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I and my wife, members of Dominion City Church, Port Harcourt, Rivers State... We got married 2018... We agreed to avoid sex and other sexual activities until we get married properly ( Court, Traditional and White).
By the grace of God, we kept ourselves away from sex till we got wedded in church after our court wedding and traditional.
If I could remember correctly, we were asked to kiss during the court wedding Infront our guest...
Please note: the court wedding was 2days before the white wedding... We finally had our first sex on our wedding night
... October 6th this year was our 6th Anniversary...

We did it by the grace of God... You can also do it... #SinglesCorner #RhemaboticsArchive

Please those Married Couples that had similar experiences please drop your comment so that prospective couples can get encouraged... #NOSEXBEFOREMARRIAGE... It's actually possible by the grace of God

We were actually tempted to kiss at some point but God helped us

It is possible. God helped us. No regrets!

Did you or your wife get it elsewhere before marriage?

Homeboiy:
Did you or your wife get it elsewhere before marriage?

Great question!

In most cases, people in this kind of arrangement get it elsewhere even to the point of sex. If they are both virgins, then I salute them!!

Simping taken to another level

I .am not wishing please hide my Id for anyone kiss before marriage or kiss after marriage does not determine the success of marriage. It worked for you ,that's fine others will do what works for them as well

berepiki:
✓ I and my wife, members of Dominion City Church, Port Harcourt, Rivers State... We got married 2018... We agreed to avoid sex and other sexual activities until we get married properly ( Court, Traditional and White).
By the grace of God, we kept ourselves away from sex till we got wedded in church after our court wedding and traditional.
If I could remember correctly, we were asked to kiss during the court wedding Infront our guest...
Please note: the court wedding was 2days before the white wedding... We finally had our first sex on our wedding night
... October 6th this year was our 6th Anniversary...

We did it by the grace of God... You can also do it... #SinglesCorner #RhemaboticsArchive

All this is nonsense actually since it does not matter at the end of the day whether you kissed or not, bad marriage and divorce can happen to any married couple— there is no formulae to these things. And none of the over 4000 Deities worshipped by people around the world —including your very own —seems interested in bringing that trend to an end because irrespective of your religion or belief, the chances of hitting it bad in marriage are the same.

malaria:
I .am not wishing please hide my Id for anyone kiss before marriage or kiss after marriage does not determine the success of marriage. It worked for you ,that's fine others will do what works for them as well

U are an adult .

Thanks for this statement ☺️

Is she a virgin just asking

Quick question
Did you meet her untouched?

Whose idea
Yours or hers?

Reply sir
Don't shy away

KingRSHD2:
U are an adult .

Thanks for this statement ☺️

I appreciate dear

berepiki:
I and my wife, members of Dominion City Church, Port Harcourt, Rivers State... We got married 2018... We agreed to avoid sex and other sexual activities until we get married properly ( Court, Traditional and White).
By the grace of God, we kept ourselves away from sex till we got wedded in church after our court wedding and traditional.
If I could remember correctly, we were asked to kiss during the court wedding Infront our guest...
Please note: the court wedding was 2days before the white wedding... We finally had our first sex on our wedding night
... October 6th this year was our 6th Anniversary...

We did it by the grace of God... You can also do it... #SinglesCorner #RhemaboticsArchive

How long was the dating period?

Dtruthspeaker:
How long was the dating period?

We were in the same Choir for 5years but never knew we would get married...Got interested in her December 2017, got married October 2018 ( Dated for only 10months)...

Moral lesson: Dating for too long will always lead singles to having sex before marriage...

What is bad is bad... Premarital sex is bad and should be discouraged

If opening this thread can motivate ONE single to say NO to premarital sex then it's fulfilling...

Premarital sex is a faulty foundation for any marriage... Most Marriages survive by the mercies of God...

Ideally, every Christian marriage should have a PURE foundation...

