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Kobicove:
But I don't understand how a guy would be comfortable asking his friend's wife for sex before rendering financial assistance.

If you do not have any money to spare it's better to just deny her request for money

That's where the problem comes from. If it were a random woman, it's perfectly appropriate. But for their friend's wife? Deplorable. But it's not surprising as some men lack the concept of boundaries in friendship.

Magicalsineros:
How many women can you help without demanding for their body in return? Just answer this question in your heart

I have a question regarding this, usually when women make this statement.

When last did you help a fellow man without anything involved?

It is intereSting that women are the only ones that want help out of nothing while they themselves do not help anyone, not help their family members who are struggling.

Klass99:
This table you have been shaking since, me, I am just looking and laughing . Two of my male colleagues have categorically said they will not spend money on a woman when there's nothing to be gained or gotten out of it. Of course they were referring to sexual pleasure, your thread and question brought back memories of those conversations.

That's how many of them are in reality

Gerrard59:
That's where the problem comes from. If it were a random woman, it's perfectly appropriate. But for their friend's wife? Deplorable. But it's not surprising as some men lack the concept of boundaries in friendship.

Your same fellow men will see a woman with her wedding ring and will still demand se.x from her before they can assist her. What will you refer to that?

Kelechi009:
I have a question regarding this, usually when women make this statement.

When last did you help a fellow man without anything involved?

It is intereSting that women are the only ones that want help out of nothing while they themselves do not help anyone, not help their family members who are struggling.

Its common for a well to do woman to help a man without anything involved, but not the same with men.
Even the woman in the story that brought this post, was trying to feed her family by accepting help from her husband's friends, who could not help her or her husband without defiling her.
Or was she not trying to help her husband?

Magicalsineros:
How many women can you help without demanding for their body in return? Just answer this question in your heart

Let me ask you too some questions...

1. How many men have you seen asking women for help and they actually got that help especially financial help (with or without strings attached)?

2. Why do women not seek help from their fellow women when in need but are SO QUICK to run to a man or another man to seek for help whenever they have financial needs (so much for women supporting women)?

3. Why do you think it is the duty of ONLY man to help a either a MAN OR WOMAN in need and not the duty of a woman (so much for gender equality)?

Magicalsineros:
Its common for a well to do woman to help a man without anything involved, but not the same with men.
Even the woman in the story that brought this post, was trying to feed her family by accepting help from her husband's friends, who could not help her or her husband without defiling her.
Or was she not trying to help her husband?

Common, you say?

I totally disagree with you.

How many men even run to women to 'ASK THEM FOR A FAVOR' let women do every other minute of the day

Magicalsineros:
Its common for a well to do woman to help a man without anything involved, but not the same with men.
Even the woman in the story that brought this post, was trying to feed her family by accepting help from her husband's friends, who could not help her or her husband without defiling her.
Or was she not trying to help her husband?

She was trying to help her family and not HELP ONLY HER HUSBAND. She is an adult and also have financial responsibilities to her children just like the man. Except of course she is just a liability of a wife.

Magicalsineros:
Its common for a well to do woman to help a man without anything involved, but not the same with men.
Even the woman in the story that brought this post, was trying to feed her family by accepting help from her husband's friends, who could not help her or her husband without defiling her.
Or was she not trying to help her husband?

Yes, but it's her husband and that's normal.

I am referring to personal friendships, how many times have you taken your friends out, paid for them, sponsored them on vacation trips without any reward.

This is almost always expected from men only.

vanvickie:
She was trying to help her family and not HELP ONLY HER HUSBAND. She is an adult and also have financial responsibilities to her children just like the man. Except of course she is just a liability of a wife.

Then why does her husband take it personal by committing suicide? If women were to be taking things personal like that, don't you know they will be high rate of suicide in the society?

Klass99:
This was exactly what one of my colleagues said when I tackled him in conversation about the statement he made.

He was like, leave that thing, most of us men are wired that way, I am not pretentious and I will tell you the truth.

