnd nd u`re here writing abt husband/wife relationship. Nsuto inawang idom?

Sana ufan ado yak ke ifu ke ado.
He lacks understanding.

OkoRemi2023:
Egbon mi give yourself a break



You're not wise than the man, he's talking from experience, that's an Alpha male talking not a SIMP


The last time I carried responsibility for my head I suffer am for 2yrs, abi make the lady get make we spend am together. No be say I go overwhelmed myself with burden of responsibility and the woman go move on after one don kpai


The owner of the house I'm staying is late, his wife remarried already and handover the care of the house in the hand of her new husband brother, what a man hustle to build?



No guide yourself, dey talk nonsense

So if the woman should die tomorrow, the house automatically becomes that of the husband. Isn't that a story of a man gaining from a woman

FreeStuffsNG:
All these theory sef. Smh.

There's no way you will not both fill the roles of parent to each other at some point in time. When the man is at his lowest ebb, he will first explain his predicaments to his wife and will rely on her for a measure of parental nurturing and vice versa for the wife too.

When spouses are celebrating milestones, the most important person they look out for in the audience is his or her spouse. Thats the role children put their parents o.

Thank God by yourself you said WIFE.
WIFE IS NOT THE SAME AS GIRLFRIEND.

PLEASE UMDERSTAND THE POST CLEARLY

In SIMPle layman terms, don’t get involved with a single mother

Emeskhalifa:
As a young man, pls focus on your finances. Leave serious relationship for those wey don secure their future.

if they will listen to u....... young men stop fooling urselves with this love thing, its not real like that. You are only loved because of something, if its not ur brilliance, it is intelligence or money or because u be fine boy or u sabi nack...it has to be because of something...the greatest scam na d ones wey go tell u they love u because u are serious with ur book and focused, oga d real meaning be say she love u because as u dey live ur life focused on ur book, u get hope to make am in future....
The only people that will love u unconditionally are ur parents, mothers especially.

FreeStuffsNG:
Smh. You are not beholden to a girl who is your friend, especially platonic, what he is implying made no distinction between altar- bound relationships and even platonic relationships and if you are wise and starts with the end in mind, you will know relationships that will likely make a wife out of your special relationship with a girl. To that special girl, you will at some point in time be her 'parent' likewise she to you.

BTW, you don't need to understand for now. Serious relationships take commitments and sacrifice and those two are the essential ingredients in parenting so anyone telling you that you will not make exceptions for that special one is not being realistic.

Love , when you really fall in love, will make you trusting and vulnerable. If you're not then you are not in love. Maybe you are suggesting that he tells his son to never fall in love with a girl niyen.
Check my signature for free stuffs!

Oga, stop trying to explain wetin no work na. If you are in a committed relationship, you do not assume the role of a father/mother. A marriage is a different ball game compared to relationship/

Read to understand... Haba!

In this case, it is girlfriend and not when you're married.

FreeStuffsNG:
All these theory sef. Smh.

There's no way you will not both fill the roles of parent to each other at some point in time. When the man is at his lowest ebb, he will first explain his predicaments to his wife and will rely on her for a measure of parental nurturing and vice versa for the wife too.

When spouses are celebrating milestones, the most important person they look out for in the audience is his or her spouse. Thats the role children put their parents o.

FreeStuffsNG:
All these theory sef. Smh.

There's no way you will not both fill the roles of parent to each other at some point in time. When the man is at his lowest ebb, he will first explain his predicaments to his wife and will rely on her for a measure of parental nurturing and vice versa for the wife too.

When spouses are celebrating milestones, the most important person they look out for in the audience is his or her spouse. Thats the role children put their parents o.

You can easily pass for an illiterate. The father was talking about girlfriend and you are here vomiting trash as advice. Well, I'm not surprised. Most of the people who support Tinubu are illiterates.

So sad he'll forget in time

FreeStuffsNG:
All these theory sef. Smh.

There's no way you will not both fill the roles of parent to each other at some point in time. When the man is at his lowest ebb, he will first explain his predicaments to his wife and will rely on her for a measure of parental nurturing and vice versa for the wife too.

When spouses are celebrating milestones, the most important person they look out for in the audience is his or her spouse. Thats the role children put their parents o.

This is a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship not husband and wife!!!

FreeStuffsNG:
All these theory sef. Smh.

There's no way you will not both fill the roles of parent to each other at some point in time. When the man is at his lowest ebb, he will first explain his predicaments to his wife and will rely on her for a measure of parental nurturing and vice versa for the wife too.

When spouses are celebrating milestones, the most important person they look out for in the audience is his or her spouse. Thats the role children put their parents o.

there's a difference between a girlfriend and a wife

FreeStuffsNG:
All these theory sef. Smh.

There's no way you will not both fill the roles of parent to each other at some point in time. When the man is at his lowest ebb, he will first explain his predicaments to his wife and will rely on her for a measure of parental nurturing and vice versa for the wife too.

When spouses are celebrating milestones, the most important person they look out for in the audience is his or her spouse. Thats the role children put their parents o.

Please read again, the man was not referring to wife rather girl friend.

victorbass1234:
■ Thank God by yourself you said WIFE. WIFE IS NOT THE SAME AS GIRLFRIEND. PLEASE UMDERSTAND THE POST CLEARLY

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ThiefnubuBandit:
You can easily pass for an illiterate. The father was talking about girlfriend and you are here vomiting trash as advice. Well, I'm not surprised. Most of the people who support Tinubu are illiterates.

