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If I have the opportunity to japa, I won’t think twice, I will japa straight

djseanjohn77:
Just look at how myopic your reasoning is with this long essay. Nigeria has been travelling out in troops even before now. In my days as an undergraduate in the early part of 2000s, there were so many friends of mine that sought the desert route, many never made it. I, personally left during Jonathan's period (through legal means of course) as things became unbearable. I have my residency but i am already thinking of returning home in few months to reunite with culture and all the people i have missed.
However, as it reached the turn of GenZs, they suddenly began thinking they are the first set of Japa, that they even had to coin a name for it.

You didn't get what the writer is trying to artculate. You got it all wrong! The writer never even criticised migration or "Japa". Read it again, slowly and reasonably. It is alright for you so (you think) you have residency and all but not the same for others who cannot even afford to "japa" or your families who only sees you physically maybe once every 2 years.

Cheers!

press9jatv:
If I have the opportunity to japa, I won’t think twice, I will japa straight

Exactly! Every Naigerian seem to believe that ,"japa" is the solution rather than confronting their government on the "bad" situations in their country.

See it as Progress - everyone is an Israelite.

In pursuit of self sustainability and improvement.

Pollination process in Progress.

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"The impact of “Japa Syndrome” on work and family relationships in Nigeria today." - Michael Fasina 


https://www.google.com/amp/s/businessday.ng/opinion/article/the-impact-of-japa-syndrome-on-work-and-family-relationships-in-nigeria-today/%3famp

THOSE WHO ARE BUSY CAUSING NIGERIANS TO JAPA, SO THEY CAN PURCHSE THE COUNTRY FOR THEIR CHILDRN, HERE THIS,

IT WILL NEVER BE WELL WITH YOUR CHILDREN, GENERATION AFTER GENERATION.

NIGERIA WILL COLLAPSE ON THEIR HEADS AND THEY WILL HAVE NO WHERE TO RUN TO.

Calitoscassius:
Exactly! Every Naigerian seem to believe that ,"japa" is the solution rather than confronting their government on the "bad" situations in their country.

people that japa are thanking their maker for making good choice of relocating abroad

In all, Vote good leaders, Nigeria is not a failed state, we just have clueless leaders who wants to control crude oil.

If we cultivate 14 million hectares of Oil Palm today just oil palm, we would eradicate all poverty In Nigeria, now imagine we support SMEs, develop infrastructure, in 4 years , Nigeria can challenge Indonesia and Brazil.

Vote Peter Obi.

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"The impact of “Japa Syndrome” on work and family relationships in Nigeria today." - Michael Fasina 


https://www.google.com/amp/s/businessday.ng/opinion/article/the-impact-of-japa-syndrome-on-work-and-family-relationships-in-nigeria-today/%3famp

In essence, at the visa office, let's keep down 10% of migranee fi's as mortgage to build back africa

It's all about survival. If, I can survive I can help anyone.

Anybody that doesn’t have money to JAPA should shut the fucck up and stop writing nonsense without ingredients

Crying

Racoon:
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"The impact of “Japa Syndrome” on work and family relationships in Nigeria today." - Michael Fasina 


https://www.google.com/amp/s/businessday.ng/opinion/article/the-impact-of-japa-syndrome-on-work-and-family-relationships-in-nigeria-today/%3famp

This is not an issue per se. if the children are buoyant enough, they should be coming back either once or twice a year to see their parents. Meanwhile, they should be video calling them every week aside normal day to day calls

I don't care because I already hAve my mind made up & willing to sacrifice relationships, just to live a better life & give my unborn children a great life.

What have the people we've been together able to offer all this while?

press9jatv:
people that japa are thanking their maker for making good choice of relocating abroad

That may be the case but they d still come back to the same bad situations and corruptions they left behind. No be una talk say no place like home?


And what bout the people who cannot "jappa? who speaks for them?

Some of you in Lagos haven’t even seen your native land in 10 years. Y’all don’t even talk to your uncles because another brain dead person like you has convinced you he wants to use your destiny.
You can’t even see your aunt and have a wonderful heartfelt reunion without leaving the conversation feeling like you need to take a bath to wash off “the evil eye”.

Nairaland people always obsessed with japa this japa that

ObalendeCMS:
I don't care because I already hAve my mind made up & willing to sacrifice relationships, just to live a better life & give my unborn children a great life.

What have the people we've been together able to offer all this while?

This is exactly what the OP is trying to articulate. Your unborn children a better life in another country, a place that is not really their home country, that means your children would be born abroad and your parents, sisters, aunties and uncles would only be able to see or speak to your children on watsapp and may never see them in persons..

NairaMaster1:
We hear you. You're even richer than Dangote, Otedola, Seun, E-money et al.

There are many young Nigerians who are making it big time and going for holiday overseas with less stress and bondage.

He was speaking for himself and his specific situation

He never mentioned anyone or compared himself to anyone.

