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I read them all and I can conclude this particular guy is not ready for marriage, just looking for excuse to come outta of one...

Guy u are safest with a lady that lives u more than one whom u love more..

Na u Sabi, Na Ur life

bigpicture001:
I read them all and I can conclude this particular guy is not ready for marriage, just looking for excuse to come outta of one...

Guy u are safest with a lady that lives u more than one whom u love more..

Na u Sabi, Na Ur life

I understand your points, but from the look of things and the words she throw at me calling me a baby penis, there's absolutely no way I'd ever had sex with her ever again, if the marriage doesn't break off. So, what would I be doing in a marriage without sex, absolutely no way I will ever have sex with her ever again.

JJacko:
So the deal breaker was when she called your prick small. My guy provoke finally lol.

That girl sef get bad mouth.

Nor be small prick, na baby prick she call am. how can a suicidal lady have such a bad mouth?

BlindAngel:
Bro, that was back then that I had nothing not anymore. If u read my story from starting to the very end, you'd see where I stated that I spent 4m plus on our marriage, a broke guy can't spend such on a wedding.

You might deceive others and yourself. However no woman is going to say a man is broke unless he is broke. It means you cannot afford her lifestyle and her standard of living.

BlindAngel:
I understand your points, but from the look of things and the words she throw at me calling me a baby penis, there's absolutely no way I'd ever had sex with her ever again, if the marriage doesn't break off. So, what would I be doing in a marriage without sex, absolutely no way I will ever have sex with her ever again.

U shldnt have gotten to the verbal abuse stage...she is a lady..in that aspect a guy can never win

Wait till u enter Ur next marriage...we shall b here

NaBanga:
You might deceive others and yourself. However no woman is going to say a man is broke unless he is broke. It means you cannot afford her lifestyle and her standard of living.

I'm not sure you're OK. Your level of understanding is 0.00000%

When babies marry babies

saintopus:
I've been in marriage for more than 20 years, most of what you stated here can all be settled with 2 attitudes.

1. Patience

2. Forgiveness

You see, no marriage on earth is without problems.

Let me ask you, assuming you got married to a chubby lady, do you think none of what you mentioned here would happen?

Or would you because of the lady's chubby nature and stay?

Lets say she was a virgin. Does that mean that she wouldn't have exhibited these attitudes?

Go back again and read those 2 words above. Then think again.

The guy herself is not matured enough and he is not ready for marriage

BlindAngel:
At least I'm 100% guaranteed that I'd be sexually attracted to the chubby lady and this might make the love that isn't there to pop up, but in this case, it's nearly impossible if not impossible for me to love her, I have tried on different several occasions but still the love isn't just there.

There is no perfect human being out there, if paradventure you got your dream chubby lady and at the end she has bad attitude or can't even please you in the other room what will you do? Run away from her and look for another chubby lady life is not like that we don't always get what we want

So, you weren't ready for marriage and you were sleeping with her.

Kemadealadire:
So, you weren't ready for marriage and you were sleeping with her.

Your boyfriend that's currently sleeping with you, is he ready for marriage

NaBanga:
You might deceive others and yourself. However no woman is going to say a man is broke unless he is broke. It means you cannot afford her lifestyle and her standard of living.

Don't mind the broke man with a small prick. If I were his wife, I would have chased him out of the house. My husband is afraid of me and cannot try shit with me. Even my two kids always give me a gap. Nonsense!

This is to every idiot that quoted ops book just to comment! Thunder fire your thumb 🖕🖕🖕🖕

BlindAngel:
Your boyfriend that's currently sleeping with you, is he ready for marriage

Stop projecting, everyone isn't you.

BlindAngel:
Your boyfriend that's currently sleeping with you, is he ready for marriage

Bro ur matter no get too much weight....firstly ur life might be in danger cos dat babe fit harm u n also harm herself.....so since u claim dat house is yours den I want u to visit d nearest barracks with just #100k only...pick female soldiers only n rise dat daughter of Jezebel out of ur house....as for ur kid...ensure u adequately provide for him from afar until he's old enough to be with u permanently or on his holidays....SIMPLE N STRAIGHTFORWARD

saintopus:
I've been in marriage for more than 20 years, most of what you stated here can all be settled with 2 attitudes.