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Chikel20000:
there's a difference between a girlfriend and a wife

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Prettychild:
You said wife. Girlfriend is different from wife

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donbuchi1:
Girlfriend not wife

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Onewazobia:
Girl friend he said. Please, read before commenting

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Elibaba1:
He said gf na not Wife though I agree sometimes you have to bend a little over…

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NothingDoMe:
Girlfriend not wife. Read before commenting.

No be girlfriend you go eventually wife? What is with this desperate need to make sure you can parent a woman abeg! ..

Antoeni:
"Until a man has married you, he is not obligated to be responsible for you. Whatever he does is out of the generosity of his heart but you should never feel entitled to his money

Responsible for you? Look at the many men who are "responsible" for their wives and how that has ended up backfiring on them. You are never meant to be a parent to your wife or spouse. If two of you are not equally responsible for each other it just means you dey carry load wey you no suppose carry be that.

FreeStuffsNG:
All these theory sef. Smh.

There's no way you will not both fill the roles of parent to each other at some point in time. When the man is at his lowest ebb, he will first explain his predicaments to his wife and will rely on her for a measure of parental nurturing and vice versa for the wife too.

When spouses are celebrating milestones, the most important person they look out for in the audience is his or her spouse. Thats the role children put their parents o.

He said gf na not Wife though I agree sometimes you have to bend a little over…

Thank God i am really preparing for my daughters and i pray God gives me more Grace, good health and long life to see them excel well in life because all this everyday talk about girls this girls that is too much and it will be more worse in future

Fryx:
So if my wife is in distress, she will feel more comfortable running to her parents than to me. Dey play. Me that hate people pokenosing into my affairs.

Your wife needing money or your support is one thing, you taking the place of her parents is another thing entirely!

drimzsmoke:
■ When a man is at his lowest, he should call his parents to talk to them!!!👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

What you just said makes no sense given the context of this here discussion. The man told his son not to act as her parents. Are your parents generally the only ones in this world one has to ever talk to?

DaddyGngeess:
Thank God i am really preparing for my daughters and i pray God gives me more Grace, good health and long life to see them excel well in life because all this everyday talk about girls this girls that is too much and it will be more worse in future

No girl should ever consider marrying a husband who now comes in to play the role of parent to her. That is not only an insult to her but also to those who raised her as it speaks of her not being a fully-formed adult from her parent's home.

I hope he listen

EmperorCaesar:
Thats right!
But most of the time, the boy will be quick to forget the advice as he keeps consuming twitter contents where some clowns are trying to redefine the role of a boyfriend in a girl's life, plus the amount of dummies he has as friends would determine if he would still follow this advice or not

Raising a boy child aright would do us all a lot of good than some incessant 10000advice from the parents and siblings that tends to fly off at the sight of thick thighs

by the time a boy is old enough to understand that his father has been right all along, he already has a son who thinks he is wrong. Thats the sad irony of life

FreeStuffsNG:
All these theory sef. Smh.

There's no way you will not both fill the roles of parent to each other at some point in time. When the man is at his lowest ebb, he will first explain his predicaments to his wife and will rely on her for a measure of parental nurturing and vice versa for the wife too.

When spouses are celebrating milestones, the most important person they look out for in the audience is his or her spouse. That's the role children put their parents o.

Girlfriend not wife. Read before commenting.

Fryx:
I don’t date for fun. Mr Ozuor.

I won’t be with a lady that I won’t be very close to before marriage. As we are before marriage, that’s what we will likely be after marriage because I make any lady close to me very comfortable. If she can’t be free with me, then I can’t trust her.

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The msg in the op states gf

No one cares whether u date for fun or not

LordIsaac:
UK men would have benefited from this counsel: “Don’t sharpen a spear that does not belong to you, because one day, it might be used on you!”😊

Perhaps before marriage, it wasn't his, but after marriage, the spears belong to him. Every children will leave their parent at sometime, and become one with their spouse. Because he or she is now your better half, she is now yours and can go ahead to sharpen it if we want.

The thing is that sometime, we can't control what others do with the gift we give them. I personally don't really care about what you do with what I give you, as long as it doesn't limit me, inconvenience me or stop my growth. You do evil, you see evil, you do good, you see good. What ever a man sow, he reaps. Even the person you help today, might be of great assistance to you tomorrow.

I know a man who was responsible for his girlfriend's school from Secondary School, they both live together even before marriage. The lady ends up being a first class student in higher institution. Now work in Sheveron, and married to the same man who Schooled her. And do you know the advantages the man enjoy from such woman? The man effortlessly has many millionaires as his client courtesy of the wife.

The fact that many people don't deserve this, doesn't mean that there are still special people Who deserves more. Let your spirit, mind & instinct guide you.

Kobojunkie:
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..................No be girlfriend you go eventually wife? What is with this desperate need to make sure you can parent a woman abeg! ..

to d christian world, ur wife is never ur girlfriend pls

SyrusdeHansome:
The man advised his son abt acting as a father to his girlfrnd nd u`re here writing abt husband/wife relationship. Nsuto inawang idom?

Don't forget that freestuffsng is a tinubu goat. His mental capability has fallen the same way tinubu fell today.

Zaccshegzy:
It said girlfriend not wife, read to understand.

How can a tinubu errand boy read and understand? Those words don't exist in their dictionary

Kobojunkie:
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..................No be girlfriend you go eventually wife? What is with this desperate need to make sure you can parent a woman abeg! ..

Kobo do well this evening or morning for your country. Girlfriend is Girlfriend. Wife is wife. The distinction is clear legally, socially, spiritually....etc.