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My son is 5 years old in primary 1, a very brilliant boy throughout his pre- nursery and nursery classes. The issue started when he was promoted to primary 1, it was then that his new teacher started complaining about his inability to be active in class or catch up with other kids. She claim that the boy didn't read or write whenever she instructed him to do so. Me and his mum personally took it upon ourselves at home, and the boy read and write everything we ask him to do very excellently. We took the matter to the proprietress of the school who later ďisçovered he can actually ŕead òŕ write.

Just last week, his teachers start complaining again that the boy urinating on his body, something his little brother of 2 years old cannot do. This is the same boy that have been urinating by himself before he clock 2 years. They complain he doesn't respond to instructions or be active in class. The proprietress called this morning that they need to return the boy to Nursery class as it seem that the work load is too much for him to manage.

I was so surprise to hear this because he didn't seem having this issue whenever his mum is teaching him at home. And to my utmost surprise, he has been return to the nursery class when his mum went their to pick him this evening.

Actually, I don't have problem with him returning to Nursery class but my major concern is if the boy is justifiably denied from being with his colleagues or not. I am so confused right now, I am even contemplating of withdrawing him from that school by the end of this session. Let me also add the fact that he always feel sad and unhappy whenever he is going to school. This same issue started during holiday lesson in his new class.

I want to ask experience teachers or parents here how they manage such an issue. I don't want my boy to be unjustifiable denied his progress. My question is that, should I allow the school to take their position on him or I should simply withdraw him from that school since I know very well he can actually do what they claim he could not do.

Mod please help me push this post to where I will gain alot of responses. Thank you.

Is his present class teacher, same teacher that taught him during holiday lesson in his new class?.

While he was in the Nursery classes, was he exhibiting sadness whenever he was going to school?

No school administrator has the right to demote a child from a class without the engagement of the parents or guardians.

What does your son say about the teacher and the school? Have you asked him why he doesn’t respond to the teacher‘s instructions?

The urinating part would have me alarmed. Is he scared of something/somebody?

Something is scaring your boy from that school. For me any day I want to take me child to school and that child complain to me on 3 times that she doesn't want to go to that school again. I will just change her school. Something is wrong somewhere, I will advise you change his school.

HMmm

Mindlog:
Is his present class teacher, same teacher that taught him during holiday lesson in his new class?.

While he was in the Nursery classes, was he exhibiting sadness whenever he was going to school?

No school administrator has the right to demote a child from a class without the engagement of the parents or guardians.

Yes, she is the same teacher.

No, he doesn't, except once in a while when his mum force him to wear shoes he doesn't like.

She actually discussed it with us this morning, but not totally agree with them, and she promised to watch him for one more week. I wonder how she quickly took the decision today.

Maeve7:
What does your son say about the teacher and the school? Have you asked him why he doesn’t respond to the teacher‘s instructions?

The urinating part would have me alarmed. Is he scared of something/somebody?

According to his mum, he doesn't say anything about his teacher.

The urinating part is what made be believes something is wrong somewhere in his class. What I notice about my little boy is that, he use to felt so bad and withdrawal whenever you scream at him.

modernWays:
According to his mum, he doesn't say anything about his teacher.

The urinating part is what made be believes something is wrong somewhere in his class. What I notice about my little boy is that, he use to felt so bad and withdrawal whenever you scream at him.

Did you talk to him? If not, do it and do it when he is relaxed. Ask him, how was school? What did you do? Do you like your teacher? Do you understand her when she explains things to you? Do you like your classmates? Who is your friend? Is the teacher nice? Does she scream? What is your favorite subject?

You need to be close to your child and show interest. Many kids don’t know how to express their feelings. We have to help them to know what is going on in their lives and to be able to help them.

Of course he feels bad when someone screams. Nobody likes it, whether a child or adult.

You're very stupid, change your child from that school. Don't be a SIMP

Baronthecelebri:
You're very stupid, change your child from that school. Don't be a SIMP

If you have nothing intelligent to say, just keep quiet.

Baronthecelebri:
You're very stupid, change your child from that school. Don't be a SIMP

You're very uncouth, change your mind from how it think up . Don't be a DINGLEBERRY.

modernWays:

According to his mum, he doesn't say anything about his teacher.

