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My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Xj2020: 10:15am On Oct 17
He is a very principled man. Very religious and doesn't play with his God been a devoted Muslim. Extremely rich and bless with four grown up children with the second of his children getting married in a month time.

He retired from the bank 2 years ago having risen to the pinnacle of his career in the banking industry having served in different capacities for almost 35 years.

Yes, the wife is uncultured and ill-mannered. He knows already and has been managing her all these years.

He is presently in court seeking to divorce his wife and has vowed that nothing would stop him from divorcing his wife.

My question is what could possibly make a man thrown in the towel and walk out of his marriage after so many years together?

I will like to know.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by daddytime(m): 10:22am On Oct 17
Life goes on..

They both tried in tolerating each other's excesses over the years.

We no get that kind patience again these years.

5 years sef na Golden jubilee these days..

Let's have your thoughts on this thread...guys


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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by sisisioge: 10:23am On Oct 17
Xj2020:
He is a very principled man. Very religious and doesn't play with his God been a devoted Muslim. Extremely rich and bless with four grown up children with the second of his children getting married in a month time. He retired from the bank 2 years ago having risen to the pinnacle of his career in the banking industry having served in different capacities for almost 35 years.
Yes, the wife is uncultured and ill-mannered. He knows already and has been managing her all these years.
He is presently in court seeking to divorce his wife and has vowed that nothing would stop him from divorcing his wife.
My question is what could possibly make a man thrown in the tower and walk out of his marriage after so many years together? I will like to know.

He seek peace now that he is retired and likely to spend more time at home. Back in the days, he could easily escape to work while she does her wahala but now that his bones are growing tired and not able to easily escape, he needs to find someone who understands the importance of peaceful cohabitation or close shop on company.

By the way, it's not a gender monopoly, we all want peace now and always. I had some encounter with a fighting couple some 2 days ago and was scared to my marrow. Na real wa....why are people fighting biko! Whew!

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Sonnobax15(m): 10:24am On Oct 17
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The same thing is currently happening to my uncle..To the extent that he even wanted to sell one of his duplex but his children and wife collaborated and even had to beat my uncle to coma....... imagine father wey send all him four out of 5 sons to go and study for the U.K.......
My uncle is currently filing for divorce at this moment,but the woman dey vow say if my uncle venture leave her,say my uncle go see pepper....

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by NobleSeed(m): 10:25am On Oct 17
My question is what could possibly make a man thrown in the tower and walk out of his marriage after so many years together? I will like to know.
FOR HIS PEACE OF MIND

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by InTheCloudySky(f): 10:28am On Oct 17
Hmmm
Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by mariahAngel: 10:28am On Oct 17
daddytime:
Life goes on..

They both tried in tolerating each other's excesses over the years.

We no get that kind patience again these years.

5 years sef na Golden jubilee these days..


Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
End time marriage.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by daddytime(m): 10:30am On Oct 17
mariahAngel:


Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
End time marriage.

The bitter truth oh...

Any how e come we go follow the matter like that...lol

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by pocohantas(f): 10:31am On Oct 17
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
The same thing is currently happening to my uncle..To the extent that he even wanted to sell one of his duplex but his children and wife collaborated and even had to beat my uncle to coma....... imagine father wey send all him four out of 5 sons to go and study for the U.K.......
My uncle is currently filing for divorce at this moment,but the woman dey vow say if my uncle venture leave her,say my uncle go see pepper....

Sad one. Are the kids bewitched or do they know something we don’t know? How can all his MALE SONS be this useless?

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Mrkumareze(m): 10:31am On Oct 17
He's retired, mostly staying at home with the wife. Now he has seen her failures, he knows there's no chance of living long with such a woman..
In cases like this, I would advise such a man to build a different house for the wife, they have gotten matured children so divorcing isn't the best.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by decatalyst(m): 10:36am On Oct 17
sisisioge:


He seek peace now that he is retired and likely to spend more time at home. Back in the days, he could easily escape to work while she does her wahala but now that his bones are growing tired and not able to easily escape, he needs to find someone who understands the importance of peaceful cohabitation or close shop on company.