1. Patience

2. Forgiveness

You see, no marriage on earth is without problems.

Let me ask you, assuming you got married to a chubby lady, do you think none of what you mentioned here would happen?

Or would you because of the lady's chubby nature and stay?

Lets say she was a virgin. Does that mean that she wouldn't have exhibited these attitudes?

Go back again and read those 2 words above. Then think again.

He made the mistake in the onset by allowing a woman to trick/ cajole him into marrying her.
Op, women have caustic tongues and no one is good not even your female family members.
Just do what makes you happy. Frankly, there are a lot of childish behaviour from the both of you. You were supposed to be the man and control the narrative in your home but if she is set in her ways and won't change, and it's becoming violent and also depriving you of your peace, then seek separation first to see how things pans out.
@saintopus I'm trying to settle a cousin s issue and I need other perspectives. There will be a meeting of family this Sunday and I will be there. In a situation where a lady doesn't want to see her husband's family members ( the mum and brothers) and hate? Them so much for no concrete reasons, what is your opinion? My cousin wants to end the marriage as all attempt to talk sense into the woman is not working
What's your take?

nams77:
He made the mistake in the onset by allowing a woman to trick/ cajole him into marrying her.
Op, women have caustic tongues and no one is good not even your female family members.
Just do what makes you happy. Frankly, there are a lot of childish behaviour from the both of you. You were supposed to be the man and control the narrative in your home but if she is set in her ways and won't change, and it's becoming violent and also depriving you of your peace, then seek separation first to see how things pans out.
@saintopus I'm trying to settle a cousin s issue and I need other perspectives. There will be a meeting of family this Sunday and I will be there. In a situation where a lady doesn't want to see her husband's family members ( the mum and brothers) and hate? Them so much for no concrete reasons, what is your opinion? My cousin wants to end the marriage as all attempt to talk sense into the woman is not working
What's your take?

In the case of hate of in-laws by a wife, its rather a difficult issue. The easiest way is to call the wife and ask her the reason behind the anger and hate. Encourage her to forgive all preconceived wrongs and poor uterances if there are any in the passed or present.
Like I said these things are common even in overseas.
My boss, retired lecturer in the university whose last son married a Norwegian young lady faced a similar embarrassed situation when she visited her son under omugwo runs. It was a serious matter.
So this things happen.
For me no need to divorce the wife unless she became violent.
Family matter, wife and husband problem è no easy ooooooo my brother.

saintopus:
In the case of hate of in-laws by a wife, its rather a difficult issue. The easiest way is to call the wife and ask her the reason behind the anger and hate. Encourage her to forgive all preconceived wrongs and poor uterances if there are any in the passed or present.
Like I said these things are common even in overseas.
My boss, retired lecturer in the university whose last son married a Norwegian young lady faced a similar embarrassed situation when she visited her son under omugwo runs. It was a serious matter.
So this things happen.
For me no need to divorce the wife unless she became violent.
Family matter, wife and husband problem è no easy ooooooo my brother.

Exactly. It's not easy. they have had several meetings. asked her what the issue is but she is not coming up with any tangible points. Nothing whatsoever. This man is the first born and stands In the gap of the father who is late. will he chase away his family because of a woman? No! I have given him my consent already. The ball is left in his court

BlindAngel:
I understand your points, but from the look of things and the words she throw at me calling me a baby penis, there's absolutely no way I'd ever had sex with her ever again, if the marriage doesn't break off. So, what would I be doing in a marriage without sex, absolutely no way I will ever have sex with her ever again.

I feel you gee. If a babe says I have small/baby prick, she's dead to me. If she kill my mama sef I can still knack, but baby prick? Nahh

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@blindangel,
Just checking on you and also writing to let you know that you will have to deal with her for a large number of years since there's a child between you both. You both need to learn to co-parent. It is obvious you ar not matured for marriage and putting the blame of you marrying her on you. Trying to say you love dark chubby woman and married the opposite is in you.

