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Is it the wife or girlfriend that can leave or betrayed you at any available opportunity? Go for your mother any day, there is no point in even doing comparison because any wife is a potential mother in-law and she won't even pray for her son to love a strange woman/opportunist more than her

madridguy:
Mother first.

nonsense! The bible says "husbands, love your wives". Not mothers.

Natbrowny:
Y'all need to understand emotional intelligence and boundaries

Love for mother is different from love for wife

Ur mother was married into the home by ur father, same way u married a lady as a wife into ur home

Mostly - wife and mother will not give a man any issues if there is respect for boundaries.

U cannot love one more than the other. They are seperate and the feelings n emotions dey breed are different. If u don't love ur wife enuff, ur kids will feel it. U cannot unlove ur mother too.

I think the question is simple: who comes first in your life? Your mother or your wife?

MasterTeeUSA:
This is why I listen to Old Yoruba Song...The song said...you need to choose one, Mother or Wife. The singer said Mother and Wife are different, but a wife can leave and remarry, so a man must always realize Mom will always be Mother. Same argument was made for the Father. You grow into love with your wife...your love for your Mom and her love for you is why you actually lived long enough to marry wife. Do NOT let your Mother or Father curse you over your wife. You will understand why the Bible said HONOR your Mother and Father...in the 10 commandments without mentioning wife one single time Lol.

Wisdom. I advise everyone to read this post over and over again especially that part that says You will understand why the Bible said HONOR your Mother and Father...in the 10 commandments without mentioning wife one single time.

This is deep wisdom and logic that overide emotions and sentiments.

Segzy19:
Ogbeni, make we hear word jare.
Sex is everything and life to people like you....

^^^^ther u go..confesssion time ..another gay man spoted.
So u allso rada chooose yor gran mother over pusssy..correct?is she goin to give u blooowjob or puccccy? Shame on u sir. U a disgrase to man, aftica, nigeria & uganda!!((no oofencse))

Mcslize:
Mr coçk the pussy slave young boy, how is your body now. Hope you are taking your hospital recommended medicines regularly.

Please make sure you take good care of yourself o and stop taking hard drugs and smoking Igbo in London so that you can recover on time okay.

Fast recovery my brother. You're healed in Jesus name.

^^^^^too many gays on nairaland..another one spoted.
Again, u will leave a beautifull wpman for yor mother, a old cargo.so are u sayin u prefer grannny loookin womens to young flowers? U homebase people need help asap. This is serrios!!((no oofencse))

MrCork:
Son..so u sayin u rada fukk yor mother than yor girlfriend..are u ok in the head or is yor yansh scraching u?? So u prefer hairy old cargos to young beautiful gitlfriends..corrrect?
Seeeek medical doctor..please!!!(((no ooofenccse)))

But you dull sha
Where did the man say he will bleep his mother?
So for you love is equal to fvck?

My wife should not make me hate my mum.



My mum should not make me hate my wife.






Dam!

When we talk of mother's and wives, some immature souls here will say wife will divorce you. Good what about mother's that divorce their husbands, leaving the poor man to suffer with the kids alone and all of a sudden the son becomes something, she now came to reap from where she did not show. Do such mother's deserve to be priotise to the wife that sometimes surrender her future to and make you become a full fleshed man? Everything here depends on individual differences. All these bachelor's that cliams mother first. May God help you to marry a virtuous woman, that is when you will know whom to choose between them. It is easier said than done.

A man will leave his parents to start his own home, his mother is his father's wife she has no say in his son's house only advice.

The love for a mother and wife is different so if I'm satisfied with my wife she can't tell me to leave her. A father can never tell a son to leave the wife he will allow him to feel the shege banza alone and make a decision for him self , women can be dramatic.

Men, don't allow ur mom who is not staying with your dad control your home .
Women don't let your mom or your elder sisters who are not married make you think you can control your husband .

For you to recognise a gay, it means you are also one yourself. All that fills your brain is sex. Even your name says so.... Better find something profitable to do ....

Mumu!

MrCork:
^^^^ther u go..confesssion time ..another gay man spoted.
So u allso rada chooose yor gran mother over pusssy..correct?is she goin to give u blooowjob or puccccy? Shame on u sir. U a disgrase to man, aftica, nigeria & uganda!!((no oofencse))

NOETHNICITY:
I think the question is simple: who comes first in your life? Your mother or your wife?

U meet ur mum first but that doesnt mean ur wife shud not have peace


Even if u must divorce ur wife,ur mum shud not be behind it.



Am i clear

Motherly love and wifey love are different are not proportionally the same. Comparing them is merely trying to invoke arguments.

MasterofNL:
Your wife is actually you. If you don't understand this then you don't understand the mystery of marriage. Can you love another person more than yourself?

Copied from Godsonkemz

If you're talking about ancient wives, then I will agree with you 50%. But if you are talking about wives of this generation and era, brother think twice make your case no go be like Tyrese o.

I saw one video of one Nigerian woman complaining online and advising Nigerian women to stop calling Police on their husbands in the UK, that UK police are now complaining about them disturbing them over trivial misunderstandings they have with their husbands at home.

If wives of this generation are truly good and women of virtues like Sarah in the Bible, the wife of Abraham, they won't be acting selfish in their marriages.

A woman is supposed to be a help mate as God made them and always support their husbands. But what do we see today? We see women who will follow feminists and bad friends and tell their friends that they will show their husbands pepper at home.

That's why you will hear words like his money is our money and my money is my money from majority of women who call themselves wives.