By the way, it's not a gender monopoly, we all want peace now and always. I had some encounter with a fighting couple some 2 days ago and was scared to my marrow. Na real wa....why are people fighting biko! Whew!

You have made some valid points.

Peace is the most important after God.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Sonnobax15(m): 10:36am On Oct 17
pocohantas:


Sad one. Are the kids bewitched or do they know something we don’t know? How can all his MALE SONS be this useless?
grin Na real male sons indeed grin. But aunty Poco, there's nothing these sons know that my dad who's the closest man to their father don't know......The Problem all started when my uncle sat his wife down,and told her he want to sell one of his buildings (precisely the one in PH) so that he can use the money to build a house in his home town since he's already aging...But the wife didn't agree to his plan... Instead,she insisted on the fact that everything belongs to her children and my uncle shouldn't even dare sell any of his property cheesy

Imagine am na cheesy. Children wey about 3 out of the 5 dey do well..

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by pocohantas(f): 10:39am On Oct 17
Mrkumareze:
He's retired, mostly staying at home with the wife. Now he has seen her failures, he knows there's no chance of living long with such a woman..
In cases like this, I would advise such a man to build a different house for the wife, they have gotten matured children so divorcing isn't the best.

Naija man go build a separate house at retirement for a woman that wants to take at least 20 years out of his life span? grin

If the sons are grown (maybe married), she would simply move into their matrimonial homes and the next thread we would read would be from the daughter in-law.

I totally understand him though. It is better he does it right. He can bring in his retirement bae if he so wishes.

The sad part now is, she would most likely leave with nothing after 30 years. But then, one thing I know is, when a woman really wants to flee an abusive man, she doesn’t care if she leaves with nothing but her life.

Peace of mind is underrated sha. The pandemic made some marriages and it marred some. Couples had to stay together with minimal distractions and they were confronted with harsh realities. If you have somewhere to go to every morning, people to send you annoying WhatsApp BCs, you may never notice how empty your marriage/relationship is.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Klass99(f): 10:42am On Oct 17
Sonnobax15:
grin Na real male sons indeed grin. But aunty Poco, there's nothing these sons know that my dad who's the closest man to their father don't know......The Problem all started when my uncle sat his wife down,and told her he want to sell one of his buildings (precisely the one in PH) so that he can use the money to build a house in his home town since he's already aging...But the wife didn't agree to his plan... Instead,she insisted on the fact that everything belongs to her children and my uncle shouldn't even date sell any of his property cheesy

Imagine am na cheesy. Children wey about 3 our of the 5 dey do well..

To slap your uncle wife dey sweet me ehn!

This is how some women/mothers spoil the male child to a point where they become so useless and can't build their own lives, independent of what their parents own.

If 3 out of 5 are doing well, why are they draggging the man's sweat and property with him? Your cousins are very useless plus their mama join, I dey vex o!

@ Topic/Xj2020, your uncle is in the best position to answer your question, but I know a married couple who divorced after 25 years of marriage because of domestic violence. The woman said she was done praying and fasting for her husband to change, it dawned on her he was never going to change so she quit the marriage.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Mrkumareze(m): 10:53am On Oct 17
pocohantas:


Naija man go build a separate house at retirement for a woman that wants to take at least 20 years out of his life span? grin

If the sons are grown (maybe married), she would simply move into their matrimonial homes and the next thread we would read would be from the daughter in-law.

I totally understand him though. It is better he does it right. He can bring in his retirement bae if he so wishes.

The sad part now is, she would most likely leave with nothing after 30 years. But then, one thing I know is, when a woman really wants to flee an abusive man, she doesn’t care if she leaves with nothing but her life.

