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How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by MommaD(op): 12:56pm On Sep 14, 2024

I've been wallowing in depression for several months now.

I have finally decided to leave my marriage. I started by distancing myself emotionally cos the whole marriage thing just didn't seem to be going anywhere.

My in-laws are all against me now. According to them I'm too stubborn for refusing to live in a family house.

Deep down I know I could never. There are too many reasons for this.

My own family is upset. It's been nine years now and they will back whatever decision I take.

I just need to overcome this depression so I can be productive again.

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by EreluRoz: 1:07pm On Sep 14, 2024

Why are you depressed over a marriage that brought you sadness? Are you feeling guilty over anything? Marriage can be draining if you marry the wrong person, if seperation is not giving you the desires peace then there shouldn't be the need for the seperation in the first place.

Your families are the only ones who have your True interest at heart, your in-laws don't really give a damn about you and might be selfish in their reasoning.

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by Candidlady: 1:12pm On Sep 14, 2024

Hmmmm

Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by AmalaAtiEwedu: 1:13pm On Sep 14, 2024

Candidlady:
Hmmmm

Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by docdes: 1:21pm On Sep 14, 2024

I don't want to know what happened. But if you want to find peace, do as follows:
1. Look inward and do so HONESTLY.
2. If you HONESTLY think you offended someone along the line, go and say "I am sorry" HONESTLY. Try it and see. It will not reduce you. Instead, it will LIFT you.
3. After doing (2) well, FORGIVE YOURSELF no matter what.
4. Forgive everyone who hurt you. Not easy but it helps to realize none of us is perfect. Just as I offended some people, some people also offended me.
5. Once you are through with 1 to 4, give yourself to prayer. Simply talk to your Creator. Read Mathew 6:4-6 and Psalm 94:8-10 to help you to focus your mind.
6. If you need further help following these steps, quote this comment with your question. I might not respond fast enough but I must respond. Thanks.

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by Day169: 1:29pm On Sep 14, 2024

Please seek counselling, either from your church, a trained marriage counsellor, a clinical psychologist or experienced friends you look up to.
I hope you find some solace from your challenges.

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by SunShowAfrica: 1:31pm On Sep 14, 2024

EreluRoz:
Why are you depressed over a marriage that brought you sadness? Are you feeling guilty over anything? Marriage can be draining if you marry the wrong person, if seperation is not giving you the desires peace then there shouldn't be the need for the seperation in the first place.

Your families are the only ones who have your True interest at heart, your in-laws don't really give a damn about you and might be selfish in their reasoning.

Its only on here that unmarried inexperienced folks will talk like they've been married for ages.
Take several seats abeg

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by EreluRoz: 1:47pm On Sep 14, 2024

SunShowAfrica:
Its only on here that unmarried inexperienced folks will talk like they've been married for ages.
Take several seats abeg

I'm not responsible for your mystery. Stop quoting me alaboshi

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by SunShowAfrica: 1:52pm On Sep 14, 2024

EreluRoz:
I'm not responsible for your mystery. Stop quoting me alaboshi

I am mystery to you indeed

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by EreluRoz: 2:01pm On Sep 14, 2024

SunShowAfrica:
I am mystery to you indeed

Don't look for my trouble and start forming saint.

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by AfonjahMozlem(f): 2:04pm On Sep 14, 2024

Go on a fucking spree with well-hung young boys
That's the way divorcees get through it

Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by idahme(m): 2:09pm On Sep 14, 2024

EreluRoz:
Why are you depressed over a marriage that brought you sadness? Are you feeling guilty over anything? Marriage can be draining if you marry the wrong person, if seperation is not giving you the desires peace then there shouldn't be the need for the seperation in the first place.

Your families are the only ones who have your True interest at heart, your in-laws don't really give a damn about you and might be selfish in their reasoning.

Why do you women always think you are marrying the wrong person when in actual sense you are the wrong person getting married?

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by Carcholce: 3:03pm On Sep 14, 2024*

idahme:
Why do you women always think you are marrying the wrong person when in actual sense you are the wrong person getting married?

Don’t advise them. Allow them suffer for it. I had one friend that was in the habit of calling different men while with her man just to pepper him whenever they were having issues. I advise her tire but fell on deaf ear. Na every month She Dey post about men and their issues. I stopped taking her calls because She was also using me to pepper her man(men)

Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by Nicepoker(m): 3:35pm On Sep 14, 2024

EreluRoz:
Why are you depressed over a marriage that brought you sadness? Are you feeling guilty over anything? Marriage can be draining if you marry the wrong person, if seperation is not giving you the desires peace then there shouldn't be the need for the seperation in the first place.

Your families are the only ones who have your True interest at heart, your in-laws don't really give a damn about you and might be selfish in their reasoning.

You have never acted in the capacity of a bridesmaid before. What do you know about marriage.

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by Socratiz: 3:50pm On Sep 14, 2024

I would urge you as a professional marriage counselor that you need the support of a counsellor at this moment.

You need help to resolve the range of emotions you're passing through.

I can see that it's not only your marriage that is giving you distress, even the relationship you have with your in-laws is also a challenge.

Taking a decision like this after nine years of emotional and psychological investment in a relationship requires lots of support.

Please seek for help.

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by Nobody: 6:32pm On Sep 14, 2024*

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by TheBreastSucker(m): 10:40pm On Sep 14, 2024

Candidlady:
Hmmmm

You have nothing meaningful to contribute to this topic so stop wasting space!

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by JovialJune(f): 9:12am On Sep 15, 2024

Do whatever is best for you.

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 5:22pm On Sep 15, 2024

MommaD:
■ I've been wallowing in depression for several months now.
I have finally decided to leave my marriage. I started by distancing myself emotionally cos the whole marriage thing just didn't seem to be going anywhere.
My in-laws are all against me now. According to them I'm too stubborn for refusing to live in a family house.
Deep down I know I could never. There are too many reasons for this.
My own family is upset. It's been nine years now and they will back whatever decision I take.
I just need to overcome this depression so I can be productive again.

Are you still in the marriage or what? If you have already left the marriage, then best you begin to work on truly accepting the reasons why you had to leave. You cannot move forward if you don't first accept the reasons for which you had to leave were valid and for your own good. The reason you are likely depressed may have to do with you holding on to the shame and guilt of your leaving, forgetting that there should be no shame or guilt in doing the right thing for oneself. undecided

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Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by Magicalsineros(f): 8:00pm On Sep 15, 2024

It's well

Re: How Do You Get Over Depression From A Failed Marriage? by Maeve7: 9:02pm On Sep 15, 2024

I don’t know enough to give you any advice. Have you got children? How old are they? How old are you? Have you got any emotional support from a friend or sister? Do you work? What is your financial situation like? Have you got hobbies? What are your dreams? What do you mean by depression? How does it manifest?

Feel free to provide as much additional information as you feel comfortable with.

Be aware of immature comments and best ignore them.

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