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Maeve7:
She doesn’t cook? She doesn’t clean? She is not bathing, feeding, entertaining, teaching the children? She doesn’t do laundry? She is not shopping the groceries? She doesn’t take out the trash?

Nothing?

She does nothing.

achimendy:
When the husband was busy working for 7 to 8 hours to provide for his family where were you, oh you didn't think of that? Now the man comes back from work tired and decided to relax by taking a chilled drink and also watch football, then the selfish woman that you're start getting angry. You women are just too self-centerd.

Everyone in the family has his or her own role to play, the wife does her own which is to keep the home, while the husband does his own too by providing and protecting his family. The early you understand this the better for you. Stop using the word slave, nobody forced you to get married, if you're not ready to do what marriage says then don't get married.


Shalom

In what eldorado world do women not work? Or work long hours?

What company gives women lesser tasks or where do women get lesser responsibilities for same pay so they are not 'tired' when they get home?

Biko connect me.

Because it seems the guys on this thread are on to something; it is we women who have not figured it out.

GloriousGbola:
Actually the same occurs in Nigeria. Imho for at least some women the suffering is some sort of badge of honor Sort of like the way we celebrate working hard instead of working smart

You gerrit!

bukatyne:
Men spend more time hustling?

Are you nfc to one that spend less time ...

cococandy:
If I could have a super power, I would want it to be the power to open Nigerian women’s eyes.
Be to men how they are to you. Do to them EXACTLY as they do unto you and half of these stories will die in 6 months. Men understand consequences more than anything else.
No low effort man gets a girlfriend, wife or family.
No disrespectful man gets a baby.

Do unto man what he does unto you and you feel your gender stand a chance

So as davido they impregnate gurlz upandan make chioma sef jump out collect belle left right to whose detriment

If regina daniel wants to do as you say ... can she repay all the goodies her husband got.

Men under consequences, Men take responsibility But which one woman fit do

bukatyne:
In what eldorado world do women not work? Or work long hours?

What company gives women lesser tasks or where do women get lesser responsibilities for same pay so they are not 'tired' when they get home?

Biko connect me.

Because it seems the guys on this thread are on to something; it is we women who have not figured it out.

This used to be an old argument, repackaged over and over again.

In most families that are functioning, women work but earnings from their jobs are not required to be solely used in funding the home, they can chip in here and there financially but ultimately the man is the major provider of the home therefore come rain, come sunshine he has to go out there and hustle even if the job wants to kill him.

Women also avoid any financial reliance by their partners by ensuring the men they eventually marry earns significantly higher than them.

Even when women work long hours, they do it for their own selves. Because at the end, their money is their money but the husbands money belongs to the family.

Any arrangement different from this has been proven to cause resentment from the women involved.

bukatyne:
In what eldorado world do women not work? Or work long hours?

What company gives women lesser tasks or where do women get lesser responsibilities for same pay so they are not 'tired' when they get home?

Biko connect me.

Because it seems the guys on this thread are on to something; it is we women who have not figured it out.

Imagine the irresponsible question you're asking me. Nigeria women with their dependency and lazy mentality. If you women will even get the chance to get paid for doing nothing you all will gladly accept it. Learn to take responsibility for your life and do something that will earn you huge cash with less working time. I know people that work 3 times a week and the least salary they receive is 500k. Those people are highly valuable so their employers don't joke with them. But You dull-headed Nigerian women won't think of adding value to your lives instead ya'll are thinking of high pay with less or no working time.
This is my sincere advice to you, creativity and value is key. be creative and add value to your life and see if that huge paycheck and less working time you crave for won't find you.

Nothing is free in life, If you need something then you have to work for it.

tosinhtml:
1.This used to be an old argument, repackaged over and over again.

2a. In most families that are functioning, women work but earnings from their jobs are not required to be solely used in funding the home, they can chip in here and there financially

2b. but ultimately the man is the major provider of the home therefore come rain, come sunshine he has to go out there and hustle even if the job wants to kill him.

3. Women also avoid any financial reliance by their partners by ensuring the men they eventually marry earns significantly higher than them.

4. Even when women work long hours, they do it for their own selves. Because at the end, their money is their money but the husbands money belongs to the family.

5. Any arrangement different from this has been proven to cause resentment from the women involved.

1. Is that so?

2a. That means a lot of Nigerian families are nor functioning

2b. I ask again: when it comes to standard white or blue collar jobs, is there consideration for gender when assigning duties and responsibilities?

3. In this same Nigeria? According to the last research, about 177m earn less than N2m per annum. So even if women marry men who earn 'more' than them, their joint income is not enough to fend the home.

4. The husband earning N2m per annum? Anything to justify men's thoughtlessness and irresponsibility towards the domestic front. If men are capable of funding the home without drama, more women would stop working or at least work less stressful jobs.

5. Yes because like the OP, the men still expect the women to be responsible for the domestic aspect of the home even though they have the same work hours.

bukatyne:
1. Is that so?

2a. That means a lot of Nigerian families are nor functioning

2b. I ask again: when it comes to standard white or blue collar jobs, is there consideration for gender when assigning duties and responsibilities?

3. In this same Nigeria? According to the last research, about 177m earn less than N2m per annum. So even if women marry men who earn 'more' than them, their joint income is not enough to fend the home.

4. The husband earning N2m per annum? Anything to justify men's thoughtlessness and irresponsibility towards the domestic front. If men are capable of funding the home without drama, more women would stop working or at least work less stressful jobs.

5. Yes because like the OP, the men still expect the women to be responsible for the domestic aspect of the home even though they have the same work hours.

1. Yes that is so.

2a. A family that is functioning is a middle class man paying of most things in the house & the woman just chips in.

The common rebuttal to this is usually "Oh, what of those numerous women selling pepper to fend for their families". Those women are living below poverty level & absolute penury, they are termed poor. Most of their husbands are the drivers, conductors, agberos & all sorts of low level jobs. We are talking about middle class here.

2b. Only few women agreesively chase high paying jobs in Nigeria out of personal decision, they have less financial pressure on them & this is common info.

It is very common to see a lady who just purchased a human hair of 800k while using the latest iPhone 16 saying she does not have money to pay for Virtual Assistance Course of 100k Naira on ALT School Africa. Because that struggle is not her priority.

3. Whether the joint income is enough to fend the home is irrelevant here, the point is most wives choose when to chip in & help pay for stuff around the house. It is not mandatory for her.

4. Women already work less stressful jobs.

5. Yes because like the OP, his whole income is meant for the family while the wife's income is hers alone & only chips in when she wants. Women in Nigeria already said they aren't doing 50/50 on bills & men agreed. So what's the issue.

I don't know why this is so hard to understand.

CodeTemplarr:
Maids were mentioned in the bible too si help is not a bad idea. The bad thing is when the man has to pay the help and the madam now hijacks that to make the help a slave who does everything for her. Read Proverbs 31 to see some of the things a virtuos woman does for the maid.

Point dey there. But the matter we dey yarn be say, help madam as much as possible especially if she's appreciative. Shebi she's your love and baby? You sure would love to make life easy for her🤷‍♂️