Wish you the best in coparenting.

BlindAngel:
I'd appreciate your contributions and what you think about all that happened.

All I can say after reading of her using suicide threats of swallowing bleach and stabbing herself if you leave her is to advice you to run for your life as the devil may one day whisper to her to use that knife on you while you are asleep to prevent you from leaving her to marry someone else. Its no longer safe for you to sleep be unconscious in her presence.

BlindAngel:
Your boyfriend that's currently sleeping with you, is he ready for marriage

Look well or ask someone who isn't blind to help you see, I am not your sister neither am I related to your girlfriend.

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders,

Please read to the end, It'd be quite an episode.

My marriage of 6 months has almost finally come to an end.

On my previous thread I have posted a lot about trouble we've been having during and after the marriage.

- How she manipulated me with her tears into marrying her despite the fact that I wasn't in anyway ready.

- How she manipulated me with her tears, and refused my pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony, therfore giving way for her pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony. And called me all sorts of names while crying when I refused and insisted that my pastor will be the one to do it.

Plus other's that I cannot even remember.




Now back to the topic, I will be extremely sincere to you all, I won't add anything and will not remove any. Everything started two day's ago, I was lying on the bed and she came to me crying and begging for me to love her that she's tired of begging for my love all the time, that I should give her just 1% of the love that I've for our son. Just 1% is all that she asked for, I didn't answer her, but later told her that I've tried in the past and still trying but the love isn't there naturally that maybe it's because she forced me into marriage when I'm not in anyway ready that in my wildest dream I never believed that I'd be a married man this year. Then she started crying heavily, went to look for rope and started strangling her neck that she will kill herself that there's no life for her to live, I rescued her. Then, I went to bath and before I came back she has locked the room door, I was hearing endless cough outside the door and pleaded with her to open the door but no response. Thank God the door key is somewhat faulty, I managed to open the door and saw that her eyes are already extremely red and spit drooping out of her mouth, the rope was so very extremely tight to her neck. "I'm still wondering until date how she managed to hold on tight and not let go despite the great pain she was in" next she went tho get knife that she'd stab herself. I was late for work and with the anger inside of me, I walked out of the house, she called me on video call immediately and showed me that this is the end that I should take care of out baby, I immediately ended the call, put my two phones on flight mode until I few hours later.

Immediately I on my phone my mom called me, she has reported a lot to my mom, my mom talked to me and when the heat was too much I walked out of her.

After that day, which is a day before yesterday, she totally changed, she no longer respect me, she talks to me anyhow, she insult me and talk back at me. These are things she does when I newly met her until she totally changed, now she has turned to something else, she bought a school form without even informing me. Two weeks ago she brought one of her friend to stay with us without informing me, when I confronted her she said she forgot.

Today she told me that I'm treating her bad and expect her not to revolt and continue keeping quiet, that this is the end road for me. I guessing that she got this advice from a friend, because she told her friend that she met at antinental everything that has been going on and she gave her some advice.


Today a huge quarrel broke out today which I'm clearly the cause, we were watching a Nigerian movie and I saw a chubby girl and complimented her that she's sweet that this is the kind of body I like that I'm going to search for her on Instagram just to see more of her. I said all this because I've been singing in her ears that I love dark skinned or chocolate women that are extremely chubby or fat. She also don't always fail to tell me that she's on weight reduction therapy "I'm always pained whenever I hear this words from her because she's not in anyway fat, she's fair too and rubbing cream to make her fair more, all these is paining me, she knew what I want but always doing the opposite. I can't resist a chubby girl, but coming home to see her how slim she's always makes me so heartbroken and weak.

The quarrel led to insult, we started insulting each other. She told me to shut up, that I'm an idiot bastard, a fool at 30, mumu, Goat etc.

And I insulted her as well, I'm pained by her insult because as she's supposed to give me some respect.


During the heat of the quarrel while we were still dating, I reminded her how she cheated on me by going to sleep with a stranger In a hotel until dawn, and denied that nothing happened, that the man didn't touch her.