No single should build a marriage on an immoral foundation

dhiqson:
Quick question
Did you meet her untouched?

Whose idea
Yours or hers?

Reply sir
Don't shy away

We weren't virgins but we chose to build our marriage on a PURE foundation......

Abee79:
It is possible. God helped us. No regrets!

Well done... Thanks for coming out to prove it's possible for both virgins and non-virgins...

Though avoiding premarital sex doesn't determine a successful marriage but it sets every marriage on the right path...THE FOUNDATION OF EVERYTHING IS VITAL

This thread will surely reset and redirect the brains of so many singles here....

The truth is, even though you are not a virgin, try all you can to avoid sex with your wife to be ...

I will like to answer a question in someone's heart... "What if we have already had sex and about to get married?... How do we correct this error?... How do we lay the RIGHT foundation moving forward without going separate ways?

MY 2-CENTS
1) Suspend every sexual activity even kissing and long hugging till the wedding night...
2) For those co-habiting ( Staying together before wedding night), please one person should leave the house and move to somewhere else and stay till the wedding night.
3) Finally both of you should beg for forgiveness and also use the blood of Jesus for total cleansing...

After doing all these, go ahead and marry... your marriage will be seen as pure in the eyes of God... though natural men will argue this mystery.... the truth is, a non-virgin CAN BE a VIRGIN again if genuine repentance and turning away can take place...very controversial but spiritually true

berepiki:
■ If opening this thread can motivate ONE single to say NO to premarital sex then it's fulfilling... Premarital sex is a faulty foundation for any marriage...
■ Most Marriages survive by the mercies of God...
■ Ideally, every Christian marriage should have a PURE foundation... No single should build a marriage on an immoral foundation

1. But there is no evidence to back up this claim you continue to make though so why push an idea that has no backing in reality? For what particular reason is there for you to do so?

2. Are you insinuating that a marriage between a former gigolo and a former prostitute survives the test of time, it is all by the mercies of God, and that when a marriage between a virgin and a virgin survives it is also to the mercies of God?

3. Many of your PURE-foundation Christian marriages also end up in divorce — many others in one spouse battering the other to death, and ending up in jail as a result. So, why attack the building of marriages on what you consider an immoral foundation when even those who supposedly built theirs on your idea of moral foundation are likely to end up no different from those who never did?

berepiki:
■ I will like to answer a question in someone's heart... "What if we have already had sex and about to get married?... How do we correct this error?... How do we lay the RIGHT foundation moving forward without going separate ways?
■ MY 2-CENTS
1) Suspend every sexual activity even kissing and long hugging till the wedding night...
2) For those co-habiting ( Staying together before wedding night), please one person should leave the house and move to somewhere else and stay till the wedding night.
3) Finally both of you should beg for forgiveness and also use the blood of Jesus for total cleansing...
■ After doing all these, go ahead and marry... your marriage will be seen as pure in the eyes of God... though natural men will argue this mystery.... the truth is, a non-virgin CAN BE a VIRGIN again if genuine repentance and turning away can take place...very controversial but spiritually true

1. How do they correct what and for what purpose? Why is it an error to have sex before marriage when no evidence not having sex before marriage guarantees one a good marriage or anything for that matter?

2. Does any of these suggestions of yours provide a guarantee that none of the partners will go on to cheat or even abandon the marriage altogether after the wedding night and maybe even after the kids? Come on!

3. Wait a second... you said these suggestions were of your own opinions.... So, how in the world did you come then to conclude that by following your very own opinion, these people will be justified by God? Are you confessing then to us that you are indeed the God judging these things after all— your own opinions make up the law here for marriage and for all others who heed your words?

In other words, if I am sex starved, but don't want to be perceived as promiscuous, I might just get married so I can be having sex with my partner everyday without feeling guilty. Yawns...

Married people should also be chastised for engaging in pleasurable sex. Only meet with your partner when you are ready to procreate. I said what I said, come and beat me.

