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brain54:
The daughter is mature enough...

To have sought your consent irrespective what her mom told her... even the person she married.

These are some of the reasons some men refuse to support their wives to reach the pinnacle of their careers and achieve success especially financially.

The woman has more money than he does obviously and hell really has no fury like a scorned woman...you can double that fury for a rich scorned woman.

Fred should have moved on though without these rants. I don't think it was necessary. He has endured for over 20 years. He should have kept his cool.

I understand it's painful though!

This bolded part is unnecessary. A hurting man should keep quiet while dying slowly so that he will be considered a real man. Men should learn to support other men passing through stuff in the hands of women. All of us are human irrespective of gender.

These silly men must always blame their failures as good fathers on their children's mothers. We're the children blind to the abuse the mother suffered while in the marriage. He thought they were blind, deaf and dumb to the fact that he battered their heavily pregnant mother till she lost the pregnancy and almost lost her life. He was already flaunting ex convict Ibinabo before the divorce was finalised. How your children will relate with you in your older years depends on how you treated them and their mother when you were younger.

jaxxy:
Agatha of inside out? She's added weight now, she used to be lanky.

She used to be very skinny and gaunt when she was still suffering in the abusive marriage. She started gaining weight as soon as they separated and started enjoying peace of mind.

We4all:
Fred should stop crying. If you were in your daughter's life, there is no way in hell she would have sidelined you. You started 'Inside out with Agatha', and so what? Agatha nurtured and made the talk show popular. You moved on years ago, she is still moving on, so why are you pained?

Just read your nonsense submission!

Kobicove:
You're wrong!

How can you say that because a man and his wife divorced then he has automatically waived his right to his children

No matter what happens between a husband and wife it is the father's right to receive his daughter's bride price according to the culture in most parts of the African continent

None of them, Fred, Agatha, daughter and son-in-law are in Africa. They are in UK and will follow the culture of the land.
Besides Fred should be asking his son-in-law man to man for the bride price. He should not involve his ex-wife in this matter

We4all:
Fred should stop crying. If you were in your daughter's life, there is no way in hell she would have sidelined you. You started 'Inside out with Agatha', and so what? Agatha nurtured and made the talk show popular. You moved on years ago, she is still moving on, so why are you pained?

People like you yap and yap...until it happens to you and you you will understand real life.



Every man should always have the possibility of this at the back of their mind and not hold on too tightly to anything or anyone.

If it happens, you move on without looking back at all.

You came to this life with nothing and we will leave with nothing. Everything is temporary and nothing last for ever. Even out breathe

cococandy:
I’m assuming the business was already registered under both of them and for her to change anything about ownership, she needs his signature. Doing it behind his box must have been illegal because she would’ve had to forge his signature and what not.

That’s definitely something lawsuit worthy.
Why didn’t he sue?

To give peace a chance of course, and for the well-being of his kids.

He's not even fighting to have the business back but only wants to be given some recognition as the father of their children, which is not too much to ask for.

Na wetin May go do Yul Edochie in the future be this

As far as Delta denied being igbos, we igbos don't have anything to say about this. It might be their culture

budaatum:
She's not his "Good Wife", since they divorced and she's now his "ex-wife".

What I'm curious about however, is why did his own daughter not tell her father she was getting married?

Aaron took kola, so she did take him for that, so why did she not inform dad of the wedding day?

nor be even just inform alone self.

Even plan or preparation self she needed to talk am with her papa

We4all:
Fred should stop crying. If you were in your daughter's life, there is no way in hell she would have sidelined you. You started 'Inside out with Agatha', and so what? Agatha nurtured and made the talk show popular. You moved on years ago, she is still moving on, so why are you pained?

You sound like a next door neighbor to them or part of either family

Jman06:
To give peace a chance of course, and for the well-being of his kids.

He's not even fighting to have the business back but only wants to be given some recognition as the father of their children, which is not too much to ask for.

I am in agreement with him being recognized but why is Fred not asking his son-in-law man to man to be recognized? Should he not call the man and demand the bride price?
Why is he scared of talking to everyone except his ex-wife- someone he is no longer married to?

Pepperdemisback:
Don't mind the idiot crying victim, it seems he didn't attend the girl's graduation but attended the boy's own.
It seems the girl hates him since after the breakup.
By the way, I thought after divorce and return of Bride Price, he is in no position to collect the daughter's bride price.