The urinating part is what made be believes something is wrong somewhere in his class. What I notice about my little boy is that, he use to felt so bad and withdrawal whenever you scream at him.

Have a floor time with him, sit on the floor with him and get him plain white sheets of paper and a complete set of crayons. Encourage him to draw his class teacher in one plain sheet, he can use as much paper he wants if he feels he is not capturing what he has in mind, correctly.

Get him to draw each of his classmates he can remember on each plain sheet (help him write their names on each sheet).

Those shapes and colours in the drawings will tell stories, he can not verbalize. That is what parents hugely pay child therapists to help achieve.

When he has finished the drawings, do let me know.....Don't direct his drawings, let it be self generated.

Asquare84:
Something is scaring your boy from that school. For me any day I want to take me child to school and that child complain to me on 3 times that she doesn't want to go to that school again. I will just change her school. Something is wrong somewhere, I will advise you change his school.

Exactly!

modernWays:
According to his mum, he doesn't say anything about his teacher.

The urinating part is what made be believes something is wrong somewhere in his class. What I notice about my little boy is that, he use to felt so bad and withdrawal whenever you scream at him.

The teacher/students/school is torturing him.

https://www.nairaland.com/8246526/child-not-same-again-when#132539916

https://www.nairaland.com/8207360/father-demands-justice-after-baby#131902812

Have that teacher dealt with. She is sucking out his life and God given glowry and blessings.and now he will be cursed and behave like one who is cursed and he will never be the same.

And these women are so evil that for the rest of his life, he lives in that cursed..

modernWays:
Yes, she is the same teacher.

No, he doesn't, except once in a while when his mum force him to wear shoes he doesn't like.

She actually discussed it with us this morning, but not totally agree with them, and she promised to watch him for one more week. I wonder how she quickly took the decision today.

Your boy is a nice and sensitive child not prone to speaking up.

Withdrawal is his way of responding to the bad things his teacher has been doing to him.

I bet she shouts and beats him unnecessarily, terrorising the poor boy, causing him to shudder and shake thus unable to participate in class.

The school authorities are aware and are covering it up by demoting him which would further mess up your boy.

Withdraw him from that school!

Thanks everyone for your sincere contributions and advises, I really appreciate.

I think I will follow the majority of advises here by withdraw him from that school at the end of this term.

modernWays:
Thanks everyone for your sincere contributions and advises, I really appreciate.

I think I will follow the majority of advises here by withdraw him from that school at the end of this term.

What if he has the same problems in the new school, will you move him again?

Someone or somebody is bullying your son in that school.
I remember my cousin was like this,she wouldn't eat her food in school and was always scared when she was going to school, she lost a lot of weight and wasn't thriving at school, she even shit her pant,something she never does,she was 5.
Turned out her teacher totures her and abuses her because she was bald.

I was pained and immediately I found out,we changed her school.

Fast forward 2years now ,my cousin is one of the best student in her class,she Don turn orobo finish and she won double awards in the new school inter House sport, she loves her studies and doesn't like to miss school again.

Change that school ASAP
Someone is torturing your boy's mental health

modernWays:
My son is 5 years old in primary 1, a very brilliant boy throughout his pre- nursery and nursery classes. The issue started when he was promoted to primary 1, it was then that his new teacher started complaining about his inability to be active in class or catch up with other kids. She claim that the boy didn't read or write whenever she instructed him to do so. Me and his mum personally took it upon ourselves at home, and the boy read and write everything we ask him to do very excellently. We took the matter to the proprietress of the school who later ďisçovered he can actually ŕead òŕ write.

Just last week, his teachers start complaining again that the boy urinating on his body, something his little brother of 2 years old cannot do. This is the same boy that have been urinating by himself before he clock 2 years. They complain he doesn't respond to instructions or be active in class. The proprietress called this morning that they need to return the boy to Nursery class as it seem that the work load is too much for him to manage.

I was so surprise to hear this because he didn't seem having this issue whenever his mum is teaching him at home. And to my utmost surprise, he has been return to the nursery class when his mum went their to pick him this evening.