I got to know all this when I she was sleeping and I used her finger print to open her phone and saw her chat between her and her room mate In school, she was still a student then.

"her friend asked her not to go, but she refused and went, on the chat she made mentioned that she didn't shaved that she'd be ashamed if the guy want to have sex with her.

When I saw her chat she blamed me, that I didn't gave her attention on that particular day. This is a woman whom I'm always chatting with all the time, except that particular day that I was extremely busy and told her that I'd be busy but when I'm less busy we'll chat. She said I told her that I was busy but I was online on whatsapp that she sent me messages but I never opened them, that her emotions got the best part of her.

I also reminded her of how she chatted a guy that was always disturbing her. She told the guy that she's ready to date him that he should go and rent house so that she would be coming to sleep there. What made her to write the guy? We had a quarrel, her friend that our last born was far older than, insulted me and instead of her to scold her friend she joined her friend and starter insulting me that I was the one at fault. Note : we were still dating back then when all this happened, today's argument made me to remind her.

I also reminded her of her chat with her friend when she told her friend that I'm a broke guy she's just managing.

But she said she was naive then that things have changed now which I can't deny. I then told her that I will call a family meeting and state all these that sha did during the past, I won't have done it but all her 4 sisters excluding her mom and one of her sister, think I met her a virgin, the remaining 4 of her sisters think I met her a virgin, so I want them to know that I didn't met her a virgin that she has already dis virgined when I met her.


Now back to the deal breaker, she said everything on my body is small including my penis, that whenever she's holding my penis when not erect, God forbid that it looks like a baby's penis. That God forbid our son having such a small penis.

Then I told her that her vagina is very wild that I don't feel anything when having sex with her, that all the prostitutes and my ex that I've slept with are far tighter and sweeter than her that she's has the worst and bitter vagina I've ever tasted in all my life and day to day existence.

Then she kept on hitting about my small penis that my penis is small and that's why I haven't felt anything. Then I told her how many girl's that have cummed during sex, even prostitutes. "Note, I'm not lying, this is 100% true" Then she said I'm lying, that my penis only long but it's small bla bla bla.

Few minutes later, I dressed up and went to church, while going she again called me a Goat, a fool and a Dog.


The decision I intend taking, I intend doing out child's dedication next week Sunday, so in order for anything not to connect us ever again after I've gotten back my bride price.

I have blocked her both numbers on whatsapp and Facebook, and on calls although she doesn't know yet. "note : this is the very first time that I'm blocking her, ever since when we started dating, no matter the quarrel and provocation, I haven't ever done this ever before.

Nothing and absolutely nothing will make this marriage work ever again, I intend calling a family meeting immediately after the dedication to state my mind that the marriage has ended and she should leave.

To me, this marriage ended a long time ago right from the very first day she manipulated me with her suicide attempt and endless tears and calling me wicked, heartless. In which I couldn't bear and I agreed to marry her despite the fact that I wasn't ready, the love wasn't there and above all I wasn't sexually attracted to her. I wasted 4 million plus in getting married to her February this year, and I have accepted my fate. I will do the dedication and call the family meeting to make my stance known.

Thank you all for reading, although I've already made a decision but I'd appreciate your contributions and what you think about all that happened.

Bro, you played with your chance. She has already disrespected you.

BlindAngel:
Yes I married her because she got pregnant, immediately she got pregnant she started pressuring me for marriage. My greatest shock until date was her reaction on the very first day she popped up the question to me, she said and I quote "when we go marry" I told her I wasn't ready the that night was total hell for me, she started crying endlessly, calling me all sorts of names that I'm wicked, heartless, and have no conscience. That same night she drank hypo with her pregnancy, drank tiles wash, used rope to tie her neck and lastly went to the kitchen to get a knife that she want to kill herself. I was surprised by her reaction because it was the very first day she asked me the question and I never imagined I'd witness such a reaction on just the very first day she asked me such.

She continued popping up the question on a daily basis and her reaction was always same whenever I told her that I wasn't ready, it got to a point that I told her that I don't have money and her response "na lie na lie na lie, u get money, u get money, na lie"

She kept on threatening me with suicide and popping up the question until I couldn't take it any longer and had to agree to marry her.

