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As a young single lady, probably you're in love with a poor guy and you know the same guy does not have vision. He's not working on any meaningful thing that have the potential of breaking him out of poverty. Yet, you're planning on getting married. Before you do that, take a look at this.
Marriage comes with a lot of financial responsibilities and most times, most good people change to bad people due to the weight.
Once you're married, these are the things you will experience.
1. Most if not all your loved ones will remove their hands from you. When you call them for help, they will redirect you back to your husband.

2. When you meet men willing to help, most of them will demand your body in return and by so doing, you'll start commiting adultery. You might even ended up having a child or children outside your marriage and later DNA might expose you.

3. The love and affection you initially have for your husband will vanished and you will be left with regrets and bitterness.
So, before you say YES I DO, take note.


I keep wondering, why is it so hard for most men to help a woman without demanding for her body?

What's your opinion about this?

It has been like that since the time of Solomon...the Queen of Sheba in Ethiopia only visited Solomon to admire his wisdom and the happiness of his subjects and after everything.

Solomon impregnated her and dhe birth the child they both named him Menelik which later became the greatest king in Ethiopia known as Menelik 1 and that is why more Ethiopians are found in Israel than any other culture in Africa.

Men have been like that since ages.

As a married woman, why should you be seeking help from men that are not your relatives or in-laws?

On the other hand, even the good guys who have done it before have learned their lessons because the same women ended up calling them "not man enough" just because they couldn't use sex to commit the men to continuous aid.

Nice2023:
It has been like that since the time of Solomon...the Queen of Sheba in Ethiopia only visited Solomon to admire his wisdom and the happiness of his subjects and after everything.

Solomon impregnated her and dhe birth the child they both named him Menelik which later became the greatest king in Ethiopia known as Menelik 1 and that is why more Ethiopians are found in Israel than any other culture in Africa.

Men have been like that since ages.

And the same men complain when another woman demand that from their wives, sisters or girlfriend

Magicalsineros:
As a young single lady, probably you're in love with a poor guy and you know the same guy does not have vision. He's not working on any meaningful thing that have the potential of breaking him out of poverty. Yet, you're planning on getting married. Before you do that, take a look at this.
Marriage comes with a lot of financial responsibilities and most times, most good people change to bad people due to the weight.
Once you're married, these are the things you will experience.
1. Most if not all your loved ones will remove their hands from you. When you call them for help, they will redirect you back to your husband.

2. When you meet men willing to help, most of them will demand your body in return and by so doing, you'll start commiting adultery. You might even ended up having a child or children outside your marriage and later DNA might expose you.

3. The love and affection you initially have for your husband will vanished and you will be left with regrets and bitterness.
So, before you say YES I DO, take note.


I keep wondering, why is it so hard for most men to help a woman without demanding for her body?

What's your opinion about this?

Why would I help without getting anything in return? Am I her daddy? You should expect to give something in return in other to get help from me otherwise be ready to work for it. If situations were reversed, I would never be offered help on a platter of gold.

I once worked in a company where the HR controller, a middle-aged guy, and a pastor, must shook every lady before approving employment. Na so during the break when conji calls, dude will run away to a nearby hotel with the girls. His wife was even aware of his randy lifestyle.

Dovescenty:
For a man you talk too much. You and that other guy called Nice2023 and to think both of you are married. Cho cho cho cho every single day on nairaland. Don't you have jobs and responsibilities? No day passes without the lot of you posting and talking on the site. It is as if you both want to be seen as popular and wise but you are not. Just noisemakers and empty vessels.

If ur job is taking much of ur time,bros u belong to my father's generation and I pity u really. Personally,I have a job and setup that brings in money seamlessly and that is why I am often avaliable.

U have been here for close to a year,no one topic from u and ur type kills a business or an organisation because u are only here to check on what people say making u practically a liability here. Grow up man and stop being an amebo.

Everyone has got an opinion whenever a topic is brought forth but u chose to be stupid rather than sensible. That is why I am replying u.

If u are looking for job tell me,I will connect u or employ u and pay u handsomely.

Dovescenty:
For a man you talk too much. You and that other guy called Nice2023 and to think both of you are married. Cho cho cho cho every single day on nairaland. Don't you have jobs and responsibilities? No day passes without the lot of you posting and talking on the site. It is as if you both want to be seen as popular and wise but you are not. Just noisemakers and empty vessels.

