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Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by marenkurz: 9:10am On Nov 07, 2024
That is why children use diapers. They start by pee/poo in the diaper, then with training, they outgrow it.
I have two kids that are schooling in Germany. Also had their kindergarten in Germany. Even oyinbo kids poo/pee on themselves. What is the problem?

Kobojunkie:
Perfectly okay for a child to pee or poo themselves? What in the world are you people smoking abeg! You say that like children/toddlers like pooing and peeing on themselves. No they do not. 😩😩😩😩
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by wizod(m): 10:41am On Nov 07, 2024
lordm:
Use the rod
Listen to this man, He is wise. Flog the hell out of her and she will adjust
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by Xinjin: 10:46am On Nov 07, 2024
RSAV:
Experienced parents please comment.
My 3 year old daughter, she would be 4 years old in Feb, is sharp and very bright.
It only happened occasionally that she would pee on herself. Usually when engrossed in cartoon.

However, it the last 4 weeks, it has become an everyday occurrence.
She would even poo on herself!

I've talked to her, yet no serious change.
I just had a baby boy few weeks ago. Could this be responsible for the change in my daughter? If yes, how best can it be handled? It's already affecting her in school.
Engage her in outdoor activity, enough of the sedentary lifestyle
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by Zidac: 10:49am On Nov 07, 2024
RSAV:
Experienced parents please comment.
My 3 year old daughter, she would be 4 years old in Feb, is sharp and very bright.
It only happened occasionally that she would pee on herself. Usually when engrossed in cartoon.

However, it the last 4 weeks, it has become an everyday occurrence.
She would even poo on herself!

I've talked to her, yet no serious change.
I just had a baby boy few weeks ago. Could this be responsible for the change in my daughter? If yes, how best can it be handled? It's already affecting her in school.
. Nothing is wrong with your daughter. Just keep guiding her in love without being too hard on her. The same happened to my son who is the same age. I made him understand that it's wrong for him to do that. Right now he's through with it.
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by syntekelite(m): 10:53am On Nov 07, 2024
Psychological trauma is a high cause (85%) of the symptoms you mentioned, you need to use love and care to get her to open up or preferably buy her a doll as a gift and watch what she does to the doll, if she loves the doll and cares for it then she might just be acting up but if she hates the doll,refuses to accept it or destroys it then something is seriously wrong mentally e.g emotional abuse or bullying in school or by neighbours there re other issues she cld be facing that are better left unsaid till you conclude your investigation.
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by Bonjovi13: 11:53am On Nov 07, 2024
ravensckar:
You sound more like KOBOJUNKIE yourself!

Exuding conscientious stupid1ty mixed with crass ignorance. It's even more pertubing that you could type a whole lot of unintelligible epistle just to sound smart.

Firstly, I stand by what I said earlier. It's almost impossible for a 3 year old to remember such traumatic experience when he/she grows up.

"According to most scientists, memories from infancy and early childhood, under the age of two or three, are unlikely to be remembered..."

Source: https://www.sabinorecovery.com/at-what-age-can-a-child-remember-trauma/

Now, to the crux of the matter. I'm 100% sure that you're not a parent yet, hence the reason you could f00lishly think that the presence of a newborn could cause the older sibling to start p00ing or wetting himself/herself. It is preposterous, absurd and not in accordance with common sense.

Yes, older siblings sometimes tend to show reactions when their mum delivers a newborn. Some become overly afraid of the newborn, some tend to become shy, some become unsure of their parents love for them, some get jealous and sometimes beat the newborn. But to react to the extent of p00ing on himself, that's definitely overboard.

It's the CARTON and nothing else!
No amount of infantile tantrums and unrestrained emotional outbursts by a man- child like you, can hide the severe case of mental incapacity that plagues you.

Where in this entire discuss did we talk consider whether a toddler can remember a traumatic experience or event or not?

The issue in contention is that the birth of a new siblings can be quite traumatic for a toddler and toddlers like adults can react differently to emotionally stressful or traumatic experiences.