Actually, I don't have problem with him returning to Nursery class but my major concern is if the boy is justifiably denied from being with his colleagues or not. I am so confused right now, I am even contemplating of withdrawing him from that school by the end of this session. Let me also add the fact that he always feel sad and unhappy whenever he is going to school. This same issue started during holiday lesson in his new class.

I want to ask experience teachers or parents here how they manage such an issue. I don't want my boy to be unjustifiable denied his progress. My question is that, should I allow the school to take their position on him or I should simply withdraw him from that school since I know very well he can actually do what they claim he could not do.

Mod please help me push this post to where I will gain alot of responses. Thank you.

u have studied he flows well with u n others

If the school have another arm for primary 1 probably your boy can try another teacher

What I am saying is if the teacher complaining about him takes primary 1A u can switch your boy to 1B to see if there will b changes n if it seems d same

Change his school

I think something is happening at school.

Talk to your kid, like everyone suggested.

Then ask if the school has CCTv, you'd like to see his class.

Start looking for a new school though

The problem is not with the boy or the school.. But for an intelligent person, I would advise yiu take the boy away from that particular class room.

Or possibly take him away completely from the school.

Mindlog:
Is his present class teacher, same teacher that taught him during holiday lesson in his new class?.

While he was in the Nursery classes, was he exhibiting sadness whenever he was going to school?

No school administrator has the right to demote a child from a class without the engagement of the parents or guardians.

If they have the right to promote, they also have the right to demote if the child can't cope.

Asquare84:
Something is scaring your boy from that school. For me any day I want to take me child to school and that child complain to me on 3 times that she doesn't want to go to that school again. I will just change her school. Something is wrong somewhere, I will advise you change his school.

So, if a child keeps complaining, you will keep changing her school? Tomorrow, if she turns out to become a nuisance, you will be the one to complain.

modernWays:
My son is 5 years old in primary 1, a very brilliant boy throughout his pre- nursery and nursery classes. The issue started when he was promoted to primary 1, it was then that his new teacher started complaining about his inability to be active in class or catch up with other kids. She claim that the boy didn't read or write whenever she instructed him to do so. Me and his mum personally took it upon ourselves at home, and the boy read and write everything we ask him to do very excellently. We took the matter to the proprietress of the school who later ďisçovered he can actually ŕead òŕ write.

Just last week, his teachers start complaining again that the boy urinating on his body, something his little brother of 2 years old cannot do. This is the same boy that have been urinating by himself before he clock 2 years. They complain he doesn't respond to instructions or be active in class. The proprietress called this morning that they need to return the boy to Nursery class as it seem that the work load is too much for him to manage.

I was so surprise to hear this because he didn't seem having this issue whenever his mum is teaching him at home. And to my utmost surprise, he has been return to the nursery class when his mum went their to pick him this evening.

Actually, I don't have problem with him returning to Nursery class but my major concern is if the boy is justifiably denied from being with his colleagues or not. I am so confused right now, I am even contemplating of withdrawing him from that school by the end of this session. Let me also add the fact that he always feel sad and unhappy whenever he is going to school. This same issue started during holiday lesson in his new class.

I want to ask experience teachers or parents here how they manage such an issue. I don't want my boy to be unjustifiable denied his progress. My question is that, should I allow the school to take their position on him or I should simply withdraw him from that school since I know very well he can actually do what they claim he could not do.

Mod please help me push this post to where I will gain alot of responses. Thank you.

On the contrary, you are more bothered that he was demoted than for the reason why he was demoted in the first place. This is because, most parents would prefer their kids to jump classes so they can show off and brag about it.

Your kid is just 5, and should be in pre-primary. It is possible that no one is torturing him like some people are suggesting. If they are, he is old enough to open up.

It is also possible that he feels intimidated by his mates. Allow him to continue in his new class and watch his progress keenly. Perhaps with time, he will catch up.

We4all:
If they have the right to promote, they also have the right to demote if the child can't cope.

No, in this situation.

The boy's case is not that of not having capacity but there are underlying issues as the child is clearly exhibiting anxiety in the classroom as the father clearly stated they said that his son doesn't respond to instructions or be active in class but responsive at home when his mother is teaching.......why the selective mutism?