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EreluRoz:
Mummy's boys are the worst men to be with, marry them at your own risk

copyrites:
Okay, so do you agree that women raise useless boys/men??

EreluRoz:
No, useless men takes after their useless father, it's hereditary.

Klass99:
Of course men will choose a daddy's girl any day, any time, because they know that when they are broke, lazy and slacking off their responsibilities of paying rent, school fees, and other bills, daddy will step in and step up to do what they are meant to do, because daddy can't bear to his golden child suffer needlessly.

Can you men please learn to admit the truth to yourselves and tell yourselves the truth as well. A daddy's girl will always be the best in your eyes because of all the perks/benefits you stand to gain from being attached to her, especially if her father is wealthy or from a rich household/background.

Certain perks start from the wedding day like a car gift, a house, then it contonues afterwards, proceeding to a prestigious job for the husband, trust accounts and inheritance for grandchildren etc. While daddy may not like his daughter's choice of man or hubby, he still does right by her and her family.

Maeve7:
Words mean different things to different people so who is a mommy‘s boy?

I have an uncle who is in his 50s and has a very close bond with his mother. He visits her (a widow) almost every day and goes out of his way to make her happy.

The mother stays out of his marriage. She and wife have a good relationship.

Not everything must be a problem.

Maeve7:
Words mean different things to different people so who is a mommy‘s boy?

I have an uncle who is in his 50s and has a very close bond with his mother. He visits her (a widow) almost every day and goes out of his way to make her happy.

The mother stays out of his marriage. She and wife have a good relationship.

Not everything must be a problem.

copyrites:
Mommy's boy means the same thing across dictionaries: "a boy excessively attached to his mother"

Onegai:
But your Uncle isn't a Mother's Boy.

He loves his mum but put boundaries around his marriage.

A Mother's Boy has zero boundaries. His Mother makes all his decisions, including the ones that will affect his children. His Mother defends him, even when his other family members think he's making a mistake.

She's not doing it out of love, it's usually damaged women that create Mummy's Boy out of their sons. Because of their trauma from other parts of their lives, they are desperate to protect their children at all costs. So they smother them with an unhealthy love. And it chokes everything in their child's life.

A traumatised, emotionally unhealthy wife who hasn't worked on her issues will cling desperately to her children. A lot of Mummy's Boys tend to create Daddy's Girls, they're usually always looking for a voice of a woman to put in their heads because it is empty, neither God not his self occupies his inner mind.

They always have several female friends who like them like crazy but never marry them. Those ones are looking for men to lead them in marriage, they don't want to be the ones leading the marriage and they certainly don't want to be fighting for DStv remote with their MiL (I swear, my Aunt did this to her DiL, I was ashamed when I heard it, my mum had to tell her to please go to her own home and leave her son alone).

I have 2 boys. I don't even want anyone to call the youngest of them "Mummy's boy" and he's literally a baby. He can come and ask me for advise any time but I would be upset if I were the loudest voice in his head as an adult. That space belongs to God, then me and his father (when he is a child), himself and a few trusted friends (as a young adult), then himself and his wife (as a settled adult). Those are the stages of Life. You may miss out one stage, but your Self must always be a strong voice in your mind.

But he must come into his SELF.

Solofresh2:
Women are naturally Jealous of their fellow gender the moment they discover their feminism.They compete to be the best woman all men should want but not need.A young lady will be Jealous of her elder sister who catch the attention of a man even though they don't like the man.
It's a thing of joy for them when a man asks them out deep down even if they don't like the man because it define their feminism in one way or the other making them feel wanted
They are naturally selfish by nature

Maeve7:
Your sisters are jealous of one another?

Maeve7:
My uncle doesn’t have to set boundaries because his mother’s policy is to stay out of his business with his wife. She chooses not to interfere. She doesn’t even want to know their issues if they have any.

I can’t say what would happen if she did want to cause trouble. He is a very masculine type but the love he has for his mother is very strong so I can’t tell what he would do, if and how he would set boundaries.

However, some people would refer to his type as mommy‘s boy. I would. You wouldn’t. That’s what makes the discussion interesting. But I can also relate to your concept of mommy‘s boy. To me, it just shows that there are different types of mommy’s boys ranging between healthy and unhealthy attachment styles.

I don’t mind my son being close to me when he grows up and I won’t lie, it would make me happy, if he was as crazy about me as my uncle is about his mother. I only pray to have the wisdom to stay in my lane.

kkins25:
It depends on what you mean by "momma's boy" as the term can be used to designate a boy who's closer to his mom than his dad, or a grown man who's entirely dependent on his mother to take decisions (in every ramification of his life) on his behalf. The sense in which One.gal is using the word, the technical term, is the derogatory one---for a man who's overly reliant on his mother; almost incestuous.

So, if the uncle calls mom at every juncture, then, unfortunately, that would be the case of being a "momma's boy" --- the bad kind.

Namaster:
Women DON'T want Mummy's boys because Mummy's boys have their mother HEAVILY involved in their lives.

As such, the mother is ready to COUNTERACT every attempt of other women to manipulate her son.

The mothers can spot bitches and witches BETTER than their sons. And being Mummy's boys, their sons listen to them.

Plus a Mummy's boy does NOT lack female attention or affection and that's another weapon in the female arsenal rendered useless.

A Mummy's boy may be spineless or lily-livered but they are NOT easy to manipulate because of their OVERINVOLVED mothers.

That's why women RESENT them. They are virtually immune to their tricks.

It's the same reason women RARELY get along with their mother in laws. Women know how women think. Women know how devious women are.

A man that is close to his mother makes women UNCOMFORTABLE. It's like having a Military Advisor in your army who wrote and developed the enemy's strategy for them.

Finally, the idea that men somehow prefer a Daddy's girl is RIDICULOUS. MOST men have ZERO standards.

It doesn't matter to them whether a girl is a daddy's or mummy's girl or even an ORPHAN, they are ready to WORSHIP any girl that'll have them.

Scarcity mindset has dealt a HUGE blow to men.

Case in point is the young man that recently bent the knee in proposal to a dirty-black, thin girl that puts you in mind of a burnt PANLA and still got REJECTED.

crackhaus:
Funny how it's been loads of personal stories and no one actually answered the question...

crackhaus:
Funny how it's been loads of personal stories and no one actually answered the question...

copyrites:
Men will choose a daddy’s girl any day, anytime. This is because these girls are considered the best, always and forever.

But women don’t want mommy’s boys.

1. Do we subconsciously agree that women ruin their sons' lives?


2. Do we also agree that men raise children better than women?

Maeve7:
Words mean different things to different people so who is a mommy‘s boy?

I have an uncle who is in his 50s and has a very close bond with his mother. He visits her (a widow) almost every day and goes out of his way to make her happy.

The mother stays out of his marriage. She and wife have a good relationship.

Not everything must be a problem.