Kobojunkie:
1. How do they correct what and for what purpose? Why is it an error to have sex before marriage when no evidence not having sex before marriage guarantees one a good marriage or anything for that matter?

2. Does any of these suggestions of yours provide a guarantee that none of the partners will go on to cheat or even abandon the marriage altogether after the wedding night and maybe even after the kids? Come on!

3. Wait a second... you said these suggestions were of your own opinions.... So, how in the world did you come then to conclude that by following your very own opinion, these people will be justified by God? Are you confessing then to us that you are indeed the God judging these things after all— your own opinions make up the law here for marriage and for all others who heed your words?

Obviously you need answers... Should your daughter have sex before her wedding night?
Don't rush to answer this question... Remember: Every man becomes SANE about sex when it has to do with his daughter or blood sister and a man...What dignity does sex bring before marriage?... You did it doesn't make it right... Remember, there are young people reading these comments... Let posterity judge us all.

Can you boldly say before your daughter that premarital sex is not bad? YOU KNOW YOU CAN NOT...so why mislead people here...

I've come to discover that MOST men become SEXUALLY SANE when they get married and start giving birth...If you have Children, especially femaile children, trust me, you will start thinking differently.

The final outcome of a marriage is determined by a combination of so many other factors...

PLEASE NOTE:
Premarital sex is IMMORAL to GOD and totally disrespectful to the parents of the bride... EVERY MARRIAGE should be built on a PURE Foundation as a sign of HONOR to God, DIGNITY of our spouse and REGARD for parents. Even though it doesn't guarantee a lasting marriage.

berepiki:
We are were in the same Choir for 5years but never knew we would get married...Got interested in her December 2017, got married October 2018 ( Dated for only 10months)...

Moral lesson: Dating for too long will always lead singers to having sex before marriage...

What is bad is bad... Premarital sex is bad and should be discouraged

Thought so.

You could do it because your dating period was short.

So what would you then say for mine which started from Yr2 in Uni and whom from day 1 we both knew we were made for each other and after that 9yrs of great fears, tears and ceaseless prayers for i had nothing, yet, no sex, no kissing and yet we were virgins? You can shout now.

berepiki:
■ Obviously you need answers... Should your daughter have sex before her wedding night?
Don't rush to answer this question... Remember: Every man becomes SANE about sex when it has to do with his daughter or blood sister and a man
■ ...What dignity does sex before marriage bring... You did it doesn't make it right... Remember, there are young people reading these comments... Let posterity judge us all.
■ Can you boldly say before your daughter that premarital sex is not bad?
■ The final outcome of a marriage is determined by a combination of so many other factors...
■ PLEASE NOTE: Premarital is IMMORAL to GOD
■ and totally disrespectful to the parents of the bride...
■ EVERY MARRIAGE should be built on a PURE Foundation as a sign of HONOR to God, DIGNITY of our spouse and REGARD for parents. Even though it doesn't guarantee a lasting marriage.

1. Let me get this straight! This is all about controlling access to your daughter's pussy than anything else? 🤔

2. But where is the dignity —or what is the value to this dignity — you attribute to no sex before marriage? What does one tangibly gain from that practice?

There is sexual knowledge and pleasure to be gained before marriage by engaging in sexual intercourse before marriage. Humans are sensual beings and sexual knowledge and pleasure are ultimately what most gain from sexual intercourse whether in or outside of marriage. So, what is there to gain from foregoing that value until after marriage?

3. I have no drive or desire to control my daughter's pussy like you would think. I would rather equip such a child with the knowledge and wisdom necessary to decide at the right time for herself— without regret.

4. That statement makes no sense at all since there is no such thing as an outcome of a marriage. Marriage is a relationship between humans and human relationships can end in so many different ways including in the grave for some.

