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Sapasenator:
I cook and bake more than most ladies and never have to depend on anyone. It is a very important skill to learn by everyone.

sylve11:
As I dey here, no woman go make shakara with food for me.

I like cooking my own food.

Correct men 💯

Na to go marry second wife or invite my side chick to come prepare food for me in the house, if marriage don tire her, make she pack go her papa house.

Zonefree:
Men should try and learn how to cook. Don't allow any woman hold you hostage because of food.

If she refuse cooking, enter kitchen, make your meal, eat and bounce. Then, deprive her of things she normally gets from you.

I hate to see men complain about food every time. Cooking is a basic survival instinct not gender based.

I concur.

I will consider cooking by myself with two options.
1. When she's heavily pregnant knowing fully well that my attention is needed.
2. Whenever she's so sick beyond her strength.
But if she intentionally decides not to cook for me in our matrimonial home, two things are involved.
1. She should forget asking for feeding fee.
2. She should get ready to carry her cross alone.
Case closed.....

Zonefree:
Correct men 💯

You don't know the power a woman wields over a man that cannot cook. It is enourmous and I do not like people have a power or control over me.

1Sharon:
If your wife refuses to cook for you, you'll sit there and starve?

I totally agree with you,,, men should get up and cook if their wives refuses to cook,, your wife is not your slave, stop it! It's not good.
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Anyways, don't forget to send her packing,, two of you cannot be mad at the same time.

VinnyBaba:
Our Nigerian Ladies can Visit and cook for their YAHOO boy Boyfriend at every Hour he Desires
But once they get Married to a Man, Cooking becomes STRESS for them.

They start Disturbing the Husband for Housemaid.
But during their University Days, some of these same Ladies Co-habited and cooked for their Boyfriend before going for Lectures.

PLEASE, MARRIED MEN AND WOMEN HERE, What's the Cause of This? 🤔😒

because Many Married men do NOT have Breakfast b4 going to Work
as their Wives always claim they are Tired. 😟

The only person I’ve seen campaigning after election in all my days on earth is Peter obi

You don’t campaign after election

Kennbliss:
I will consider cooking by myself with two options.
1. When she's heavily pregnant knowing fully well that my attention is needed.
2. Whenever she's so sick beyond her strength.
But if she intentionally decides not to cook for me in our matrimonial home, two things are involved.
1. She should forget asking for feeding fee.
2. She should get ready to carry her cross alone.
Case closed.....

Also, you may have to cook for yourself when your wife has to look after sick relative, especially if the relative is her mother or father, because in those times, it's the ladies they call to look after them. (Even when they are oversease.).

AGE too

Zonefree:
Men should try and learn how to cook. Don't allow any woman hold you hostage because of food.

If she refuse cooking, enter kitchen, make your meal, eat and bounce. Then, deprive her of things she normally gets from you.

I hate to see men complain about food every time. Cooking is a basic survival instinct not gender based.

Why will any adult allow anyone to hold him/her hostage because of food.
With 100MB you can find any recipe you want.
Got to the market to get the ingredients and follow clear instructions.

If you need tips to get a certain flavor or something, call the females in your family or friends.

Food should not be an issue in 2024, unless you literally cannot make out the time to cook.

-Lord

I'm in the kitchen right now cooking while my wife is in the parlor.
If you think you can maltreat with food, then you are a joker.
Note: I have never met any woman that cooks better than me

I still cook for my family today

Sapasenator:
You don't know the power a woman wields over a man that cannot cook. It is enourmous and I do not like people have a power or control over me.

You're a real G. Your woman must be proud to have you.

5 star for you.

Zonefree:
Men should try and learn how to cook. Don't allow any woman hold you hostage because of food.

If she refuse cooking, enter kitchen, make your meal, eat and bounce. Then, deprive her of things she normally gets from you.

I hate to see men complain about food every time. Cooking is a basic survival instinct not gender based.

You can be rest assured that majority of those liking your post are same women you hate.
You know why, women read selectively. They'll psychologically jump and pass your paragraph 2

Zonefree:
This is wrong and also the reason most marriage fail.

My dad used to cook better egusi soup with tomatoes back then. I don't know where he learnt that, maybe Lagos, cos that's where he grew up. Na me dey help am grind the tomatoes while my mum , sister and other siblings will be watching movies at the sitting room.

Cooking doesn't stop a man from being a man.

That your father cook while your mum and her siblings watch TV, doesn't mean it's the right thing.
All of us can't be like your father

showby:
Hehehe!