I got the greatest shock of my life this morning when I reminded her of what she did back then, her response. "she warned me not to ever say such again that I'm a man and I was the one that made the decision in getting married to her" this response nearly moved me to tears, because I remembered when she was pressuring me endlessly, threatening me with suicide, begging me on a daily basis to marry her and remove shame from her eyes. I was really so pained by her response.

why fu*k her raw when you know shes not your spec

Two grown up children.
You spend your time trading words with a woman that you should give silent treatment to.

How did you even end up being manipulated into the marriage? You should be able to know what you want and stand on it irrespective of the manipulative actions or words being thrown at you.

BlindAngel:
Seems you didn't read what I wrote, she clearly knew that I don't love her but yet used her tears and manipulation attempt to force me to marry her, when I'm not in anyway ready. Just because she got pregnant, so how's it my fault?

Did she also use her tears to manipulate into sleeping with her before marriage?
You messed up big time bro, stop trying to put all the blame on her.
Granted, you married a highly dramatic and manipulative lady however it doesn't absorb you of the blame. You shouldn't have married her out of pity

BlindAngel:
Seems you didn't read what I wrote, she clearly knew that I don't love her but yet used her tears and manipulation attempt to force me to marry her, when I'm not in anyway ready. Just because she got pregnant, so how's it my fault?

You're the most silly of all men. Very immature.

Like, who dates a size and color of a lady that's clearly not their spec

Who fvks a person that they are not even attracted to without protection abi you no get brain matter that when you fvk without protection, you're getting a baby

It is your bloody fault you slept with her and chubby girls finish for your state ni

Because you get Small change you dey form Rambo.... Respect is reciprocal, if you respect your wife, she will respect you.

Continue this way and your wife will meet a better guy with more money who will love and respect her, and she will dump your sorry ass, you will regret it forever boy

Keep us updated when you have baby number 2 with her

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders,

Please read to the end, It'd be quite an episode.

My marriage of 6 months has almost finally come to an end.

On my previous thread I have posted a lot about trouble we've been having during and after the marriage.

- How she manipulated me with her tears into marrying her despite the fact that I wasn't in anyway ready.

- How she manipulated me with her tears, and refused my pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony, therfore giving way for her pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony. And called me all sorts of names while crying when I refused and insisted that my pastor will be the one to do it.

Plus other's that I cannot even remember.




Now back to the topic, I will be extremely sincere to you all, I won't add anything and will not remove any. Everything started two day's ago, I was lying on the bed and she came to me crying and begging for me to love her that she's tired of begging for my love all the time, that I should give her just 1% of the love that I've for our son. Just 1% is all that she asked for, I didn't answer her, but later told her that I've tried in the past and still trying but the love isn't there naturally that maybe it's because she forced me into marriage when I'm not in anyway ready that in my wildest dream I never believed that I'd be a married man this year. Then she started crying heavily, went to look for rope and started strangling her neck that she will kill herself that there's no life for her to live, I rescued her. Then, I went to bath and before I came back she has locked the room door, I was hearing endless cough outside the door and pleaded with her to open the door but no response. Thank God the door key is somewhat faulty, I managed to open the door and saw that her eyes are already extremely red and spit drooping out of her mouth, the rope was so very extremely tight to her neck. "I'm still wondering until date how she managed to hold on tight and not let go despite the great pain she was in" next she went tho get knife that she'd stab herself. I was late for work and with the anger inside of me, I walked out of the house, she called me on video call immediately and showed me that this is the end that I should take care of out baby, I immediately ended the call, put my two phones on flight mode until I few hours later.

Immediately I on my phone my mom called me, she has reported a lot to my mom, my mom talked to me and when the heat was too much I walked out of her.

After that day, which is a day before yesterday, she totally changed, she no longer respect me, she talks to me anyhow, she insult me and talk back at me. These are things she does when I newly met her until she totally changed, now she has turned to something else, she bought a school form without even informing me. Two weeks ago she brought one of her friend to stay with us without informing me, when I confronted her she said she forgot.