The article that you posted provides even more clarity and support to our prognosis.

There are lots of online resources that support the view that having a new sibling can be a stressful experience for a toddler.

Take this for example that says that "Emotional stress may also lead to daytime accidental wetting. Treating the cause will usually stop the wetting. If stress is the cause, wetting often stops when you find ways to help your child ease the stress."

Instead of showing that you are an "airhead" publicly do well to Google the subject matter and you may if you still have some active brain cells learn a thing or two on this subject.

In the meantime, tone down your abrasive rhetoric.
The anonymity of this platform hides the fact that there are users here that are very accommplished, very experienced and old enough to be a father to you.
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by scotebob: 12:25pm On Nov 07, 2024
she knows what you did not know
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by Dtruthspeaker: 12:37pm On Nov 07, 2024
DIVINEEVIDENCE:
Visit IG, TikTok and FB reels.

You'll weep for the next generation.
Even without phone i am looking at them live and direct on the road, street, neighborhood and I say, it is not good to me birth children.

And that is why i like the fact that many couples have difficulty giving birth. God and nature is telling man to stop birthing children for both parents. and children are just getting worse and worster. Imagine primary3 is writing love letter.
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by eneazi(f): 1:09pm On Nov 07, 2024
Check cartoon she's watching... Kids pick things up like that
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by ravensckar(m):
Bonjovi13:
No amount of infantile tantrums and unrestrained emotional outbursts by a man- child like you, can hide the severe case of mental incapacity that plagues you.

Where in this entire discuss did we talk consider whether a toddler can remember a traumatic experience or event or not?

The issue in contention is that the birth of a new siblings can be quite traumatic for a toddler and toddlers like adults can react differently to emotionally stressful or traumatic experiences.

The article that you posted provides even more clarity and support to our prognosis.

There are lots of online resources that support the view that having a new sibling can be a stressful experience for a toddler.

Take this for example that says that "Emotional stress may also lead to daytime accidental wetting. Treating the cause will usually stop the wetting. If stress is the cause, wetting often stops when you find ways to help your child ease the stress."

Instead of showing that you are an "airhead" publicly do well to Google the subject matter and you may if you still have some active brain cells learn a thing or two on this subject.

In the meantime, tone down your abrasive rhetoric.
The anonymity of this platform hides the fact that there are users here that are very accommplished, very experienced and old enough to be a father to you.
There you go again with another display of your cerebral ineptitude!

It's like you're inherently not gifted with a faculty of reasoning! Each time you type, you always come off as a person who is experiencing a brain fault.

Like a parrot, you can only repeat words without actually understanding the import of what you're blabbing simply because you're not a CREATURE OF REASONING. cheesy cheesy

Firstly, that you chose to believe the arrival of a newborn could cause the older sibling to start pooing & wetting himself is a show of your mental disorder. Yes, older siblings can react (both positively & negatively) to the arrival of a newborn. But to think it could be so extreme to the point of pooing on themselves is absolute bunkum.

Secondly, I know you probably didn't even read the link that I provided. You're still wallowed in your congenital ignorance. How come you didn't provide a single shred of evidence to back up your balderdash? Oh! I forgot, you can only resort to namecalling, grandstanding, rable rousing, tantrum throwings, dilly-dally and bellyaching. After all your puerile assertions. What next? No evidence as usual! huh huh

I've said it before and I'm reiterating it, you sound more like the bubblehead KOBOJUNKIE. You're so wallowed in your foolishness that you think yourself smart. Like Abraham Lincoln once said; "...he who knows not, but knows not that he knows not is a FOOL. Shun him..."


And ehm! There are definitely nairalanders who are more accomplished and older than I am. But you're not one of them. How did I know that? For a person like you whose brain does overheating, you're definitely at the lowest level of the food chain.

Quit the grandstanding! Whether online or offline, you're a NOBODY. E fit even be sey na OPERA MINI free data you dey use type this rubbish self.