Even if the bride price is returned the children from the broken marriage still belongs to the father in many cultures in africa my uncle's wife did a similar thing and was strucked with a stroke by unseen forces which she is yet to recover from till date.

Jman06:
To give peace a chance of course, and for the well-being of his kids.

He's not even fighting to have the business back but only wants to be given some recognition as the father of their children, which is not too much to ask for.

I call BS

Mom007:
She crossed a very wrong line to cross. This carries negative consequences.

How did it carry your supposed negative influence?
Yul according to Sir Pete married without his father's consent & blessings yet no one has called him out that it has consequences lol, it's only when it's done by a woman that oppressors of our daughters, sisters & wives quote anything that makes them feel alright. Story story story

Pepperdemisback:
Don't mind the idiot crying victim, it seems he didn't attend the girl's graduation but attended the boy's own.
It seems the girl hates him since after the breakup.
By the way, I thought after divorce and return of Bride Price, he is in no position to collect the daughter's bride price.

Make Una dey go village to learn custom and tradition, Una say no. See how you bring your leg for outside

Amumaigwe:
This bolded part is unnecessary. A hurting man should keep quiet while dying slowly so that he will be considered a real man. Men should learn to support other men passing through stuff in the hands of women. All of us are human irrespective of gender.

How do you think Agatha felt when the picture of Fred and Ibinabo Fiberesima and their daughter flooded the air space

My friend know it today, revenge is better served cold

Hell bath no fury than a scorned woman

Fred moved on so quickly he should keep it up

villionz:
nor be even just inform alone self.

Even plan or preparation self she needed to talk am with her papa

Mr Adviser are you in her shoes?
Na you wan teach her how to behave like say you Dey there when they were going thru things

dominique:
These silly men must always blame their failures as good fathers on their children's mothers. We're the children blind to the abuse the mother suffered while in the marriage. He thought they were blind, deaf and dumb to the fact that he battered their heavily pregnant mother till she lost the pregnancy and almost lost her life. He was already flaunting ex convict Ibinabo before the divorce was finalised. How your children will relate with you in your older years depends on how you treated them and their mother when you were younger.



She used to be very skinny and gaunt when she was still suffering in the abusive marriage. She started gaining weight as soon as they separated and started enjoying peace of mind.

Don't mind Fred he's now playing victim. I could remember in those days when he was flaunting different women & Agatha was working hard now he's writing epistle. And so shall it be to anyone that neglects his/ her duties towards their children

VaginaAcademic:
Na wetin May go do Yul Edochie in the future be this

Don’t mind men that eat their cake and still want to have it back

brain54:
I was careful enough not to criticize them...

For whatever led to their break up.

No doubt the woman worked hard to get the platform to what it has become today.( I never said otherwise) Even though Fred claims that it started as his brain child. But it takes hard work to grow to the level of success it has attained over the years. Kudos to her.

You asked if the children were blind and I wonder how old they were at the time to fully understand everything going on.


It's only a mother that can sow such a seed of hatred in the minds of her children against a father. It's naive to think those kids are acting based on what they experienced years ago when they were probably 8 years old or less!

Let be realistic with ourselves, no matter what the mother told her children about their father, they will grow up to understand better if the father were truly involved in their lives.

A father who occasionally pay them a visit, call them frequently, pay their school fees and visit their schools to check them will never ever being forgotten by his children irrespective of what they heard from their mother.

Morbeta11:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/entertainment/naija-fashion/739514-my-ex-wife-tarnished-my-image-married-out-our-daughter-without-my-consent-fred-amata-alleges.html

Na waoo..Didn't they share joint custody of the children for development of bond between father and daughter to the extent that even the daughter did not "tip off" her dad about the marriage?

Question should be....were you involved in raising the kids? Did he provide financially and nurture them? If he wasn't there when they were kids,he shouldn't expect respect from them now that they are grown. Naija men like to leave their women to do all the work but cry wolf when the kids don't care about them in their old age. Instead of him to talk about how he participated in raising the kids, he is talking about how he helped start the show like he helped grow the show

bluepreek:
Sometimes I begin to wonder but now I know and have realized why Jesus Christ never chose a female disciple or even got married....Cuz,come to think of it, in what way is both marriage and women beneficial to men apart from bringing steady wahala to man,all in the name of marriage...... Honestly,if not for the sake of procreation, I'd have rather preferred to die a Virgin, flexing on my best kinda lifestyle, watching my beloved Chelsea football club beat all the favourite EPL clubs than settle down with one female entity all in the name of marriage

But in all of these,i can't write off the fact that the so-called daughter doesn't have an equal share of foolishness and stupidity with her mother..........and one begins to wonder and be tempted to ask,do the female gender have a brain at all,or they were mistakenly created with an empty skull,but as we all know, God doesn't make any mistake.....