Peace of mind is underrated sha. The pandemic made some marriages and it marred some. Couples had to stay together with minimal distractions and they were confronted with harsh realities.

Grown children re involved, divorcing her is an insult to the children .. Since the man is rich, getting the wife a separate house would be a good idea..
The man ran away from reality all dis while, now he's beginning to face it..

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by temitope27(m): 10:58am On Oct 17
He is good to go

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Nobody: 11:00am On Oct 17
Klass99:




@ Topic, your uncle can answer the question better than me but I know a married couple who divorced after 25 years of marriage because of domestic violence. The woman said she was done praying and fasting for her husband to change, it dawned on her he was never going to change so she quit the marriage.

Hmmm Klass is back with the adorable Klassics. grin Nice one.

I believe the older you grow the calmer/unbothered you should become because the kind tension and stress a young man or woman's system and heart can withstand is different from when old.

Maybe the uncle had a terrifying experience one day and realized he could snap anytime soon if he doesn't do something quick. Or maybe baba just wants a fresh start and a new/younger wife for retirement life. grin grin

But my only question is........

30 years. How can someone be a bad person for 30 years? Like live all your life with a bad character. What a waste. Aren't humans supposed to strive to improve and be a better person everyday.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by temitope27(m): 11:00am On Oct 17
sisisioge:


He seek peace now that he is retired and likely to spend more time at home. Back in the days, he could easily escape to work while she does her wahala but now that his bones are growing tired and not able to easily escape, he needs to find someone who understands the importance of peaceful cohabitation or close shop on company.

By the way, it's not a gender monopoly, we all want peace now and always. I had some encounter with a fighting couple some 2 days ago and was scared to my marrow. Na real wa....why are people fighting biko! Whew!
I think u are on point, it's very difficult sometimes living with those gender

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by temitope27(m): 11:02am On Oct 17
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
The same thing is currently happening to my uncle..To the extent that he even wanted to sell one of his duplex but his children and wife collaborated and even had to beat my uncle to coma....... imagine father wey send all him four out of 5 sons to go and study for the U.K.......
My uncle is currently filing for divorce at this moment,but the woman dey vow say if my uncle venture leave her,say my uncle go see pepper....
his children u say? This one strong oo, my broda fear who no fear woman oo

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Klass99(f): 11:13am On Oct 17
Beloved3:


But my only question is........

30 years. How can someone be a bad person for 30 years? Like live all your life with a bad character. What a waste. Aren't humans supposed to strive to improve and be a better person everyday.


A very valid question. I think the truly vile and toxic never really change for good, they may tone it down for a season or a reason.

But, the moment that season or reason passes they are right back to their true selves/nature. Imagine 25 years of domestic violence? I would have stopped praying and fasting by the 2nd year, if not sooner and taken firm action.

Some situations in life require the use of our capacity to think and action only, not prayer and fasting. I like to think even God becomes silent to certain prayers, while wishing we would just use our brains to think then act, instead of working His last nerve with incessant religious activities.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by pocohantas(f): 11:18am On Oct 17
Sonnobax15:
grin Na real male sons indeed grin. But aunty Poco, there's nothing these sons know that my dad who's the closest man to their father don't know......The Problem all started when my uncle sat his wife down,and told her he want to sell one of his buildings (precisely the one in PH) so that he can use the money to build a house in his home town since he's already aging...But the wife didn't agree to his plan... Instead,she insisted on the fact that everything belongs to her children and my uncle shouldn't even dare sell any of his property cheesy

Imagine am na cheesy. Children wey about 3 oury of the 5 dey do well..

Yes naw. Male sons because I like to think they are men in every sense of the word and not bobriskies. Men are way more subjective than women and would typically indulge and support themselves, even in the worst situation. So to see FIVE SONS, not one or two, but five educated and UK trained sons, beating their father? Very questionable.

