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Magicalsineros:
How do you handle a partner that keeps
malice for a long period of time?
Like you both can be in the same house for weeks, months not communicating properly?
What would you do?

Are they really marriages out there that experience this kind of lifestyle?

LordIsaac:
You too stop being irresponsible in the name of marriage. Mostly you take advantage of such men because all they do is keep calm rather than lash out on you. Apologize to that man and let him know that you will be sensitive to avoiding what he dislikes going forward- that's submission. Don't ruin what you have by seeking validation from people who know nothing about your husband's peculiarities.

LordIsaac:
You too stop being irresponsible in the name of marriage. Mostly you take advantage of such men because all they do is keep calm rather than lash out on you. Apologize to that man and let him know that you will be sensitive to avoiding what he dislikes going forward- that's submission. Don't ruin what you have by seeking validation from people who know nothing about your husband's peculiarities.

Magicalsineros:
How do you handle a partner that keeps
malice for a long period of time?
Like you both can be in the same house for weeks, months not communicating properly?
What would you do?

Are they really marriages out there that experience this kind of lifestyle?

Magicalsineros:
You have already judge the matter wrongly.
The senerios above can either happen to a man or a woman. I didn't say a husband

MrBrownJay1:
you communicate with your spouse about changing their ways that are not productive to marriage, if they dont want to change, you get rid of them. no need to stay in a miserable relationship all your life, just because your partner is too stubborn/foolish to resolve simple matters.

LordIsaac:
I'm referring to a husband please.

Peakdesign23:
Weeks and months? That’s insane.

libertyfather:
Responsibility Dey do some men strong thing

MrBrownJay1:
you communicate with your spouse about changing their ways that are not productive to marriage, if they dont want to change, you get rid of them. no need to stay in a miserable relationship all your life, just because your partner is too stubborn/foolish to resolve simple matters.

otipoju:
It is extremely tough when you have kids and you know that divorce will torpedo the children's emotional wellbeing.

lilyheaven:
Yes, I have seen.
The first family, I witnessed it.
Her husband can go for two weeks without talking to his wife or child.
His reason might be one insignificant thing, like his wife smiling when his football team is losing a match 🙃

The second person is my friend.
She can decide not to talk to anyone, including me for one month. When I met her the first time we were so inseparable. One faithful day she decided to stop talking to me. I asked talked to everyone close to her , to please ask her what I did to her, she didn’t answer anyone. When I decided to leave her alone, she brought back herself to me, saying she was going through depression 🤔.
Fortunately, she got married. Called me one faithful day to ask me what to do, because she doesn’t understand her husband…. How he would stay for weeks without talking to her 🤣. I just laughed at her, I told her it was good her husband is treating her the same way she has been treating me and others.
besides, I was surprised she was complaining, I thought she would have enjoyed it.
[b]As I’m typing right now, she has stopped talking to me again. I have decided not to worry my head about her again. When she’s done keeping mute 🤐, she will come around.
This is madn[/b]ess, real madness.

otipoju:
It is extremely tough when you have kids and you know that divorce will torpedo the children's emotional wellbeing.

MrBrownJay1:
some choices are not easy but NECESSARY for YOUR wellbeing and that of your children:
- a spouse acting in such a way will teach children the wrong values in life (that they may copy)
- a husband allowing such foul way of life will also teach children the wrong values of life (that they may copy)
[b]- a divorced couple is better off than a couple living a miserable life together[/b]

Magicalsineros:
And that's another bitter truth. All in the name of ''im staying for the kids '' you may end up raising a badly behalf children.

Magicalsineros:
How do you handle a partner that keeps
malice for a long period of time?
Like you both can be in the same house for weeks, months not communicating properly?
What would you do?

Are they really marriages out there that experience this kind of lifestyle?

Magicalsineros:
This really got me laughing. Some people are really funny 🤣. I had a friend back then during NYSC days. Just because he was asking me out and I declined, the dude refused to talk to me for a very long time. I kept on calling and sending messages, thinking that something bad might have happened to him. I was so worried. So, on his birthday, I sent him mtn 1k, immediately he got my message, he replied me. I was shocked. I called him and he responded, he sound cheerful, telling me it was because I hurt him that was why he has not been talking to me. Immediately after the call, mine started 😂😂. I blocked him. That was the end

MrBrownJay1:
some choices are not easy but NECESSARY for YOUR wellbeing and that of your children:
- a spouse acting in such a way will teach children the wrong values in life (that they may copy)
- a husband allowing such foul way of life will also teach children the wrong values of life (that they may copy)
- a divorced couple is better off than a couple living a miserable life together

otipoju:
I won't bother arguing with you. But it is betterlong term that a man sacrifice his well being and ride it out till the kids become adults. When the father is absent, the children are physical, emotional and spiritual preys for dubious people.

In very rare cases do children from broken homes turn out right to become healthy b=alanced individuals.

Stevenbright:
He isn't your partner and hence this doesn't follow. He just didn't see the essence in continuing to give you attention since you don't want him.

otipoju:
I won't bother arguing with you. But it is betterlong term that a man sacrifice his well being and ride it out till the kids become adults. When the father is absent, the children are physical, emotional and spiritual preys for dubious people.

In very rare cases do children from broken homes turn out right to become healthy b=alanced individuals.

Magicalsineros:
My thoughts too.

Adexvivacity:
You have cheated on him severally and now you are tired. Even that man that u think loves does not, he is just enjoying free pusy. do yourself better by moving to the man and leave the innocent man you are frustrating alone because he also is tired of you. When man goes silent, believe me he is totally tired of everything, just praying for the day you will pack your wahala and go then he starts again.

https://www.nairaland.com/8081403/5-reasons-why-should-cheat

Magicalsineros:
This really got me laughing. Some people are really funny 🤣. I had a friend back then during NYSC days. Just because he was asking me out and I declined, the dude refused to talk to me for a very long time. I kept on calling and sending messages, thinking that something bad might have happened to him. I was so worried. So, on his birthday, I sent him mtn 1k, immediately he got my message, he replied me. I was shocked. I called him and he responded, he sound cheerful, telling me it was because I hurt him that was why he has not been talking to me. Immediately after the call, mine started 😂😂. I blocked him. That was the end

Michelle55:
I wouldn't call mine malice, I simply blacklist the person in my heart and that's the end. Just don't have the energy for back and forth talks or messages.
It's called malice when you have a grudge against someone but it should be different if you're dealing with a loved one, there should be room for communication and forgiveness though.

Magicalsineros:
Blacklist in your heart: that's really deep

Michelle55:
I honestly can't deal with lots of things and drama is one of them, the moment I decide to blacklist anyone in my heart I don't care if they are family or not, they are dead to me.
I'm not good with lengthy communication and I find it difficult to forgive hence I try my best to be at peace with everyone but the minute anyone pushes me beyond my limit, that's it for me to cut ties.
I wish them well from afar but would want nothing to do with them, life is not that hard.
[b]However, if it's a spouse that's involved it would be difficult since we will be in the same house🤣🤣[/b].