Marriage is overrated. There is nothing in marriage other than procreation.

dominique:
These silly men must always blame their failures as good fathers on their children's mothers. We're the children blind to the abuse the mother suffered while in the marriage. He thought they were blind, deaf and dumb to the fact that he battered their heavily pregnant mother till she lost the pregnancy and almost lost her life. He was already flaunting ex convict Ibinabo before the divorce was finalised. How your children will relate with you in your older years depends on how you treated them and their mother when you were younger.



She used to be very skinny and gaunt when she was still suffering in the abusive marriage. She started gaining weight as soon as they separated and started enjoying peace of mind.

Women are manipulative, they can always manipulate their children against their father, right in their father's nose.

Kobicove:
You're wrong!

How can you say that because a man and his wife divorced then he has automatically waived his right to his children

No matter what happens between a husband and wife it is the father's right to receive his daughter's bride price according to the culture in most parts of the African continent.

The reason why Agatha got away with it is because her daughter married a white guy and we all know those ones have no traditional culture.

Assuming the girl was marrying a Nigerian guy I can assure you that no respectable Nigerian family will accept a bride being presented/handed over to them by just her mother!

I thought everyone insulted Cole of VI when he said his wife got their son married without his consent.
His mother paid bride price in SS, why did the men there not reject it?
Wo Fada said "Let love rule" and everyone agreed to that while they insulted Cole and Celebrated his divorced wife.
What's this hypocrisy about?

cococandy:
The girl probably didn’t want him there after seeing his behavior towards her mom. As a woman in what world would I respect a man who publicly humiliated my mom like this?
Knowing that I would be indirectly telling my own kids that it’s okay for a husband to be like that towards his wife. His son may not see any problem with it but most certainly the girl does. As she should!

They have never been on good terms I think. He was at the boy's graduation but absent at the girl's graduation.

brain54:
I was careful enough not to criticize them...

For whatever led to their break up.

No doubt the woman worked hard to get the platform to what it has become today.( I never said otherwise) Even though Fred claims that it started as his brain child. But it takes hard work to grow to the level of success it has attained over the years. Kudos to her.

You asked if the children were blind and I wonder how old they were at the time to fully understand everything going on.


It's only a mother that can sow such a seed of hatred in the minds of her children against a father. It's naive to think those kids are acting based on what they experienced years ago when they were probably 8 years old or less!

And you think an 8 year old child is cognitively impaired to figure out what is happening around him or her?

Children are more observant than adults but less likely to talk about it.

Thundafireseun:
After careful reading and analyzing the story ….

I can say that the story is not complete yet….
And I will patiently wait for the ex wife’s refute which I sense is on its way out

Same thought. However, I was shocked when I no see the father too.

bluepreek:
Sometimes I begin to wonder but now I know and have realized why Jesus Christ never chose a female disciple

Don't you know Jesus Christ regretted not choosing female disciples ? Right after Judas issues, Thomas double mind etc

Start understanding the Bible.

This man should rest abeg, not all of us are genz oo. He should go and chill with ibinabo and leave Agatha alone.

Always doing Chochocho to the press anytime the opportunity arises, Agatha this Agatha that.

And the Agatha has not said a word over these 20plus years.

Ezini:
Mr Adviser are you in her shoes?
Na you wan teach her how to behave like say you Dey there when they were going thru things

Mr defender or defense counsel.

Na u go defend her action now, e be like say na u go come explain now for us better

Maybe when men are no longer allowed to participate in some events like this, they will stop this thinking of my children will come and find me in future while they treat the poor mothers badly today.

Children see a lot and form opinions quickly. Let us say the ex-wife get craze which she will also have her own side of the story, the daughter nko. She forget say she get papa.

E get why Angelina Jolie children drop their papa name and supportS their mother. Fred should call ex-family meeting biko