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Your father will be proud of you for what you have done. Well done! You have done well.

lol, my prayer for you is that you make money. how much is a goat or mortuary expenses or even a casket. In some places, you have to come with a cow and some bags of rice. This is your wife and you already have a child that people are praying and fasting for. One day, you will make money and you will regret your action. Keep working and believing,God will reposition you soon.

BigBrother54321:
Try dey understand person, no dey think everything finish with your sense. You don’t know it all, neither have you experienced it all.

You can like so one so much but once you come to the realization that you’ve been taken for a fool all along, all that like/love will turn to negative energy.

As a adult no body fit force you but manipulation is real and evil.

i never said i know it All or na me get sense pass, but wisdom no go finish for earth make we find am go heaven
Go back n read, OP case is not clearly not love gone sour, he maintained he never liked her or see her as sexually attractive
No doubts she might have use the pregnancy to tie him down but why i chose to play the devil advocate is because from Op writeup he has not given that love a chance, he park bus like mourinho ... my advise to him is give that marriage a chance 1st b4 you make conclusion, this Life never say never

BlindAngel:
Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go.

Back to the main point, my wife lost her dad this morning. Her deceased dad has two wife's and several concubines that gave birth to lots of children, my wife doesn't know some of her half brothers and sisters.

So I went to their family house this morning to console them. The eldest son of the family (her half brother) told me and another in law that we'd be the one to pay for mortuary expenses and casket, and when the burial is getting closer they'd give us a list of things to buy and we'd both bring one goats each.

To be brutally honest I wasn't mad because of this latest expense, I got furious immediately and right on the spot because of the pressure my wife pressured me into getting married to her, by now I'd have been totally free of these unnecessary expenses. More than 19 of her sisters, both biological and half sisters that has given birth, no single expense was listed for their man that they got pregnant for and has a child for. But I and the other in law that paid dowry are the one going through these unnecessary expenses.

So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling.

I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure.

Immediately she burst into tears, and started crying endlessly.

Her mom and sisters started yelling at me and I yelled back at all of them. They told me I met her a Virgin and now she's no longer good for me (truly, the whole family thought that I was the one that took her virginity) My wife and I agreed to keep it a secret, but the constant remainder from her mom and sisters made me let the cat out of the bag, I told them that I didn't met her a Virgin that she has already started having sex when I met her, they didn't believe me but with my tone, I know they'd.

I also made mentioned that I'm not buying any goat or paying for mortuary or taking any list from them. That it's their dad and they should take care of every responsibilities, after all he has uncountable children, why putting some of the expense on me? I walked away, and switched off my phone until now that I'm just putting it on.

I know that I acted wrongly and allowed my anger to get the best part of me. But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them. I got furious because these expenses won't be on me right now if not for her pressuring me into marriage that I want ready for. I was furious because I and the other in law that they billed became the scape goat by doing the right thing by getting married and not leaving theirs daughter In ruins, where as those that got their daughter pregnant without getting married to them were totally free from these unnecessary bills. I'm in so much pains and regret right now.

You’re not a man but a princess.
How did she force you to marry her?
Did she force you to have intimacy with her?
Don’t you know what protection is?
You don’t love her and you still meet her every night for sezzz😂😂.

They are obviously heaping the expense on you because you don’t have sense

akpunda86:
Bros ur a man just hope ur marriage survived after this cos similar shoe as yours but the marriage ended immediately after the. Mum burial cos I asked the two brothers if na me kill their mama, said all inlaws will pay 650k ,there are things I don't argue only mistake u made was u would have just said okay move out and that all

All inlaws will pay 650k true true na u kill their mama

People get mind ooo and people like that when it happens to you they will never turn up.

kevwemike:
Guy wat is wrong with U? Why are U talking like a child, U don't like the girl but Ur dick like her pussy to the extent U got her pregnant, and U are here saying that she force u into the marriage, u dey here urself? The truth is that wat the family counted for U is the right thing to do as in-law , just try and do the needful is Ur in-law.

Don’t mind him.

BlindAngel:
As I'm talking to you right now, they are saying all manners of words, that I disrespected them and the they won't pity me with the list they'd give me.

That aside, to be brutally honest with you, I didn't mean to disrespect them, I have tried all manner of ways to walk out of this marriage but I don't see that happening. Maybe this will be the deal breaker, I won't do any of what they mentioned, absolutely none. I believe it'd make them hate me and by God's grace I pray and I'm praying hard for them to talk about returning my bride price to me.