Doesn't that make up part of their bro code as men? It has been interesting watching them twist and turn, hem and haw, at your question and their very nature!

Men know the truth they just don't like to hear it from women and your moniker shows F for female, so of course you will get the sort of reactions we are seeing. Keep shaking the table though, it is entertaining to watch.

Don't mind them.

blackpanthar:
NICE POINTS but you are quite OFF TRACK.... very insensitive too.

the only QUESTION I feel you should ask yourself is......

IS ANY CONDITION PERMANENT?
Your obvious answer would be NO.


So you advise women to cheat.... and you give 5 points for it... AND I understand but after cheating, and tables turn and the same poor husband gets rich, ARE YOU EXPECTING HIM TO ACCEPT HER?
if he doesn't accept her, DO YOU NOT CARE ABOUT HOW THIS DESTROYS THE MINDS OF THE KIDS AND EVERYONE INVOLVED?



Another question I would have asked you is...... WHAT IS THE ROLE OF A WIFE IN A MAN'S LIFE?
Is everything about sex, money and children to you?



HAVE YOU HEARD OF THE WORD TRUST? OR THE WORD..... HELPER.... HELP MEET?

It is sad that many of you give toxic advice without thinking of REAL LIFE CONSEQUENCES...... real life aftermaths. Because you think you have a cheat-code.... its not good.


LIFE is not the same for everyone....... SEX doesn't hold the same meaning for everyone..... MARRIAGE/FAMILY is a deepest connection for some people AND TO BREAK IT, is to ruin entire existence.

IF THE SACRED BOND OF MARRIAGE DOESN'T MEAN MUCH TO YOU ONCE THERE IS NO MONEY....... then you don't understand THE COMMITMENT OF LOVE.

Without respect to religion, I want you to know that this world is run by PRINCIPLES.... not by people.

Once you understand how to make the principle work for you, everything changes.

This is why I strongly believe MARRIAGE is not for everyone....... ONLY THOSE WHO UNDERSTAND THE SACRIFICIAL LIFE SHOULD MARRY.

I love this...

Magicalsineros:
There's this trending news of a man who committed suicide after discovering his wife was cheating with his friends to feed the family, as the man was incapable of providing for the family. I've seen several negative comments Both on Facebook and here addressing the wife wrongly.
In as much as I am not applauding the wife, but
Dear men, don't be a hypocrite. How many of you can assist a helpless woman without demanding for her body?
How many of you can render help to your fellow man in difficult situation?

This is the same country where a young man was shouting endlessly '' I don't want to die'' ''pls help me'' he even ran to the police station and drop a statement, yet nobody stood up for him until he died, and immediately he dead, the whole country stood up in protest,
Ranting justice for the dead.

What was this man's wife suppose to do, if she has tried all her effort and it's not enough?
Was she supposed to wait and die with her children because of hunger?

Many of you can't even support your family members in need, but once it results to suicide, you will start pretending as if you care.

Death is not the worst thing that can happen to a man.

Many of you, suddenly becomes lawyers and Chief judge when bad news comes up.

This post of yours further strengthens my beliefs that 21st century women are set of no good binturis, very useless and not worthy of being in the same space with.
I'd rather raise a snake than love a woman.

Magicalsineros:
Then why does her husband take it personal by committing suicide? If women were to be taking things personal like that, don't you know they will be high rate of suicide in the society?

Why must it be the man's friend?

Magicalsineros:
You that is working, yet you find it difficult to handle all the bills.
It shows, it takes two parties to effectively make it work.
You can't live the whole responsibilities to your wife and expect her not to get tired and need help from your fellow men

And why can't women get help from their fellow women? Why must they always go to men for help?

Meaning:
Why must it be the man's friend?

Maybe these are the people she was able to get the help from

Meaning:
This post of yours further strengthens my beliefs that 21st century women are set of no good binturis, very useless and not worthy of being in the same space with.
I'd rather raise a snake than love a woman.

Many of you can't air your view without throwing insult even in public. That shows weakness though. From your writeup, do you mean all the women you have, know in all your life including family, relatives and friends or just nairaland women?