That's why, when some of these women find themselves in western society that gives them power over men, they tend to abuse it, chase the man out of his own house and start calling Police on their husbands over minor misunderstandings.

If you look at it, your woman love for you is conditional and fair weather. They can't withstand any minor tribulation with any man they claim to call their husband.

If not for children, brother, marriage doesn't in any way benefit men, especially in the western world. So, before you love any woman over your family and mother, try and ask yourself if her love for you is unconditional and selfless. If not, then think twice and learn from the experience of men in the western society.

HellVictorinho8:
U meet ur mum first but that doesnt mean ur wife shud not have peace


Even if u must divorce ur wife,ur mum shud not be behind it.



Am i clear

Who said anything about making life hell for wifey just because mom comes first.
Also, second position is also a very important one for real

EreluRoz:
Your gragra too much. It's your type that love and pamper their wife most

Unless I met her a virgin.

Zonefree:
Unless I met her a virgin.

you are a very soft guy that covers it up with your gragra.

EreluRoz:
you are a very soft guy that covers it up with your gragra.

Who told you? You don't even know me.

Zonefree:
Who told you? You don't even know me.

I can see through all these your gragra here.

NOETHNICITY:
Who said anything about making life hell for wifey just because mom comes first.
Also, second position is also a very important one for real

u met mum first doesnt mean u shud or must rank

U dont have 2 rank


So MrCork wont av certain imaginations


Ur mums ur mum
Ur wifes ur wife

They are important in their respective ways as mum and wife


There are things u can get or that u got from ur mum that ur wife cant
give u

There are also things u can get from ur wife that ur mum cant give u



itz like ranking ur sister and daughter








am i cleared

EreluRoz:
I can see through all these your gragra here.

It's time you get your eyes checked.

Zonefree:
It's time you get your eyes checked.

Ok Mr lover boy

Natbrowny:
Y'all need to understand emotional intelligence and boundaries

Love for mother is different from love for wife

Ur mother was married into the home by ur father, same way u married a lady as a wife into ur home

Mostly - wife and mother will not give a man any issues if there is respect for boundaries.

U cannot love one more than the other. They are seperate and the feelings n emotions dey breed are different. If u don't love ur wife enuff, ur kids will feel it. U cannot unlove ur mother too.

This is wisdom

MrCork:
If u chooose yor mother over a woman tjen u are gay..100% gay. Is yor mother goin to giv u blooowjob or pucccccci?..
Bro u are gay..shame on u for bein gay & embarassin africa & nigeria.
why are u gay sir??

Hahha you really amuse me now. You're clearly a sex starved motherfucker who will sell his mother to just have a look at a titty. I'm not doing this with you so buzz off psych

chiboycue:
Do you think your mother would choose you over her husband (your father) if she were to choose between you and her husband ?

Most mother including my mum will always chose their kids over their husband.

Majority believes that Mother Comes first, just as a child to your mother, also your wife will be Mother to your child and your child will choose her over you as you choose your Mother over her, the trend goes on.
Your Father married his wife and gave birth to you who becomes your Mother and now Family, that we all love and cherish that we forgot we owe same pattern to life. There is no comparison when it comes to family LOVE.
Your Wife, Child or Children are your first Family. Your Wife must give room to the Wife of her Sons to be Love and comes first in their decision making for that is his First Family.
Father Love your wife the Mother of your Child
Child Love your Wife the Mother of your Child do not despise any of the Woman in your LIFE.

MrCork:
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When wife or girlfriend leaves you, you return to your mother.

It is best to manage the two relationships without conflicts.

Married men should NEVER allow their mother who divorce or left their father to dictate what goes on in his marriage. Same goes for married women and they shouldn't listen to any of their sisters who isn't married or divorced to dictate what goes on in their marriage too.
Point to note: man first love is their mother, but their wife is the only love they will live with to the end of their life if they understand each other.

A man shall leave his father and mother, be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. Love your wife as you love yourself, deduce the rest.

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blahc007:
This wisdom is too sound for many overgrown kids on this platform.....

They think loving there wife over there mother or mother over wife is wisdom...

For those who believe in Bible scriptures....the day you made a marriage convenant with your wife, she is as important as your mother.

And both the wife and the mother should seek wisdom to understand there boundaries....that's only way balance is created.

People go to Church, read the Bible, skip the instructions and do what's on there mind....run into trouble and blame the devil.

U valid. As in ehn. They just misunderstood my views and dats exactly our problem as human beings most tyms

Check this scenario
A man and his wife together, have a son
The son will choose his mother (thats the mans wife) over his own wife when he married coz the man had same mentality.

Now when issue arises and d son always falls back to the mother coz he loves her only. This same man will now call his son on a seatdown and talks sense to him to respect his wife and solve issues amicably. The same wife he didnt regard back then will now be who he turns to to talk to his son (who happens to be the mother of the son)

When we say who do we love most. That question was design to mess with you psychologically. It was designed for us to create a balance.

U'll start seeing stuffs like
Mother vs father
Mother vs son's wife
Mother vs daughter's husband

We compare things that are not d same and can never be. I made my view jeje, insult n praises start dey enter. That's life

madridguy:
Mother first.

Who says he can't love both ?
Why is their a need to chose?
On a lighter note when his children and everyone has left the house, his mom will come and take care of him in old age

1Sharon:
I don't think this response is meant for me. Direct it to the guy I quoted.

Ooooooohhhhh... So sorry, I think it was an oversight

So sorry about that

Enjoy the rest of your day