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Between a father’s absence and a mother’s absence in one’s life, which will have more negative impacts??

They equally bad.

A responsible mother's absence, you can never fill that vacuum.

Mum's absence........There's no day that goes by when I don't remember my mom.........

The funniest thing is that I don't think any woman can ever fill up that spot in my life........

Both parents are equally important in a child's development and upbringing. But if one happens to be absent, the remaining parent needs to be responsible and step up to fill up the vacuum left

EreluRoz:
A responsible mother's absence, you can never fill that vacuum.

Statistically speaking, people raised by single fathers fair well in life than those raised by single mothers.

Tallesty1:
Statistically speaking, people raised by single fathers fair well in life than those raised by single mothers.

Where you see that statistics from abi is it all those redpillers statistics you are quoting

Tallesty1:
Statistically speaking, people raised by single fathers fair well in life than those raised by single mothers.

Share link(s) of the statistics.

EreluRoz:
Where you see that statistics from abi is it all those redpillers statistics you are quoting

Nope, you should check it out or observe the real people around you.

A father's love is in most cases a disciplinary love, while a mother's love is more nurturing and cuddling most of the times.

You know which one will be more helpful to a child in life.

Na the discipline wey fathers dey discipline kids mothers dey use turn kids against fathers.

A responsible single father is worth more than an irresponsible single mum.
However, never pray to be raised by a single parent. Being under the loving care of both parents will be the best thing that can happen to you.

Tallesty1:
Statistically speaking, people raised by single fathers fair well in life than those raised by single mothers.

Yet if a woman gave you full custody of your child, you'll freak out and rush to remarry.

Efuaye:
A responsible single father is worth more than an irresponsible single mum.
However, never pray to be raised by a single parent. Being under the loving care of both parents will be the best thing that can happen to you.

This is a nobrainer and also apples and oranges.

Tallesty1:
Nope, you should check it out or observe the real people around you.

A father's love is in most cases a disciplinary love, while a mother's love is more nurturing and cuddling most of the times.

You know which one will be more helpful to a child in life.

Na the discipline wey fathers dey discipline kids mothers dey use turn kids against fathers.

Have you got any statistics for us now or not? Or are you asking us to do the research after you evoked the impression that you have all the facts?

Sonnobax15:

Mum's absence........There's no day that goes by when I don't remember my mom.........

The funniest thing is that I don't think any woman can ever fill up that spot in my life........

Sorry. Take heart.

Have you got children?

Mother is supreme.

Maeve7:
Sorry. Take heart.

Have you got children?

. Nahhhhh.......

1Sharon:
Yet if a woman gave you full custody of your child, you'll freak out and rush to remarry.

Bold of you to think you k now what I will do.

Maeve7:
Have you got any statistics for us now or not? Or are you asking us to do the research after you evoked the impression that you have all the facts?

You need less than words you typed here to get it on the web.

Tallesty1:
You need less than words you typed here to get it on the web.

I am not researching anything to try and prove your false claim.

Maeve7:
I am not researching anything to try and prove your false claim.

The statistics are everywhere. Check the link below.

https://www.fixfamilycourts.com/divorce-child-custody-blog/single-mother-home-statistics/

ecolime:
The statistics are everywhere. Check the link below.

https://www.fixfamilycourts.com/divorce-child-custody-blog/single-mother-home-statistics/

The question was whether a child is worse off without a mother or without a father, not if a fatherless home is better than a two-parent home. Your statistics don’t suggest that a child without a mother is better off than without a father.

Secondly, before you use statistics next time, know the difference between correlation and causation.

I don’t know how they teach you in schools today.

Tallesty1:
Statistically speaking, people raised by single fathers fair well in life than those raised by single mothers.

it's not just to quote statistics but look at circumstances that lead to the statistics.
A single father has more support system both emotionally, psychologically et al. How often have you seen a single father stigmatized or shamed? They bundle the kid(s) to their relatives for most of the time or get a girlfriend that will nanny them. While most single mothers are chased from families(unwed teenage moms), a single father counterpart has his kid lulling in the homes of his relatives for most time,while they visit on weekends or free days.

Then finances as well. Most men that are single fathers are more financially stable than their female counterparts. Not that they magically do better jobs or so. They are also too few as well. Not enough sample sizes.

Society can't keep shaming and reproaching a set of people then winder why they are "bitter". Then keep applauding their male counterparts and draw statictics from it

Sonnobax15:

Mum's absence........There's no day that goes by when I don't remember my mom.........

The funniest thing is that I don't think any woman can ever fill up that spot in my life........

Then for your mum sake,respect women. Why troll women?

