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Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial support l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

advanceDNA:
U still dey ask??.... The guy na undoubtedly 420.....

theophorus:
Life is not hard and it's not a 1+1 =2 situation.

That He doesn't call or send Sms doesn't mean he doesn't love you.
Hope say he no dey take something Sha?

Babatunjo:
Family is Family. As the elder bro, you have to be the bigger person. Keep staying connected to him.. When he's older and wiser he'll appreciate you better.

By the way you don't need his love.. but his appreciation and respect. Don't react, give him time.. if after he's 40 years and older, and still acts this way, then you can respond.

Vikto17:
[right][/right] ...He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...

emma2002:
I understand your concerns and feelings. It's painful when family members, especially siblings, don't appreciate or reciprocate love and support. You've done a lot for your brother, and his indifference and lack of gratitude are hurtful.

Firstly, acknowledge that you've tried addressing the issue with him directly, which shows you care about your relationship. Since that hasn't worked, consider the following steps:

1. *Re-evaluate your financial support*: It's fair to reassess how you allocate your resources. Consider redirecting support to siblings who value and appreciate your efforts.
2. *Set boundaries*: If you choose to continue supporting your brother, establish clear expectations and consequences for not meeting them.
3. *Don't internalize his behavior*: Remember that his actions reflect his own character, not yours. You've shown kindness and generosity; don't let his behavior define your self-worth.
4. *Prepare for mother's reaction*: Anticipate your mother's potential emotional response and plan how to address her concerns. Explain your perspective and feelings calmly, emphasizing your desire to support those who appreciate your efforts.
5. *Seek support for yourself*: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or counselor about your feelings and experiences. They can offer valuable guidance and emotional support.

Remember, you deserve respect and appreciation from those you support. Prioritize your own emotional well-being and make decisions that align with your values and needs.

Kingju:
Those it really causes that kind of pattern of behavior?

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial support l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

dawnomike:
This is a delicate matter...
Call a family meeting with your siblings and mum to address the situation.

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial support l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

OdefaGirl:
Something is wrong if in siblings' relationships those 3 things I mentioned are missing. It's either from malfunctioned home which affects upbringing or bitterness in human form ie it's just the nature of a sibling to be hateful. You can't tell me you work on loving and respecting your own blood. Something is absolutely wrong.

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial support l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial support l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

immortalcrown:
1.
You can compel obedience, not love. So, be happy, irrespective of who doesn't love you.
2.
[sub][/sub]There is a difference between helping someone and trying to buy love from someone.
If you do something for someone without expecting anything in return, that is help. But if you do something for someone and expects something in return, that is not help.
Doing something for your brother with a condition that he should show you love means you are not helping him. You are just trying to loby for his love.

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial support l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

Zubeezanga:
With due respect oga u have way too much of feminine genes, u don't know or understand how men love lol, see e get people wey d mind every second of the day but i no be much show of lovy dovy type, brotherly love dy different oga, me n my senior bro hardly talk or chat but na my nigga.

Vikto17:
But he does it with other people? If that is generally his nature l won't be complaining,,, so ur senior bro can a whole year without calling u if u don't call him,, doesn't tell u about anything going on in his life and doesn't care to know what is going on in your own life? Until when he needs money and assistance then your mum call on his behalf... Bro l don't fancy such kind of relationship

galantjoe:
If what you re saying is true
Then stop any further support to him

Good turn deserves another, one can't be feeding a dog that will kill him or her one day.

For those of us saying that it is not a must he should say reciprocate by calling,etc. I challenge them to be happy and continue to feed a child that can't say greetings or thankio. Even Christ we christians regarded as God demands gratitude and thanksgiving from people he healed as recorded in Bible talkless of us who are not divine.

Vikto17:
l don't want to lobby for his love,, l just want to make my investments is going to someone who values it,, the resources aren't that much that l should keep wasting it on someone l have to loby for their love ... Any way thanks a lot for the input

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial support l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

Tonalphs:
Oga, he's not saying anything that is true. In his writeup lies the answer. He's bragging about rendering help to him. I'm sure he says the same thing to his brother's face. That's why the young man doesn't tell him anything. All his words are about him being worshipped just cos he pays the bills. If not, y is he concerned that his bro doesn't call him? That one nor b talk na. He even get credit to call am? Y his he concerned his bro doesn't post him on social media? He didn't say his bro doesn't wish him hbd o, he said he doesn't post him on social media on his bday.

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial support l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

Tonalphs:
Oga, he's not saying anything that is true. In his writeup lies the answer. He's bragging about rendering help to him. I'm sure he says the same thing to his brother's face. That's why the young man doesn't tell him anything. All his words are about him being worshipped just cos he pays the bills. If not, y is he concerned that his bro doesn't call him? That one nor b talk na. He even get credit to call am? Y his he concerned his bro doesn't post him on social media? He didn't say his bro doesn't wish him hbd o, he said he doesn't post him on social media on his bday.