Today she told me that I'm treating her bad and expect her not to revolt and continue keeping quiet, that this is the end road for me. I guessing that she got this advice from a friend, because she told her friend that she met at antinental everything that has been going on and she gave her some advice.


Today a huge quarrel broke out today which I'm clearly the cause, we were watching a Nigerian movie and I saw a chubby girl and complimented her that she's sweet that this is the kind of body I like that I'm going to search for her on Instagram just to see more of her. I said all this because I've been singing in her ears that I love dark skinned or chocolate women that are extremely chubby or fat. She also don't always fail to tell me that she's on weight reduction therapy "I'm always pained whenever I hear this words from her because she's not in anyway fat, she's fair too and rubbing cream to make her fair more, all these is paining me, she knew what I want but always doing the opposite. I can't resist a chubby girl, but coming home to see her how slim she's always makes me so heartbroken and weak.

The quarrel led to insult, we started insulting each other. She told me to shut up, that I'm an idiot bastard, a fool at 30, mumu, Goat etc.

And I insulted her as well, I'm pained by her insult because as she's supposed to give me some respect.


During the heat of the quarrel while we were still dating, I reminded her how she cheated on me by going to sleep with a stranger In a hotel until dawn, and denied that nothing happened, that the man didn't touch her.

I got to know all this when I she was sleeping and I used her finger print to open her phone and saw her chat between her and her room mate In school, she was still a student then.

"her friend asked her not to go, but she refused and went, on the chat she made mentioned that she didn't shaved that she'd be ashamed if the guy want to have sex with her.

When I saw her chat she blamed me, that I didn't gave her attention on that particular day. This is a woman whom I'm always chatting with all the time, except that particular day that I was extremely busy and told her that I'd be busy but when I'm less busy we'll chat. She said I told her that I was busy but I was online on whatsapp that she sent me messages but I never opened them, that her emotions got the best part of her.

I also reminded her of how she chatted a guy that was always disturbing her. She told the guy that she's ready to date him that he should go and rent house so that she would be coming to sleep there. What made her to write the guy? We had a quarrel, her friend that our last born was far older than, insulted me and instead of her to scold her friend she joined her friend and starter insulting me that I was the one at fault. Note : we were still dating back then when all this happened, today's argument made me to remind her.

I also reminded her of her chat with her friend when she told her friend that I'm a broke guy she's just managing.

But she said she was naive then that things have changed now which I can't deny. I then told her that I will call a family meeting and state all these that sha did during the past, I won't have done it but all her 4 sisters excluding her mom and one of her sister, think I met her a virgin, the remaining 4 of her sisters think I met her a virgin, so I want them to know that I didn't met her a virgin that she has already dis virgined when I met her.


Now back to the deal breaker, she said everything on my body is small including my penis, that whenever she's holding my penis when not erect, God forbid that it looks like a baby's penis. That God forbid our son having such a small penis.

Then I told her that her vagina is very wild that I don't feel anything when having sex with her, that all the prostitutes and my ex that I've slept with are far tighter and sweeter than her that she's has the worst and bitter vagina I've ever tasted in all my life and day to day existence.

Then she kept on hitting about my small penis that my penis is small and that's why I haven't felt anything. Then I told her how many girl's that have cummed during sex, even prostitutes. "Note, I'm not lying, this is 100% true" Then she said I'm lying, that my penis only long but it's small bla bla bla.

Few minutes later, I dressed up and went to church, while going she again called me a Goat, a fool and a Dog.


The decision I intend taking, I intend doing out child's dedication next week Sunday, so in order for anything not to connect us ever again after I've gotten back my bride price.

I have blocked her both numbers on whatsapp and Facebook, and on calls although she doesn't know yet. "note : this is the very first time that I'm blocking her, ever since when we started dating, no matter the quarrel and provocation, I haven't ever done this ever before.

Nothing and absolutely nothing will make this marriage work ever again, I intend calling a family meeting immediately after the dedication to state my mind that the marriage has ended and she should leave.