#Picks_tooth
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by Deebami: 2:21pm On Nov 07, 2024
Number 1. She pee on her body because she's engrossed in watching cartoons. Let her know that anytime she does this, she will be stopped from watching cartoons, and follow up your warning with action.
Secondly, some children react by being annoying when they have a younger sibling, especially if they are of the same sex. Definitely, she's not getting attention like when it was only her, misbehaving is a way to protest.
What to do?
Call, and speak to her, and assure her of your love for her. Let her know that she has a new playmate, and not a replacement. Beating or being harsh towards her will only aggravate the matter.
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by tunize(m): 3:18pm On Nov 07, 2024
Kobojunkie:
You actually think 3-5 year olds no get sense? I hope you don't ever intend to raise any kids with this mindset of yours. 😩😩😩😩😩😩😩
When you were 3years old, you were already sensible to the point of knowing what trauma is abi?
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by Kobojunkie:
tunize:
■ When you were 3years old, you were already sensible to the point of knowing what trauma is abi?
🤔

um... If you ask whether I knew at that particular age that that event would ruin my life for many years to come, the answer is, of course, no. What I knew at that age was a feeling of abandonment and rejection. And that feeling would dog me for many many years after that. That is what trauma does to individuals. So, explain to me how you are still stumped by this.🤔
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by trumpcoat(m): 3:38pm On Nov 07, 2024
It's psychological problem, attention was shifted from her to the new born, she's craving for attention and audience too,when the kid bro poo he would be cleaned when he whees he would be changed so why is mine different I need to be taking care of too,
Sit her down talk to her that she's a big sis and not a little baby anymore tell her you love her even more pat her back peck her cheeks and tell her to stop messing up herself promise her something she would love and cherish if she stops I bet you it will stop immediately
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by FayaBall: 4:14pm On Nov 07, 2024
DIVINEEVIDENCE:
A 3-year old is still a baby and needs attention.

That big-sister thingy should come when she's five or six years old.
Yes she is a baby and yet already a big sis, she just needs to get that and you would see her light up and have fun all the way
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by Kobojunkie: 4:14pm On Nov 07, 2024
marenkurz:
That is why children use diapers. They start by pee/poo in the diaper, then with training, they outgrow it. I have two kids that are schooling in Germany. Also had their kindergarten in Germany. Even oyinbo kids poo/pee on themselves. What is the problem?
Most 3-and 4-year-olds in preschool, even in Germany, are already potty trained. Accidents may happen most especially when they are napping maybe but that is far and in between. A child who regularly poos and pees on self at that age is a child that needs help. undecided

Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by FayaBall: 4:16pm On Nov 07, 2024
trumpcoat:
It's psychological problem, attention was shifted from her to the new born, she's craving for attention and audience too,when the kid bro poo he would be cleaned when he whees he would be changed so why is mine different I need to be taking care of too,
Sit her down talk to her that she's a big sis and not a little baby anymore tell her you love her even more pat her back peck her cheeks and tell her to stop messing up herself promise her something she would love and cherish if she stops I bet you it will stop immediately
Exactly.
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by marenkurz: 5:36pm On Nov 07, 2024
AI generated data doesn't help your argument. I work in research and development, so the data it's probably nonsense.
I have practical experience and I'll tell you for a fact. Kids grow up differently. Child A might outgrow wetting early and child B might take a while.

You can blame the parent/teacher. A simple reminder will help the child. In time, the child will outgrow it. It doesn't require prayer, doctor or any expert. Just attention.
Meanwhile, in Germany, age 5 is still in kindergarten 🤣

Kobojunkie:
Most 3-and 4-year-olds in preschool, even in Germany, are already potty trained. Accidents may happen most especially when they are napping maybe but that is far and in between. A child who regularly poos and pees on self at that age is a child that needs help. undecided
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by Kobojunkie: 5:42pm On Nov 07, 2024
marenkurz:
■ AI generated data doesn't help your argument. I work in research and development, so the data it's probably nonsense.
■ I have practical experience and I'll tell you for a fact. Kids grow up differently. Child A might outgrow wetting early and child B might take a while.
■ You can blame the parent/teacher. A simple reminder will help the child. In time, the child will outgrow it. It doesn't require prayer, doctor or any expert. Just attention.
1. What is instead bullsheet is your claim. The post is AI generated from actual data and reports written by humans who work with children and in education. undecided

2. That kids grow differently is known and indicated in that post there which clearly explains that about 40 - 60% of kids in Europe and America are potty trained beginning from 24 to 36 months.