Bros you don't owe them anything, absolutely nothing. You are an in-law and there's no law that said you must partake in the burial rights. Let the family bury their dead, you can assist if u want but it's absolutely nonsense for anyone to force anything on you as regards the burial. Imagine the nonsense.

This is what you get when you think pregnancy can keep a man. This is also what you get when you can't control your urge. If only you used a condom that day, this wouldn't be. As for the list, the family is right. It's tradition. This is Africa. These are findings you should have done and known before marrying into the family. Begin to find ways to love her. Start with the good things about her. Maybe her cooking, her gists, her voice, anything. Even those who marry beauty still cheat or complain so facial beauty is not the koko. If she respects and gives you peace my brother start to love her gradually. Come to some home with beautiful wives and you'll appreciate your own. Go and apologize to your in-laws and beg to do the ones your financial strength can carry

JASONjnr:
Stop justifying nonsense.

A woman's body changes and their hormones gets altered when they get pregnant.

You can't love a slim girl and when she's pregnant she gets obese a d you feel she's no more attractive to you because she's fat after giving birth to your child.

You did the right thing to legally marry her.

But do you think it makes sense telli lng people that a grown up man was pressured to do some never wanted to?

Please, you are a married man, you should grow into learning how to manage a situation as you will have to teach your children lot of things.

Your wife will stand by you if you two have an understanding and she will not allow her family to use you. But you don't carry her along because you now hate her.

trash.

LoveThemChubby:
Let me school you a bit. No Nigerian tradition recognises boy friend or baby daddy. As long as the other sisters are not married, they are not recognised by the tradition even though they have had kids long before you came in and are still actively fucking their daughter. Marriage is a responsibility that is what makes us different. By the way, so she was attractive to Bleep but not to marry? Op better repent

All the people I bleep you marry them? Be sincere with your answer

BlindAngel:
As I'm talking to you right now, they are saying all manners of words, that I disrespected them and the they won't pity me with the list they'd give me.

That aside, to be brutally honest with you, I didn't mean to disrespect them, I have tried all manner of ways to walk out of this marriage but I don't see that happening. Maybe this will be the deal breaker, I won't do any of what they mentioned, absolutely none. I believe it'd make them hate me and by God's grace I pray and I'm praying hard for them to talk about returning my bride price to me.

You have tried all manner of what? 😂😂 you’re just there for the free pleasure at night.

BlindAngel:
And millions of guys that got women pregnant and left them as baby mama's?? What would you say about them? I'm I the first to get a woman I'm not in anyway attracted to pregnant??

Do you men sleep with women you’re not attracted to physically?? I don’t understand. Where you drunk the night you met her??

1. I think you should let go and reconcile with your wife. You slept with her and she got pregnant. If your children hear this story in the future they will take side with their mother...that's what a reasonable child we do anyway.

Also for your mental health and peace of mind. If you're not careful, this may go out of hands and affect you and everything you do. I'm not on anyone side but this has already happened and you need to move on and build a happy family you will be proud of. Leave the rest for God.

2. Give your wife whatever you can afford and apologize for the kind of words you used. It's not proper. Just for the respect of the dead.

3. Most importantly you and your wife nee to reconcile for your both of you sake and your children sake. There is so much joy, and blessings in happy home.

Stay blessed.

BlindAngel:
Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go.

Back to the main point, my wife lost her dad this morning. Her deceased dad has two wife's and several concubines that gave birth to lots of children, my wife doesn't know some of her half brothers and sisters.

So I went to their family house this morning to console them. The eldest son of the family (her half brother) told me and another in law that we'd be the one to pay for mortuary expenses and casket, and when the burial is getting closer they'd give us a list of things to buy and we'd both bring one goats each.

To be brutally honest I wasn't mad because of this latest expense, I got furious immediately and right on the spot because of the pressure my wife pressured me into getting married to her, by now I'd have been totally free of these unnecessary expenses. More than 19 of her sisters, both biological and half sisters that has given birth, no single expense was listed for their man that they got pregnant for and has a child for. But I and the other in law that paid dowry are the one going through these unnecessary expenses.

So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling.

I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure.

Immediately she burst into tears, and started crying endlessly.