Efuaye:
A responsible single father is worth more than an irresponsible single mum.
However, never pray to be raised by a single parent. Being under the loving care of both parents will be the best thing that can happen to you.

See how dishonest you are. Why didn't you pair responsible SF to responsible SM?

Me think that SM are unjustly treated by the society compared to their male counterparts,so comparing their outputs is way absurd

Maeve7:
Have you got any statistics for us now or not? Or are you asking us to do the research after you evoked the impression that you have all the facts?

Will come up with a manosphere generated template

Tightpussy2024:
it's not just to quote statistics but look at circumstances that lead to the statistics.
A single father has more support system both emotionally, psychologically et al. How often have you seen a single father stigmatized or shamed? They bundle the kid(s) to their relatives for most of the time or get a girlfriend that will nanny them. While most single mothers are chased from families(unwed teenage moms), a single father counterpart has his kid lulling in the homes of his relatives.

Then finances as well. Most men that are single fathers are more financially stable than their female counterparts. Not that they magically do better jobs or so. They are also too few as well. Not enough sample sizes.

It’s great that you see things clearly, unlike others who’d rather argue than actually look into the facts. Honestly, one doesn’t even need to dig deep to see what’s right in front of us.

Single fathers usually don’t get much support from anyone, while single mothers are more likely to receive help or at least feel comfortable asking for it. Widows get plenty of support from the government, foundations, and churches, but there’s hardly anything out there for widowers. So that part of the argument isn’t exactly accurate.

There’s a reason nature made men the gender to provide and protect, but since some women say they don’t need that, whatever challenges they face in taking on those roles don’t really concern men.

Men work hard to provide for their kids and are often better at discipline too. Nature equipped us differently for a reason.

Tallesty1:
It’s great that you see things clearly, unlike others who’d rather argue than actually look into the facts. Honestly, one doesn’t even need to dig deep to see what’s right in front of us.

Single fathers usually don’t get much support from anyone, while single mothers are more likely to receive help or at least feel comfortable asking for it. Widows get plenty of support from the government, foundations, and churches, but there’s hardly anything out there for widowers. So that part of the argument isn’t exactly accurate.

There’s a reason nature made men the gender to provide and protect, but since some women say they don’t need that, whatever challenges they face in taking on those roles don’t really concern men.

Men work hard to provide for their kids and are often better at discipline too. Nature equipped us differently for a reason.

You may like to rethink your stance when you realize I am not talking of widows but SM through divorce or out of wedlock.

Tightpussy2024:
You may like to rethink your stance when you realize I am not talking of widows but SM through divorce or out of wedlock.

So why do women fight for custody during divorce?

Maeve7:
The question was whether a child is worse off without a mother or without a father, not if a fatherless home is better than a two-parent home. Your statistics doesn’t suggest that a child without a mother is better than without a father.

Secondly, before you use statistics next time, know the difference between correlation and causation.

I don’t know how they teach you in schools today.

I didn't know I quoted a dummy.

Fck off my mention.

Tallesty1:
So why do women fight for custody during divorce?

Welfare of our kids. Most men will bring in women shortly after a divorce and the women will get their kids. So there is a struggle for resources between the kids and the new women kids

Plus, a man love and devotion to his kids is proportional to the relationship he has for their mother. Neglect and focus on the new woman and hers are eminent.

A relative of mine had issues with his wife,they separated. His new wife,brought her late sister child to live with them,and the girl lives the best of her life. For the man to cough out jamb fees for his son with the first wife was difficult.imagine leaving your kid behind with such man.

When I travelled back to Nigeria to do my youth service,I was posted to a school.we had cases of women leaving behind their kids with the fathers. Honestly,at some point we had to call one of the fathers to confirm if he was aware that his son had used one same set of uniform and cardigan for years, it was faded. And his response was, "call my wife,she is the one that handles such cases(the new woman). Whereas the new woman changed her own kids uniform yearly. When she came to be pay for snacks voucher ,I was new then. I created an invoice for all the kids(as they bear the same surname). Till the old staff corrected me and told me codedly that the boy wasn't her son,and she doesn't buy snacks voucher for him".

I don't want to bore you with lots of details. But most men rarely even ensure and enforce that the kids of their previous union are treated fine. Their own is to quickly marry as a way of transferring burden or drop off kids with their relatives

Stephen2324:
Between a father’s absence and a mother’s absence in one’s life, which will have more negative impacts??

You already have your answer from you demi-god(John doe) page so why come here? To get re-affirmation that single father's are the best thing after slice bread and single mothers are bitter people?

What's the purpose of this thread?