5. Premarital sex is immoral to which God? Where did this God say this to you?

6. You instead mean it is totally disrespectful to parents who view their kids pussies as theirs to monitor, right? By the way, not all parents feel it is their place to control their children's ability to have sex as you do. So, why make such sweeping statements regarding parents? Are you somehow trying to place yourself near to this God where your children are or something?

7. Sign to which God? The same Deities that allow even the marriages set up on your PURE-Foundation to scatter terribly at the end of the day? I mean what is the purpose of this PURE-Foundation nonsense you keep spewing which clearly serves no value to those who engage in it at the end of the day? It seems this God of yours is only concerned with his ego since the sacrifice you have people making by way of your PURE-Foundation theory amounts to nothing in the end for most— yes, divorce/separation/abandonment rates are higher than 50% even among your godly kind.

We4all:
In other words, if I am sex starved, but don't want to be perceived as promiscuous, I might just get married so I can be having sex with my partner everyday without feeling guilty. Yawns...

Married people should also be chastised for engaging in pleasurable sex. Only meet with your partner when you are ready to procreate. I said what I said, come and beat me.

I beat you now. You are being silly.and unreasonable.

Already, the sparks arising out from meeting your future spouse already shows that marriage is about joy and happiness. So the couple enjoying the pleasure they give each other in furtherance of their earlier relationship connection is definitely not out of place.

Dtruthspeaker:
Thought so.

You could do it because your dating back period was short.

So what would you then say for mine which started from Yr2 in Uni and whom from day 1 we both knew we were made for each other and after that 9yrs of great fears, tears and ceaseless prayers for i had nothing, yet, no sex, no kissing and yet we were virgins? You can shout now.

Laying a SOLID foundation doesn't mean you should build nonsense on it... THE Marriage BUILDING requires serious work... If you build it anyhow it will still crash even with the best foundation...

I'm here to tackle the foundation of marriage and not the building of a successful marriage...

IT'S MY ERNEST DESIRE to see young singles get it right from DAY 1... Right from the foundation...

You stayed pure and things didn't turn out right does not make PURITY bad... There is a reward for THOSE THAT WAIT till the wedding night... Who wants to know the reward?

Kobojunkie:
1. Let me get this straight! This is all about controlling access to your daughter's pussy than anything else? 🤔

2. But where is the dignity —or what is the value to this dignity — you attribute to no sex before marriage? What does one tangibly gain from that practice?

There is sexual knowledge and pleasure to be gained before marriage by engaging in sexual intercourse before marriage. Humans are sensual beings and sexual knowledge and pleasure are ultimately what most gain from sexual intercourse whether in or outside of marriage. So, what is there to gain from foregoing that value until after marriage?

3. I have no drive or desire to control my daughter's pussy like you would think. I would rather equip such a child with the knowledge and wisdom necessary to decide at the right time for herself— without regret.

4. That statement makes no sense at all since there is no such thing as an outcome of a marriage. Marriage is a relationship between humans and human relationships can end in so many different ways including in the grave for some.

5. Premarital sex is immoral to which God? Where did this God say this to you?

6. You instead mean it is totally disrespectful to parents who view their kids pussies as theirs to monitor, right? By the way, not all parents feel it is their place to control their children's ability to have sex as you do. So, why make such sweeping statements regarding parents? Are you somehow trying to place yourself near to this God where your children are or something?

7. Sign to which God? The same Deities that allow even the marriages set up on your PURE-Foundation to scatter terribly at the end of the day? I mean what is the purpose of this PURE-Foundation nonsense you keep spewing which clearly serves no value to those who engage in it at the end of the day? It seems this God of yours is only concerned with his ego since the sacrifice you have people making by way of your PURE-Foundation theory amounts to nothing in the end for most— yes, divorce/separation/abandonment rates are higher than 50% even among your godly kind.

Hope you are not divorced? You sound pained and very bitter...