It is their actions that would kill the man, not their mother’s own. He must be very broken.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Sonnobax15(m): 12:02pm On Oct 17
pocohantas:


Yes naw. Male sons because I like to think they are men in every sense of the word and not bobriskies. Men are way more subjective than women and would typically indulge and support themselves, even in the worst situation. So to see FIVE SONS, not one or two, but five educated and UK trained sons, beating their father? Very questionable.

It is their actions that would kill the man, not their mother’s own. He must be very broken.
Exactly sis..To the extent that an owner of 2 duplex,an hostel,two bungalows and a shopping mall now has to packed to a room & palour apartment just for peace to reign...this life en.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Lamasta(m): 12:46pm On Oct 17
My question is what could possibly make a man thrown in the towel and walk out of his marriage after so many years together? I will like to know.
Go and ask your uncle he's at the best position to explain to you

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Saintmary(f): 1:00pm On Oct 17
It's all well and good to speculate about this family.
But, let's consider these:

What did this man do with his energetic years?
Was he a present dad or the 'drop money' type?
Was he a faithful husband?
Was he peaceful with his family when he was the sole authority?
How can 6 people gang up against you without an exception? (Is the mother's juju that strong?)
He decided, unilaterally, to sell a property without considering his family's opinion, is that the right thing to do?

I personally suspect that he has an away child or children somewhere and the main family is already fighting for property early before his expected demise.
Else, why would he file for divorce on a whim if he doesn't have options hidden somewhere?

P. S. Nigerians always tell women to endure horrible marriages, but when it comes to men?
'he needs peace of mind' becomes the mantra.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Conpat(f): 1:28pm On Oct 17
Klass99:


To slap your uncle wife dey sweet me ehn!

This is how some women/mothers spoil the male child to a point where they become so useless and can't build their own lives, independent of what their parents own.

If 3 out of 5 are doing well, why are they draggging the man's sweat and property with him? Your cousins are very useless plus their mama join, I dey vex o!

This is happening in my own family right now. My mother was always telling my older brother that our father's house was his own.She will say things like do you want to spoil the kitchen sink and block the drainage system, don't you know this house is yours.

My mother was always talking with my older brother in private and filling his head with only god knows what.My brother will misbehave and when confronted he will fight with my older sisters and be saying things like do and go marry, this is not your house. You have married, go to your husband's house I don't know what you are looking for here

Today he is over 40 and still living in our father's house with our parents. My father was telling me that to even buy bread or gas in the house he does not, yet he works. I think he is waiting for the day our father will die so the house can go to him like he has was told over the years.My father has never said anything about the house being his own or talked about a will or inheritance, but mother and son since decided who is getting the house.

I like my mother she is honestly not a bad person just flawed but this thing you have talked about is so real and I don't know if some mothers do it knowingly or unknowingly. She has now seen how her 2 male children are useless and not helpful, last month I sent her some money and she was thanking and blessing me saying it is we the female children that are actually helpful. I said to myself so it is now you know.

I pray I don't make the same mistakes with my own sons. Me and my sisters want to put money together to renovate the house for our parents comfort but one is not very interested and she has been asking, why should we spend money renovating a house for our brother to come and inherit. He is not even the first born child.

Sorry for the long talk, your post just triggered me to talk. I also support what you said on another thread about training children to be independent and responsible enough to hustle their success instead of fighting over inheritance and fathers properties. I have noticed that it is mainly male children who do this dragging of inheritance and fighting for property

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by mariahAngel: 1:33pm On Oct 17
Na wah o!
Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by GboyegaD(m): 1:35pm On Oct 17
Many things that he only can answer. He tolerated her this many years and should be able to tolerate her longer except if she's very toxic in any aspect of life.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by infogenius(m): 2:18pm On Oct 17
Xj2020:
He is a very principled man. Very religious and doesn't play with his God been a devoted Muslim. Extremely rich and bless with four grown up children with the second of his children getting married in a month time. He retired from the bank 2 years ago having risen to the pinnacle of his career in the banking industry having served in different capacities for almost 35 years.
Yes, the wife is uncultured and ill-mannered. He knows already and has been managing her all these years.
He is presently in court seeking to divorce his wife and has vowed that nothing would stop him from divorcing his wife.
My question is what could possibly make a man thrown in the towel and walk out of his marriage after so many years together? I will like to know.