Magicalsineros:
This is how it has always been. So coming online and casting blame on only the woman is hypocrisy.

Why can't the woman ask her fellow women for help?

Abi her fellow women don't have money?

Abi her fellow women will also ask to sleep with her?

Magicalsineros:
Your same fellow men will see a woman with her wedding ring and will still demand se.x from her before they can assist her. What will you refer to that?

She should meet her husband for assistance. Why do you meet another man for assistance? What happened to your husband? Nothing concern me with married women for financial assistance. You have a man in your husband. Meet him. He has preek just as I do.

Gerrard59:
She should meet her husband for assistance. Why do you meet another man for assistance? What happened to your husband? Nothing concern me with married women for financial assistance. You have a man in your husband. Meet him. He has preek just as I do.

😂😂😂😂. That's why women should stop marrying men that can not provide for them. Right?

Magicalsineros:
😂😂😂😂. That's why women should stop marrying men that can not provide for them. Right?

I am of the opinion that modern-day women should marry fellow women. After all, their African American counterparts in the US lament how single they are in their 30s and how a growing number of men are going the bisexual route - an ideology that women support.

Women should marry women.

Gerrard59:
Women should work for their money. We're in the era of gender equality. Work your money. I have given my female friends money without asking for anything in return. I have been asked for a loan, but I dashed it out to ex-female classmates. However, I will not give money to a random lady without she providing evidence of work whether academic or otherwise. There's a reason scholarship awarding organisations have minimum requirements for applicants.

Nothing like free money. Work for it. Aren't you equal to a man?

Hahaha you don vex

I am always perplexed why modern day women always expect men to give them money without anything in return, especially when I asked if she gives *HER OWN FRIENDS* any thing at all or sponsors her friends on a vacation. Notice, I said *HER FRIENDS* which means the people she holds dearly so not even a romantic partner. None of the women on this thread give to their friends that are dearest to their hearts but they want a total male stranger to give them every thing without nothing in return. I am really surprised because simple logical scenarios that women can use amongst themselves is never used for men, I mean look at the last time you have gifted a female friend or family member and ask yourself why you aren't doing more for people around you. So then why do think or want a stranger or male friend to do the same for YOU for absolutely nothing. This is just madness. If not that I want to preserve my culture, I would just marry outside of West Africa.

Kelechi009:
Hahaha you don vex

I am always perplexed why modern day women always expect men to give them money without anything in return, especially when I asked if she gives *HER OWN FRIENDS* any thing at all or sponsors her friends on a vacation. Notice, I said *HER FRIENDS* which means the people she holds dearly so not even a romantic partner. None of the women on this thread give to their friends that are dearest to their hearts but they want a total male stranger to give them every thing without nothing in return. I am really surprised because simple logical scenarios that women can use amongst themselves is never used for men, I mean look at the last time you have gifted a female friend or family member and ask yourself why you aren't doing more for people around you. So then why do think or want a stranger or male friend to do the same for YOU for absolutely nothing. This is just madness. If not that I want to preserve my culture, I would just marry outside of West Africa.

Wetin dey vex me be say na the cognitive dissonance and hypocrisies. You want a man to help you then after that, you run to Twitter to label all men as bad, cruel and scum. Then, why rely on men for your financial needs without working for it? You have young unmarried women insulting/mocking young bachelors whereas they sleep with married men. Tomorrow, these same spinsters are the ones who whine that men cheat on their wives and call for the destruction of the man. In the Ja.rus' case, there was a lady like that tweeted that the LASG should deal with him, only for everyone to know that Odanz had a mental visual remembrance of her vagina. Meanwhile, her supposed BF is a medical doctor based in the UK. _{Na mumu dey do long distance relationship sef}. Or the other one who criticised a woman for seeing marriage as her all yet she tweeted how she loves a man but cannot have him to herself because he is married. Preach one thing, practice another.

Sometimes, I blame older men as they grew up in a different era, but hopefully, my generation draws the line between being a mistress and giving too much power to ungrateful beings. Na biology cause all these things. Sometimes, the illegality in Nigeria generates many money-miss-road men, plus the mentality most of our brothers have - literally using money to buy off women's attraction and attention.

