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| To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Ksli(op): 12:16pm On Jun 25, 2024*. Modified: 9:21am On Jun 26, 2024 |
26.06.2024 Thank you for all your contributions @Namaster *i never knew anyone have such view with regards to our Nigerian women, thank you. On your statement Plus, consider the fact that BLACK women are the LEAST desirable people in the world in addition to Asian men. , i disagree, i have my collegue that is from here, he still talk to me everyday that i should connect him to a Nigerian lady if i have because he believe they have the family value of the conservative for marriage and he is also white. For those who wants to know, we both live abroad, here the idological difference is pretty much was why she made the suggestion that me going to relate with Nigerians in Nigeria might bridge those gaps. I love and respect Nigeria women especially family, i can give it all up for family because that is what family stands for. Yes, i have been in relationship with someone from this part of the world. I must tell no matter where, we are always who we are. I dated a Nigerian when we will have date to Mr. Biggs and the like, write as many love letters as possible, i never knew things has changed this much, a woman could be intrested in a married man, that part open my mouth so wide. And a man will be intrested in a married woman wow. Nigerians were never ever like that, after much search online, i saw people even bold enough to have group to meet men and women as such. I will rethink further my plans and keep you all posted. But Wow! Relationship in Nigeria by Nigerians have changed.[/b][/b] 25.06.2024 Dear Family, I'm reaching out for your advice, recommendations, and most importantly, suggestions. I've been absent from this forum for a while now, and I'm facing a difficult dilemma. For context, I was born and raised in Nigeria but left over 13 years ago. I've become completely disconnected from the people, community, family, and the entire environment there. While I do encounter other Nigerians here, I haven't spent more than 80 hours communicating with them in 13 years. My dilemma stems from my plan to marry a Nigerian woman. She has expressed that we have very different perspectives on life and relationships, particularly within an African context. She's advised me to return to Nigeria to understand how people truly think. I'm confused by her suggestion. She's recommended specific actions like sitting in a bar, spending time with family, and even trying the food again to get a feel for the culture. She told me during my hangout i should observe both the men and women to understand how they think. To be honest, I attempted to visit a country with a large Nigerian population. After just five days, I found myself voting for the right wing due to their stance on immigration. For those that might ask, in out of the 13 years i have lived in a country whereby in my city i was the only black man, i have been only in relationship with the other race, i must tell you its different on how we think, i have seen the best of both worlds and choose the way to live my life. I once had a conversation with a friend's wife, she told me Mr.... No typical african woman can ever marry you. All this really got me concern. Nevertheless, reading the news on the security issues, being arrassed by Police, people both male and female trying to take advantages how do i survive to visit Nigeria and fly acorss the countries to explore, different regions. All my old friends are no longer there. I will really appriciate your support. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Namaster: 12:42pm On Jun 25, 2024*. Modified: 1:01pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
"My dilemma stems from my plan to marry a Nigerian woman." More than a DECADE in a foreign country and you still want to marry a Nigerian woman? WTF is WRONG with you?? ALSO, why the fucck do you need to understand the perspectives of Nigerians on life and relationships? Did you RUN AWAY from Nigeria because said perspectives were something to emulate? You are NOT married and the girl is already CONTROLLING you and trying to ruin your life. You want ro come to Nigeria to risk your life because of a Nigerian girl. Ask your mother and let her describe the depth of her DISAPPOINTMENTS. Guy said he wants to travel to DIFFERENT region. Funny man! By the way, is the girl coming with you or are you undertaking the FOOLISH journey solo? You spent just 5 days in ANOTHER foreign country with a significant population of Nigerians and you wanted that country to build a WALL like Donald Trump because of the level of fucckery you beheld. YET you want to come to Nigeria, the father of all SHIITHOLES and the Poverty Capital of the world. Hold on to your fond memories of a Nigeria governed by Goodluck Jonathan. Don't TAINT it by experiencing the CALAMITY that Tinubu presides over. Most importantly, you should NOT be doing it for a Nigerian Woman. Also, avoid the FOOL who told you NO real African woman would marry you. That's a GREAT thing but it seems to have hit your self-esteem hard. Plus, consider the fact that BLACK women are the LEAST desirable people in the world in addition to Asian men. Don't let a Nigerian woman send you on a fool's errand. Don't be that guy. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Ibkay32(m): 12:50pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Yeah it's a good suggestion for you to come and explore your culture, learn and understand how it's again cos 13years is really a long years, things have changed but while coming just stay low profile cos the security of the country is sucks rn Atleast just stay around 6 months before going back and while going back please take me a long with you cos Nigeria is really happening to me in hard way rn.. Please 😭 |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Franzese: 1:15pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Namaster:You spoke my mind bro . Something is just off about the guy/post. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Ksli(op): 1:27pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Ibkay32:Thank you so much, for your suggestion, i cant stay 6 months, i have got my house and job to look back at, max i can ever stay is 8 days. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Ksli(op): 1:35pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Namaster: |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Ibkay32(m): 1:41pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Okay fine. Her recommendations for specific actions like sitting in a bar, spending time with family, and even trying the food again to get a feel for the culture are cool but while doing these make sure you stay profile for security reason During your stay God will protect you. Please don't forget to carry me along while going back 😉 |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Bobloco: 2:36pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Namaster:This further confirms what Wale Edun, the current minister of finance, said a few months ago, and I quote; The last time Nigeria’s economy was stable was about a decade ago. How did we get here |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by RealityKings: 2:41pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Omo you are trying to ruin your life Which kind juju be this? |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by cococandy(f): 2:45pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