To me, this marriage ended a long time ago right from the very first day she manipulated me with her suicide attempt and endless tears and calling me wicked, heartless. In which I couldn't bear and I agreed to marry her despite the fact that I wasn't ready, the love wasn't there and above all I wasn't sexually attracted to her. I wasted 4 million plus in getting married to her February this year, and I have accepted my fate. I will do the dedication and call the family meeting to make my stance known.

Thank you all for reading, although I've already made a decision but I'd appreciate your contributions and what you think about all that happened.

Are you the same man who posted about ur dead father inlaw, that your inlaws want you and one other inlaw to pay for the burial preparation....Marriage is not do or die affair if it's not working opt out....

THE GREATEST MISTAKE A MAN CAN MAKE IS TO MARRY A LADY HE LOVES.

AGAIN, THE WAY YOUR TREATING THAT LADY PUTS YOUR LIFE IN DANGER

FORGET ALL WHAT HAS HAPPENED APOLOGIZE TO HER, AND SEE THAT YOUR HOME WILL BECOME HEAVEN ON EARTH.

SHE WANTS TO STAY, KEEP HER OR You'll REGRET IT LATER

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders,

Please read to the end, It'd be quite an episode.

My marriage of 6 months has almost finally come to an end.

On my previous thread I have posted a lot about trouble we've been having during and after the marriage.

- How she manipulated me with her tears into marrying her despite the fact that I wasn't in anyway ready.

- How she manipulated me with her tears, and refused my pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony, therfore giving way for her pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony. And called me all sorts of names while crying when I refused and insisted that my pastor will be the one to do it.

Plus other's that I cannot even remember.




Now back to the topic, I will be extremely sincere to you all, I won't add anything and will not remove any. Everything started two day's ago, I was lying on the bed and she came to me crying and begging for me to love her that she's tired of begging for my love all the time, that I should give her just 1% of the love that I've for our son. Just 1% is all that she asked for, I didn't answer her, but later told her that I've tried in the past and still trying but the love isn't there naturally that maybe it's because she forced me into marriage when I'm not in anyway ready that in my wildest dream I never believed that I'd be a married man this year. Then she started crying heavily, went to look for rope and started strangling her neck that she will kill herself that there's no life for her to live, I rescued her. Then, I went to bath and before I came back she has locked the room door, I was hearing endless cough outside the door and pleaded with her to open the door but no response. Thank God the door key is somewhat faulty, I managed to open the door and saw that her eyes are already extremely red and spit drooping out of her mouth, the rope was so very extremely tight to her neck. "I'm still wondering until date how she managed to hold on tight and not let go despite the great pain she was in" next she went tho get knife that she'd stab herself. I was late for work and with the anger inside of me, I walked out of the house, she called me on video call immediately and showed me that this is the end that I should take care of out baby, I immediately ended the call, put my two phones on flight mode until I few hours later.

Immediately I on my phone my mom called me, she has reported a lot to my mom, my mom talked to me and when the heat was too much I walked out of her.

After that day, which is a day before yesterday, she totally changed, she no longer respect me, she talks to me anyhow, she insult me and talk back at me. These are things she does when I newly met her until she totally changed, now she has turned to something else, she bought a school form without even informing me. Two weeks ago she brought one of her friend to stay with us without informing me, when I confronted her she said she forgot.

Today she told me that I'm treating her bad and expect her not to revolt and continue keeping quiet, that this is the end road for me. I guessing that she got this advice from a friend, because she told her friend that she met at antinental everything that has been going on and she gave her some advice.


Today a huge quarrel broke out today which I'm clearly the cause, we were watching a Nigerian movie and I saw a chubby girl and complimented her that she's sweet that this is the kind of body I like that I'm going to search for her on Instagram just to see more of her. I said all this because I've been singing in her ears that I love dark skinned or chocolate women that are extremely chubby or fat. She also don't always fail to tell me that she's on weight reduction therapy "I'm always pained whenever I hear this words from her because she's not in anyway fat, she's fair too and rubbing cream to make her fair more, all these is paining me, she knew what I want but always doing the opposite. I can't resist a chubby girl, but coming home to see her how slim she's always makes me so heartbroken and weak.

