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When she move them to her grandparents place, I was able to talk to the kids on e and ever since then, they stop picking my calls and had to stop and waited until when my ex comes back from her course so I can face her directly. I requested for the address of where my inlaws stays now cos they move to a new location and didn't get to visit them before I separated with my wife. There was no way I could go pick them up cos I don't know the address location and when I requested for it, they stop picking my calls. So how are all these my fault has you all have labelled me the bad one here.i called them again yesterday and they didn't pick my calls. Even my ex blocked me and my mom aswell and couldn't reach her. It was one of her number I got to reach her. So if you all blame me, you all don't know the kind of demon am dealing with as an ex wife

descarado:
So since June, you never ring your wife to know how the kids are doing?
Who do you this thing?

All I see is a very self entitled man.

Wifey is regretting you moved on
She want to usethe kids as bargaining chips yet since she came back, she didn't bother calling you to pay up
And you think she hasn't moved on.


You sounded very jealous. Really jealous, petty and so full of yourself.

We are yet to hear from your so called cheating wife.
And if you are so right, your family would have stood by you but you are giving reasons why your family don't want to get involved yet.
Your kids are with their grandparents abi you think the kids belong to your family only?


You have no case. Your lawyer will ask you to pay up
Since you are a working man, children that age usually stays with mum
And you must provide monthly financial upkeep.
Then you have visiting hours in a week you must adhere to.
That's the simplest of it

Afodot0022:
Your level of stupidity has beclouded your reasoning and exchanging words with you here is a waste of time. I wish all the male in your family and lineage to go through what I went through ok cos it's easier for you to open your mouth and spew dust

Yen yen yen...

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Afodot0022:
When she move them to her grandparents place, I was able to talk to the kids on e and ever since then, they stop picking my calls and had to stop and waited until when my ex comes back from her course so I can face her directly. I requested for the address of where my inlaws stays now cos they move to a new location and didn't get to visit them before I separated with my wife. There was no way I could go pick them up cos I don't know the address location and when I requested for it, they stop picking my calls. So how are all these my fault has you all have labelled me the bad one here.i called them again yesterday and they didn't pick my calls. Even my ex blocked me and my mom aswell and couldn't reach her. It was one of her number I got to reach her. So if you all blame me, you all don't know the kind of demon am dealing with as an ex wife

You don’t have to keep writing back and forth responding to these women. Most of them are broken and would always blame the man for anything. You should have known better.

I do not support divorce except due to infidelity, and since infidelity is the case here you are good. Get a good lawyer and go get your kids back. I think I have read your story before but been a while and can’t remember, but I know your wife was no good.

You both can do co-parenting, or any of y’all can take custody.

If she refuses you access, then by all means sue her.

Regarding taking her back, you should do what your mind tells you, but personally I would not not accept her back, so i can’t tell you what to do make God no vex for me.

Peace.

LilMissFavvy:
You think you can take care of two young daughters as a single man? No, you cannot. They are better off staying with Grandpa/wife.
Your ex wife informed you about the kids whereabouts after she had taken them to Grandpa's house, so what? She at least informed you. Then you stopped paying school fees/feeding, you thought they will beg you, but grandpa stood up and took responsibility, now you are back complaining. Grandpa told you to return all expenses before he will release the kids to you or mother, yet you are still here arguing. Even if Grandpa says you should pay 2million, then be ready to cough out that amount, you can never win the case in court because you stopped paying for their upkeep.

Common sense far from this one. It's just that op is responsible. Jam irresponsible man,then tell him this rubbish. Infact una for don go dey send people to beg him, because he will make the grandpa bp high..

You took his kids to a place without his consent and you want him to keep paying bills? Blike say you high..

Afodot0022:
Pls just shot the hell up. You don't know what transpires but you already start judging. I don't blame you, it's either you are a single mother that is pained and using that to get back at me. You women believe you can always behave stupidly and get away with it. Someone took my kids to where I didnt approved. You didn't read the part I said I was taking responsibility of them before this situation. Pls just leave emotion and think logically. If she wants to have the kids, let her have them. Na she go suffer am

the fact s that some woman are very stupid #Aje#....this thing also happen to me, my daughter s with my baby mama and my baby mama s with her parent, several times I av visited them in Lagos because I base in Abuja, I av been telling my baby mama to come to Abuja and visit me so that we can even start afresh study each other more and do the necessary thing, but to no avail, the funniest part s that I do pay my daughter school fees and still give her some Change for the baby upkeep, but the funniest part s the anytime I tell my baby mama to give my daughter phone so that I can even speak to her walahi this girl will just be given me different excuse, she doesn't allow me to speak to my daughter unless if I call the grandmother, and this girl only call me when she want to ask for the baby school fees, but the fact now s that I want to even stop sending her any Money, because I think she s proving she s doin everything alone in the face of my daughter and her family.