After frothing at the lips in this vile manner, you’ll still end up begging a Nigerian woman to marry you Namaster: |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Kobojunkie: 2:51pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Ksli:HUh Are there no Nigerian women outside of Nigeria where you live for you to instead engage? Why must it be Nigerian women living in Nigeria who don't share your perspective at all that you wish to engage? Isn't that there a recipe for disaster in marriage and relationship? ![]() |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by SoaringLife01: 3:34pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Ksli:My advice to you as a fellow guy is that there is no need for you to come to Nigeria. You want to spend just 8 days to study how Nigerians think. How does the mindset of Nigerians in Nigeria affect your home/marriage?.You are already in another clime, so of what use is your visit? Bros abeg just dey where you dey and run your matters jejely. Your girlfriend may mean well by her advice , but that advice is not the way to go at all. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by 1Sharon(f): 4:21pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Where are you based ? Aren't there Nigerian women where you are that are on the same wavelength as you? |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by AngelicBeing: 4:55pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
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| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by austine4real(m): 4:59pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
You can come home see things for ya self but don't show off Don't tell anyone that you are home to marry Be conscious of your environment too |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by We4all: 5:46pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
For someone who was born and bred in Nigeria, 13 years is not a long time to disconnect with how Nigerians think or behave. I can see you also stated that you feel disconnected from your family. If that is the case, then I think you are the architect of your problem. Regardless, if white men who were born and bred in the west are comfortable with Nigerian women and ready to adapt, then I don't really know what you are on about. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Anunakeeh: 6:58pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Namaster:I'm trying to imagine the anger and rage on your face while typing this comment ![]() |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Anunakeeh: 7:00pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
We4all:Sharaap your mouth there. Nonsense. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by We4all: 7:02pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Anunakeeh:What hunger cannot do doesn't exist. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Anunakeeh: 7:05pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
We4all:Vagiina did i told you i was hungry like you huh |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by We4all: 7:15pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Anunakeeh:You didn't tell me but I can feel it. When last did you eat? You can talk to me. Don't be shy. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Anunakeeh: 7:55pm On Jun 25, 2024*. Modified: 8:27pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
We4all:Well i'm not in that league. If you are hungry, feel free to tell me, don't be shy. I could take you on a treat and fvck your ass so hard afterall ![]() |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by We4all: 8:00pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Anunakeeh:This has been noted. DSS will be interested to know that there is another Andrew; the serial killer on the loose. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Anunakeeh: 8:05pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
We4all:Lol CDS kwa. She don dey fear. You will get your ass whipped so hard after you are through eating. Yeye vagiina. Enough of the attention i've given to you tonight. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by We4all: 8:17pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Anunakeeh:Attention from a potential serial killer? If you know how much security operatives are clamping down on criminals, you won't be spewing trash. You should be ready to answer questions when you are eventually picked up by security men. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Anunakeeh: 8:22pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
We4all: ![]() Lol initially i thought i was conversing with a reasonable and mentally stable person. Please seek urgent medication and therapy before your situation gets out of hand. Bye. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by We4all: 9:12pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Anunakeeh:No worries. You are already on the radar of security agents for admitting that you crush people's brains. Even if you deactivate, you will be fished out. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by onumadu: 10:31pm On Jun 25, 2024 |
Namaster:Guy you dey vex o. ![]() @The bolded words above: Touche. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by TheWinterBird(m): 12:16am On Jun 26, 2024*. Modified: 12:16pm On Jun 26, 2024 |
Can you give examples of what she means by you've "different perspectives on life and relationships, particularly within an African context?". Because all that sounds like a compatibility issue. Secondly, instead of going to Nigeria to be parading around people because somehow you'll understand how people think that way, why not go and study her/each other? Have you met before? Because differences on life and relationships means the compatibility might not be there between you two but to ascertain whether it is or isn't, go date her during the time you're there - go out, have further important conversations, etc. It's not like it's other people you're interested in marrying, but her, so you should go there to spend the necessary time with her to gauge compatibility, not other people. Lastly, 13-years is not really a long time for you to have disconnected as much as you say you have or she says you have. I didn't grow up in Nigeria and still consider myself Nigerian in many ways. However, I know my mentality differs from many Nigerians. I joined a Nigerian group earlier this year on FB and remember replying a post that I'll never date a married man and someone (a woman ooo) replied me to argue with me as if what I said was a crime! Apparently dating married men is a common thing in Nigeria and she saw nothing wrong with it. The point is your own views or ways of thinking are probably not bad at all and I assume might actually be progressive, but a Nigerian woman in Nigeria might disagree with them. For example, perhaps you believe a woman should bring something to the table but a Nigerian woman in Nigeria might disagree. I'm just trying to figure out what she means, especially with the "within an African context part" but that's for you to figure out sha. Good luck. Ksli: |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Makaveli217(m): 1:11am On Jun 26, 2024 |
Someone will just stay and start thinking of how to ruin his life, you spent 13years abroad, don't you have friends, business partners, and neighbours that that have sisters you can choose from, you want to travel to nigeria, spend 8 days get married to God knows whom, then travel back. If I may ask what's so special about nigeria women? Will you keep her back in nigeria or travel with her? I hope you're quite familiar with what this generation of nigeria women can do to a man when they are in a free land. I pray as you come back, may nigeria never happen to you. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Mindlog: 6:16am On Jun 26, 2024 |
Marry from where you are. |
| Re: To Visit Nigeria After 13 Years! by Lance008(m): 8:02am On Jun 26, 2024 |
Namaster:Jus leave am Naija gals God forbid I rather marry Indian Bro Abeg change ur plans |
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Are there no Nigerian women outside of Nigeria where you live for you to instead engage? Why must it be Nigerian women living in Nigeria who don't share your perspective at all that you wish to engage? Isn't that there a recipe for disaster in marriage and relationship? 