On the financial aspect again, these women work for their money. The question is: what do they use it for? Recent studies have shown that single women outearn married women in certain professions and even slightly out-earn single men in some professions. In fact, if not for male testosterone which confers a higher advantage, women would have equal employment percentages with men across many industries. It is why I support the so-called solely female initiatives their ring leaders promote. Just that no one should cry when men replicate the same for young men. These are women who will never lend money to men for just having a broad chest and preek. So, after amassing employment opportunities and salaries men in yesteryears got, why do they want free money from the same men simply based on "I be woman o"? They asked for equality, and they got it. They should work for their money. No free lunch.

As for the bold, where else is different? Women are the same everywhere. That to me isn't really the issue, but the hypocrisy after collecting the money only to slander young men. Sha, dem go born boys and those ones will reap the benefits as the society is even harsher on boys who are/were solely raised by women.

Gerrard59:
Wetin dey vex me be say na the cognitive dissonance and hypocrisies. You want a man to help you then after that, you run to Twitter to label all men as bad, cruel and scum. Then, why rely on men for your financial needs without working for it? You have young unmarried women insulting/mocking young bachelors whereas they sleep with married men. Tomorrow, these same spinsters are the ones who whine that men cheat on their wives and call for the destruction of the man. In the Ja.rus' case, there was a lady like that tweeted that the LASG should deal with him, only for everyone to know that Odanz had a mental visual remembrance of her vagina. Meanwhile, her supposed BF is a medical doctor based in the UK. _{Na mumu dey do long distance relationship sef}. Or the other one who criticised a woman for seeing marriage as her all yet she tweeted how she loves a man but cannot have him to herself because he is married. Preach one thing, practice another.

Sometimes, I blame older men as they grew up in a different era, but hopefully, my generation draws the line between being a mistress and giving too much power to ungrateful beings. Na biology cause all these things. Sometimes, the illegality in Nigeria generates many money-miss-road men, plus the mentality most of our brothers have - literally using money to buy off women's attraction and attention.

On the financial aspect again, these women work for their money. The question is: what do they use it for? Recent studies have shown that single women outearn married women in certain professions and even slightly out-earn single men in some professions. In fact, if not for male testosterone which confers a higher advantage, women would have equal employment percentages with men across many industries. It is why I support the so-called solely female initiatives their ring leaders promote. Just that no one should cry when men replicate the same for young men. These are women who will never lend money to men for just having a broad chest and preek. So, after amassing employment opportunities and salaries men in yesteryears got, why do they want free money from the same men simply based on "I be woman o"? They asked for equality, and they got it. They should work for their money. No free lunch.

As for the bold, where else is different? Women are the same everywhere. That to me isn't really the issue, but the hypocrisy after collecting the money only to slander young men. Sha, dem go born boys and those ones will reap the benefits as the society is even harsher on boys who are/were solely raised by women.

Alongside the lady you have citied on Twitter, there was another lady always abusing Tacha for being promiscuous called "Aunty Ada" on that same Twitter. She was also found having an affair with a married man also for monetary gains, she came and denied but there was too much factual evidence against her. Most of the words of women on social media should be taken with a grain of salt.

Every body is abusing Ja.rus meanwhile most of those people all have a married man they are dating which funds their lifestyle. Someone like Ja.rus has enough funds to even go round 5 women and it would not shake him. As a Muslim man he was still attacked for doing what his Northern brothers would have done and they are praised for it, I cannot even remember when last someone condemned the great Emir Sanusi Response To Marriage To 18 Year Old Princess and took her to the UK for education. No one made any noise back then. On this Nairaland, people were raging as If Ja.rus has killed someone.

Majority of the divorced women as well are in relationship with married men for financial gains, which they blamed those mistresses for, so what goes around came back around at the end. Nobody wants their husband to have a side chic or mistress but will gladly be a side chic while they are single. who are we deceiving.