Her mom and sisters started yelling at me and I yelled back at all of them. They told me I met her a Virgin and now she's no longer good for me (truly, the whole family thought that I was the one that took her virginity) My wife and I agreed to keep it a secret, but the constant remainder from her mom and sisters made me let the cat out of the bag, I told them that I didn't met her a Virgin that she has already started having sex when I met her, they didn't believe me but with my tone, I know they'd.

I also made mentioned that I'm not buying any goat or paying for mortuary or taking any list from them. That it's their dad and they should take care of every responsibilities, after all he has uncountable children, why putting some of the expense on me? I walked away, and switched off my phone until now that I'm just putting it on.

I know that I acted wrongly and allowed my anger to get the best part of me. But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them. I got furious because these expenses won't be on me right now if not for her pressuring me into marriage that I want ready for. I was furious because I and the other in law that they billed became the scape goat by doing the right thing by getting married and not leaving theirs daughter In ruins, where as those that got their daughter pregnant without getting married to them were totally free from these unnecessary bills. I'm in so much pains and regret right now.

Console your wife and don't always remind her that you don't love her bla bla, it's not worth it. You for no shout for ur wife for the family present and talk all that things, u for just waka comot... Nobody can force you to marry and if e dn tire u, make una find ways to separate o.. all of a sudden she's not attracted to you but her pussy sweet u, if Dem give you pepper soup now Dem go say people bad. Regarding the billing, don't pay for it and stand your ground, you are not their son wey you go help bury their papa. If you get 1mil, give them voluntarily case closed. If you don't talk, Dem go see you finish o. Let your word be your word ... Lastly, if you manage go the burial, lodge hotel and no eat o... Try guide urself too spiritually..

BlindAngel:
Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go. u too read this back to yourself...on a scale of 10 to 10(with 10 being very stupid), how stupid do you sound


So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling. you are not just stupid, u still poor join

I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure. u said suicide, not murder, how is that a threat to you.

.

I dont know who is more stupid, you or the girl. SHe needed someone to leech on forever, ur profile checks the stupidity box but u no get money. Next time she will look for a stupid man that has money..na only stupidity dey ur own profile

protocol:
lol, my prayer for you is that you make money. how much is a goat or mortuary expenses or even a casket. In some places, you have to come with a cow and some bags of rice. This is your wife and you already have a child that people are praying and fasting for. One day, you will make money and you will regret your action. Keep working and believing,God will reposition you soon.

words of a stupid man.

BlindAngel:
Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go.

Back to the main point, my wife lost her dad this morning. Her deceased dad has two wife's and several concubines that gave birth to lots of children, my wife doesn't know some of her half brothers and sisters.

So I went to their family house this morning to console them. The eldest son of the family (her half brother) told me and another in law that we'd be the one to pay for mortuary expenses and casket, and when the burial is getting closer they'd give us a list of things to buy and we'd both bring one goats each.

To be brutally honest I wasn't mad because of this latest expense, I got furious immediately and right on the spot because of the pressure my wife pressured me into getting married to her, by now I'd have been totally free of these unnecessary expenses. More than 19 of her sisters, both biological and half sisters that has given birth, no single expense was listed for their man that they got pregnant for and has a child for. But I and the other in law that paid dowry are the one going through these unnecessary expenses.

So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling.

I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure.

Immediately she burst into tears, and started crying endlessly.

Her mom and sisters started yelling at me and I yelled back at all of them. They told me I met her a Virgin and now she's no longer good for me (truly, the whole family thought that I was the one that took her virginity) My wife and I agreed to keep it a secret, but the constant remainder from her mom and sisters made me let the cat out of the bag, I told them that I didn't met her a Virgin that she has already started having sex when I met her, they didn't believe me but with my tone, I know they'd.

I also made mentioned that I'm not buying any goat or paying for mortuary or taking any list from them. That it's their dad and they should take care of every responsibilities, after all he has uncountable children, why putting some of the expense on me? I walked away, and switched off my phone until now that I'm just putting it on.

I know that I acted wrongly and allowed my anger to get the best part of me. But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them. I got furious because these expenses won't be on me right now if not for her pressuring me into marriage that I want ready for. I was furious because I and the other in law that they billed became the scape goat by doing the right thing by getting married and not leaving theirs daughter In ruins, where as those that got their daughter pregnant without getting married to them were totally free from these unnecessary bills. I'm in so much pains and regret right now.