The statement in bold is the answer to your question

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by mardis: 2:23pm On Oct 17
Another example is Bill and Melinda Gates

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by peepydelano(m): 2:34pm On Oct 17
Xj2020:
He is a very principled man. Very religious and doesn't play with his God been a devoted Muslim. Extremely rich and bless with four grown up children with the second of his children getting married in a month time. He retired from the bank 2 years ago having risen to the pinnacle of his career in the banking industry having served in different capacities for almost 35 years.
Yes, the wife is uncultured and ill-mannered. He knows already and has been managing her all these years.
He is presently in court seeking to divorce his wife and has vowed that nothing would stop him from divorcing his wife.
My question is what could possibly make a man thrown in the towel and walk out of his marriage after so many years together? I will like to know.
Some women no be am at all,I have a very good woman for your uncle,very good woman.Hola. No time he deserves to be happy for the rest of his life.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Matheusmartin: 3:01pm On Oct 17
Xj2020:
He is a very principled man. Very religious and doesn't play with his God been a devoted Muslim. Extremely rich and bless with four grown up children with the second of his children getting married in a month time. He retired from the bank 2 years ago having risen to the pinnacle of his career in the banking industry having served in different capacities for almost 35 years.
Yes, the wife is uncultured and ill-mannered. He knows already and has been managing her all these years.
He is presently in court seeking to divorce his wife and has vowed that nothing would stop him from divorcing his wife.
[/b]My question is what could possibly make a man thrown in the towel and walk out of his marriage after so many years together? I will like to know[b].
We wouldn't know. Try asking your uncle.

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Re: My Uncle Has Decided To End His Marriage Of 30 Years by Spherical77(m): 3:05pm On Oct 17
Conpat:


This is happening in my own family right now. My mother was always telling my older brother that our father's house was his own.She will say things like do you want to spoil the kitchen sink and block the drainage system, don't you know this house is yours.

My mother was always talking with my older brother in private and filling his head with only god knows what.My brother will misbehave and when confronted he will fight with my older sisters and be saying things like do and go marry, this is not your house. You have married, go to your husband's house I don't know what you are looking for here

Today he is over 40 and still living in our father's house with our parents. My father was telling me that to even buy bread or gas in the house he does not, yet he works. I think he is waiting for the day our father will die so the house can go to him like he has was told over the years.My father has never said anything about the house being his own or talked about a will or inheritance, but mother and son since decided who is getting the house.

I like my mother she is honestly not a bad person just flawed but this thing you have talked about is so real and I don't know if some mothers do it knowingly or unknowingly. She has now seen how her 2 male children are useless and not helpful, last month I sent her some money and she was thanking and blessing me saying it is we the female children that are actually helpful. I said to myself so it is now you know.

I pray I don't make the same mistakes with my own sons. Me and my sisters want to put money together to renovate the house for our parents comfort but one is not very interested and she has been asking, why should we spend money renovating a house for our brother to come and inherit. He is not even the first born child.

Sorry for the long talk, your post just triggered me to talk. I also support what you said on another thread about training children to be independent and responsible enough to hustle their success instead of fighting over inheritance and fathers properties. I have noticed that it is mainly male children who do this dragging of inheritance and fighting for property
That your brother is taking advantage of you guys because you are ladies. How i wish your dad would shock his eye balls in allocating equal parts of the building to all his children, backing it up legally with other family members. Even though your mum spoilt him to an ectend, his common sense at his age should tell him to be responsible

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