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So as husband in the house the money I make is everybody’s money ..
But the money my wife make is her money
Even though she’s making money more than I do

Make responsibility kill man ??

Such marriage has no agenda from the start. A responsible woman helps her husband to grow and not to claim my money all the time.

Nice2023:
Such marriage has no agenda from the start. A responsible woman helps her husband to grow and not to claim my money all the time.

How many responsible women remain for Nigeria?

The beauty of life is in the freewill we have to make our choices and decide the course of our own lives.

No one will actually behead you if you choose to not follow 'marital conventions'...and pick who or what works best for you.


If the crown is too heavy, drop it. Or opt out of a 'forced royalhood' for masculinity. It's all left to you.

Zonefree:
How many responsible women remain for Nigeria?

There are countless good women out there than good men.

Nice2023:
There are countless good women out there than good men.

Tell me about it.

It is what was decided during courtship. For me, I believe in joint account of a reasonable proportion of income. It necessarily need not be in an account however, with transparency, both parties can be true to their commitment on how they plan using the amount.

Nice2023:
There are countless good women out there than good men.

This is so not true.

When they say marry a helpmate, wetin you go dey look for??

You just dey know? 🙄 I dey tell people but dem no wan listen. Marry a kind person!

Olaolar:
So as husband in the house the money I make is everybody’s money ..
But the money my wife make is her money
Even though she’s making money more than I do

Make responsibility kill man ??

You should ask your wife.

You married a bad wife. Accept it, own it.

Olaolar:
So as husband in the house the money I make is everybody’s money ..
But the money my wife make is her money
Even though she’s making money more than I do

Make responsibility kill man ??

Husband's money - Our money

Wife's money - My money

I don't knw how female culled out this nonsense

If you accept that condition as a man then that's your headache. Stamp your authority the way you want things to work.

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Olaolar:
So as husband in the house the money I make is everybody’s money ..
But the money my wife make is her money
Even though she’s making money more than I do

Make responsibility kill man ??

I was in similar shoe before u til I changed at home and stop d providing stuff so when she tried to ask me I told him my work is not going fine anymore this and that .

In conclusion till today we dey share bills because I invested her so I told her d kids and she herself was d reason I created d bis for her .
Then for food and some miscellaneous like light and any other spending na both of us óò

I cannot come and die.

So me going to work daily with no pent dropping down . Na she go buy this buy that but I pay school fees alone and rent alone.

..

So change and sit her down .
Let her know ur salary or job is this and that and reduce too much familiarity with her as if due to ur business or job stuff bla blah is just for d main time so u can achieve ur aim of bringing her own money too to support the family .

No dulling 📌

Olaolar:
So as husband in the house the money I make is everybody’s money ..
But the money my wife make is her money
Even though she’s making money more than I do

Make responsibility kill man ??

I'll advise you to do what is necessary at home, only try what is possible. Don't kill yourself, if she complain, let her know that's your capability.
Please Never ever, ever, ask her for assistance; despite she is your wife, if she wants to help, she will help, else you will regret asking her for help.
God will bless all Men and Women who are contributing to their homes.

Leave that marriage

Oga, try and take care of your children till they are capable of taking care of themselves, say till the most junior is 12 yrs, and if she stays irresponsible till then, send her out!

What we have now are bunch of I don't care women, too materialistic, infact some carry olosho enter marriage. Nothing is enough for them, you can never please them.

Dedicate some of the house expenses as her sole responsibility

If you're buying a house or land, will you share the payment with her?

Tayorshd87:
I was in similar shoe before u til I changed at home and stop d providing stuff so when she tried to ask me I told him my work is not going fine anymore this and that .

In conclusion till today we dey share bills because I invested her so I told her d kids and she herself was d reason I created d bis for her .
Then for food and some miscellaneous like light and any other spending na both of us óò

I cannot come and die.

So me going to work daily with no pent dropping down . Na she go buy this buy that but I pay school fees alone and rent alone.

..

So change and sit her down .
Let her know ur salary or job is this and that and reduce too much familiarity with her as if due to ur business or job stuff bla blah is just for d main time so u can achieve ur aim of bringing her own money too to support the family .

No dulling 📌

MercySpeak:
If you're buying a house or land, will you share the payment with her?

Am not a kid have built one already .

We can't share that ha haba so I can have total control

Olaolar:
So as husband in the house the money I make is everybody’s money ..
But the money my wife make is her money
Even though she’s making money more than I do

Make responsibility kill man ??

Marriage now is a partnership between the couple. The time when a man carries all the responsibilities of the home front just to feel good is gone...if not u will always be struggling.

If u want to get married, find someone who can support u at least up to 40%, then u can take the remaining 60%.

As a married man,never give ur wife the impression that her money is for her.

A family friend told his wife that she should be using her money for herself when they newly wedded. That statement came to hunt him when his business had issues.

Marriage is a partnership in all areas, be it finance or home chores.

Olaolar:
So as husband in the house the money I make is everybody’s money .. But the money my wife make is her money Even though she’s making money more than I do Make responsibility kill man ??

You chose to make your marriage this way, and you are here to whine about it, why?

Look, if you want your wife to contribute portions of her earnings to the running of the household, then you and her need to come together and make this decision together as a couple. Strangers cannot do this for you.