The quarrel led to insult, we started insulting each other. She told me to shut up, that I'm an idiot bastard, a fool at 30, mumu, Goat etc.

And I insulted her as well, I'm pained by her insult because as she's supposed to give me some respect.


During the heat of the quarrel while we were still dating, I reminded her how she cheated on me by going to sleep with a stranger In a hotel until dawn, and denied that nothing happened, that the man didn't touch her.

I got to know all this when I she was sleeping and I used her finger print to open her phone and saw her chat between her and her room mate In school, she was still a student then.

"her friend asked her not to go, but she refused and went, on the chat she made mentioned that she didn't shaved that she'd be ashamed if the guy want to have sex with her.

When I saw her chat she blamed me, that I didn't gave her attention on that particular day. This is a woman whom I'm always chatting with all the time, except that particular day that I was extremely busy and told her that I'd be busy but when I'm less busy we'll chat. She said I told her that I was busy but I was online on whatsapp that she sent me messages but I never opened them, that her emotions got the best part of her.

I also reminded her of how she chatted a guy that was always disturbing her. She told the guy that she's ready to date him that he should go and rent house so that she would be coming to sleep there. What made her to write the guy? We had a quarrel, her friend that our last born was far older than, insulted me and instead of her to scold her friend she joined her friend and starter insulting me that I was the one at fault. Note : we were still dating back then when all this happened, today's argument made me to remind her.

I also reminded her of her chat with her friend when she told her friend that I'm a broke guy she's just managing.

But she said she was naive then that things have changed now which I can't deny. I then told her that I will call a family meeting and state all these that sha did during the past, I won't have done it but all her 4 sisters excluding her mom and one of her sister, think I met her a virgin, the remaining 4 of her sisters think I met her a virgin, so I want them to know that I didn't met her a virgin that she has already dis virgined when I met her.


Now back to the deal breaker, she said everything on my body is small including my penis, that whenever she's holding my penis when not erect, God forbid that it looks like a baby's penis. That God forbid our son having such a small penis.

Then I told her that her vagina is very wild that I don't feel anything when having sex with her, that all the prostitutes and my ex that I've slept with are far tighter and sweeter than her that she's has the worst and bitter vagina I've ever tasted in all my life and day to day existence.

Then she kept on hitting about my small penis that my penis is small and that's why I haven't felt anything. Then I told her how many girl's that have cummed during sex, even prostitutes. "Note, I'm not lying, this is 100% true" Then she said I'm lying, that my penis only long but it's small bla bla bla.

Few minutes later, I dressed up and went to church, while going she again called me a Goat, a fool and a Dog.


The decision I intend taking, I intend doing out child's dedication next week Sunday, so in order for anything not to connect us ever again after I've gotten back my bride price.

I have blocked her both numbers on whatsapp and Facebook, and on calls although she doesn't know yet. "note : this is the very first time that I'm blocking her, ever since when we started dating, no matter the quarrel and provocation, I haven't ever done this ever before.

Nothing and absolutely nothing will make this marriage work ever again, I intend calling a family meeting immediately after the dedication to state my mind that the marriage has ended and she should leave.

To me, this marriage ended a long time ago right from the very first day she manipulated me with her suicide attempt and endless tears and calling me wicked, heartless. In which I couldn't bear and I agreed to marry her despite the fact that I wasn't ready, the love wasn't there and above all I wasn't sexually attracted to her. I wasted 4 million plus in getting married to her February this year, and I have accepted my fate. I will do the dedication and call the family meeting to make my stance known.

Thank you all for reading, although I've already made a decision but I'd appreciate your contributions and what you think about all that happened.

GO AHEAD AND DONT LOOK BACK.
BUT WHICH CHURCH YOU WAN DO THE DEDICATION?
TRY AND INFORM THE POLICE OF HER THREAT OF SUICIDE AND ENSURE SHE IS CAUGHT RED HANDED OR WHILE AT IT. BEST WISHES.