What about minding your business.

Busybody.

Sapasenator:
Why would I help without getting anything in return? Am I her daddy? You should expect to give something in return in other to get help from me otherwise be ready to work for it. If situations were reversed, I would never be offered help on a platter of gold.

[b]I once worked in a company where the HR controller, a middle-aged guy, and a pastor, must shook every lady before approving employment. Na so during the break when [/b]conji calls, dude will run away to a nearby hotel with the girls. His wife was even aware of his randy lifestyle.

It borders me that even the so called pastors are not left behind.

Even on social media, once a woman request for help, the men who will privately chat her up, will demand for nude pics before they can help.
Lesson for the women: Marry a man who can provide for you, otherwise, the rest of the men you left behind and didn't marry will love to have a taste of you, once you run to them for help

Dovescenty:
For a man you talk too much. You and that other guy called Nice2023 and to think both of you are married. Cho cho cho cho every single day on nairaland. Don't you have jobs and responsibilities? No day passes without the lot of you posting and talking on the site. It is as if you both want to be seen as popular and wise but you are not. Just noisemakers and empty vessels.

Is like you have a personal issues with him. Your writeup sounds childish as well.
Most Topics and people's views you read online, are free lectures, ideas, life sineros, you would never have the opportunity to learn, hear or have the understanding, if not the opportunity giving to you to meet them online.

Magicalsineros:
As a young single lady, probably you're in love with a poor guy and you know the same guy does not have vision. He's not working on any meaningful thing that have the potential of breaking him out of poverty. Yet, you're planning on getting married. Before you do that, take a look at this.
Marriage comes with a lot of financial responsibilities and most times, most good people change to bad people due to the weight.
Once you're married, these are the things you will experience.
1. Most if not all your loved ones will remove their hands from you. When you call them for help, they will redirect you back to your husband.

2. When you meet men willing to help, most of them will demand your body in return and by so doing, you'll start commiting adultery. You might even ended up having a child or children outside your marriage and later DNA might expose you.

3. The love and affection you initially have for your husband will vanished and you will be left with regrets and bitterness.
So, before you say YES I DO, take note.


I keep wondering, why is it so hard for most men to help a woman without demanding for her body?

What's your opinion about this?

Men and women are wired differently, the Importance/Value a woman puts on her private part is the same Importance a man puts on his money, men place little or no value on their private parts.
Even the husband of the said woman looking for help won't render help to another woman without looking for something in return.
It is a sad reality and the earlier we come into terms with it the better for Us all. Do not take gifts or money from a man you won't be pulling off for very soon. Married women should be contented with what their husband's can afford , any man still gifting you while you married is a bad fellow and he is just waiting for a day to have his way.
Just like you outrightly said, men should make money before thinking of settling down, do not drive the said underpaid or non-working woman into temptation all because you cannot provide the basic necessities. No human will love going to bed hungry, not able to buy her child the necessary medications or can't even afford little household miscellaneous and you expecting such person not to think outside the box.
In all of this, Married couples should ensure they plan their life well. Empower your woman with a business ,if you think she is being underpaid, that should be the first step after marriage .

4ward4:
Men and women are wired differently, the Importance/Value a woman puts on her private part is the same Importance a man puts on his money, men place little or no value on their private parts.
Even the husband of the said woman looking for help won't render help to another woman without looking for something in return.
It is a sad reality and the earlier we come into terms with it the better for Us all. Do not take gifts or money from a man you won't be pulling off for very soon. Married women should be contented with what their husband's can afford , any man still gifting you while you married is a bad fellow and he is just waiting for a day to have his way.
Just like you outrightly said, men should make money before thinking of settling down, do not drive the said underpaid or non-working woman into temptation all because you cannot provide the basic necessities. No human will love going to bed hungry, not able to buy her child the necessary medications or can't even afford little household miscellaneous and you expecting such person not to think outside the box.
In all of this, Married couples should ensure they plan their life well. Empower your woman with a business ,if you think she is being underpaid, that should be the first step after marriage .

You're very correct 💯. Sad reality

Magicalsineros:
You're very correct 💯. Sad reality

If from your or (women's) observations you people see that most men don't help women without expecting something in return.

What stops them or why is it so hard also to switch over and start asking for help mostly from their fellow women?