Are you interested in being the primary parent? That’s an option you can explore. She can leave the kids with you (as soon as you settle what the old man spent) and take the kids since they are now too much for her to handle full time.

Smilleydr:
the fact s that some woman are very stupid #Aje#....this thing also happen to me, my daughter s with my baby mama and my baby mama s with her parent, several times I av visited them in Lagos because I base in Abuja, I av been telling my baby mama to come to Abuja and visit me so that we can even start afresh study each other more and do the necessary thing, but to no avail, the funniest part s that I do pay my daughter school fees and still give her some Change for the baby upkeep, but the funniest part s the anytime I tell my baby mama to give my daughter phone so that I can even speak to her walahi this girl will just be given me different excuse, she doesn't allow me to speak to my daughter unless if I call the grandmother, and this girl only call me when she want to ask for the baby school fees, but the fact now s that I want to even stop sending her any Money, because I think she s proving she s doin everything alone in the face of my daughter and her family.

Since you care so much about your daughter, take full custody of her. Put your money where your mouth is.

You want to study someone that you already have a baby with? Shouldn't you have done that before having a child with her? Why else should she call you aside asking for her the baby's school fees? Are you her husband?

BigYash:
Common sense far from this one. It's just that op is responsible. Jam irresponsible man,then tell him this rubbish. Infact una for don go dey send people to beg him, because he will make the grandpa bp high..

You took his kids to a place without his consent and you want him to keep paying bills? Blike say you high..

That place is their grandparents house and she has every right to take them there. Do the kids only belong to him?

Deadbeats!!!

1Sharon:
That place is their grandparents house and she has every right to take them there. Do the kids only belong to him?

Them the so called grandpa should not complain of the money he spent on the kids,since the kids doesn't belong to him alone. The so called grandpa telling him to pay for taking care of his grandkids show the kind of greedy and stupid home or family op married from. Make una dey run deep check before una marry ,una go say no. See the home of devils you married from now.. I pray your kids doesn't end up with the kind of mind their grandpa and mother possess.

Esthered:
This OP sef. Are you sure you wouldn't punish these girls due to your bitterness if they offend you when you keep them?

You don't love them as you try to claim.

They only love the kids for as long as they love the mother. That is why a man can abandon his biological kids, fall in love with another woman with kids and take care of them.

When women understand this, they will know to have as much as they can handle if push comes to shove, because once they are scorned, they will PUNISH YOU WITH THOSE KIDS.

This OP has been parading his young ex-virgin gf. He was convinced it would be easy for him to move on as a MALE divorcee. It obviously didn't work out as his young gf started to show him shege. Now he is in pains and trying to wizard-hunt his ex-wife. I love that she is applying pressure on his ego.

Look at him running mouth. Someone that entered a relationship in 2 weeks just because he couldn't keep up with his basic house chores. Yet he is raising the roof over his ex-wife needing help. I thought he claimed he is buoyant? GenZs never show am shege. Na just Round 1 be this. When they are done with him, he would beg his supposed cheating ex-wife. 😂

BigYash:
Them the so called grandpa should not complain of the money he spent on the kids,since the kids doesn't belong to him alone. The so called grandpa telling him to pay for taking care of his grandkids show the kind of greedy and stupid home or family op married from. Make una dey run deep check before una marry ,una go say no. See the home of devils you married from now.. I pray your kids doesn't end up with the kind of mind their grandpa and mother possess.

The grandad can assist to take care of his grandkids, but it's not his primary duty, don't be disingenuous.

This. Your kids are your kids. Don’t bank on any man doing his part when the going goes sour.

That’s why BM in America cry about child support they’re made to pay. They hate the idea of financially supporting their kids if they are no longer sleeping with the mom. The level of love they have for their kids is often directly tied to how much they love the mom. Everything is transactional for them. If they can’t get anything from the mom why should they support the kids?