No shaking, I dey your back. Guys avoid poor families 💯

BlindAngel:
As I'm talking to you right now, they are saying all manners of words, that I disrespected them and the they won't pity me with the list they'd give me.

That aside, to be brutally honest with you, I didn't mean to disrespect them, I have tried all manner of ways to walk out of this marriage but I don't see that happening. Maybe this will be the deal breaker, I won't do any of what they mentioned, absolutely none. I believe it'd make them hate me and by God's grace I pray and I'm praying hard for them to talk about returning my bride price to me.

Baba, this is Africa, hope say you get spiritual back up?

jessylaurel:
You’re not a man but a princess.
How did she force you to marry her?
Did she force you to have intimacy with her?
Don’t you know what protection is?
You don’t love her and you still meet her every night for sezzz😂😂.

They are obviously heaping the expense on you because you don’t have sense

never you in life OP, take the words of a stupïd woman serious.

djon78:
The guy doesn't know that a woman he's chasing away and she doesn't want to leave him loves him.


He might end up regretting this

We humans must learn how to open our heart to people that genuinely care for us


He impregnated her

And yet married her to cover her shame

It shows he actually cares for the woman

He should learn to open his heart and start treating that woman Right

He might feel he is young now
But a time will come he will see the importance of doing the right thing


Hard heart and lack of genuine Love is the biggest problem bedeviling us as humans

I personally don't tolerate nonsense/foolishness from women

But when I see a woman that makes conscious effort for her Man

I personally appreciate that because I know the kind of snakes and scorpions we have today among them

That is why i told him we dont value "what we have until we lose it" una don marry, born pikin .. we cant just advise move on

A woman that hell bent on staying definitely loves the man, she will do anything he ask of her just lead her right

So many men out there even with all the gifts and money shower woman still dey carry dem play, Op wont understand d pain to love sum1 nd that person no love you back
i wish the lady could leave him,

jessylaurel:
Do you men sleep with women you’re not attracted to physically?? I don’t understand. Were you drunk the night you met her??

do you women spend the money of a man you are not attracted to physically?

donforeign:
Console your wife and don't always remind her that you don't love her bla bla, it's not worth it. You for no shout for ur wife for the family present and talk all that things, u for just waka comot... Nobody can force you to marry and if e dn tire u, make una find ways to separate o.. all of a sudden she's not attracted to you but her pussy sweet u, if Dem give you pepper soup now Dem go say people bad. Regarding the billing, don't pay for it and stand your ground, you are not their son wey you go help bury their papa. If you get 1mil, give them voluntarily case closed. If you don't talk, Dem go see you finish o. Let your word be your word ... Lastly, if you manage go the burial, lodge hotel and no eat o... Try guide urself too spiritually..

returning to that family is him killing himself.

While I may not agree to the family billing you for the burial of their father, I still believe you have a part to play because the man has technically become your father. So cool down and let them know what it is you would want to do in the burial process. If it is cash, let them know how much you can afford. No one should expect you to go and break the bank to bury the dead.

BlindAngel:
Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go.

Back to the main point, my wife lost her dad this morning. Her deceased dad has two wife's and several concubines that gave birth to lots of children, my wife doesn't know some of her half brothers and sisters.

So I went to their family house this morning to console them. The eldest son of the family (her half brother) told me and another in law that we'd be the one to pay for mortuary expenses and casket, and when the burial is getting closer they'd give us a list of things to buy and we'd both bring one goats each.

To be brutally honest I wasn't mad because of this latest expense, I got furious immediately and right on the spot because of the pressure my wife pressured me into getting married to her, by now I'd have been totally free of these unnecessary expenses. More than 19 of her sisters, both biological and half sisters that has given birth, no single expense was listed for their man that they got pregnant for and has a child for. But I and the other in law that paid dowry are the one going through these unnecessary expenses.

So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling.

I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure.

Immediately she burst into tears, and started crying endlessly.

Her mom and sisters started yelling at me and I yelled back at all of them. They told me I met her a Virgin and now she's no longer good for me (truly, the whole family thought that I was the one that took her virginity) My wife and I agreed to keep it a secret, but the constant remainder from her mom and sisters made me let the cat out of the bag, I told them that I didn't met her a Virgin that she has already started having sex when I met her, they didn't believe me but with my tone, I know they'd.