Why do y’’all do this? 🤨

Japa is challenging, no doubt. But if you have planned your japa well, you should have a job that allows you to take vacations once a year. Your siblings can always plan their vacation at the same time and you travel home once a year or you all travel and meet in a different country. If you can't japa legally and you travel on a visitors visa, I am sorry, I understand your pain but then this writeup is for you.

Prettychild:
This is not an issue per se. if the children are buoyant enough, they should be coming back either once or twice a year to see their parents. Meanwhile, they should be video calling them every week aside normal day to day calls

How many people are buouyant enough to visit once a year. The cost of international flights are very expensive. Imagine travelling for 25 hours one way just to see your parents for a few days. No to mention the huge logistics it takes to travel to Nigeria. It's not just something you can plan that easily. I'm speaking from experience as an abroadarian. Japa indeed breaks up the families. As the parents are feeling lonely so are their kids also feeling lonely and away from their culture. Most people japa for greener pastures. Money is important but everything is not all about money. When you Japa you will find out yourself. Make all of una come abeg. And experience it all for yourself then you will understand where the OP is coming from.

Agree with OP and several other posters. Actually felt very sad reading this because it is so true! Japa is excellent from a career and financial angle but super tough on existing family dynamics. In my experience, people who recently japa'd and are still so excited about escaping Nigeria just don't get it. Give it a while though and trust me you will!

I left naija over 12 years ago and while I arguably could not have achieved what I have today from Nigeria, I have certainly seen a lot of family (primarily extended family) links deteriorate. My siblings, cousins and I are all scattered across the US, UK and Canada and sadly I've seen once close relationships become a lot more distant. I have cousins I grew up with who I now haven't seen in 20 years. Several have have kids I've never met. It's a little better with my nuclear family but even with these loved ones I grew up in the same house with, I'm realistically only able to see them once or twice a year. Personally, it's less of a cost to travel issue and just the effect of crazy time zone differences, how busy adulthood gets and just the super limited amount of time you even have to travel to another country to see family. I remember growing up in naija when my Uncles would stop by after work almost every day to join us for dinner. Even with those who lived in other cities, I would typically see them several times a year due to various family gatherings. We were all so close!

In my opinion, the lucky ones are those who japa'd with all their siblings at the same time and/or were able to japa to a location where they already have a decent amount of extended family and as such were able to establish a strong presence in another country. I see families like that all the time abroad and can't help but feel a little jealous. They are all mostly based in one general location (e.g. the US or UK) and are able to maintain stronger in-person bonds. Even when they do have to travel to see each other, travel from DC to NYC is certainly a lot easier than travel from DC to Lagos.

In conclusion, It is what is. I wouldn't change anything from the japa angle. My family and I are 1000% better for it financially but boy does It suck though knowing that I will probably never have the same relationship with several family members.

Chile kan be the best thing to happen to you?
Things must be really that bad for you in Nigeria.

tensazangetsu20:
The second best thing I did in my life was to leave that shithole. My life has improved in all aspects. Healthwise, financially, romantically. The list is endless.

Barzinime:
Chile kan be the best thing to happen to you?
Things must be really that bad for you in Nigeria.

I was earning over 1.5 million naira a month in Nigeria. Dey play .

Offpointng:
You're still getting it all wrong. Who's talking bout the availability or lack of availability of money? Can't you just read to understand??

You are asking an average Nigeria to read to understand? 🤣🤣

Ain't you expecting too much?

CyrusVI:
You obviously didnt read the article

Its not an interview session for people to tell us the pros and cons of past actions, its about the mass impact it could have on families as they tends to scatter across the India ocean with less and lesser possibilities of ever meeting/seeing their relatives again

5% is not Mass impact
Also they can travel for vacation to themselves

[quote author= post=131701900]First born is in Canada.
Second born is in Dubai.
Third born is in Australia. Fourth born is in New York.
Last born is in UK.
Parents are in Nigeria making trips once in a while to see them in the different countries.

This is the True story of some people's family life[/quote]how many families see themselves in Nigeria
First born in Lagos
2nd in abuja
3rd in ph
4th in ibadan
Even the ones that all live in the same city

Proserpina:
Lol..

I responded to the bolded part of his post not all. The part where he said our education system better than theirs. That's a delusional thought

Bro, it's actually not. Ours is actually better... if you actually want your children to learn anything. Who no go no go know. These people don't teach kids anything in school. They just play and color and have a good time and play with tab. It's quite maddening! They hardly hold pen to write anything, the hand writing terrible, attention span zero! No discipline, highly entitled, see I no fit talk abeg. Living in abroad but your children still doing online lessons from Nigeria because they don't learn much here..

Don't just argue for arguments sake, we were sold a big lie!

[quote author= post=131701900]First born is in Canada.
Second born is in Dubai.
Third born is in Australia. Fourth born is in New York.
Last born is in UK.
Parents are in Nigeria making trips once in a while to see them in the different countries.

This is the True story of some people's family life[/quote]I know of a family friend.

Only daughter is in Australia, one of the sons is in US, another one in Portugal. Only the first son is in Nigeria. Who knows may be that one go don Japa too.