Men have no business helping you without your body! Since you have clearly admonished women to stay away from men who don't have money, why should men who have money help you without you offering your body in return? As Father Christmas or what?

I don't expect you to see the connection though

Jman06:
Men have no business helping you without your body! Since you have clearly admonished women to stay away from men who don't have money, why should men who have money help you without you offering your body in return? As Father Christmas or what?

I don't expect you to see the connection though

That's why is very important for a woman to marry a man that have money

Magicalsineros:
That's why is very important for a woman to marry a man that have money

Yes of course. The problem comes when such woman wants to prevent him from using his money to acquire other women.

You wouldn't help a man either so why do you think men should help you?

Jman06:
Yes of course. The problem comes when such woman wants to prevent him from using his money to acquire other women.

that's another problem entirely

Magicalsineros:
that's another problem entirely

That's not a problem

Jman06:
Men have no business helping you without your body! Since you have clearly admonished women to stay away from men who don't have money, why should men who have money help you without you offering your body in return? As Father Christmas or what?

I don't expect you to see the connection though

I, so much like the way u think before you replied OP, ......she admonished women to be running away from poor men but wanted rich men to be given free money to women.

What a hypocrisy!

Magicalsineros:
As a young single lady, probably you're in love with a poor guy and you know the same guy does not have vision. He's not working on any meaningful thing that have the potential of breaking him out of poverty. Yet, you're planning on getting married. Before you do that, take a look at this.
Marriage comes with a lot of financial responsibilities and most times, most good people change to bad people due to the weight.
Once you're married, these are the things you will experience.
1. Most if not all your loved ones will remove their hands from you. When you call them for help, they will redirect you back to your husband.

2. When you meet men willing to help, most of them will demand your body in return and by so doing, you'll start commiting adultery. You might even ended up having a child or children outside your marriage and later DNA might expose you.

3. The love and affection you initially have for your husband will vanished and you will be left with regrets and bitterness.
So, before you say YES I DO, take note.


I keep wondering, why is it so hard for most men to help a woman without demanding for her body?

What's your opinion about this?

You urself, wen did u help last? Abi, it's an abomination for female gender to help others.

The last time I checked, women who have opportunity, often treating poor men bad far more than men with opportunity doing for female.

Fiscus105:
I so much like the way u think before you replied OP, ......she admonished women to be running away from poor men and at same time wanted rich men to be given free money to women.

What a hypocrisy!

Are you sure that's what I meant? Once a woman marries a rich, why would she run to another fellow rich man for help?

Magicalsineros:
Are you sure that's what I meant? Once a woman marries a rich, why would she run to another fellow rich man for help?

So , going by ur analysis. It's only rich men that entitled to marry, while poor men who are higher in percentage in population shouldn't get married.
If this rule to be applied, your father would nt have oppotunity to marry ur mother, and by extention, you would not be alive today to write trash on faceless forum.

Meanwhile, both poor and rich women are free to get married.

What a myopic, selfish and wicked way of reasoning!

Fiscus105:
So , going by ur analysis. It's only rich men that entitled to marry, while poor men who are higher in percentage in population shouldn't get married.
If this rule to be applied, your father would nt have oppotunity to marry ur mother, and by extention, you would not be alive today to write trash on faceless forum.

Meanwhile, both poor and rich women are free to get married.

What a myopic, selfish and wicked way of reasoning!

Did you know the financial status of her father when he married her mother?

No matter the provocation, learn not to bring someone parents to an argument on social media, they are probably not your mate or do you no harm.

A sensible woman know the important of marrying a capable man, while every sensible man need to understand that he need to be very capable before taking a wife in this part of the word. It is entire different thing if a man lose his wealth after marriage, but getting marry in poverty should not be encourage by anyone.

You can't enjoy marriage in poverty, that is the bitter truth, and women are the ones suffering for it the most. I knew few of them in my area whose their husbands has ran away from home or totally became useless leaving them sourcing for what their children will eat by all means.

Magicalsineros:
A. As a young single lady, probably you're in love with a poor guy and you know the same guy does not have vision. He's not working on any meaningful thing that have the potential of breaking him out of poverty. Yet, you're planning on getting married. Before you do that, take a look at this.