I also made mentioned that I'm not buying any goat or paying for mortuary or taking any list from them. That it's their dad and they should take care of every responsibilities, after all he has uncountable children, why putting some of the expense on me? I walked away, and switched off my phone until now that I'm just putting it on.

I know that I acted wrongly and allowed my anger to get the best part of me. But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them. I got furious because these expenses won't be on me right now if not for her pressuring me into marriage that I want ready for. I was furious because I and the other in law that they billed became the scape goat by doing the right thing by getting married and not leaving theirs daughter In ruins, where as those that got their daughter pregnant without getting married to them were totally free from these unnecessary bills. I'm in so much pains and regret right now.

you tried, but you for say ok and walk away. No be until then see goat before them go kill chop? Africa is a menace to the world all this nonsense don't happen over sea

tommy589:

Who wears the shoes knows where it pinches

But why investing 4M to marry someone you don't love?

Na Wetin I still dey think since be that 😭

because I believe if u love somebody u can use any amount but since u don't love her u should have use just 200k to do small parlour party na 😂😆

Why wasting 4M 🤔

People ehn kai

LEGALSER:
For my place na first daughter husband dey buy coffin and do other things. You allow woman force you into marriage

You must be Urhobo, make una no jam me that una papa dem no go hurry am. When una dey share property una go talk whether I go follow share am...una never start

Arostar2023:
You are indeed not ready for marriage. That's why we are warned against premarital sex AKA fornication. Unfortunately, like many of us, you are reaping what you sowed.

Assuming he is ready won't this scenario occur? Dey play aka Mr ready

You have to seek for a divorce as soon as possible, to me all you did is correct, who born inlaw to bill me for what now! She told you, you'll die slowly right? Is time for divorce may they no come poison you.

BlindAngel:
As I'm talking to you right now, they are saying all manners of words, that I disrespected them and the they won't pity me with the list they'd give me.

That aside, to be brutally honest with you, I didn't mean to disrespect them, I have tried all manner of ways to walk out of this marriage but I don't see that happening. Maybe this will be the deal breaker, I won't do any of what they mentioned, absolutely none. I believe it'd make them hate me and by God's grace I pray and I'm praying hard for them to talk about returning my bride price to me.

You talk like a foolish person and indeed you are.

You never wanted a girl yet you fvcked her to pregnancy? Are you stupid or what.

Also you have a child with this woman, your concern isn't even centred on your child? You're such a selfish idiot. It's all about you and not your child?

Nobody forced you, you made a choice knowingly or unknowingly. At every point we are always making decisions.

You need a change of mindset fast else you won't succeed sustainably like this, your finances and progress in life will be up and down.

First of understand relationships, then finances then read on self development. You're such a child you don't even know.

idahme:
You must be Urhobo, make una no jam me that una papa dem no go hurry am. When una dey share property una go talk whether I go follow share am...una never start

I am not urhobo. It's tradition and if you can't abide by it, you cannot be compelled to do so, you can only be encouraged.

BlindAngel:
You hit the nail right on the head, early last year when I was struggling with absolutely nothing. I mean absolutely nothing, I don't even have as little as 1,000 naira as at then, I sold my Gen, my home theater, my dstv pan and decoder. Just to pay house rent, no one looked my side, not even 200 naira to assist me now because I'm doing well, they think that I've a tree that grows money that I'm plucking from.

guy don't apologize and add a threat of locking up anybody that you perceive a threat to your peace. They will never get over all this shock because you suddenly grew "wings" my only blame on you is impregnating someone like this from such a family. You somehow dragged yourself into this mess.

BlindAngel:
And millions of guys that got women pregnant and left them as baby mama's?? What would you say about them? I'm I the first to get a woman I'm not in anyway attracted to pregnant??

You're being childish and trying to justify irresponsibility.


1. No woman can force a grown man to marry her or was she the one that forced you to sleep with her countless of times and I am sure you're still sleeping with her even when you are saying you want to divorce her.

2. Though your in-laws err by trying to shift the burial expenses on their brother-in-laws after all the deceased is their father and his burial should be their primary business and responsibility but your handling of the whole issue is very bad . Your in-laws can bill you whatever they like but you're the one that knows what you can afford and you should find a better ways to let them know what you're prepared and ready to contribute towards the burial instead of creating unnecessary dramas and disgracing your family in the process.

3. You need to find a way of controlling your outbursts and I pray you won't have to regret some of the things you says out in your period of anger.