Secondly, you sound GODLESS... You don't believe in Jesus? You don't believe in God? TRUST me you are in a hopeless situation right now... Your Eternity destiny is at stake... Repent now, accept Jesus Christ as your LORD and SAVIOR now before it's too late....

Sounding too NATURAL makes you a MERE MAN... Step up to the supernatural realm... Until then, your frequency will be FAR BELOW where I operate...

God is doing a work in this thread don't allow yourself to be used by the Devil... It will be too dangerous for you to stand on the way when God is moving... Spiritually speaking, this might cost you a lot...be warned

Instead of Spoiling God's work here, just move to another thread... Your resistance won't be men but GOD... I'm too small... But MY GOD can handle you in 1second...AFTER TODAY YOU WILL REALIZE THAT GOD EXIST and HE RULES IN THE AFFAIRS OF MEN...

REPENT NOW and escape GOD'S WRATH...LIFE IS MORE SPIRITUAL than physical...NO MORE NEGATIVE comment from you if you are wise... REMEMBER: young people are here and they MUST be on the right path.

berepiki:
Laying a SOLID foundation doesn't mean you should build nonsense on it... THE Marriage BUILDING requires serious work... If you build it anyhow it will still crash even with the best foundation...

I'm here to tackle the foundation of marriage and not the building of a successful marriage...

IT'S MY ERNEST DESIRE to see young singles get it right from DAY 1... Right from the foundation...

You stayed pure and things didn't turn out right does not make PURITY bad... There is a reward for THOSE THAT WAIT till the wedding night... Who wants to know the reward?

Easy man. i know you have good intentions but take it easy man. You are being overconfident.

There is no getting it right from the beginning and there is notihing special about the wedding night.

We slept through our wedding night and even though it took another 3-4weeks, it was still not a big deal.

Marriage is harder than you see and know andI it only gets worse the longer it goes and you are ony 6years in.

Satan lives to see first marriages broken so.he throws in all the worsts.

Thus, from the beginning to the end, people are warring with Satan to keep their marriages and that can not be done without God being part of your marriage at all times.

And this is where virgins have it better because they never defiled themselves, so God is naturally with them. But will God always be with them? That is for them to ensure.

berepiki:
■ Hope you are not divorced? You sound pained and very bitter...
■ Secondly, you sound GODLESS... You don't believe in Jesus? You don't believe in God?
■ TRUST me you are in a hopeless situation right now...
■ Your Eternity destiny is at stake...
■ Repent now, accept Jesus Christ as your LORD and SAVIOR now before it's too late....
■ Sounding too NATURAL makes you MERE MAN... D

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Sorry to disappoint you but I am not a divorcee. And no, I don't believe divorce is evil or against some Deity as you pretend as what instead seems to be the case is that it is quite part and parcel of the human plan.

2. Actually, you do not believe or know Jesus Christ who made it abundantly clear that marriage was not part of the plan in His Kingdom of God.

3. How can my situation be hopeless when you are instead the one here claiming you believe in a God you know or have nothing to do with and are even against by your own words ?

4. Eternity of what? According to Jesus Christ, it is only those Israelites who adopt Him as their God that would obtain Eternity — no eternity for those who don't become born again. So how can my eternity be at stake if according to you, I don't believe in Jesus Christ? Are you alright at all?

5. According to Jesus Christ, only those who are of the bloodline of Jacob are qualified to accept Him as their Savior. So, are you OK at all?

6. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Let me guess... you are not yourself a mere man yet your existence revolves around and is so much concerned with that which applies only to mere men... sexual pleasures and desires? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I believe the distractions are over... So who wants to know the REWARD of WAITING TILL THE WEDDING NIGHT? If I can get 10 persons type YES ME then I will respond immediately

berepiki:
I believe the distractions are over... So who wants to know the REWARD of WAITING TILL THE WEDDING NIGHT? If I can get 10 persons type YES ME then I will respond immediately

That is what I have been asking all this while that you have yet to answer with evidence beyond those created of your private delusions.