Marriage comes with a lot of financial responsibilities and most times, most good people change to bad people due to the weight.
Once you're married, these are the things you will experience.
1. Most if not all your loved ones will remove their hands from you. When you call them for help, they will redirect you back to your husband.

2. When you meet men willing to help, most of them will demand your body in return and by so doing, you'll start commiting adultery. You might even ended up having a child or children outside your marriage and later DNA might expose you.

3. The love and affection you initially have for your husband will vanished and you will be left with regrets and bitterness.
So, before you say YES I DO, take note.


B. I keep wondering, why is it so hard for most men to help a woman without demanding for her body?

What's your opinion about this?

A. Any girl 'in love' with a boy who has no vision or future ambition like my secondary school teacher says is foolish.

B. Why do you think you are entitled to any one's help without something to offer? Only few people give without expecting anything in return. The expectation might be from you or someone/something else.

Only simps take advantage of situations to fucck women because normally for them, it's the only way. Most of them are not men enough to tell women what they want so they wait for opportunities. I will keep repeating it that real niggas don't rape women, don't beat them, don't fucck married women and even the ones already engaged to other niggas. Before helping a married woman, a gentleman must always get the husband involved. My motto is, madam, tell your husband to call me if you need my help and that kind of help, I seldom offer because no be them I dey hustle hard for.

bukatyne:
A. Any girl 'in love' with a boy who has no vision or future ambition like my secondary school teacher says is foolish.

B. Why do you think you are entitled to any one's help without something to offer? Only few people give without expecting anything in return. The expectation might be from you or someone/something else.

You are a very smart lady who understands the way of the world.

When you need my help, you are at my mercy and the power balance lies with me 100%. You lost the rights to chose the kind of demands I will be making.
It is not by force you can go help yourself and I find people needing help very entitled.
I do not demand sex for help but it is not out of place for a dude to make such demands. You not have to comply, just say no and move along. I ain't your daddy.

yemmit90:
Did you know the financial status of her father when he married her mother?

No matter the provocation, learn not to bring someone parents to an argument on social media, they are probably not your mate or do you no harm.

A sensible woman know the important of marrying a capable man, while every sensible man need to understand that he need to be very capable before taking a wife in this part of the word. It is entire different thing if a man lose his wealth after marriage, but getting marry in poverty should not be encourage by anyone.

You can't enjoy marriage in poverty, that is the bitter truth, and women are the ones suffering for it the most. I knew few of them in my area whose their husbands has ran away from home or totally became useless leaving them sourcing for what their children will eat by all means.

Anything you said in public, would determine ur upbringing and u need caugtion urself enough,not to say nonsense that can attract insults to urself, parents and religion.


So, tell her to learn how to talk with sense and rationally for people to be refraiming in questioning her upbringing.


Meanwhile, i think you should not only use ur entire energy on "capable man alone, you should also try to educate her about wife not to be alabodo",(feeding a wife for only sex)

The marriage of today is joint venture ooo, as man is strugling to bring money back home, so, the wife should try her best to bring her own to support marriage as well

Fiscus105:
So , going by ur analysis. It's only rich men that entitled to marry, while poor men who are higher in percentage in population shouldn't get married.
If this rule to be applied, your father would nt have oppotunity to marry ur mother, and by extention, you would not be alive today to write trash on faceless forum.

Meanwhile, both poor and rich women are free to get married.

What a myopic, selfish and wicked way of reasoning!

Why writing with so much bitterness and anger?

Magicalsineros:
As a young single lady, probably you're in love with a poor guy and you know the same guy does not have vision. He's not working on any meaningful thing that have the potential of breaking him out of poverty. Yet, you're planning on getting married. Before you do that, take a look at this.
Marriage comes with a lot of financial responsibilities and most times, most good people change to bad people due to the weight.
Once you're married, these are the things you will experience.
1. Most if not all your loved ones will remove their hands from you. When you call them for help, they will redirect you back to your husband.

2. When you meet men willing to help, most of them will demand your body in return and by so doing, you'll start commiting adultery. You might even ended up having a child or children outside your marriage and later DNA might expose you.

3. The love and affection you initially have for your husband will vanished and you will be left with regrets and bitterness.
So, before you say YES I DO, take note.


I keep wondering, why is it so hard for most men to help a woman without demanding for her body?

What's your opinion about this?

If you ask me for help and I request to suck your breast first, I see nothing and there