God forbid they see her moving on. Then the school fees they paid for their children is what you must be using to shine. SMH

pocohantas:
They only love the kids for as much as they love the mother. That is why a man can abandon his biological kids, fall in love with another woman with kids and take care of them.

When women understand this, they will know to have as much as they can handle if push comes to shove.

pocohantas:
They only love the kids for as much as they love the mother. That is why a man can abandon his biological kids, fall in love with another woman with kids and take care of them.

When women understand this, they will know to have as much as they can handle if push comes to shove.

This OP has been parading his young ex-virgin gf. He was convinced it would be easy for him to move on as a MALE divorcee. It obviously didn't work out as his young gf started to show him shege. Now he is in pains and trying to wizard-hunt his ex-wife. I love that she is applying pressure on his ego.

Look at him running mouth. Someone that entered a relationship in 2 weeks just because he couldn't keep up with his basic house chores. Yet he is raising the roof over his ex-wife needing help. I thought he claimed he is buoyant? GenZs never show am shege. Na just Round 1 be this. When they are done with him, he would beg his supposed cheating ex-wife. 😂

Aunty Poco came to a fist fight with a 🔫
I hope he does a self evaluation and work on his person.

BigYash:
Them the so called grandpa should not complain of the money he spent on the kids,since the kids doesn't belong to him alone. The so called grandpa telling him to pay for taking care of his grandkids show the kind of greedy and stupid home or family op married from. Make una dey run deep check before una marry ,una go say no. See the home of devils you married from now.. I pray your kids doesn't end up with the kind of mind their grandpa and mother possess.

The dad is going to repay the granddad financially. However, the physical, mental and emotional expenses he paid in keeping those kids safe, fed, housed and healthy can’t be monetarily quantified. Nor am I sure he will even ask for money for his effort. They’re his grandchildren and he understands that. But dad has to reimburse him the financial expenses.

cococandy:
This. Your kids are your kids. Don’t bank on any man doing his part when the going goes sour.

That’s why BM in America cry about child support they’re made to pay. They hate the idea of financially supporting their kids if they are no longer sleeping with the mom. The level of love they have for their kids is often directly tied to how much they love the mom. Everything is transactional for them. If they can’t get anything from the mom why should they support the kids?

God forbid they see her moving on. Then the school fees they paid for their children is what you must be using to shine. SMH

Gbam! No matter how you explain CHILD SUPPORT to them, they INTENTIONALLY refuse to get it. All because they have no access to the mum. Even primary custody, when they fight for the kids, it is to PUNISH the mum. This OP intended fighting for custody - go check his threads. He clearly stated he would handover the upbringing to his mum and sister. It is right there in his past thread! It is always one woman or the other. He can't do it alone either. Yet they open mouth waaa to ask what women bring to the table.

Esthered:
Aunty Poco came to a fist fight with a 🔫
I hope he does a self evaluation and work on his person.

He is a regular na.
Shebi I warned him then. He said he doesn't want opinion of feminist.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@bold, 💯
I know him. At least I remember him now that I went through his other threads. Single man wey be say his few clothes and dishes are piling up in a house he’s living in alone na that one wan take care of small children?

If not for moms’ hearts and fear of seeing your children go through difficulty at the hands of relatives, I really think all divorced moms should be leaving their kids for the dads. That way we’ll stop listening to them complaining about financially providing for the kids.

pocohantas:
Gbam! No matter how you explain CHILD SUPPORT to them, they INTENTIONALLY refuse to get it. All because they have no access to the mum. Even primary custody, when they fight for the kids, it is to PUNISH the mum . This OP intended fighting for custody - go check his threads. He clearly stated he would handover the upbringing to his mum and sister. It is right there in his past thread! It is always one woman or the other. He can't do it alone either. Yet they open mouth waaa to claim ask what women bring to the table.

pocohantas:
He is a regular na.
Shebi I warned him then. He said he doesn't want opinion of feminist.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