This is worrisome

Also, you may have to cook for yourself when your wife has to look after sick relative, especially if the relative is her mother or father, because in those times, it's the ladies they call to look after them. (Even when they are oversease.)

That's noted too but else that, I'll stand by my statement.
Thanks for your observation.

TheWinterBird:
Me that loves to cook. I feel bad for my future husband. Na to drag me away from the kitchen everyday.

easier said...

showby:
Hehehe!

Olodo, we are not spending dollars and no civil servant will receive less than 110k because no one is on level 1 step 1 . Entry level for school cert is level 4

TheWinterBird:
Me that loves to cook. I feel bad for my future husband. Na to drag me away from the kitchen everyday.

Na so all of una dey always talk until your husband come marry you then him go come dey create this kind thread.

It called notin to lose

VinnyBaba:
Agreed, But in Marriage Setting, a Husband should NOT be cooking when the Wife is in that Living space with him.

Most of our Girls who Date YAHOO boys, they cook at the Guy's Beck and call.

But when they get into Marriage, Most claim Tiredness.

My brother if you don't know how to cook, go and learn now before you get married. It's an asset cooking for oneself, partner or no partner

VinnyBaba:
Agreed, But in Marriage Setting, a Husband should NOT be cooking when the Wife is in that Living space with him.

Most of our Girls who Date YAHOO boys, they cook at the Guy's Beck and call.

But when they get into Marriage, Most claim Tiredness.

'A husband should NOT be cooking' according to who? This is the 21st century bro, wake up.
Have you ever dated a foreigner? Can you ever date/marry a foreigner without cooking for her? The same way you think you would treat that oyinbo woman or that black American woman, treat that beautiful black Nigerian queen, the same way. You should take good care of her and that includes getting into the kitchen occasionally.

Holluwhakemmy:
Cooking shouldn't be gender based things all hands must be on desk

Must all hands be on table also, or just on desk?

What of the hands on deck

Cooking is a life skill, and should never be restricted to one gender.

We are now at a time where single incomes no longer work... Wives have to earn to support the homes.

How can you demand that a woman be doing domestic activities and equally supporting the home financially?!!

In any case, it all comes down to understanding between couples with regards to duties and roles sharing.

Except you don't want your wife to improve in her career or even grow beyond the home.

Okonjo-Iweala, Awosika, etc, didn't get to where they are today by being domesticated...!

Anyway, just have this discussion and agreement before heading to the altar for marriage.

TheWinterBird:
Me that loves to cook. I feel bad for my future husband. Na to drag me away from the kitchen everyday.

i am a foodie. Can i apply to be your hubby?

Zonefree:
This is wrong and also the reason most marriage fail.

My dad used to cook better egusi soup with tomatoes back then. I don't know where he learnt that, maybe Lagos, cos that's where he grew up. Na me dey help am grind the tomatoes while my mum , sister and other siblings will be watching movies at the sitting room.

Cooking doesn't stop a man from being a man.

your dad did it, does not mean it is right

Imagine the number of females here just reading without saying anything just bc they.... dont let me talk. una must talk o. only are few are talking right now

abc115:
Olodo, we are not spending dollars and no civil servant will receive less than 110k because no one is on level 1 step 1 . Entry level for school cert is level 4

Does N18,000 of 2015 buy more than N70,000 today in food, clothing, transportation, rent etc

Zonefree:
This is wrong and also the reason most marriage fail.

My dad used to cook better egusi soup with tomatoes back then. I don't know where he learnt that, maybe Lagos, cos that's where he grew up. Na me dey help am grind the tomatoes while my mum , sister and other siblings will be watching movies at the sitting room.

Cooking doesn't stop a man from being a man.

You're not seeing it from the other side bro. In a family setting there's what we call division of labour, that's a situation where members of a family are to carry out their expected duty in other to enhance functional family system. A man can not come back from work very tired and you'll be expecting him to go and start cooking when the wife is there doing nothing, is totally unacceptable. If she's a working class woman we might understand. Some women will even be watching movies at home while their spouse is starving, but they don't care. Couples are supposed to support each other in marriage by playing their roles effectively for the benefit of the children and family at large. If a man wants to cook it should be at his own free will not because his wife refused to do her primary duty after coming back from work.

VinnyBaba:
Agreed, But in Marriage Setting, a Husband should NOT be cooking when the Wife is in that Living space with him.

Most of our Girls who Date YAHOO boys, they cook at the Guy's Beck and call.

But when they get into Marriage, Most claim Tiredness.

What a mentality.