3. Blame parents? Who blames parents/teachers? Are you OK at all? A simple reminder will help the child. Have you actually raised a toddler before? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by Meteng: 6:34pm On Nov 07, 2024
ravensckar:
The way and manner in which you tell lies with reckless abandon will shock even the devil himself. Hian? huh huh

You remembered your first traumatic experience that happened when you were 3 and half years old? Say that to the braindead subhumans in your lineage. It's a big fat lie! huh huh

Dear OP, please don't listen to this lunat1c.

That your child needs some serious flogging because it's obvious that she has become too addicted to cartoons.

What nonsense psychological issue could a 3 year old be going through? Mtchew!
Until the day i flogged my then two year old boy, after warning him with no good result, that rubbish wouldn’t have stopped. Since that day of serious thrashing baba has respected himself till now
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by Elidrisy20: 6:51pm On Nov 07, 2024
Don't worry she will stop it, where her mama?
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by ravensckar(m): 9:35pm On Nov 07, 2024
Meteng:
Until the day i flogged my then two year old boy, after warning him with no good result, that rubbish wouldn’t have stopped. Since that day of serious thrashing baba has respected himself till now
Na foolishness dey worry most of them.

They will be sounding as if parenting is as complicated as watching a Chinese movie without subtitle. cheesy cheesy

Psychological problem ko! Physiological problem ni. A 4 year child old who poos & pees on himself while watching cartoon deserves to be flogged.

The day I realized that parenting wasn't so hard was when my then 3 year old daughter would destroy anything in front of her whenever she's angry. She'll even go as far as hitting her head on the wall just to prove her point. By the time I gave her consistent flogging, that evil spirit left and never returned. Who get time for rubbish?

#Picks_tooth
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by marenkurz: 2:44pm On Nov 08, 2024
AI generated data/information are not reliable. No one takes it seriously. At least, not in serious research.

Potty trained doesn't mean the kids are efficient. Even from what you posted, "40% - 60% are potty trained", what happened to the remaining 40%? It means, in a class of 10, at least, 4 kids wet/poo themselves. For your information, a 5 year old is still in kindergarten in Germany.
If you remind a child to use the toilet often, the child won't wet/poo himself. It's common sense. You're the one that has not "properly" raise a child.


Kobojunkie:
1. What is instead bullsheet is your claim. The post is AI generated from actual data and reports written by humans who work with children and in education. undecided

2. That kids grow differently is known and indicated in that post there which clearly explains that about 40 - 60% of kids in Europe and America are potty trained beginning from 24 to 36 months.

3. Blame parents? Who blames parents/teachers? Are you OK at all? A simple reminder will help the child. Have you actually raised a toddler before? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by DIVINEEVIDENCE: 3:01pm On Nov 09, 2024
FayaBall:
Yes she is a baby and yet already a big sis, she just needs to get that and you would see her light up and have fun all the way
She became a big sis overnight just because the family had a new baby, irrespective of her age?
Re: My 3 Year Old Daughter Is Behaving Strange by BluntCrazeMan: 11:11pm On Nov 10, 2024
RSAV:
Experienced parents please comment.
My 3 year old daughter, she would be 4 years old in Feb, is sharp and very bright.
It only happened occasionally that she would pee on herself. Usually when engrossed in cartoon.

However, it the last 4 weeks, it has become an everyday occurrence.
She would even poo on herself!

I've talked to her, yet no serious change.
I just had a baby boy few weeks ago. Could this be responsible for the change in my daughter? If yes, how best can it be handled? It's already affecting her in school.
It can still change..
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