You can imagine who's at loss and seeking for help now.
🥲

She left my place almost two years now and have been taking responsibility of those kids since then, her family members all together are one useless and irresponsible family and they have been the one infiltrating the marriage and been that she is stupid and dut,she listen to all what they tell her, the disrespect has been too much. How will you take my kids to your father's place without informing me or taking my consent for kids we both had together and not that am not responsible for them, it shows her father has say over my own kids than me their biological father, so if that's the case let him do what father's are meant to do by taking responsibility. Could you imagine they block me and my family members and couldn't reach them, they refuse to give me address of their location, so how do you expect me to take responsibility for kids I can't talk to or see. You all should be reasonable and understand better

Neptunium:
You love them and that's why you stopped sending money for their upkeep and school fees. That's love to you? You're the definition of all talk, choo choo choo, but one sense you don't make. Love na action verb, last I checked. You should never punish your kids because of whatever's happening between you and your ex-wife.

1Sharon:
Since you care so much about your daughter, take full custody of her. Put your money where your mouth is.

You want to study someone that you already have a baby with? Shouldn't you have done that before having a child with her? Why else should she call you aside asking for her the baby's school fees? Are you her husband?

you are right though but my pain s just for her not allowing me speak with my daughter.

Afodot0022:
Her family contributed to the breakdown of the marriage due to many interference which she caused.

My reference is to your own family and hers. I suggest you get good heads in yours for guidance. Sincerely, wise elders barely go wrong.

1Sharon:
The grandad can assist to take care of his grandkids, but it's not his primary duty, don't be disingenuous.

No need going back and forth on this issue. You said the children doesn't belong to their dad alone,so their grandpa owns them too from what you said. Their mom can as well pay her dad for taking care of their kids,since the kids are not for op alone,like you said.. Op is more like a pussy, that's why all these bulshit is happening. Walai

Op man up and act like one,you will see table turning. Your in-laws will come begging.

pocohantas:
Gbam! No matter how you explain CHILD SUPPORT to them, they INTENTIONALLY refuse to get it. All because they have no access to the mum. Even primary custody, when they fight for the kids, it is to PUNISH the mum. This OP intended fighting for custody - go check his threads. He clearly stated he would handover the upbringing to his mum and sister. It is right there in his past thread! It is always one woman or the other. He can't do it alone either. Yet they open mouth waaa to ask what women bring to the table.

Oh, it didn't just start.
Was so missed off with his entitlement mentality that I didn't bother checking his other threads.

cococandy:
@bold, 💯
I know him. At least I remember him now that I went through his other threads. Single man wey be say his few clothes and dishes are piling up in a house he’s living in alone na that one wan take care of small children?

If not for moms’ hearts and fear of seeing your children go through difficulty at the hands of relatives, I really think all divorced moms should be leaving their kids for the dads. That way we’ll stop listening to them complaining about financially providing for the kids.

If it's possible, mums should have been doing that.

Smilleydr:
you are right though but my pain s just for her not allowing me speak with my daughter.

You no get s e n s e, that is why that family is using your head. And you deserve every bulshit they r making you go through.. Very soon your daughter go dey answer their family name . Ozuor.

Sorry please,this message is actually for op..

Op read this my comment,it's for you..

cococandy:
@bold, 💯
I know him. At least I remember him now that I went through his other threads. Single man wey be say his few clothes and dishes are piling up in a house he’s living in alone na that one wan take care of small children?

If not for moms’ hearts and fear of seeing your children go through difficulty at the hands of relatives, I really think all divorced moms should be leaving their kids for the dads. That way we’ll stop listening to them complaining about financially providing for the kids.

They will drop them with their female relatives and that’s it. Any man who complains about taking care of their kids, financially or otherwise, doesn’t deserve to be called dad.

El O El.

descarado:
If it's possible, mums should have been doing that.

Could you leave your kids with this kind of a person?

You are deluded. Am not at loss and will never be, am a man and if I want kids now, I will get another. She is the one that will loss cos with all her stress on those kids, when they grow older, they will look for their father and by then, the truth will be waiting for them, it will be all her loss. Am doing all these cos am a responsible man and want to do what am expected to do as a father to my kids. Most men won't even bothered about them and will move on, but am doing this cos I want to do the right thing. With what she did, it's enough reason for me to abandon those kids and move on but despite that, am still looking back and not considering her stupidity.

Esthered:
You can imagine who's at loss and seeking for help now.
🥲

https://www.nairaland.com/afodot0022/topics

dunno whether man is a dedicated and committed troll as this goes back to 2021

the whole saga is just sad.